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Before I Met You, I Didn’t Believe In Love!

Writing is my passion. I have an undying thirst and quest in the field of writing. Some eat, drink, or use drugs when stressed; I write.


Reflecting upon the very first time, I met the man of my dream. Before I had the pleasure of facing Him and speaking to Him, I had this feeling that suggests the two of us have recently connected on a deeper level before.

When we finally meet, and as... Our eyes join. My heart raced, and somehow I knew... We would instantly connect with a deep bond that compelling us spiritually forever.

Although I didn’t know immediately, he felt the same way I did, the moment we met, just when we spoke to each other it became the beginning of a beautiful journey and—‘within minutes’ love transcended all suddenly, I knew we were in love.

He gave me a hug that felt like a dream achieved, and as if we stayed in that embrace for what seemed like forever. As we date, each day continues to be full of joy, and life was a new beginning. He was my daylight when days seem dark and hard.

We had such a connection when we said goodnight and went our separate ways; it felt like we were still together. It was like I could still feel him near me. We shared strong unconditional love, and I am glad to say we got married, and he is my husband.


Thinking back, before He entered my life, I can remember being lost in the illusions of how life was; things were dreadful as there’s no joy in living your life alone with no trust in men.

I know I was not alone, many women live alone by choice, and there’s no such thing as a “right” relationship, although it requires sincerity at both ends. The way my life was going when I imagined my future, I visualize myself being alone, “Lonely” — with no one beside me.

Although there are many females alone with no envision of their future. The picture is with someone beside them. And there’s nothing wrong with that because if others were frank with themselves. They would admit that they prefer not to live their life alone.

I believe the reason many females envision their future as being alone because they dated guys with no connection, and nothing blossomed into a genuine relationship.

Some women might have thought they found love just to be disappointed to witness the guy happily settled down with someone else. Dating can be a very disappointing encounter, simply if you want ever to find love, you can’t close your heart, and you must shake the nagging fear that you might finish this alone.


My advice to any woman who fears being alone, don’t allow loneliness to consume her. Be aware that we spend alone the bulk of our time and equate our self-worth with relationship status.

When I felt as if I would spend my life alone, I did not know then that being single does not automatically strip a woman of her strength or doom her to close her heart. Love is still available and can be closer than anyone knows.

Only, women, you hold the key and the power to visualize your future, to picture it with the man of your dreams. It did not happen overnight with me, except I now understand and can share this advice from my experience with the man of my dreams.

Any female who is frustrated with her present life and wants a relationship has to change her circumstances. Although finding love comes with heartaches, it can be a wonderful adventure.

When we open our hearts to love, it comes with risk. I took a chance, and it brought me more joy than I would have never imagined. Some women are alone because they are afraid to take a chance on love. After all, it has hurt them from previous risks. Never give up on love, you will find it —I’m sure — it’s closer than you think, and it will be a different finish than expected.

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As I settle into a new relationship, the essential things I mentioned includes the guy who turned my beliefs upside-down because until he walked into my life, I didn’t believe in love.

He taught me to stop listening to people who lip love but to look for action, and He was not the type to get scared and run away because I was honest with him and my fear of love made me set boundaries.

The distinct challenges I brought to the relationship not moved him, but he executed my every dream to shine because of such transparency, he showed I’m so glad we’re still in love.

He showed me the trials of this life would ultimately lead to joy, and I knew he was “the one,” I look forward to the day where we’ll be sitting side-by-side in our rocking chairs reminiscing and laughing at all of our crazy situations.

Here is my story of our third anniversary, how we shared it, and how I have always had the eye and the passion for art, especially for paintings. I was lucky enough to study art in my childhood years, but, unfortunately, art was the only thing missing from my adult life.

It is in my husband’s nature to be full of surprises. I do not know how he found out about my secret love for art. He learned of it somehow, though, as he took me to a beautiful art exhibit yesterday to mark our third anniversary.

Although it only our anniversary, when I look at my husband, I still have butterflies in the mid of my stomach as I felt in my younger years. It is such a vivid memory about my first crush and at such a young age.


There is a difference between the butterflies that come with a childhood crush and what I felt. In your younger years, most people have at least one crush each year throughout school.

When love comes around and captures your heart, it seems as if destiny has brought two people together like none other. It can happen in a blink of an eye. When I look at my husband, he is no longer my crush, but a bond that keeps my heart feeling loved and full, a connection that will last a lifetime.

The power of art is remarkably stable, and you can take your spouse or significant other to an art exhibition to connect and at any other date spot.

After going to the exhibit with the love of my life, I realized you do not always need candle-lit dinners and slow music to bond romantically. Three years down our particular road, and it was not until yesterday that I learned about my husband’s genuine liking for art.

He is a quiet fellow by nature, and so I might have been able to guess that he had an artistic mind, but boy was I surprised!


A Frenchman organized the art exhibit that we went to and included his paintings and a few more from some local students that he was mentoring. The combination of images was supposed to achieve a cross-cultural feel and discuss how others can appreciate art from different regions bearing no limitations on creativity.

So there we were. I was so engrossed in the paintings that I hardly had the time to count the surrounding heads, but I can say for sure that there were well over three hundred people at the exhibit.

The event was well organized. I think the exhibitor expected an enormous amount of individuals, so he took the measures to maintain ample space. Instead of being cramped in one room with a bunch of paintings, there were two sections separated by a short flight of four stairs, and they spread out everything so that all the visitors could easily see all that was happening.

The best part was still yet to come. The music, a soft symphony with a slow, soothing tempo, was captivating and blended perfectly with the mood that the exhibition itself intended without distracting too much from the paintings.

I clung to my husband’s arm the entire time we were there, never wanting him to leave my side for even a single second.

I’ll first share my experience and the connection I had with one particular painting on the left. It was our favorite of all the images in the exhibit.

For U, I Will - Jonny Myers


I felt a connection to this painting and privately called it “For you, I will” because I imagined the couple between the beautiful red heart as my husband and myself.

The colors were uniquely blended. It appears to be bright and powerful, reflecting the strength of the pair’s relationship. When I saw it for the first time, I inwardly began scrutinizing myself and asking myself question after question. Do I connect with my lover in such a manner? Do I share everything with him? It is touching to know that there much more to give each other in a relationship that only loves.

In comparison, this other painting on the right is very raw. I believe one of the exhibitor’s minutes did it, but I loved the simplicity and appreciated the color scheme.

The sun, the most important for energy sources, is painted in white – symbolizing purity and truth and placed above everything else. In Chinese culture, the dark shade of blue symbolizes immortality, and green is life and freshness.

Together, the two tell a story: afterlife, in green, comes immortality in blue. The connection of the painting was the dominating shades of red. It speaks of love, romance, celebration, and passion. Universally, pink is associated with relaxation, neutral order, calm feelings, and contentment and acceptance.


These are the dominating colors in this second painting and the story they tell me as I look at it. While simple at first glance, it is quite a well-thought-out masterpiece.

After my husband and I had seen our fair share of the exhibition, I just had to take the time to talk with the event organizer and his mentees. Whether because of my nature as an art lover or, my life as a journalist, I just couldn’t do otherwise.

It was unbelievable how art as a profession brings together people with so many differing views and opinions. The entire message that the paintings held was a simple message of universal love. These artists were using a unique tool to communicate and try to restructure today’s society.

I chose to share the experience of our third anniversary, but we were married thirteen years, together for 15. Up until his death, we still maintain a close relationship.

I miss him so much; it took many years to put my life back together without him. He's a rare one of a kind, and a remarkable man and I will always adore him. I have been blessed to share my heart with another, but it just didn't match up to him, I think of the quote by Alfred Lord Tennyson, "Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."

Monica - For You I Will (Live)

When you are crushing on someone, sometimes it's hard to know if it butterflies or not. Take this quiz to help you tell if it's the real deal.

For each question, choose the best answer for you.

  1. The first time you saw your crush, I:
    • Thought he/she was cute, but was most attracted to their personality
    • Was seriously attracted to them
    • Wanted them to notice me
  2. How long have you been hanging out with your crush?
    • Not at all, I just wish it would happen
    • We hang out all the time - sometimes in group and sometimes just the two of us
    • We always end up hanging out in different places, but never hang out just the two of us
  3. Why do you want to date your crush?
    • We'd make the cutest couples, if he/she knew I was alive
    • We are both into the same things, and he/she is always on my mind
    • I love the way he/she looks and those smoldering eyes
  4. The thing I like best about them is:
    • Their personality and/or beautiful face
    • How they make me laugh
    • He/she bring out the best in me
  5. How does your crush act toward you?
    • Super flirty
    • Really sweet
    • Like I don't exist


Use the scoring guide below to add up your total points based on your answers.

  1. The first time you saw your crush, I:
    • Thought he/she was cute, but was most attracted to their personality: +0 points
    • Was seriously attracted to them: +0 points
    • Wanted them to notice me: +0 points
  2. How long have you been hanging out with your crush?
    • Not at all, I just wish it would happen: +0 points
    • We hang out all the time - sometimes in group and sometimes just the two of us: +0 points
    • We always end up hanging out in different places, but never hang out just the two of us: +0 points
  3. Why do you want to date your crush?
    • We'd make the cutest couples, if he/she knew I was alive: +0 points
    • We are both into the same things, and he/she is always on my mind: +0 points
    • I love the way he/she looks and those smoldering eyes: +0 points
  4. The thing I like best about them is:
    • Their personality and/or beautiful face: +0 points
    • How they make me laugh: +0 points
    • He/she bring out the best in me: +0 points
  5. How does your crush act toward you?
    • Super flirty: +0 points
    • Really sweet: +0 points
    • Like I don't exist: +0 points

Interpreting Your Score

A score of 0 means: ?

Monica - Love All Over Me

Developing an eye for art [Delaware Online News Video]

Black Love Art - James loveless


© 2015 Pam Morris

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