Talking to your kids
Parents who learn to properly communicate with their kids early on have an easier time communicating with them as they become teenagers.
Many parents do not have the proper tools to communicate with their children on the level that they need to. This is quite common and can easily be remedied. A parent can start to talk better with their kidstoday, even at any age with a few tested tricks.
Talking to your kids
When a parent speaks to a child it is very important that the parent realizes that the child hears and processes what they are saying differently than an adult may.
A child's brain does not have the same amount of information that an adult brain has and depending on the age of the kid it will vary. The best way to communicate with the child is to get down to their level and look them in the eyes. When a parent engages with their child on the child's level it will better get their attention and the parent is also not yelling out information from across the room.
The kid can be sitting or standing, but the parent must bend down to the child's level and make the eye contact, this way the parent has the child's full attention.
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Talking to your kids
Once the eye contact is made between the parent and child, the parent can properly communicate what information they need to tell the child. Children have limited attention span, especially the little ones under five years of age. The communication between parent and child needs to be direct and to the point.
A long lengthy discussion is very difficult for a kid to process. A quick command is best, such as: "Steven we are going to leave in five minutes and you need to put your shoes on now."
The next step is having the child repeat what the parent just said, this helps for them to process the information better in their brain. Practicing these steps when they are young will help to make communication with the child easier as they grow into teenagers.
Practice these step with the child regularly, and they a will get the hang of it. This type of communication between parent and child is necessary and practical as they grow and mature. Once the parent has mastered this style of communication with the child, they can continue to add to the length of the sentences as the kid grows. The child will get accustomed to the parents style of communication and the relationship will become much more solid as the child develops into a teenager.
The reason that this style of communication works so well is that number one, it keeps the parent from commanding orders from across a room hopeing that the child has heard them.
Number two the parent is not repeating themselves over and over again.
Number three parent and child are connecting on a visual and auditory level when the parent is maintaining eye contact while speaking.
Number four the child is now repeating the sentence back to the parent, so the child has been vocally stimulated. The child is hearing the command in their own voice.
One last point is when parents start this style of communication from a young age, they can better understand their child's level of focus and catch any problems a kid may experience with auditory processing, ADHD, focusing with the visual attention.
Making sure that the child can comprehend properly, because you know that they have repeated the words back to you and the parent can properly pick on earing or vision problems.
Katie McMurray from Ohio on December 15, 2010:
I'm a firm believer that the afformative years are the very foundation for so MUCH! Well done :)
billyaustindillon on April 20, 2010:
Excellent hub - communication is so important and so forgotten in our material world.
CelinaMac from Philippines on April 19, 2010:
Thanks for writing about this very important topic. Instead of parents spending more time buying things for their kids, they need to spend more time learning how to effectively communicate with them, and they need to start early.
Children also adopt our communication styles and habits. If we mostly talk to them to scold them or criticize them or are impatient with them, when they get old they will in return out of habit and unconscious thinking be impatient with us or tune us out. Not because they are bad teens but because we taught them by example.