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Of Friendship and Love

Mohammad Yasir is a physics graduate from the University of Delhi and currently enrolled in the master's programme at IIT.

Love is the Province of Magic


Mankind craves connection. This innate desire for intimacy, both platonic and otherwise, is an essential part of society and humanity as a whole. A sense of warmth and comfort can arise in your heart just by the simple act of looking at someone you genuinely care for. How this happens is a mystery in its own.

Neurologists confirm that love is nothing more than chemistry. They classify it as a burst of hormones and chemicals that fill your brain and make you feel at home. However, I have a feeling that this is a kingdom over which, science has no authority. Despite all that we have learnt, love and friendship and even emotions in general are better left as the mysteries of nature.

Why does the human brain decide to find a connection you make with a random stranger on a subway so incredibly soulful? Why does your heart stop for a moment and then race like there's no tomorrow as soon as your eyes fall upon your soulmate? How is it so that one person among the many billions of people that walk this Earth has the power to change your whole outlook on life?

I daresay that the answer will be silence if not stutters when one asks such questions. The way I see it, a response that is entirely accurate is still unknown and bound, perhaps forever, in the province of magic.

For all the incredible advancements in science we’ve all been party to, the mystery that brings two people together through love is still the province of magic.

— Martin Stein, DC's Legends of Tomorrow

Your Company Defines You

Lex Luthor was a man of vision in more ways than one. His desire for nefarious affairs aside, Mr. Luthor had a lot of things right, his belief in judging someone by their company being one of them. Friendship isn’t solely about the comfort of intimacy. Our friends define our future too.

A surplus of time and a lack of distance carves our ways in others’ styles. Each day, we evolve into an amalgamation of everything and everyone we love, layered by our own experiences and desires.

Perhaps we say a phrase a certain way because our high school sweetheart said it that way. Perhaps we always add a dollop of garlic to a dish because our mother always did so. Perhaps we always use a circle instead of a dot while dotting our I’s. Or perhaps we don’t even know how similar we are to those we keep in our company. One way or another, our friends define us and shape our future. Over time, we find ourselves increasingly influenced by the experiences and choices of those we care for.


Friendships are Impossible to Predict

Your friends enter your life from channels you never knew existed and doors you never recall leaving open. Out of the blue, you grow accustomed to their voice, style, tone, and company. While no man or woman can boast the gift of foresight, I believe that friendships like these are a promise about the future. These friendships promise us a companion that will pick us up from our stumbles during the journey we call life.

At the same time, some friendships don't last, perhaps from no fault of our own, or perhaps from no one's fault but our own. Some friends leave you like a whiff of spring air and you are left with either restless comfort or a comfortable rest. However, let there never be a day when you decide to let someone go for no reason.

You will be shocked, kids, when you discover how easy it is in life to part ways with people forever. That is why, when you find someone you want to keep around, you do something about it.

— Ted Mosby, How I Met Your Mother

But Without a Doubt, Friendships are Beautiful

You fight, you cry, you smile, and no matter what happens, you stay together. No friendship remains the same every day. Some times, they don't even start that way and for a while, you can't even tolerate each other's presence. But that's the thing about love. It's unpredictable. It's strange. It's beautiful.

If you are lucky enough to find someone you can genuinely call your friend, take Ted's advice and do something about it!

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© 2021 Mohammad Yasir


Mohammad Yasir (author) from Lucknow, India on July 12, 2021:

Having an opinion that I've held dear since almost a decade means a lot to me. Thank you, Eman Sehar :)

Nian from Pakistan on July 12, 2021:

It is true that Friendships are Impossible to Predict. You describe friendship in a very beautiful manner.

Many Blessings!

Mohammad Yasir (author) from Lucknow, India on July 11, 2021:

Hello Misbah

Before I can express my sincerest gratitude, let me tell you that you always leave the most insightful and meaningful comment wherever you post. Everything you write is incredible and is always backed by solid words and facts. In a word, your comments are amazing.

And thank you so much for your compliments because you already know how much they matter to someone trying to showcase themselves to the world.

Misbah Sheikh from "a Serene Land" (This Existence Is an Illusion) on July 11, 2021:

Beautiful thoughts shared in this article, Yasir. I enjoyed reading all you have written and so true it is. True friendship is a gift of Allah. As Hazrat Ali said, Be moderate in your love for a friend or hatred for an enemy. The former may turn into an enemy and the latter may turn into a friend.

When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.”

― Henri Nouwen, Out of Solitude: Three Meditations on the Christian Life

Thank you for sharing this


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