Kui Mutua is an online writer whose mantra has always been, I'm not perfect but stories are a little better with a hint of imperfection
"you are too skinny, eat some food"....."You are too chubby, aren't you scared of heart diseases,"..."you are too tall, you shouldn't be taller than guys, but atleast you can be a model, or play basketball, oh you don't? What a waste of talent!"......"you are too short aren't there exercises to make you grow?" "Show some skin, you don't want people to think you are insecure of your body,"...."ugh cover up don't be such a tempress, it's like you are asking for it..." "Go out have fun make memories, no one likes a shy girl".... "Why would you even go out and drink you are such an easy target"........."Girls are too weak to stand up for themselves selves ".... "Damn, do women ever shut up about their issues, men go through the same things, this is just toxic feminism that should be stopped immediately"....."This are just some of the phrases that are thrown at girls.
See nobody tells you as girl, that when you grow up rules begin to change, it's no longer you can grow up to be anything you want to be, now you are been objectified by some sadistic guy, who thinks you belong in his bedroom, it's no longer, if you work smart and believe in your goals you will become anything you want to be, it's you use that charm, your smile, your beauty to get what you want cause that's how the world works, no one cares what's in your brain when the outside looks so delicious
When you grow up rules begin to change
I love our generation, the fact that we have and still are learning to accept differency, it's just beautiful, it makes it easy to be our authentic selves, but, I think we are too comfortable with things we shouldn't be comfortable with, like bullying and body shaming. And it is this mentality that has girls stuck in diets, cosmetic procedures, constant insecurity, and endless loops of them thinking they are not enough, just trying to fit into the images that have been set out for them to achieve, and you might think, ....ah the solution is easy, Just tell them to be themselves, and ignore every word. let me put it this way, why don't I shoot someone dead and tell them to just breathe, and ignore the bullet wound.Truth is words and experiences play a big role in how we view ourselves
If you tell a girl she is this and that, that's all that she will see when she looks in the mirror, that's what she will think defines her.
I see a whole lot of talking on socials, about normalizing different body types, but we're all bark no bite, how about we actually change the conversation, get magazines and catalogues to feature different bodies, get beauty contests to tear down all the labels that their contestants have to meet,demanding equal pay cause women work just as hard as the men do, how about changing the school dress codes, cause it's 110 degrees outside, and I want to wear a tank top and not be told that my shoulders are distracting and I should cover up, instead of teaching me what to and not to wear, teach guys that women are much more that what society paints them out to be , I'm not wearing a tank top because I'm trying to show off my cleavage, I'm doing it cause it's hot outside and I want to be comfortable.
One little conversation, can change things forever
It breaks my heart that centuries later, we as girls still have to push through a thousand barriers just to prove our worth, yes we are sexy, petite or not, thick or not, short or not, we are still sexy but there is more to us than that, and I hope society sees that before missing out on the best most powerful people there are. Oh and the next time you think of sending a woman to the kitchen remember that's where the knives are. (For legal reasons this is not a threat and should not be taken literally)
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2020 Kui Mutua
Simply Maria on October 25, 2020:
Inspiring piece here
The idea of a certain bodies or look generally to be superior than the other is just so wrong and moroso ungodly .
In God describing us He calls us wonderfully and fearfully made .
Beauty is a nature resident in every of us physical attributes notwithstanding .
But since the enemy is the father of lies , coming to steal kill and destroy ....when God says right ...He says left .
In a similar manner beauty is a nature God put in each of us with its diverse experissions but the enemy corrupts that and infuses into society classes / qualifications for beauty .
Being beautiful is more than looks . its our constant nature . As undebatable as it is that you are a lady ...so it is your beauty .
Simply beautiful .
Lee Mwangi on October 16, 2020:
Gender respect is key
Icon Clift on October 16, 2020:
With every article u post n with every conversation we have,u prove women are way more important in our lives than we care to admit
Abel on October 16, 2020:
As human beings we are given one life and are not certain of what lies ahead after death, with that in mind we should try to make this life here on earth a heaven of our own making.
But what have we done instead ? We have shackled ourselves with our own rules and beliefs, greed, lust and whatnot.
Some people can honestly tell you they have already experienced or been through hell.
This is such a shame because we have all the power but we choose to destroy ourselves instead.
dashingscorpio from Chicago on October 16, 2020:
Self-esteem is a gift you give yourself!
The problem isn't that society is so cruel, it's the fact too many people require outside validation from others to feel good about themselves. Fortunately for most people the older we become the less we give a damn about what other people think!
Life is a personal journey.
You get to choose who you spend your time with. Choose wisely!
"If your happiness depends on what somebody else does, I guess you do have a problem." - Richard Bach
Luke 17:21 "The Kingdom of God is within YOU."
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"The Greatest Love of all is Learning to Love Yourself."
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