Sakhile specializes on interpersonal relationships. He's been writing about love, relationships, and habits for over ten years.
Women nowadays suffer from a lack of trust or are always anxious about protecting their feelings or belongings whenever they meet a new guy. They get the impression that practically every guy they meet is intended to deceive them, rob them, con them, or worse.
How did we end up in a sick culture where our women are constantly afraid and looking over their shoulders everywhere they go?
I am not implying that all women in South Africa are like this, but rather a subset of them, those from the working class or from previously disadvantaged communities.
When I meet new people in particular places, I've always noticed this kind of behavior, so I questioned my peers and friends if they had saw it. Almost everyone I know seemed to have noticed it.
I then made the decision to look in to this problem on my own. I occasionally wore generic attire, somewhat soiled clothing, or anything else that would make me appear to be any other everyday guy you may encounter.
To better observe and understand this behavior, I wanted to paint a portrait of a person from a disadvantaged background.
What I saw was as follows:
They Have Difficulty With Trust
Woman who have been the victim of betrayal, such as being unfaithful in a relationship, may face trust challenges in the future.
Trust problems can appear in a number of ways. A person who has difficulty trusting others, for example, might not even believe what others say. They may be distrustful of what others seek from them and may doubt the intentions and motivations of others. It makes developing an intimate, personal connection with another individual extremely difficult.
The Advantages of Trusting
Trust has several advantages that are beneficial to the quality of any relationships in addition to your personal mental well-being. Trust enables you to:
- Be vulnerable
- Be yourself
- Feel secure and safe
- Concentrate on the positive
- Increase connection and intimacy
- Reduce conflict
Trust is essential in relationships since it enables you to be yourself, relax, and rely on another person. It gives you the security and protection you need to seek comfort, reassurance, support, and affection from another person.
What I saw was as follows:
There are a variety of actions that may suggest that a woman has a problem trusting others. Some examples are:
Always expecting the worst: Having trust issues cause them to expect the worst from people in their life, even though they have proven to be trustworthy over the past. For instance, when somebody offers to assist them, they wonder whether that person expect something in return.
Suspiciousness: Trust concerns make them suspicious of all other people's motives, even if there is no evidence to suggest that their behaviors are questionable. Everyone they meet (to them) appears to be attempting to hurt or deceive.
Self-sabotage: Trust concerns frequently result in self-sabotage. For example, you may participate in actions that harm your relationship since you believe it is better to stop things now rather than being disappointed later.
Unhealthy relationships: Woman that suffer with trust are virtually always unable to form healthy, long-lasting relationships. Trust takes time to build in love relationships, but those who lack trust might not ever experience this kind of connection.
Lack of forgiveness: Whenever trust is at stake, it is difficult, if not impossible, to moving on after a betrayal. This unwillingness to forgive or forget can have ramifications throughout their life, not only in their dealings with others. It can cause feelings of guilt, humiliation, resentment, and regret.
Distancing themself: In many circumstances, a lack of trust leads to these woman erecting a barrier between themselves and others. They shun relationships entirely because they are afraid of being betrayed or disappointed.
Negative thinking: No matter what the situation, they always focus on what they predict to go wrong. They are more likely to notice other people's shortcomings, weaknesses, or blunders than their great characteristics.
When trust undermines your ability to develop healthy, secure connections, you may feel alone, lonely, and misunderstood.