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Wife, Husband, Marriage: What Is Behind All This?

Life Path 7 seeker of truth and lover of research. poet, writer, author and entrepreneur


Curtains Are Opening

My hopes for this writing are to open up truth about elements that were put into our matrix that we've simply adapted to without our fullest knowledge.

I think our world was crafted by the law never-ask-questions so you will never see the full truth unless you dig for it. Best way, as I am told is to uphold and defend all that we were taught, or you are rebellious and heretical. I must have heretics in my blood.

For those of you wishing to go on with open minds this may be a read of things to ponder.

Before Act One

Time after time all my life there were certain things that would get under my skin and never leave me alone until I got to the bottom of the itch. The concept of the "marriage" bond is one, then suddenly the words wife and husband.

What were the origins behind the idea to create this entire ensemble?

It's been difficult to discuss this with any married or have-been-married people as they take offense, but that is their choice.

As I researched, what I 'd found left my mouth wide open.



First, let's dive into symbology of the entire marriage arrangement. Veils, rings, white dress, exchange of rings, creeds.

"Pope Gregory 1, in 860AD decreed that as a required statement of nuptial intent, the groom to be had to give his intended an engagement ring. He further decreed the ring be of gold to signify financial sacrifice" The wedding ring originated in Babylon...

From what I am finding the most ancient ring ever found was of a serpent ouroboros crafted and used by a theology cult. Exchange of these and man joins woman in this venture.

Why does the ring goes onto the 4th finger? why on the left hand? In other cultures it could be put on the right hand, but always on Saturn. A band on the right fourth finger indicates engagement, while a band on the left fourth finger indicates marriage, is that so? Often we merge through life without knowing we run like the wind by the programming installed in us, being accepted by others is comforting and now you fit into their world and can be called "normal."

The fourth finger in Chinese palmistry represents Apollo, others the Sun or Saturn, which in my mind quickly translate into black sun worship. the we zero in a bit on Saturn.

The rings of Saturn. Saturn is surrounding by two rings, it's "Lord of the Rings", the malefic planet of discipline, order,

Saturn receives less sunlight than Earth and is the "6th" planet from Earth. Nine times wider than the Earth and 9.5 astronomical units away from the sun, Saturn is the sixth day of the week. Seeing a lot of 6's.

The city of Rome was originally known as Saturnia or City of Saturn.

So, what happens when the woman puts a Saturn ring on the man, and the man in turn puts the other Saturn ring onto the woman's Saturn finger?

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I've also found others that seem to know Saturn better:

"Sat-Ur-Nus means "Divine Intellect (NUS) the Sacred Fire (UR) of the State of Being (SAT). Sat-ya-Yuga was the Golden Age and Saturnus was the god of Being and Time."

"Saturnus was the god of the Golden Age: the Latins spoken of the SATURNIA REGNA (the reigns of Saturn) which were characterized precisely by the gold as symbol of royalty and wisdom. The treasure of Rome was under the temple of Saturn"

Interesting info On Saturn: For the Curious


Wife or Weak One?

Looking at the etymology of the literal word wife this is what I've found:

Veiled Face? Some proposed PIE roots for wife include *weip- "to twist, turn, wrap," perhaps with sense of "veiled person and more recently *ghwibh-, a proposed root meaning "shame."

Middle English sense of "mistress of a household" survives in housewife.

Husband or a Crowned Head?

Should we continue to use this word?

Old English husbonda "male head of a household, master of a house, householder," probably from Old Norse husbondi "master of the house."


Who Constructed this Ceremony?

Lawmakers and the theologians constructed the nineteenth-century marriage ceremony we have today. That construction runs down a sort of rabbit hole and I'd like to shine light on some of the creations that are attached to it.

Once a couple entered this "legal" contract they were now labeled "husband and wife", they now inhabit a legal "role", and a legal "personality," and this according to Georgetown, carried with it stringent public expectations as to do with conduct and responsibility. This "legal entity" now has legal rights and legal duties regardless of how happy they are.

Digging Deeper, 18th Century Marriages

If this original foundation of this legal contract or marriage between two individuals was understood to its fullest, why is it still being adhered to in the 21st century?

A case in 1783, exposes some of the main roots that held the heart of the marriage construction. If two people dared separate, what entailed wasn't pretty.

"..noted the prevalence and innocence of these "separate maintenance agreements" that recreated the wife as a single woman, a feme-sole. Mansfield understood, of course, that, at common law, a wife had "no civil capacity or power of acting without her husband, under whose absolute control she was supposed to be."'

Was it created in fact, to keep women "under control?" Why would that be necessary?

19th Century Reason for Marriage

"To nineteenth-century eyes, marriage united a man and a woman, giving them a singular identity." My question is why would you want to do that? We are all one consciousness before and after we die, yes, but this is a singular identity in the physical realm for society, why?

In the Georgetown law journal they say, "There are, then, as many types of marriages as there are married couples, each one the product of the distinctive choices and investments of its partners." Each one a product of the other.

"In the words of Justice Brennan, a married couple is "not an independent entity with a mind and heart of its own, but an association of two individuals each with a separate intellectual and emotional make-up." Not considered an entity with separate intellectual emotional make-up!

At one time not long ago women were put under umbrellas of men by way of marriage ceremony and lost the names they were once given by birth. Having another person's name, they were longer whom they were, now belonging to the name owner. In this way men could keep tabs on women making sure they didn't fall under another condescending name like heretic or even consider a rivalling with men themselves on upon equal podium.

Marriage created families that provided companionship and sex. This was viewed as a structure in which people created children. Marriage for most was a working partnership as families were the foundation of many businesses. This meant it was a construction in which society was built upon and held together. So, society and those that ran it needed these constructions to continue keeping it together. They well knew people could have children without the legal construction.

Tne Unmarried Named

Society at large was cynically drawn into frenzies of finger-pointing, labeling, and belittlement, whomever wasn't married was either a bachelor or worse heaven forbid, a spinster, and for those women life seemed to be over. If that was because they didn't have children, that didn't adhere well to the depopulation plans at all. Maybe at the time they were more concerned about having a steady stream of work horses.

© 2021 Jill Quill

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