Anamika S. Jain has been a social media consultant for six years. She has written more than 200 articles on relationships and dating.
Younger Man and Older Woman Relationships
Older woman with younger man romance or marriage is not a matter of awe anymore. Many men have found love, harmony and happiness with older women. Nowadays age is no more a criteria when it comes to matters of the heart. Earlier that was not the case and the woman involved in such a relationship was considered a ‘cradle snatcher’. Actually what makes guys attracted to older woman? The below mentioned may be some reasons or benefits of having an older woman as partner.
- Maturity and Confidence: The older women bring a sense of maturity and confidence into the relationships. Older Woman has more experience with men and is more stable compared with younger women and men feel more comfortable with them. Young women tend to be more fickle minded compared to mature women. Mature women know what they want and are much responsible in handling relationship. Older women by default bring more life experiences into the relationship and therefore nurture the growth of their partner without trying to be in command of the relationship.
- Older women are taboo: This factor makes young men attracted to them. Our Society is used to see older men and younger woman more than the other way round and thereby offer more acceptance to such relationships. The normal tendency of people is that they want what they cannot have or what is a ‘forbidden fruit’.
- Lesser Competition: Young women may have several men chasing after them. Older women offer an alternative. Also to an older woman a young man feels more attractive and boost to her ego that she tends to shower her attraction on him. Also there are many liberated and attractive older women known colloquially as ‘cougars’ hunting for younger guys in places like the internet or bars looking for some fun life of a single and are easily available.
- Taking Charge: Young men do not have much experience with women and may not know what to expect with women. And it helps to have ‘take charge’ kind of women as a partner who has already been in the same situation earlier. Many people also agree to the fact that sex gets better with age and getting an experienced partner is considered a plus because older women know what they want and they have experience towards pleasing a man. Older Woman also mostly takes care of the fact that they don’t get pregnant by using contraceptive pills to protect them.
- Intelligent and Confident: People gain more confidence as they grow older. Many young men find older woman attractive as tend to be less superficial. A conversation with an older woman can be interesting and intellectual whereas majority of younger woman tend to be silly, immature and sometimes shallow.
- Independence: Majority of Older women is financially independent and has successful careers. Men like it when his partner is self-sufficient and self-supportive and don’t need him to take care of her.
- The need for Mothering: It is said that all males have a child in them. An Older woman can easily fulfill that need in them.
- Attraction and Love: While some may find it odd that some young man surrounded by girls his age would find an older woman attractive. This is because they many older women are attractive and may even find romance or love in them. How many men can resist 40+ women like Uma Thurman or Mimi Rogers or the Indian actress Maduri Dixit?
I may have left out something. Please feel free to add more through comments.
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poetryman6969 on February 26, 2015:
You make some interesting points. Relationships are better if they are based on mutual attraction rather than mutual vanity or mutual preening. Trophies belong on a self, not on your arm.
Dreen Lucky from St. Paul, minnesota on October 10, 2013:
For most of my career I insisted on dating older men. I didn't find any attraction to younger men. I mostly didn't even notice them. Then, I started to become aware of myself and my surroundings more. I "grew up" and my confidence attracted a range of men. I'm 31 now, and I met a man who is 27. I am happier now than I have been in any of the older relationships. It is all to do with personality and not with age, but I am happy now and I am glad I met my younger man. I see us being together for a very long time. Thank you for bringing light to this in your article
gogodebo on September 10, 2012:
BRAVO..too the older women with younger men on here. I was married 17 years to a man 10 years younger. We had a great marriage for 14 yrs, but then we both needed to move on. Now I'm with a guy 35 years younger (I'm almost 60 yrs old, he is 25 yrs old). I still look great & have a younger attitude. I've tried to date men my age or older. They are boring & don't take care of themselves. Call me a cougar or whatever you want. I love the yonger men.
Angelluv40 on August 05, 2012:
Im 40 yrs old female and for about two months this seemingly amazing 29 yr old man has been asking me out and wanting us to be a couple. I must say Im very near accepting after reading the comments here today.
so very true on July 30, 2012:
so many older women are VERY HOT TODAY, and are much more down to earth.
kleo x on June 19, 2012:
I am about 30 years old young African man, for almost two years I have been in committed love relationship with a 37 years old woman. My experience of dating a mature woman, she is emotional and sexual mature, economic indepentent, and she know what she want in a relation (good love and sex). And this is hardly to find in most young girls and woman. I don't mind to marry this mature woman, she make me feel loved, mature woman know how to love a man :) that;s my experience.
Igor on March 29, 2012:
I am 34, my woman is 53. I love her because she knows, what does it mean - to be a woman.We are together 4 years.
dayakthinker on March 13, 2012:
The only reason is that the older woman knows exactly what the young man wants. In other words, the young man saves a lot of time, energy and money on the explaining part.
Tiny on March 10, 2012:
I also kind of dating a young men.i'm 27 and he is 23.I think s much different than I was 20.I feel so confident about myseft,get sexier,more sexual experience,more calm.I was terrible at sex when I was 20.I was always compare myseft to other girls.my young men has nice body and strong sexual but he is not so mature which make me mad something.he is also feel like a failure compare to me sometime.and I'm married.my husband also sexy and loving person but we had a rough things in our married,He gave a lot of stress and I feel regret that I got married now.my young men has my love,emotion,sexual feeling,attention.we don't have sex yet.I don't know if this relationship will work?if woman are independent I suggest not rush in marry.
doingsomethingright on March 02, 2012:
You are completely wrong on your third point. I was very attractive/hot when I was young but now that I am approaching my 40's, I have many, many more men seeking my attention than ever, younger, older and same age range. The competition for my attention is far more now. There are far more men who prefer older women that women who prefer younger men so the competition is pretty stiff.
fassaneh on February 10, 2012:
Interesting article.I actually married my husband 13 years ago and he is 6 years younger than me. we love each other and he always tells me that I am his soulmate.
Toopax77 on February 07, 2012:
Yes it is all about love. Older women make tremendous lovers.
user1980 on February 06, 2012:
... talkin from my own experience as a young a man i dated the older ladies because i always thought they are mature and are much easier to understand.. but the last relation i just came out last week which lasted almost 2yrs gave a diff impression of thinking .. the lady i was with was much more to try to think she was actually younger phisically and mentally .. and that just pushed me away .. althouh i did luv her for real but the more time we spending i couldn't just take it anymore.
Allie on January 29, 2012:
I highly disagree with the "Lesser Competition" statement. I've recently turned 35 although I am taken, the age bracket of men chasing me has widen with a lot more variety. From college age kids to men hitting retirement. I feel like I'm at a perfect age as a woman. :)
patti on January 25, 2012:
Wow! I must say after reading most of these comments, I feel much better pursuing the young cub's that entice Me.
There is no way that I will ever find a Man My age attractive, (54) because I will not even look their way.
Younger men have always appealed to me, an after 11 years with a young man 20 years younger than I, I aim to continue living this Lifestyle. Plus also I Love playing Video games, and so do they. lol.
sonu on January 06, 2012:
i like 40&45 yrs lady because my old love is my aunty she was already 42
GILL on January 06, 2012:
i 23 YEAR YOUNG BOY DATING WITH 38 YEAR LADY, WE TOO MUCH HAPPY, ENJOY AND STAY LONG TIME, NO PROBLEM SHE IS ALSO HAPPY AND GIVE GOOD JOB AND MANY OTHER THING, BUT HAVE NOT OBJECTION ABOUT ME
yolanda on January 02, 2012:
Another couple is lisa bonet 44 and jason moma (conan) 34.
katyzzz from Sydney, Australia on January 01, 2012:
Well expressed, I see, but not a characteristic I like to see in a man. I like real men.
Witchman on December 29, 2011:
so what do you call an older man, say, one in his 40's, who prefers older women?
seems too old to be a cub...
lily on December 23, 2011:
I am a woman over 40 having "socially acceptable" issues with dating 23yr old man... thank you for all comments... i guess i am not alone out there...good to know. it has been 2years and have finally given in to the attraction recently--lol
A young guy on December 16, 2011:
Well I just want to say I'm 18 years old and as soon as I turned 18 I found a older lady to be with from time to time kind of a fwb type thing. I loved it so was around 40 so this might be extreme to some of you. But after I moved states sadly it ended and I'm still 18 and I've found another lover in my new area. She's a little chubby but older too so I can't wait to see how this will play out. I don't really no why I am attracted to older woman. I just do and it's just a blast. An maybe you can help me out with this... The first older woman I was with said that see was married so when I heard that I was going to break it off but she said her husband was okay with this. Is that wrong? To still persue?
Marge Long on December 06, 2011:
I am a 64 year old woman who is turned on by 25-35 year old guys - but who wouldn't be really mainly because there are no available men my age around.
George on December 03, 2011:
I am a 55 years old male had a few relationship with older married to a younger woman but can never feel that connection,and now that I am getting older it is driving me crazy,I some time feel like walk away from it all,,,Am I crazy?
Alli on November 30, 2011:
I'm 25 my woman is 33. I love her aloooooot and i don't care abt our age difference. All what i want is marriage wth her. I wsh i wl mary in the next year
aryan bedi on November 27, 2011:
this would sound unusual, but i am so excited at the prospect of being with an older woman, that is takes me on a flight of fantasy..but i always feel apprehensive that i would offend them in some way..tis like i wish i knew how i could woo them..!being here in india, this situation is much more complex caz, this is not easily accepted and could be misunderstood..
lovely n insightful artice..loved it!
Bridget on November 25, 2011:
am 23 and ma boyfriend is 21 and we a so in luv that I sometimes wish he ws older because i dnt think down here the society wil eva accept us. it going 2 b like iv gone crazy or sumthn. bt onestli hez ol i want. pple say we a still 2 young 2 kn wat we want. wat d u thnk. pls rpli. great article by da way..
pelt545 from Hampton Roads, VA on November 23, 2011:
Younger men who are interested in older women may want more maturity, sexual experience, commitment, understanding, etc. than what they get from younger women.
Personally, I do not care about the age of the woman I date/marry. What really matters is her personality and features.
Of course, there are some hot older women like Halle Berry, Tina Turner, Jaclyn Smith, Eartha Kitt, etc.
mainstream on November 23, 2011:
Being the younger woman with an older man is not the same thing as being the younger man with an older woman. It's far more socially acceptable for an older man to have a younger woman than it is for an older woman to be with a younger man. When an older man has a younger woman he's judged as being a success. When a younger man is with an older woman he's judged as being a failure. It might not be PC but that's just the way it is.
Francis on November 21, 2011:
I am 8 years older than my fiancé, but he is too much love with and he even doesn't care whether I bore him a baby or not. He is so contented with me in that he wants to introduce me to all his friends despite the age difference. on my side I love him too in fact i feel like falling in love with any other man. He has all the care I need in a man. I am 42 and he is only 34
precious on November 16, 2011:
i m 33 years old, i completely agree with ashley38....it totally depends on how u carry yr self. my bf is 10 years younger than me n wants to get married to me, we r deeply in love with each other, nobody can tell the age difference we have because we look like of the same age or in fact some people think i am younger than him....i m just loving my life right now.
ashley on November 14, 2011:
I am 8 years older than my husband....but I do not look my age.So, people would get surprised when they found out about our age difference because they thought we are of the same ages.
It all depends on how you carry yourself and take care of yourself.
Minhaz on November 08, 2011:
100% B+ve,these kind of couple can feel more enjoyment i hope.
bill on November 06, 2011:
I like a older wommen 55 but she dosnt want nothing i am 30 s she said she don't want to train me but i love her and she has a son but i been threw a lot with herand help her a lot with $$ but i keep thinking of her she alsome and beautiful
joey33 on November 04, 2011:
that's a dumb statement on what would an older women want with a young man its obviously happening a lot more as a 23 yr old man I love older women in ther 30s and 40s and not just for fun if you happy age shouldn't matter some people might not like older women younger man but i never complain if its reversed older man younger woman.those who support this im happy older women are just as beautiful sometimes more so than younger and anyone who has an older women should treat them well and make them feel special and beautiful only closeminded losers don't like these oh well
mike darling on October 28, 2011:
hi im a 23 year old man my wife just turned 64 shes very hot and i love her to no end we make love 6 to 8 times a week
dreamer on October 16, 2011:
i've been seeing a guy half my age for 6 years now and the chemistry is mindblowingly good, but there is always the age barrier that stops him from falling all the way in with me.
from my experience, what we have is very hard to find...but his young mind thinks he can do better and so it is an issue.
in my experience...i feel young men want the experience with an older woman....want everything that feels good, but don't want to love and marry you the way they would someone their own age.
if they could find someone who felt as good.
NO NAME on October 13, 2011:
i am 21 years old and my GF IS 37
JOONYWOONY on October 09, 2011:
A man 24 years younger is madly in love with me. At first I couldn't believe it but he absolutely adores me. We are both married to spouses of our appropriate and approximate ages so I don't know why this happened. In time I fell in love with him despite the extremes of differences in ages. His wife has driven by my home to stare at me. I feel like a circus freak. I will say that people still consider me beautiful and I am extremely more attractive than her. I feel ashamed for my feelings. I have not committed adultery and have acted with restraint and modesty. Nobody will ever accuse me of being immoral. No one can accuse me of anything. I did not bring this situation on in any way. I wish he had never fallen crazy in love with me.
kisserk on October 08, 2011:
Thanks for the article and comments. I am mature woman 54 in a relation with a 'boy' of 18.
Sead on September 30, 2011:
Thanks For all I would like to say something about older women, Older women is experienced and tolerance also is loyal and loveable and satisfaction but only the problems is one things older women soon become tired and older than Every younger men leave alone that is the biggest problem
manik. on September 23, 2011:
Sumitra rani i agree wid u.
jun on September 16, 2011:
i like 45 yr old woman on the ground that she is lovable, patient, understanding and lotd of experiences with respect to sex. Maybe that's too obvious, but honestly speaking that's draw the whole picture in my sexual desire.
Kabo on September 14, 2011:
I'm 34 yrs old.Honestly speaking, I really admire older woman 50+ than younger one, I don't know why except that she is very sexy and honest and feel more confertable with her.
Anjelicca on September 03, 2011:
I used to have that negative feeling toward a older women dating or marrying a younger man, but now I see things totally different, love can be found unexpected we really can not control our heart, I have learned it's all about who we are attracted too, people are not the same, we all have our likes and dislikes, if someone cross out path young or older, we can not predict what may happen, so I have found out, it's about the person as an individual.
noname on September 03, 2011:
I am 37 y.o woman and my BF is 21 !!! :)
collins on August 28, 2011:
i am total agree with sumitra rani.becuse a man and a woman have opposite sex power.man's sex power decrease with age but a woman increase sex power with age.i suggest to sumitra g if your age is 42 once time do sex with 23y black boy.gurrunted once you go black you never come back.a woman has top sexual power after 30 to 50. you are on the top.
sumitrarani on August 13, 2011:
i am a woman of 42. my husband age is 62. last 10 yaers he neve satisfaied me. so i have some physical relation with some guys those at least 12 years younger than me. them satisfied me in my bedroom. now i feel young boy's gives maximum sex- satisfication than old man.
Peppie on August 12, 2011:
I must make a comment of experiences I have encountered..
I have been involved with 2 romances both 15 yrs younger..Yes, I suppose you can consider me as a Cougar woman, because I definitely enjoy younger men than the older...they know how to treat and please a woman...therefore my vote goes to the younger men..
mandy on August 08, 2011:
This was a good read but there is a bit of a problem with it and that is making generalizations about both younger and older women when it comes to maturity, confidence and intelligence.
For anyone to have the attributes in the above paragraph, they must want to be like that. Age has nothing to do with how mature a person is.
Take me for example. I'm 31 years old and I've been told repeatedly by women and men both younger and older then myself(mire from those who are older) that I'm very mature and confident for my age and I love to have intellectual discussions. Most of my closest friends were people 50+ not with people my own age.
Far too often then not, people would quickly assume that I'm just young and stupid because they are quick to judge me based on the fact that I'm a young person when I'm the exact opposite.
What I'm getting at here is that the above traits in this hub are something you can find in people of ALL ages! You just have to be willing to look for it. There are plenty of young people who act immature and older people who are mature and responsible BUT there are just as many young people who are very mature and responsible people not to mention older people who insist on acting like teenage fools. Personality is what determines how mature or not a person is, not their age.
Lawek on June 12, 2011:
Sadei you righ we know perfectly how to deal, and am so interested in old women. I have never been with the one on my age always older than me 10 years or more.
sadie on June 08, 2011:
I have been in two relationships with younger men..one was 15 yrs younger and the other was 12 yrs younger...Yes, I will admit, I do prefer younger men to the older guys....They know how to treat a lady..in or out of the bedroom....
Elyaz on May 12, 2011:
Just love s responsible for ths kind of relationship.love makes for u every thng possible..
Pamela N Red from Oklahoma on January 18, 2011:
Great information and spot on.
I know more relationships like this than I do older men with younger women.
I didn't realize how many younger guys were attracted to older women until I became one. It can be hugely intoxicating and also dangerous for those of us who are married. :o)
hey on January 12, 2011:
this is so true.. i was actually debating this, i like a woman that's 6 years older than me, i cant wait to be her man but shes awesome her personality and great looks..
Ingenira on December 27, 2010:
I am surprised how common this trend has become, just looking at the number of interesting comments, and the number of books available for the topic !!
Ashantina on December 24, 2010:
The curious, confident and adventurous type of younger man is usually attracted to the older women... for all of the above reasons mentioned..
Wondering?????? on December 19, 2010:
im not looking at look's, but a woman in her 60's that's down to earth and personable and caring,& still appealing,
is a lot more nice to be with than someone my age or younger,
Their not so self centered as younger one's or my age,
tired of scatterbrained woman that you cant talk to,
where are the omnes that like museum's, or airshow's , or western history, or just sharing things on the sofa,
If i seea anymore onesa that are into their kids and you cant talk to them,
Im gonna shoot a gun into the air and scream,
sheila on December 01, 2010:
I'm a very youthful and attractive 48 year old woman that is carrying on 2 affairs with 2 very attractive men that are 10 and 20 years younger than me.
I like the youth of their bodies, and the openness of their hearts and minds.
I could probably go long term with one of them...men my age are so hard and spoiled these days, as if they're God's gift.
I have a daughter in her 20's, and am not looking to have anymore children like a younger woman might. I've been married twice, so that's not something that I feel the need to experience again. And, I have my own money, so my reasons for choosing a partner now are different from when I was younger. When I was younger, my men were always older than me...Lol!
ebony on November 15, 2010:
I disagree that's disgusting it's a 4 year age difference older women ain't better then young women u can't stay young forever, I think there perverts leave the young men alone age does matter
Dawn Michael from THOUSAND OAKS on November 13, 2010:
As a woman matures she will understand her body and her emotions better, therefore she is less complicated and less moody, no wonder a younger man wants to date an older woman...lol
loved the article
Abdinasir Aden from Minneapolis, MN on October 17, 2010:
Anamika, your hub is very nice and you gave very detailed points. Thanks your sharing information.
Loves older on October 04, 2010:
I had a fling with the sexiest 71yo recently.im getting close to ex's 74yo mum as friends.definitely hoping things go much further.im 36
Joe Badtoe from UK on September 02, 2010:
Well I'm 93 and my girl is 129 We are in love and we meet every three weeks only because that's how long it takes me to get down the stairs to the apartment below where she lives.
We either have an active sex life or a wonderful imagination mixed with a microwaveable attention span and the memory of an ageing goldfish. We're both hard of hearing which means we'll never upset each other. We like to go for a walk...eventually. We often caress eachn other's skin and get our fingers trapped in the flappy bits. We laugh a lot without knowing and we stare at the carpet for hours.
It's the purest love.
multimastery on August 17, 2010:
Nice hub and well explained Anamika. This really reveals the attractive qualities that make older women the top pic by many younger men. Younger woman are attractive too but most of that is just physical and many are very silly & shallow until they get older and more mature. Too bad it takes most of them so long.
JakeMcMurphy from Chicago on August 12, 2010:
Older women can also tend to have less inhibition and be more open-minded (in the bedroom and everywhere else). They are also much more open to letting the man have his space. This is integral for a man to not feel "overwhelmed" by a female. When two people in a relationship can allow each other the appropriate space to have their own lives then it will usually work out for the best.
whocares on August 09, 2010:
you don't have to worry about surprieses, and tricks, she won't be so erratic, as every younger. She's just ready for a man. and if she'd be committed, she'd be honourable for anyone.
Jaspal Singh from India / Australia on July 22, 2010:
Your points makes sense. I agree. Jaspal
Kishi on July 08, 2010:
Im happy to read this...more love for my sunshine
MickS from March, Cambridgeshire, England on June 30, 2010:
interesting hub, from my time in the 60s as a teenager, I once went out with a specific girl to get to know her mother, definitely worth it. I think the main attraction is that older women know the job and get on with it.
Rachel on June 23, 2010:
Great article and comments! Like Angie, most people think I'm youngest, rather than oldest of my siblings. :)
It's not about age, when it comes to a good match; it's about personality, character, similarities, complimenting each other, willingness to share goals, to give and to receive, and to stay together no matter what!
abhayam from Jakarta on June 23, 2010:
Maturity, self confidence, maturity are some of the factors why men like older women. Thanks for sharing interesting article
Daniel on June 22, 2010:
I find older women more approachable and not into games. They know what they want and they are quite attractive, intelligent and classy. Some older women look 10 to 15 yrs younger than their actual ages. It depends on how well they take care of themselves.
It's like a car, you can have a classic car that's in mint condition that will still turn heads and make your friends' envious. Other old cars are jalopy's that nobody wants because they are rusted. Women can be sexy and attractive at any age, they just need to take care of themselves instead of rusting in the fields.
blue.lotus from Cali on June 14, 2010:
Very insightful! I dated a young fireman once.. 12 yrs younger and wow what a ride! The chemistry was incredible and we both seemed very comfortable with our roles in the relationship.
I find older men tend to be more controlling and inconsiderate. I completely disagree about younger men choosing older women usually because of financial stability. I don't have that. We had pretty much nothing but fire :)
Angela Michelle Schultz from United States on April 26, 2010:
What I really want to know, why would an older woman want a younger man? :)
sbrown1703 on April 24, 2010:
I Think That Men Like Older Women Because They're so much mature!! But You Have Younger Women that's mature too!! Ask Why do Older Men Like Younger Women??
Lupita.30 on March 30, 2010:
Thank you Anamika for this interesting hub. I've been in love with men younger & older than me and to be honest, when it comes to love, age doesn't really matter but from my personal experience I felt more comfortable and more respected as as woman by younger men than older ones. But that's my personal experience... And, DeanKeaton259 I don't think this old woman - young guy is a new phenomenon. It's not only Demi Moore and her husband... Look at Tina Turner whose partner is 16 years younger than her... and they have been together for a lot of years. I also met younger men who were in love with women 15 years older than them, so it's not only celebrities who fall for younger men.
greg k on March 29, 2010:
Sexually, intelligence, yup older womans got it all. In this day and age however short relationships are becoming the norm. Yes great if we find our spouse and settle down but when theres a recession looming we just need supportive people around us. immature Gold diggers and attention freaks don't really do it in such a climate. Will love last? Sometimes love is more than looks, its personality. In the end we all die but what is important is to know how we lived.I think if we can help each other and be supportive we will have more faith in life and more confidence. True confidence in oneself. Not the arrogant kind. that comes from learning and growing. Something you cant buy or find a shortcut to.
christalluna1124 from Dallas Texas on March 17, 2010:
Excellent hub. As an older woman, now 49 I feel i have much more to offer another person. I have had so many life experiences and gone through so many changes, I feel I am a better person for it.
warmest regards, chris
Sunshine & Baba on March 11, 2010:
Thank you for the wonderful post. We are interracial couple and living in Chennai India and we have huge age difference of 22 years. We have been happily married for over three years and we met online about 6 years back.
Thank you for sharing your views.
Anath on March 05, 2010:
Because we tend to be more confident. We are not asking them every 5 minutes if "our bottom looks big on that". Most us, know what we want and have already come to terms with our body image. We know that if we can pull a younger guy and keep him head over heels about us, there must be something hot about us ;-)
appam from India on February 24, 2010:
Older women and younger men are very subjective terms. I don't know what age difference you mean anamika. This is something to be analysed on pair by pair basis. Older women like teenagers mainly on sex. Normally after menopause older ones can't cope upwith the pressure of same aged men.Teenagers are beginers and they suit for the grannies. The feeling of their fast fading beauty of oldies prompt them to have some rescue in youngsters and more over their power of demand is frantically falling.
Harsh-india on February 15, 2010:
A true feeling hub for all the men out there;and a lesson for young ladies to learn.....
terced ojos from firstname.lastname@example.org on January 24, 2010:
I'm 43 now but as a younger man; say around 20 to 25 years of age I dated women who were between the ages of 40 to 50. The most attractive thing about older women to me was their sense of self. It was so refreshing to be with someone who wasn't borderline schizo. LOL...I mean I guess when we are young men and women alike can be on edge as we are trying to find out who we are.
Anyway. The older womans confidence and easy going demeanor was incredibly intoxicating coupled with the fact that they tended to dote on me. The continual petting and confidence they inspired in me as a young man cannot be understated. Their confidence in me made me believe in myself and in a very real way made me want to be a better man.
Oh yeah...that....Well needless to say the sex was incredible. I learned a great deal about female anatomy and what women really like. Mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.
If a young man asked me I would encourage him to entertain a relationship with an older woman.
DeanKeaton259 from Troy, Michigan on December 03, 2009:
Your hub is very accurate in most respects. However, I believe that for the most part, younger men are not interested in marrying older women. For young men, older women offer more maturity, experience, and are often more open sexually. The most important thing that you left out is that older women are either not interested in marriage or are no longer in a rush to get married. For young men, this is one of the most important draws.
Satyam7 from Ontario, Canada on November 05, 2009:
As women get older,they gain more experience and confidence in themselves. They feel more attractive and are able to find understanding with younger man and have fun with them. It is always a pleasure to read your interesting hubs. Thanks.
Jykeith Comal from Richmond, TX on October 24, 2009:
Im 35, and my lady is 40. I have never felt love like I have now. I am very pleased in all areas. And I don't want to cheat on her. It is the best relationship I have ever been in. SO it works for me.
Philent on October 20, 2009:
True in every word, but most importantly I want to believe that men get involved with older women because of love.
StrictlyQuotes from Australia on September 19, 2009:
Great Hub, I'm often dating younger men, and haven't thought much into it before. I thought they just found me nice, and attractive and so the age just didn't matter.
mr asp from sweden on September 17, 2009:
Love does not see age as a hindrance.If you're truly in love you'll be blind to see the age difference.
My wife is older than me.
F. Kenneth Taylor on August 29, 2009:
Older women enjoy knowing they can still interest a younger man. I think younger men like the fact older women can accept things for what they are. I've also seen some older women behave very immaturely, much like a teenager.
A mc: Its not about "right" or "wrong", unless someone's a minor or married,etc... Its simply about two ADULTS engaging in a relationship, rather sexual or long-term/serious.
anonymous on August 19, 2009:
On another note which I didn't mention, I don't believe that a 1 or 2 year difference counts. Let's make it 6 or more years difference. 1 to 5 year difference isn't that great.
BJC from Florida on August 16, 2009:
Thanks. Interesting article.
Anamika S Jain (author) from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India on August 15, 2009:
BJC : I am happy to know that you are happy. All the Best for a happy life.
BJC from Florida on August 15, 2009:
Right on target! My own sweet man of three years is fourteen years my junior and I couldn't ask for a better mate!
Anamika S Jain (author) from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India on August 13, 2009:
That applies to me too. Thanks for the comment Shalini.
Shalini Kagal from India on August 13, 2009:
You must be right Anamika - my husband's a year younger than I am :D
Anamika S Jain (author) from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India on August 13, 2009:
Age difference should not be criteria to those who mutually respect and enjoy each other’s company. Thanks for your comment spiritdancerocean. Yes, I have seen several normal women who never had any plastic surgery involved in such relationships too.
spiritdancerocean from Santa Cruz, CA. on August 12, 2009:
Thanks for the ideas as I have had two much younger men in long term relationships and am looking at my third instead of resisting as we have been friends 13 years. I like the idea that older women are taboo! I thought almost all men hated wrinkles-- do you have examples of couples other than movie stars who can afford to have a lot of plastic surgery etc.
Anamika S Jain (author) from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India on August 06, 2009:
Thanks for the Opinion A mc.