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Why is my girlfriend being nice to me?

Robert is a staff writer at Relationship Steps and writes about dating, relationships and personal development.


Life likes to through us curve balls and your dating life is no exception.

One of the questions I have been asked is "Why is my girlfriend being nice to me?"

Now, the first time I was asked this I replied, "She's supposed to be nice to you", not realizing immediately the full implications of the question.

As it turns out, the boyfriend was worried his girlfriend was cheating on him and that's shy she's suddenly nice to him.

Reason 1:
This becomes the first reason why she's being nice to you:
She's losing interest in you and no longer thinks of you in a romantic or sexual way. And she's found your replacement.

To resolve this before she breaks up with you, you need to give her more attention. Make proper date plans with her, not just to "hang out" but to do actual activities that are fun and that you both like to do. You may just save your relationship!

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Reason 2:
She is trying to make you jealous so she's flirting with other guys in the hope that you'll go crazy for her and fight for her. This is sometimes revolving around making you feel less of a man, or that you are not good enough for her. Tread carefully here if you want to keep her.

Reason 3:
She wants something from you or wants you to do something for her, or her family or friends. Watch yourself carefully if this is the case. It happens that you do what she wants and you still end up single.

Reason 4:
She is trying to get the upper hand over you, to be able to "put you in your place" and to control you. Maybe you've made positive steps and changes in your life and now she sees you slipping away from her, so she becomes nice for a while as she tries to control you.

Reason 5:
Your girlfriend's motives might not be as pure as they seem. She really does want to break up with you and there's nothing you'll be able to do about it. In the meantime, she will play her cruel "I'm a nice girlfriend game" just to set you up for an even bigger heartbreak.

So there can be a lot of reasons why your girlfriend is suddenly nice to you. Some are good, some are very bad.

The key to saving your relationship, no matter what her reason is, is open communication. Open the doors to being able to talk over anything with your girlfriend without it becoming an argument, and more often than not, you'll win her over and save your relationship.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2022 Robert Lee

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