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Why the Child-Woman is Alluring

Child Woman Marilyn Monroe

Child Woman Marilyn Monroe

The Lure of Marilyn Monroe

Marilyn Monroe had a childlike allure - her big blue eyes, the breathless voice, the blonde curls, the air of spontaneity and vulnerability that endeared her to men.

Author Norman Mailer had this to say about how men perceived Monroe: “gorgeous, forgiving, humorous, compliant and tender... she would ask no price.”

Persephone - The Child Woman

Persephone - The Child Woman

The Child-Woman - Persephone

Persephone of the Greek myths was plucking red poppies in her spontaneous, childlike way when her dark uncle Hades burst through the earth and abducted her in his iron chariot. Hades, the Lord of the Underworld, made Persephone his unwilling bride. She became the Goddess of Spring. When she returned to the surface every six months to be with her grieving mother Demeter, she brought the flowers and the new leaves with her.

What is Meant By Child-like?

The Venerable Tenzin Palmo, says in her book, Reflections on a Mountain Lake: Teachings on Practical Buddhism: "A childlike quality of the mind really means a mind which is fresh, which sees things as if for the first time."

What Men Think of the Child Woman

How do men today perceive this quality when they do find it in a woman?

Says Lloyd Robert, animator, art director and teacher: “I saw Lolita. She was a mistake in terms of overkill. She knew what she was doing and that was her undoing. She was a put-on child. But Monroe was a delight. She had that rare mix of innocence and sexuality – at least that’s what one saw on the screen if not in her private life. Everyone knows how helpless she was in a childish way in her private life.

Some women confuse child-likeness with childishness. They burst into tears all the time; they try to manipulate people through their tears. I think that gets in the way of getting ahead. Child-likeness is an inward quality and can be very attractive in a woman. I knew this child-woman who showed this quality in her sweetness and kindness. She would run out of the house to see a sunset or chase a butterfly. She was a teacher and she instilled this same enthusiasm into the kids she taught. “

Rakesh Ramakanth, entrepreneur, says most career women lose their childlike innocence because they have to project themselves as serious people. According to him, a childlike woman laughs whole-heartedly, is adventurous and candid.

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Childlike women are wonderful says the psychology student Jasmeet Sawhney because they don't "put on airs" and are not afraid to be themselves. He adds that some people may think of a childlike woman as retarded, but he believes that the quality of childlikeness protects an individual from stress.

The Child Archetype

The psychologist Carl Jung proposed that the child archetype with its openness embodies the urge for self realisation. The philosopher Arthur Koestler wrote about the child's "innocence of perception" which enables him to see the extraordinary in the ordinary.


  • Tenzin Palmo -- Reflections on a Mountain Lake: Teachings on Practical Buddhism published by Snow Lion Publications
  • Myths-Dreams-Symbols


Sanjay Sharma from Mandi (HP) India on October 13, 2015:

Does it mean coquettish women or how closely the two resemble. The outer innocence may be illusive.

Anita Saran (author) from Bangalore, India on June 17, 2014:

That's a great insight, grand old lady! We certainly need to create this new culture where the innocence and spontaneity of childhood is not lost and yet one can be a successful, powerful woman.

Mona Sabalones Gonzalez from Philippines on June 17, 2014:

I was struck by the comment of Rakesh Ramakanth, who said that "most career women lose their childlike innocence because they have to project themselves as serious people." This made me wonder if it has to do with why so many successful career women in the Philippines end up unmarried? The childlike woman contributed respite to the hard working man at the end of the day. But as women's roles change in terms of their careers and what they do at home, new families will evolve with cultures that must adapt if they are to be lasting and fulfilling. I think in such cases, it's worth a try if you love a powerful woman but don't match up. If you love each other, it's worth it to try to create your own rules and your own family culture. You can forge a new culture that will work best for you and your circumstances.

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