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It’s happened to most of us. One day you see a certain celebrity on TV, social media or wherever and they capture your attention. Before you know it, you’ve gone cuckoo for that person.
I find it frustrating to have a crush on famous people. That’s because the individual you adore will never reciprocate the feelings you have for them. It is like a one-sided relationship.
I always love to mind my business and not form too many connections, but alas! I occasionally find myself having feelings for a random celebrity. It all started with Romeo Miller (an American TV personality) when I was12 years old. After seeing several episodes of “It’s the Romeo Show”, I instantly “fell in love” with Romeo. I seriously thought that one day I would meet the handsome guy and get married to him. The crush lasted until I was 18.
Eventually, I moved on to Justin Beiber, partly because he’s just a year older than me. However, I quickly got over him when I realized that millions of other girls were obsessed with him too globally.
My next celebrity crush was Kagwe Mungai (a Kenyan musician), whom I still think I have feelings for till now. Later on, I started to eye Daniel Peter Weke and Sami Flinch, who are both Kenyan TV personalities (if you saw them, you’d understand).
After that, I developed a serious crush on Luka Sabbat from “Grown-ish”. He’s so cute with those dreadlocks and a pretty face. Lastly, I got a sudden interest in Zendaya Coleman after watching Euphoria. But, for Zendaya it was more of a friendly crush than a romantic one. That’s because she’s a girl and I’m also a girl, and I didn’t want to make things weird.
Now, I just hope that I’ll never develop a crush towards a celebrity ever again, because it sucks and is pointless.
That’s my short history with celebrity crushes, and I’m not alone. I’m sure you also have a story to tell. Feel free to share in the comment section at the end of the article.
Anyhow, why do we develop crush feelings on celebrities? I’ve been asking myself that for a while now; therefore I did some research and here’s what I found.
Psychology behind Celebrity Crushes
Crushes happen when an individual projects their values and perceptions onto another individual, whom they feel has particular attributes they value. Then, the individual with the crush feelings attaches solid positive feelings toward the magical picture they’ve formed. It’s a potent blend of idealization and infatuations. Chemicals in the brain linked to crushes can bring distress or perfect bliss on somebody for a maximum of two years.
When a strong crush lasts for more than two years, it’s referred to as “limerence”. It’s an involuntary interpersonal condition that features a severe longing for reciprocation of feelings, obsessive compulsive perceptions, and emotional dependency on someone else. Some of the symptoms of limerence are uncontrollable thoughts, difficulty in breathing and acute nervousness. People who experience such symptoms are urged to seek medical help.
Fortunately, for most people, crushes do not turn into something that requires medical intervention, so you shouldn’t worry much. Having a crush is a normal and healthy part of being human.
How to Get Over a Celebrity Crush
If you’re having a hard time getting over a celebrity crush just take note of the tips below:
- Get Rid of Things That Remind You of Your Celeb Crush
Take down those posters, do not watch their latest film or listen to their newest song. Additionally, avoid talking about the person with your companions or family members. Most importantly, do not spend time on the worldwide web researching your crush’s life.
- Substitute Daydreams About Your Crush With Thoughts About Your Personal Life Goals
Focus on your own life goals. Concentrating on how you can enhance yourself or help other people positively is healthier than dwelling on something that will never happen. Ensure you have reasonable and achievable aims. Maybe you have a goal to ace a test in school, help people in need, get a promotion at work, etc.
- Do Other Things You Enjoy
If you have deep thoughts about the famous personality, an engaging but soothing activity may help to distract your mind. Complete that book or drawing you’ve been putting off, go for a walk at a scenic park, start to exercise regularly, and so on.
- Date Somebody You Know in Your Real Life
Sometimes, dating someone in your real life can help in getting over a celebrity crush. A relationship with a real person brings more fulfilment than an imaginary one. However, do not rush to form a new relationship in an attempt to forget your crush. You should take things slow, and know that real life relationships tend to be more complicated, but rewarding compared to imaginary ones.
As I conclude, please don’t let a celebrity crush turn into idolatry or ruin your real life relationships.
© 2020 Alice Njambi
OLUSEGUN from NIGERIA on February 24, 2020:
Celebrities have a way of entering humans heads, because they have received fame that others have not received mostly from the social media and since the world is a social place we look forward to some, want to be like some and sometimes becomes pissed off by them. Good one.
Alice Njambi (author) from Nairobi, Kenya on January 16, 2020:
Thanks for your comment dashingscorpio!
dashingscorpio from Chicago on January 13, 2020:
"I find it frustrating to have a crush on famous people. That’s because the individual you adore will never reciprocate the feelings you have for them. It is like a one-sided relationship." That's true but....
People do this even with those they know. The "friend zone" is about having a crush on someone who will never reciprocate love.
At least when one has a crush on a celebrity a part of them knows it's just a fantasy with no shot of ever manifesting into reality.
For some people it's seen as a "fun distraction" from their lives.
Being in the "friend zone" or having a crush on someone who is actually in your orbit can be self-torture as you watch them carry on with others.
I suspect there are those who will always want what doesn't come easy. The reason why "nice guys" finish last is because they usually refuse to pursue "nice girls". A lot of people love to aim out of their league.
Having a crush on someone who is "hot looking", rich, and famous plays into most people's fairytale of having the "ideal life".
In fact the word "fan" is short for "fanatic".
A "fanatic" is a person exhibiting excessive enthusiasm and intense uncritical devotion toward someone, something, or belief system.
The reason why we don't maintain a "crush" on those we're actually married to or in relationships with is because we see them as being flawed human beings just like ourselves.
A "crush" is based on how we (imagine) someone is and what our life would be like being with them.
Having crushes, fantasizing, and lusting is part of the human experience. As long as one doesn't get carried away it's okay.