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White men and black women dating is nothing new, but it isn't a topic that gets delved into often. In this hub we talk to two white men that love black women they are in committed relationships with.
They give us the reasons why they love their women so much and why they went black. We also talk to the ladies and find out why they chose their white men.
As if we really needed reasons -- but let's dive in!
Steve and Tasha
Steve is a 38-year-old account executive in Manhattan and Tasha is a 37-year-old social worker. They met at a party with mutual friends in SoHo. Steve said that he felt a spark with Tasha early on -- something that appealed to his manhood.
"There was something in Tasha that I really liked -- a gentleness, something that quietly said 'I've been through a lot and I need your help. I like the fact that she leans on me, that she needs me."
Steve wanted to make a special note of stating that black women are too often unfairly stereotyped about being aggressive or loud. "I don't think it is fair to them. Personally, I've never experienced it. Even when we argue, Tasha doesn't curse or get excited. She's about as soft as a woman can be made."
Tasha said that Steve had her figured out without her saying a word. "When I met him last year I had been through the wringer in many ways with men and I couldn't take it anymore. But, you know, you keep that stuff hidden."
"And as much as some women say that they are independent, I was like, no, I think I need a hero about now. And there he was. And at that point, at 36, with all the players around in New York, I had never thought it would happen for me, but it did. He was the good, solid man that I needed"
When asked about the racial factor, Steve says that he has dated black women before but only this relationship became long-term. Tasha said this was her first relationship with a white man.
They both said that seeing each other's opposite skin color in bed heightens their excitement. Tasha said, "Somehow, when I see him laying against my dark skin, it feels like we're doing something naughty or taboo, and we are definitely into it."
"And Steve is dominant (in a good way) and I'm submissive, so it just works."
Steve ended with, "Marriage is definitely in our future."
Steve and Tasha are headed in the right direction because marriages between black women and white men work.
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Peter and Belinda
Peter 31, and Belinda, 29 are both teachers and met at a teacher's conference. Peter says he was always attracted to black women. "I love everything about black women -- their dark skin, their full lips, and when they wear those little braids in their hair. "
"I have also always noticed that black women are friendlier to me than white women -- more open to conversation without writing me off." Belinda says she has always "been attracted to white guys. I like their features, especially if they have blue eyes, and the lightness of their skin."
Peter says that he and Belinda were assigned to a project at the teacher's conference and they slowly got to know each other. "We were a little flirtacious from the beginning but we gave it time, especially since we are professionals in the same field. We were playing it safe because we wanted to maintain that respect first and foremost.
"Then one day when she was handing me some papers, I put my hand over hers and then looked in her eyes. She was a bit shy but I got the go-ahead vibe and went in for a kiss. That was the beginning of the beginning."
Peter says, "When it came to hitting on a black woman, I had found I had to be especially careful. You really don't know how seriously she will take you, whether she will accept you in that way. "
"But as a man, you know, you always have to play it safe in general and not assume anything. All you can do is wait for the right moment and see how the woman feels about it. In my case, it worked out well." Peter noted, "I found the right woman, and she's it for me. She's become the light of my life. I just really love her."
Peter said that he was attracted to Belinda because she was "black, sweet, shapely, and had a cute laugh." It was cute -- her whole body wiggled when she giggled. Funny how small things lead to big things."
Belinda said she liked Peter because he was "professional, gentlemanly, looked good in a shirt and tie, and had nice light brown hair and blue eyes. He was kind and he was cute!"
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Other White Men Speak
What do you love about black women?
- "They return my friendliness."
- "To be honest, their lips are to die for."
- "I see more unspoken vulnerability in black women, and as a guy it appeals to my manhood."
- "I think they're beautiful."
- "I don't know. I've just always had a chocolate tooth."
- "I love one black woman -- my wife. A kind and sweet lady who is easy to love."
Pop Culture World (author) from United States on October 31, 2019:
Thanks for sharing your insights and experiences, Pakratk.
Pakratk on October 29, 2019:
Very good commits here..add im am a white man and i have dated women that were other races.best is to be your self ive felt unconfortable at times with all women race has nothing to do with it.its just getting to know each other.the black women ive dated and how they acted didnt mean other or all black women act that way as i have no idea.the women ive dated who were black made me feel more like a man and treated me better,theyd say i was their man. Made me feel specual.i appreciate that experience.job dictates moving out of city on several occasions and life changes loose in touch.race had nothing yo do with it for me..i do agree with that black women for me are easier to talk to and easier to relate to.they seem to be more understanding on a persons hardship than a white women who thinks everything is about her.blavk wonen are more giving.again thats the women i encountered diesnt mean all all likethat as alot of women no mater what race they are are uninterested to talk to me.all different people are all different and situations are all different..general things that happen.women are so affraid and so protectived to notengage in anything different.their always thinking. And as men we dont. We dont think about all that stuff.definately certain races to me rarely talk outside of their race. What i notice. Asians. Most stay in their race. And mexican americans as well...i belive people are people. As im white. I run accross more white people. Im a landlord white people are most trouble to deal with.their expectations are too high. White women are the worst to deal with it seems to me. And my age are the worst of that bunch. Makes it clear why me and so many of my friends are still single..i had no idea people are so bad til i became a landlord.other races are more respectful of other people than the white people i deal with today..sorryfor getting to racy.been my experiences last 10 years.i think its cause white people expect everything to go their way. Especually white women.i admit so do i.but it never has...i walk the beach now to get a different perspective on people as people are alot nicer there and have less barriers. There.younger people dont seem as hung up on these things as my generation glad were improving.
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