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What Makes a Girl Sexy?

So what makes a girl sexy? Well this depends very much on the other person's preferences of course, but there are a number of basic things that I believe make a girl more attractive and improve her appeal to potential boyfriends or Husbands. I can also see what girls do wrong that act as passion killers to most men, (as those of you who read my hub on the Top 10 Passion Killers for Men will testify), and now with this hub I hope to tell girls what to do right if they want to attract a man.

I was very fortunate growing up because I had a Mother who was considered an extremely attractive and desirable lady. She was beautiful, elegant, talented and very much in the public eye due to her extraordinary singing abilities (resulting in her recording with Columbia Records.) I actually published a hub about her called 'A Biography of the Exceptional Singer Mary Marshall' and this included many professional photos of her that show why she was considered such a sexy woman. Most of us learn many of our life skills from our parents, and I believe this is why both my sister and myself became very capable of dressing well, applying make up correctly and generally making ourselves look as good as we could with what we had to work with. Before I start to make us sound too much like a pair of bimbos though, I should add we both had excellent educational qualifications and could hold intelligent conversations in all kinds of social gatherings. The point I am trying to make is that being sexy is not all about looks or having the perfect body, but it is about working with what nature gave to you and making the best of it.

sexy legs in high heels

sexy legs in high heels

To keep this easy I have compiled the following list of things that I believe make a girl sexy. This can be used as a guideline for any girls reading this who feel they are not sexy or who want to be more sexy. I was the ultimate tomboy growing up, spending many hours playing with train sets and building dens in the garden. This didn't mean as I grew older I was incapable of doing things that would improve my sex appeal though, and I believe most girls can do the same if they follow the tips below.

sit with your legs together

sit with your legs together

How to be Sexy

  • Take a pride in your appearance even if you are only going to the shop.
  • Dress in clothing suitable for your figure and your age.
  • Keep your hair cut tidily so that it does not resemble an out of control, overgrown bush. This doesn't mean having short hair, just making sure it is looks polished and smart.
  • Walk tall with confidence and keep your shoulders back, tummy held in and bottom held in, (the expression used to be 'shoulders back, tummy in, tail in'.)
  • Wear high heels, even if you are tall. Heels make your legs look a far nicer shape, and even if you struggle to walk in really high stilettos it is still a good idea to wear a smaller heel as opposed to flat shoes.
  • Wear cosmetics even if only a small amount. I am not suggesting you have to put on foundation, powder and eyeshadow every time you set foot outside the door, but at the very least put on a little eyeliner, some mascara, blusher and either lipstick or lip gloss. You can spend more time on putting on make-up if you are going for a night out, in which case you might want to use foundation and eyeshadow too.
  • Make good eye contact when you are having conversations with people. If you are really attracted to the person you are talking to looking up at them from under your eyelashes is considered very sexy. Looking at the man from a slightly 'coy' sideways angle is also sexy.
  • When you enter a room full of strangers (such as a bar or a restaurant) and you know you are looking good, avoid looking around the room, hold your head high and look towards where you are going. It is far more sexy to seem unaware of any attention you are attracting.
  • Sit with your legs together or crossed. It looks ever so unsexy to sit with your legs apart. Crossing and uncrossing your legs when facing the man is also seen as being very sexy.
sexy lips

sexy lips

  • Show an interest in the person you are talking to and avoid only talking about yourself. Ask them about their lives, likes and dislikes etc. Make sure you listen to their answers and comment back appropriately to show you are paying attention.
  • Even if you would normally drink out of a pint glass, change your habits and drink out of a half pint glass. Women drinking out of pint glasses is not attractive.
  • Don't swear and curse as this is definitely not sexy. Try to speak articulately instead i.e. avoid dropping letters from words e.g. pronouncing 'butter' as 'bu'er' or using excessive slang, (you don't want to come across as uneducated.)
  • If the man you are attracted to is interested in a hobby that involves getting dirty, e.g. gardening or hiking, then he will probably find it sexy that you are willing to join in and get dirty too. Surprising I know, but being sexy isn't always about looking as perfect as you can.
  • Laugh, men find a woman with a sense of humour very appealing, just don't overdo it and laugh at anything, especially if you know you have an annoying laugh.
  • Be funny, and this doesn't necessarily mean telling a string of jokes. Just being witty and seizing the opportunity to crack a one liner that will double everyone up laughing is just as good.
  • Be strong and independent, needy women are not considered sexy.
  • Don't smoke. Apart from it looking awful it also makes you smell awful.
  • Wear sexy lingerie because big granny knickers are definitely not sexy.

Ladies only.

© 2012 Cindy Lawson


Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on October 06, 2018:

Thanks Sophie

Sophie Sharpe from London on October 06, 2018:

Some great tips, especially if your in an alternative arrangement or a mutually beneficial relationship!

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on January 05, 2014:

I still check in here daily diogenes, but mainly I make my money on Bubblews now :)

diogenes from UK and Mexico on January 05, 2014:

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Did you stop on HP? I only write very occasionally now.

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aarcha.m on January 05, 2014:

thanks.a lot

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on September 11, 2013:

Thanks LisaMarie724, I agree that all women should feel sexy, not least because it improves their self confidence so much.

Lisa Stover from Pittsburgh PA on September 10, 2013:

Interesting hub, I think all women should feel sexy. Great advice!

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on June 17, 2013:

Definitely agree that eyes are the key Hailey, that and the personal 'presence' you exude.

Hailey on June 17, 2013:

Awesome hub! excellent points, very interesting and useful. I think that eyes make a person sexy, not taking into account outfit and everything else, but sex is in the eyes, if you are not feeling confident and sexy then nothing will change it, it's your state of mind and body.

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on February 19, 2013:

Thanks idigwebsites, glad you agree and also thanks for the votes :)

idigwebsites from United States on February 19, 2013:

Yeah, I agree with the smoking part. Women who smoke may be a turn on for some, but in the end -- bad breath and respiratory problems aren't definitely a sexy thing. Voted up and useful/interesting.

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on February 13, 2013:

Hi LG, this probably isn't a notification issue as I published this nearly a year ago now (although of course you did comment on it 5 days ago). Glad you are making the effort to wear a little makeup. Very strange re-your missing stuff, sounds like you either have a ghost or a magpie, either one might move or take your shiny items.

Debra Allen from West Virginia on February 13, 2013:

I have ot been getting my notices and missed this one. You inspired me and I am wearing a bit of makeup, not a lot mind you with my Rosacea going on really bad.

I think that I have a girl ghost in my house because most of my jewelry is missing and they are new. I have a set , a necklace and earring set and they are so new that I only wore them once. Funny how the necklace and only one earring is in the same place and nowhere is the other earring to be found. I have looked even in our suitcases. Same things with only some of my makeup. It's too weird.

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on February 08, 2013:

Hi LG, great to hear from you. Sounds like you actually are already doing some of the things on the list e.g. walking into a room with confidence, keeping your hair cut nicely (tidy). Taking a pride in your appearance in other words. I would lay odds that if your voice is considered sexy you are also talking articulately as well, and no doubt you show an interest in other people in conversations. Actually I bet you do already do plenty of the things on the list, albeit unconsciously.

Would love to hear from you if you want to PM me. Not very well at the moment (got a nasty cold) but would love to hear your news and have a catch up.

Debra Allen from West Virginia on February 08, 2013:

LOL Misty. I loved this article. I don't do the things on your list and I don't consider my looks sexy, but men do. I don't know what charm I hold but there is one there. I am told that my voice is sexy on the phone (???) and that I am sexy. I do, however, have self confidence when I walk into a room and when I talk on the phone and maybe that is it. I just went through a program that boosted my self confidence even more. I can send you a PM if you would like--I would like cuz we haven't written in sooooo long. I just changed my hair color and I cut my own hair in a new style. Well the style is when I was much younger. People love it. More importantly I love it. Thanks for the hub.

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on February 08, 2013:

I think the girls who don't 'need tips' on being sexy, are often already doing these things anyway. The idea of offering tips is for those who really don't know how to be sexy and may not already be doing these things.

Sana R from Reading, England on February 06, 2013:

I think girls attitude shows whether they are sexy are not. Its easy to become sexy if you follow above mentioned tips and tricks but it won't works with all girls. To me some girls sexy by nature and they aren't required any tip to become sexy. :)

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on February 06, 2013:

Thanks savvydating. I never realised the 'not looking around the room' thing was so important either until a few boyfriends in my late teens/early twenties actually commented on how sexy it was that I appeared oblivious to the looks I was getting upon entering a room, bar, restaurant etc (the fact was that I actually WAS oblivious to it and didn't even realise I was being looked at). I like your suggestion too, makes perfect sense that it would work well.

savvydating on February 06, 2013:

I liked what you said about how to enter a room. I hadn't given that as much thought...the thing about not looking around. Good to know. Also, what I enjoy doing when first entering a room is to pause momentarily before going to my table or wherever I'm going. I call it "making an entrance." It gives a would be suitor or anyone, for that matter, a chance to check out your poise and sex appeal. It's a fun body language way to say, "I feel good about myself and I'm happy to be here."

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on February 03, 2013:

Thank you torrilynn, I hope it helps many women feel more sexy and confident about themselves.

torrilynn on February 02, 2013:

Nice hub. The techniques and positive statements that you showcase can really help women to love themselves for whom they are and when others see them walking tall and being confident, they will notice it too. I really enjoyed reading this.

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on February 02, 2013:

Go for it Simplytrish, writing is a great pastime and very satisfying (as is finding the right man and feeling sexy and attractive, which in itself gives you confidence).

Patricia on February 02, 2013:

Girl yes, lol. Im down for change. Whatever a woman should do to boost herself up is what im for. For too long we were taught it's a mans world, but hey, what about us. We bring life into this world. I want to encourage you and your readers to follow my hubs. I am just getting started but I enjoy this so much and have so many things I want to share

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on February 02, 2013:

Thanks for commenting Simplytrish, trust me, wearing high heels (even if only 3 inches) makes a huge difference to your sexiness and definitely to the shape of your legs (no matter how tall you are). Flat shoes just aren't sexy and can actually make you look fatter than you are, as well as making your calves look short and squat. Most men love heels on a lady and it gives her a definite 'classy' look. I am sure you will notice the difference in the attention you attract from the opposite sex once you begin wearing them. I hope your daughter enjoys the same benefits from the tips here.

Good luck to both of you, and hope each of you find a man you can be very happy with :)

Patricia on February 02, 2013:

I love this post. It is great advice to give to my teenage daughter as well as myself. I am currently and recently separated from a 17 year marriage where he thought my beauty was a curse and not an attribute. I am just beginning to date again and the part about wearing heels is new to me, but I am going to try it. Thanks for this post

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on January 12, 2013:

Hi Alan,

It sounds like you and your wife were a real love match and I am sure she was very sexy if she 'ticked' most of the boxes referred to in this hub.

Thank you for the congratulations on my reader numbers. Actually they are now over 3.600.000 but Hubpages only show the accolades at certain points, so my next accolade will be when my views reach 10.000.000 which could be some time away lol.

AlMorr on January 11, 2013:

Hello Cindy, Just read your hub about "What makes a girl sexy" O this takes me back to the days that I was a teenager and in my early 20's, long time ago now, but although I am now widowed I still 'fancy girls' in their teens and 20's, nothing more, just like them. When I met my wife to be at a dance in Glasgow in 1967, she was everything I loved about girls, the list you made up on this hub applied to her except that she did not wear high heels, just medium ones and eventually I found out that she did not shave her armpit hair or 'down there', however I just thought that was a little sexy, her mother did not approve of her not doing that as well, but I said to her "be the way you are, if you wish to be like that, its OK with me" She always had a good posture, good eye contact, only put on a little make up, did NOT smoke, only drank a little wine and most of all was admired by other men as well, but I was the only one she loved. When I look at other women now a days, some have far too much make up on, I like a lady who is not too heavily 'over dressed' shows her figure nicely but not too much. Enjoyed reading this hub, I noticed that your hub pages have been read by 1.000.000 readers, that's great a million and one now


Alan in Scotland.

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on October 26, 2012:

Absolutely agree, this is what I was trying to convey in this hub, (although there are also some basics that appear to apply in most cases such as good eye contact, showing an interest in the other person, good posture etc).

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on May 23, 2012:

But remember this hub is not about 'Beauty' this is about being 'Sexy'. Now being 'sexy' is pointless unless it is to attract a mate, and this applies to any creature. A graceful look on the face can be sexy too, but this may not be enough on its own if the person with the graceful look is amongst many other women at the time she wants to be noticed.

yssubramanyam from india, nellore. andhrapradesh on May 23, 2012:

it is very interesting. the beauty of the women is judged according to mens response. it is a global truth. the beauty of the women is based on the age of man, sexual urge. real beauty is graceful look on the face.

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on May 22, 2012:

Thanks carolinemd21, I am pleased you enjoyed this :)

Caroline Marie on May 22, 2012:

Great hub Misty. I learned a lot. :)

Escobana from Valencia on May 22, 2012:

Thanks so much! That would be a great extra benefit of the whole linking part.

Let's see if it works:-)

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on May 22, 2012:

Thanks for the comment Escobana, I have added your link to the links section at the end of this hub. Hope we both get some extra traffic from the link exchange :)

Escobana from Valencia on May 22, 2012:

I really really really liked this Hub! I came across it while looking for other Hubs to link to mine.

Your Hub absolutely brings wonderful tips on sexiness and female beauty. Confidence is so sexy, no matter what the size is.

I'm a little lazy with make-up. From now on I will wear lipgloss every day:-) I did go for the whole package when I go out but you made a good point to use at least a little bit.

Excellent Hub! Voted up, shared and linked to mine. Hope you'll do the same for me:-)

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on March 26, 2012:

Thanks one2get2know, I am really glad you liked this hub, and fair enough on the 'hair' point, each person has specifics they prefer that are unique and may not conform to the basic guidelines :)

Philip Cooper from Olney on March 26, 2012:

I argue constantly with my wife over which public figure is sexy and who isn't. We never agree as she thinks the women I think are sex are not and the ones she thinks are I don't agree with. So as you say it's all in the eye of the beholder. However, your pointers to be sexier are excellent and I agree with all except the hair. I like hair that a girl has to look out under, a little tossled as if she has just had a great lay. Otherwise super hub and I voted it way up.

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on March 22, 2012:

A very good comment Alastar, and I certainly believe that the personality and confidence can be incredibly sexy even if the woman isn't all that beautiful. Sexy is not just looks, it is a package, and what it contains is just as important as the wrapping.

Alastar Packer from North Carolina on March 22, 2012:

Her mind and personality. I've known females who were beautiful physically but any thoughts of sexy went out the window with their selfishness and caustic remarks. On the other hand there have been girls who maybe weren't all that physically beautiful but were sexy as all get out 'cause they were confident in their sexuality and had personalities that drove men mad with desire for them.

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on March 22, 2012:

Thanks Cardisa, a great comment, and you are so right about 'how you walk' making a difference too. Even a little swing of the hips can be very sexy as the girl walks. I also agree that a woman will be more sexy if she feels sexy, which is why even wearing sexy underwear when no-one but you is going to see it can make you feel sexier, and therefore you come across as sexier to others. An ice princess is unlikely to be seen as sexy unless it is because she seems unattainable to the males, so therefore more desirable.

Carolee Samuda from Jamaica on March 22, 2012:

I never go anywhere without at least some lipgloss. I don't wear a lot of make-up but I do think I am sexy even when not sexily dressed. I've been told it's how I walk that makes me sexy or there is just something about me. Not only do women need to look sexy, if they don't feel sexy they wont attract some males. Men can sense a woman's sensuality and sexiness. SO no matter how you look on the outside, if you are an ice princess you certainly wont attract the men.

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on March 22, 2012:

That is very true Kelly, skin tight hot pants on someone with major weight problems looks terrible, as do micro short skirts. Sometimes 'less is more', and covering up the less appealing parts of your body will result in you appearing far for sexy and attractive as a result. In fact this can apply whether you are very overweight or very underweight.

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on March 22, 2012:

LOL Bob, I hope you wouldn't 'stop analyzing and jump on!' during a date ;)

Kelly Umphenour from St. Louis, MO on March 22, 2012:

Yup - that's what I fell my girls ... And it seems like all the ladies that wear the skimpiest clothes - are the very ones who should NOT! I think that there should be a rule - just because you can squeeze into hot pants doesn't mean you should! Lol lol

diogenes from UK and Mexico on March 22, 2012:

Good old Misty! Libido based and glad of it.

They say its all hormones?? I dunno, I'm a bit like Clark Gable, stop analysing and jump on!


Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on March 21, 2012:

Thanks Kelly, glad you enjoyed this, and I loved your point about the perfume too, so true ;) Skimpy clothing can be sexy, but only to a point, as like you said, guys like to use their imaginations, (and why reveal all you have to offer before they are chosen as the lucky recipient lol?)

Right now I am afraid my own hair is heading towards the 'big bush' category, so before it gets any worse I seriously need to book a hairdressing appointment :)

Kelly Umphenour from St. Louis, MO on March 21, 2012:

I agree with all your points! Some make up - but not too much. Same with perfume...soft scents but nothing too harsh or strong. I tell my girls that where clothing comes in - nothing too skimpy either. I think guys - would really like to use their imaginations a little and to leave something to be desired! Lol.

I almost fell on the floor when you said your hair shouldn't look like a big bush! Hahahahahahaha oh yes! So true! Great hub - very fun and I loved it!

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on March 21, 2012:

Hi QualityContent, thanks for commenting. I have to say I disagree that women don't need any makeup of any kind. I see it more like putting a great picture in a nice frame instead of a tatty one, set the picture (which is you the woman) off to its best advantage.

Women have been wearing make up for many centuries (look at Ancient Egypt), so I don't think it is down to society being warped. I also find it quite ironic that so many men who told their wives they 'didn't need makeup', ended up running off with other women who did wear makeup. I do agree that too much looks awful though, but a little applied correctly and tastefully only serves to enhance your best features.

Glad you enjoyed the hub and thanks for your thoughts :)

QualityContent on March 21, 2012:

A woman doesn't need makeup of any kind the more there is the worse it looks! Beauty and sexiness are found in the heart, everything else is artificial nonsense created by our warped society.

Great hub. I wish women would just be themselves, you don't have to prove anything to men. It's our society that has done this. For me attraction comes from what a woman speaks, how she looks is pointless to me.

The attraction is in the brain only we have replaced with the outside shell which is meaningless.

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on March 21, 2012:

Hi onegreenparachute, thanks very much for the feedback. Hope you enjoyed Mum's singing too :)

Carol from Greenwood, B.C., Canada on March 21, 2012:

Great advice Misty! Well written and researched. I listend to your mom sing too!

Voted up and interesting.


Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on March 21, 2012:

Hi JKenny, I have to say the 'bronze clown' description is very true. I do feel that most men won't find this attractive either, and overdone makeup looks totally awful. Thanks very much for commenting :)

James Kenny from Birmingham, England on March 21, 2012:

Really good advice misty, very useful for any lady. One of the things I've noticed when I've been out clubbing, is the amount of girls that overdo it with makeup and fake tan. It looks absolutely awful, sometimes I feel like I'm at a fancy dress party and everyone has come as some sort of bronze clown. Anyway, great work. Voted up etc.

Keith Schroeder from Wisconsin on March 21, 2012:

I agree 100%. Beauty and sexiness are not the same. What you call "ordinary" I call "natural." I prefer a natural girl any day of the week. Attitude also plays a large role in sexiness. Beauty, too, now that I think of it.

Cindy Lawson (author) from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on March 21, 2012:

Thanks Keith, I am sure you are right, and this will open up the flood gates for opinions from men as to what they think constitutes sexiness. I actually think it is more obvious what doesn't count as being sexy as opposed to what does. I definitely think there is more to sexiness than beauty though, and even a very ordinary looking girl can act and behave in a manner which makes her seem more sexy.

Keith Schroeder from Wisconsin on March 21, 2012:

Beauty, hence sexiness, is in the eye of the beholder. No two men think the same about a woman's attractiveness. But most agree in large part on which women are more or less sexy than another. To each their own, I say. This hub is a great discussion starter.

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