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What Does a Woman Really Wants in a Man?


Having a happy and significant relationship with someone is like a dream come true for every woman. In general, women really want that special someone who can make them feel loved and cared for in the relationship. I think women aren't that hard to understand at all. Other women are probably misunderstood, but I think it's just a matter of understanding and patience to get to know them better of who really they are to their core.

If only men could invest more time to get to know a woman better, probably they will realize a lot. All they ever want is someone with whom they feel safe and protected in the relationship and can rest reassure them that you are indeed the right person and suitable partner for them. So they only want to make sure that you are trustworthy of their love.

So below are the following things that usually most woman really wants in a man. But in general, this topic could both apply to men and women or vice versa. But since I am a woman, so I'm writing this article on behalf of all women.

The Seven Things that Women Want Most in a Man

1.Communicate with her

2. Make time for her

3.Be honest and open up

4. Be emotionally available

5. Make an extra effort

6. Be consistent and reliable

7. Make her smile

1. Communicate With Her


Communication is one of the essential aspects of every relationship, and without it, the relationship will not likely last. Undeniably, this could create a void and gap between you and your partner, and it might result in the detachment and separation of each other. There is a strong possibility that your relationship will get even worst and suffer in the long run, and it might lead to a break-up, thus, ending your relationship in no time.

So no matter how busy you are, never let your communication go in vain. Always communicate with your partner and let her feel that she is also on top of your priority. A simple text asking about her day or a random call telling her that you miss her will always make her day. Let her know that you are thinking about her and you really never forget her no matter how busy you are.

You don’t have to constantly text and calls her every minute of the day. Just make sure that you often communicate with her regularly, such as making a call at the end of the day or having a face-to-face moment conversation with her in the evening. She will always appreciate it, and probably she will do the same thing to you.

2. Make time for her


No matter how busy and hectic your schedule is at work, always make time for her. As I have said earlier, always make your relationship a top priority before anything else, set your calendar, and never forget those special occasions that you usually both celebrate. Never make a promise if you are not going to do it because we, women, are most likely to remember those times when a man breaks his promises.

Generally speaking, women love surprises such as surprising her with an unexpected getaway together or taking her to one of her favorite places. Surprise her, and surely you'll see a joyous smile all over her face. Always initiate your first move because most women like a guy who could initiate those actions. If you are planning to surprise her, make sure that you remember those details.

For example, if she mentioned a place that she likes to visit, get those details, such as the place and the best time to surprise her. So if everything is ready, then that's the time for that surprise. So, tell her that you are going together on a short getaway or short vacation to that place. She might have tears of joy, and she will be touch by those actions and dedication that you did for her in making those plans happen. She is likely to recall those times and will always treasure those moments with you.

3. Be honest and Open up

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Most men may be thinking that being vulnerable to women is not necessarily important to them, but it's wrong. In fact, for her, it's probably the most beautiful thing about you. So, don't be afraid to show your vulnerable side to your partner, be honest with who really you are. Open up to her, and probably she will do the same thing to you. She is likely to appreciate you for doing that to her.

Do you know why? It's because showing that vulnerable side of you is what makes her feel safe in a relationship. By doing that, you are giving her an impression of who you are and whether if she can trust you or not. If you are so reluctant in showing your vulnerability, she most likely feels the same too.

4. Be Emotionally Available


As I have said earlier, don't be afraid to open up and be vulnerable to your partner. In general, a woman wants someone who is an emotionally available person. Be there for her, not only physically but emotionally as well. What I mean is, let her know that you are there, and she does not feel alone in a relationship.

If you are spending time with each other, make it intimate. It's not about having sexual intimacy. What I mean is having an emotional intimacy, which involves sharing your thoughts and feelings genuinely. It's like allowing yourself to connect deeply with your partner and being able to tell each other about your deepest fears.

So, make her feel that you are both on the same level when expressing and sharing those thoughts and feelings. Make an intimate moment to have a heart-to-heart talk or having a deep conversation about each other. For example, there might be a time when she wants to share a story. It could be about her life or whatever intimate things she wants to share with you. Make sure that you'll also do the same thing because she also wants to hear and know your story.

5. Make an Extra Effort


An effort is truly a beautiful thing about a person. Every woman wants a man who can make an extra effort for her. Whether you are putting an effort in showing how much she means to you or making an effort to make her smile is such an admirable trait of a person. Show her that you are really serious and sincere about her and that you will do everything to make the relationship work.

Make an extra effort to know her more because she would love it. Be attentive and pay attention to small things when you are with her. She might be talking about her favorite song playing on the radio, or maybe about her favorite stuff when she was a kid, and whatever it is, always make an effort to remember those little things she said. You might never know that those little things are really means a lot to her, and might you never know that those little things you do and those simple moments like cooking and laughing together are somehow special to her and really worth remembering.

6. Be Consistent and Reliable


Even if you are already in a relationship, never stop showing how consistent and reliable person you are to your partner. Many relationships failed because of such mistakes. So always show how consistent and reliable person you are, because in that way, she would always appreciate the character and the integrity of your actions no matter how small or big it is.

Never stop being caring and affectionate to your partner. Prove to her that you are always worthy of her love, even in those passing years, and no matter what it takes. Never stop doing those little things that could put a smile on her face.

Be sure to check on her and ask her if she is alright. In general, when a woman is quiet and not responding to your texts and calls, maybe there is something wrong. She might be dealing with a problem, so be sure to check on her. Be reliable and consistent with your actions and presence in your relationship. Make her feel that she can always rely on you, especially in those difficult times.

7. Make Her Smile


The most beautiful thing that you can see in your partner is her smile, and what is more interesting to know is when you find out that she is smiling because of you. So never underestimate the power of a smile because it usually means that your partner is perhaps happy in a relationship. Women are sensitive and emotional in general, and may even have a mood swing at times, so you must know how to make her smile even on those little things in life. She really likes it, when a person can make her smile.

So once in a while, surprise your partner even on those ordinary days. For example, you are bringing her favorite flower or favorite food unexpectedly. Also, never forget those important and special occasions such as birthdays and anniversaries and Christmas and so on. Those special occasions could really mean a lot to her, so don’t forget to mark those important dates on your calendar and always make plans ahead of time.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2021 Juliet Acedera


Juliet Acedera (author) from Valenzuela City on October 09, 2021:

Hi dashingscorpio thank you for writing a comment on my hub. I really understand your point, I know in reality that there are also women who are like that, and there's no doubt it. It just in general, we, women, are most likely to focus on those things first before jumping to any factors, as to my experience. Thank you for dropping by. Take care.

dashingscorpio from Chicago on October 04, 2021:

Logically this all makes sense!

However in reality many women choose to date and emotionally invest in men who are the complete opposite of what they (say) they want!

Everyone has heard "nice guys finish last" but no one has ever heard of the LONELY "bad boy", "player", "narcissist", "Alpha male", or "gangster". Is that a coincidence? No!

Some women actually go through a "bad boy" phase.

They ignore or place so called "nice guys' in their "friendzone".

"Isn't it ironic . . . we ignore those who adore us, adore those who ignore us, hurt those who love us, and love those who hurt us."

- Ellen Hopkins

In addition romance novels and Hollywood movies sometimes cause many women to expect their relationships to be similar to a roller coaster ride filled with drama, thrills, uncertainty, passionate fights, breakups and make ups. If that's missing they are bored!

I once heard a young lady say:

"I want a partner who CHALLENGES me and makes me GROW"

Compatibility was not near the top of (her) list of requirements.

Most of us dread fighting, arguing, and disagreeing all the time.

Thankfully most people mature and evolve over time. They learn to "date smarter" and seek out more healthy relationships.

Each of us gets to choose our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

If your relationship isn't meeting your needs you have to figure out why you chose this person to invest your time and emotion in.

Some people will tell you: "You can't help who you fall in love with.".

However you do get to choose who you spend time with, which means indirectly you are determining who you're likely to love.

Having a mate selection screening process and "must haves list" is very important. Sticking to it is even more important!

Unfortunately a lot of folks really don't want to use their mind or they find it {unromantic} to be analytical about mate selection.

They subscribe to the "follow your heart" philosophy which is essentially saying: "Ignore any (red flags)" you see early on.

Generally speaking people don't change unless (they) are unhappy.

Life is too short to be trying to change water into wine.

The goal is to find someone (who already is) what you want.

As with most things in life there is no "one size fits all" for women or men. What turns one woman on may turn off another woman.

Age, timing, life experience, and other factors are also a factor.

Ultimately if someone is "into you" they'll break their own rules!

I was one of those guys who swore he'd never get married.

This past August I celebrated my 13th wedding anniversary.

"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

- Oscar Wilde

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