Human beings consist of male and female entity. There are different opinions about what constitute a man and a woman. Some say man and woman are two distinct individuals, whereas others say they are same. From spiritualists to psychologists, everyone emphasize that there is the presence of male entity in every female and female entity in every male. Psychologist Carl Jung called this Anima-Animus, Taoist in China called Yin-Yang and the Hindus called Prakriti-Purusha.
The human brain has two parts.
Left brain thinks, there is mathematics, logic, rules.
In the Right brain there is feeling, it understands art. Logic does not affect the right part.
Women are governed from the right brain. Men are governed by the left brain.
The process of thinking is different in men and women because they are governed by different brains. Men and women feel differently, think differently, understand differently, handle problems differently, prioritize things differently, and experience differently because they are ruled by different parts of the brain.
Is the difference between men and women just biological?
It is true that men and women are attracted to each other because of the biological and psychological differences. (Remember the nature law: unlike poles attracts, like poles repels.) However, it is also true that the differences usually lead to a bitter relationship. Relationship between a man and woman often fails because women expect men to think and act as women, and men expect women to think and act as men. If men and women understand the differences, they will not only learn to tolerate the opposite sex, but also build a cordial relationship.
Even though people understand the biological differences between a man and a woman, most of them are not familiar with the psychological differences. Man and a woman’s body function in a different way, so does the mind. Men and women use different parts of the brain to understand and process information. It is often said that female brain multi-tasks where are men think about one thing at a time.
Behavioural and psychological studies on men and women suggest that women want men who are strong and assertive, and can provide emotional and financial security; and men want young and healthy women who are able to reproduce. Men seek good health and youth in women, whereas women look for men with high social status, men having sociable and approachable characters.
Studies on human brain suggest that male and female brain have different capacity to handle communication. Men underperform in conversation skills, women listen and talk better. Compared to men, women have better memories and they can understand facial expressions and body language more skilfully than men can.
The differences between men and women are social constructions, which are natural and cannot be escaped.
Difference between a Man and a Woman According to the Jungian Analytic Psychology
According to Carl Jung, every male has female element inside him and every female has male element inside her. The male element of a person’s character is called Animus and the female element of a person’s character is Anima. The Anima is the archetypal feminine symbolism within a man's unconscious and the Animus is the archetypal masculine symbolism within a woman's unconscious.
Anima and Animus are not sex-linked characteristics but more of symbolic masculine and feminine expressions. Masculine qualities in an individual are related to assertiveness; whereas the feminine attributes are related to emotions.
In Jungian psychology, Anima and Animus are two archetypes that help a person to balance the character. The Anima personifies feminine psychological tendencies within a man, and the Animus personifies masculine psychological tendencies within a woman. The Anima and Animus are powered by the collective unconscious and conditioned by the individual’s experiences.
Difference between a Man and a Woman According to the Hindu Overview
According to the Hindu worldview, there are two basic elements in the world: Prakriti and Purusha. Prakriti is the feminine entity and Purusha is masculine entity. Prakriti and Purusha both are present in man and woman but in different proportion. The one who is dominated by Purusha element is man and the one who is dominated by Prakriti is woman. Not only the mortals, but immortals also consist of Prakriti and Purusha. Goddesses are the supreme embodiment of Prakriti and Gods are absolute symbol of Purusha. The basic difference between a man and woman, according to the Hindu Worldview, is the proportion of Prakriti and Purusha. Man is distant representative of Prakriti and close representative of Purusha, whereas woman is close representative of Prakriti and distant representative of Purusha. Interaction between Prakriti and Purusha keeps the world in equilibrium.
Difference between a Man and a Woman According to the Chinese Cosmology
Yin and Yang
Yin is female and Yang is male principle in Taoist (Daoist) worldview. Yin and Yang represents dualities of the nature and are two parts of the whole. According to Yin and Yang theory, male and female, light and dark, hot and cold, life and death etc. are not opposing forces but complementary entities. Male does not exist without female, light cannot exist without darkness, that’s why Yin and Yang maintains the harmony of the universe. In the Chinese dualistic cosmology, Yin is the dark negative feminine principle and Yang is the bright positive masculine principle.
The Taijitu represents the principle of Yin and Yang, which is one of the oldest and best-known life symbols in the world. The Taijitu is usually interpreted in gender perspective. They are two opposite but complementary poles of existence. The male principle or Yang embodies the qualities of the sun (active, bright, and shining), whereas Yin, the female principle, symbolizes the moon (passive, shaded and reflective). Yin and Yang are depicted as black half and white half in a circle. The white Yang moves and blends into the black Yin. The light in Yang merges with darkness in Yin. Yin and Yang contain the seed of another principle, that’s why there is a white spot in Yin and black spot in Yang. The flow of Yin and Yang represents phenomena of life and the process of the universe.
In Taoism, dual distinctions such as good-bad, love-hate are not real but just the by-product of moral judgments.
Books by Alan Pease and Barbara Pease
Books on Difference between a Man and a Woman
Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps by Alan Pease and Barbara Pease
Allan Pease and Barbara Pease are internationally renowned relationship experts. They give personal relationship advice through books, TV programs and seminars. Why Men Don't Listen And Women Can't Read Maps by Alan Pease and Barbara Pease has been translated in 31 languages and over three million copies sold worldwide. In this highly successful book, the authors share their observations about men and women and their thoughts on relationship. The authors also give advice on how to manage conflict and build healthy relationship. According to the authors, men and women are same species, but live in the different world.
Why Men Lie and Women Cry by Alan Pease and Barbara Pease
Why Men Lie and Women Cry by Alan Pease and Barbara Pease is a follow up to the bestseller Why Men Don't Listen And Women Can't Read Maps by the same authors. In this book, Alan and Barbara Pease share their observations on human behavior. They evaluate men and women in psychological and behavioural point of view, and give advice on how to understand men and women better and build healthy relationship. The authors also give reference on scientific theories behind their observations. There are many punch lines in the book such as “Both the genders lie. Women lie to make others feel good. Men to make himself feel good."
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is a guide to maintain a healthy relationship. If you are going through a tension period in your life, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is a must read book because John Gray gives time tested tips on how to reduce relationship tension and develop love. The main thesis of the book is how to understand the differences between men and women in order to solve frustration and disappointment, and create happiness and intimacy.
According to the author, men and women differ in many aspects. Men and women communicate, think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love and appreciate differently. There are so many differences between men and women that it almost “seems like they are from different planets, speaking different languages and needing different nourishment,” remarks the author.
Why Men Never Remember and Women Never Forget by Dr. Marianne J. Legato
Marianne J. Legato is a professor of clinical medicine at Columbia University. Her expertise includes the '”study of gender medicine,” based on the research conducted by scholars and scientists. Why Men Never Remember and Women Never Forget provides in-depth analysis of differences between a man and woman, and gives tips to on how to make most of the differences to build a cordial relationship.
Dr. Legato is a woman, so it is natural that she writes from feminine perspective, however, her analysis of male mind is also very appropriate. Without generalizing the entire human race, she presents her perspective in physician's point of view. She shows how the brain and the body affect the behavior, thinking process and interpersonal communications. She explains “what” the differences between a man and woman are, “why” these differences exist, and “how” these differences can be sorted out.
FactsOfLife on January 24, 2015:
angelme 566 on October 02, 2013:
thetroubleshooter on October 01, 2013:
not only '+ and -' attracts each other, but also '- and -', and + and +.
dantark on September 25, 2013:
You mentioned the areas where men underperform comparing to women (communication skills). For the balance in what areas underperform women comparing to men?
Angelme566 on August 20, 2013:
Very broad write ups ! Clear distinction was made and what do we expect , the author has a brand ! Voted Up..Five 5 for this..
Vinaya Ghimire (author) from Nepal on August 18, 2013:
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the topic.
Mckbirdbks you said "The best we can do is admire the equation" and agree with your point.
SEO IT you wrote "Successful and happy couples and co-workers recognize, value, and work with each others' differences," you and I share same viewpoint.
Rosemary, understanding the differences will help men and women come close.
mckbirdbks from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas on August 18, 2013:
You certainly poured a lot of yourself into the research on this article. You will note that this question has interestes mankind for centuries and we are no closer to an answer. The best we can do is admire the equation.
Karla Domanski from Cadillac, Michigan on August 17, 2013:
Terrific hub, Vinaya. I think men and women are far too prone to viewing and treating our differences as negative traits instead of welcoming them as supportive of our own. Successful and happy couples and co-workers recognize, value, and work with each others' differences. People really miss out when they're busy fighting in the gender wars.
Rosemary Sadler from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand on August 09, 2013:
A very in depth look at the differences, Insightful and thought provoking. A well researched and written article.
Enjoy your weekend
Vinaya Ghimire (author) from Nepal on August 08, 2013:
It is true that views on men and women are somewhat similar in different cultures. There are differences and knowing these differences will helpus to understand opposite sex better.
@jklahlou, perhaps, I should have included the link to the research which states the differences in men and women brain. The purpose of the video was just to amuse people.
Carolee Samuda from Jamaica on August 08, 2013:
I really missed your writing Vinaya because I was away from HP.
I liked the point you made about how relationships fail because both men and women expect each other to act and think alike. If we understand each other's difference it will make for a better relationship.
I also liked your references to different religions and cultures on the differences between men and women. What I found quite interesting is that all the religions seemed to have one thing in common; is that we all possess some elements of male or female. How we function depends on the quantity we possess.
Very good article,
jklahlou on August 01, 2013:
Some great points on this article; Jung's archetypes and the anima and animus! I like the book recommendations.
However, some of your information on the biology of the brain seems to have factual inaccuracies. Also video (of the comedian) was not factual at all.
Vinaya Ghimire (author) from Nepal on July 31, 2013:
Thank you my dear friends and fellow writers for reading and commenting. I would have never survived online writing without your wonderful support.
Thank you very much for sharing your views on the topic.
Frank Atanacio from Shelton on July 30, 2013:
I think you hit this right on the head, the research I bet was involved.. and that's what makes your hubs fantastic!!!!
Denise Handlon from North Carolina on July 29, 2013:
This is an absolutely inspirational hub, Vinaya. I love your research and presentation from the experts. I made a note to read that last book mentioned about why men never remember and women never forget, lol. Seriously, this is a very useful hub for that age old conflict between men and women.
It took me a very long time in my life to better understand those puzzling and frustrating issues between the sexes. Maturity is part of the process. Now that I'm older, and my kids are the ages that I used to be upset with this problem, I hear them ask the same questions I did when I was married and their age.
Up/U/I and sharing.
Mahaveer Sanglikar from Pune, India on July 29, 2013:
Thank you Vinay for sharing this interesting information.
Sueswan on July 29, 2013:
Knowing that men and women's brains are wired differently, help us have a better understanding and appreciation for each other.
Voted up and awesome
Eiddwen from Wales on July 29, 2013:
So very interesting Vinaya and thank you for sharing. Left much food for thought and voted up.
Dianna Mendez on July 28, 2013:
I am glad for the differences between men and women, it makes life so much more interesting. You have posted a great article on this topic and it will help many to understand the differences.
Charu Bhatnagar from India on July 28, 2013:
wow..this was some topic to write about and one of the most interesting one too. no wonder I read this one first. :) The hub was totally marvelous, could see the amount of research and hard work you put in it. I do agree with most of the points you made, especially 'understanding each other' part. I had a long list of differences ready after reading this...mostly psychological and behavioral. but then thought otherwise. :D :)
Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 27, 2013:
Sometimes certain things can't be changed about men and women however yo have explained very well on the differences
Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 27, 2013:
So interesting about the differences in men and women I now see more about the men and women and sometimes certain things just can't be changed about humans
passionate77 on July 27, 2013:
very well written and thoroughly insightful post covering a lot of hidden aspects regarding the difference between man and woman that i was not aware of before. i also bookmarked it. thanks for sharing the hub, stay blessed dear vinayaghimire!
Martin Kloess from San Francisco on July 26, 2013:
Thank you for sharing this insight.
lovedoctor926 on July 26, 2013:
A very good analysis. Men want a secure emotional connection with a woman who can trigger an emotional attraction in him; however, they express it differently. voted up!
Faith Reaper from southern USA on July 26, 2013:
Hi Dearest Vinaya,
When I read your title, I thought, oh boy, this is going to be one interesting write here, and it is! Initially, from reading the title and looking at the first photo, I thought the article was going to be solely about what are the differences between men and women as far as being attracted to each other, and you did cover that aspect here plus a wealth of other interesting information. I have heard of a couple of these books.
I have also read that human Pheromones is the scent behind what attracts one person to another, and we also communicate and understand each other using scent, as it is emitted into the air by one's hormones.
Love the really intense photo there too!
Excellent article as always. Voted up ++++ and sharing
Hugs and love
Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on July 26, 2013:
Interesting Vinaya. I should read all of the books you have listed here. I know that a man and woman are very different in many ways. It is good to understand the reasoning for some of our actions. I believe we still have a lot to learn. Thank you for a most informative hub.
Nichelle Webster from Silicon Valley on July 26, 2013:
Some told me the other day, "Women are crazy and men are stupid. The women are crazy because the men are so stupid." Maybe that sums it all up.
Maria Jordan from Jeffersonville PA on July 26, 2013:
You tackle potentially controversial topics in a most exacting, respectful and thorough manner.
The titles of these self help books are amusing in themselves and well worth reviewing at some point, I am sure.
I appreciate Jung's theories and beliefs most of all you have outlined.
Voted UP and UABI. Hugs, Maria
radhapriestess on July 26, 2013:
A great topic. Of course, every individual is different. There is also a book called Brain Sex which talks about hormonal levels are different in each person. Every one is a continuum if you're mind works more in feminine way or male way. In the class I attended we took a test and found many men and women were in the middle and had a balance of mental abilities. Some were high on the male end and some were high on the female end. It is true women have different connections between the hemispheres of the brain. I personally prefer someone who is more artistic and creative and intellectual and has good inner qualities. I am not into the provider sterotype. A number of my sisters make more than their husbands do.
Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on July 26, 2013:
Couples would do well to read this hub. The more we can increase understanding about our differences, the more chance we have to existing peacefully and lovingly side by side.
Well said, Vinaya!