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Top 10 Best Dating Tips for Shy Guys, Skinny Guys, Any Man Who Wants to Wing a Girl's Heart

I've been through several relationships through the years and have learned the ins and outs of dating the hard way.


Have your recent dates resulted to experiences you don’t want to remember? Or is it your first time asking a woman out? Don’t settle with a boring and lonely life just because of your anxieties about dating. You’re a man so act like one! It’s never easy particularly for inexperienced men but you have to try. Consider dating not a game but a battlefield. If you are interested with a gorgeous young lady who just moved in next door, don’t wait for months before asking her out. Other men around her are not blind. They’ll surely notice her and might even get the woman of your dreams before you do.

Reading this hub is a good sign. That only means you are preparing for the upcoming even and that this is very important to you. Let’s not waste any time and head straight to what you are here for. Here are the Top 10 Best Dating Tips for Men that will somehow assure a beautiful evening with the woman you are interested with. Feel free to leave a comment if you believe some other dating tips for men are better than the ones found in this hub. Stay positive and good luck guys!

10. Be Prepared For The Relationship

A couple of pull ups a day can go a long way.

A couple of pull ups a day can go a long way.

Majority of men simply disregard this tip since they believe it’s unnecessary. However, we can’t change the fact that dating can entirely affect your lifestyle. You can’t attract women without improving yourself. Dating is not just about finding a partner who can be with you in one night. Your aim must be to find the woman of your life, the one who will be there for you through thick and thin.

Almost every man across the globe is searching for the most effective way to get a girlfriend or date. Nonetheless, only a few of them are actually prepared to exert enough effort in becoming a man that most women would want. The rule is very simple. If you want to find the woman of your dreams, be the man of her dreams. Women prefer men who are jolly and have a successful career. Men who follow an active lifestyle and have a reasonable amount of financial security are most likely to get a girl as well compared to those who don’t. Though physical appearance is a minor factor in the long run, it’s a good start to leave a good impression so stay in shape!

9. Value Yourself. You Are Better Than You Think!

Love yourself and everything else will follow.

Love yourself and everything else will follow.

Do you feel uncomfortable in front of a gorgeous woman? Is there something hindering you from reach the woman of your dreams? If you answered a big “YES” to these questions, you definitely lack self-worth. The worst part about having this problem is that it can also negatively affect your self-esteem and confidence. Your dating performance will suffer in the process making it almost impossible for you to be successful in finding a life partner.

Keep in mind that confidence can attract women like nothing else. Women are excited about men who can express their feelings and do anything without hesitation just to prove their feelings. There’s no better time to start building confidence other than today. Forget about the old you and start believing in what you can do. The road is full of challenges yet you should always remember that they can all be conquered through hard work and resilience.

8. Use The Internet To Find The Woman That Complements You Best


Many believe that online dating is only for “losers”. We should get rid of such mentality since it’s far from the truth. The internet can help you jump-start in dating. Creating an online profile will introduce you to millions of women worldwide who are seeking for a life partner just like you. The internet is where majority of both men and women get together. It has become one of the major sources of entertainment so you’ll surely have a better chance to find a date online compared if you only use traditional methods. Your first aim must be to carefully search Twitter, Facebook, and Blog accounts owners whether one of them awakens your interest. Prefer those who resides close to your place to avoid the hassle of travel and overspending.

Aside from making it all easier, the internet can help you save time. This is probably the main advantage of using the internet in getting a date since it will only cost you a few hours. Though classic methods still work, most of them require at least a month for you to get a response. The saddest part is you can’t be sure whether it’s a confirmation or rejection. What are you waiting for? Hop on the internet and join infamous online dating sites today!

7. Don't Let Your Fears and Anxieties Stop You

Conquer your fears and be happy like the man on this sweet photo.

Conquer your fears and be happy like the man on this sweet photo.

Fear can ruin your life. It is one of the main factors that hinder men from having an exciting date life. The fear of being rejection is the most common and intimidating one. If you somehow managed to invite someone on a date despite your fears, she will surely notice it during the event. Fear will crush every bit of self-confidence in you.

Probably the worst thing that you can do is accept this kind of life. Resist it! Keep on trying to get rid of your fears since beyond it is a life of happiness and contentment. Every man started out shy but the big difference between losers and winners in dating is perseverance. Those who successfully found their better half persevered and tried their best to eliminate their fear about women. Consider them as inspirations and make the first step towards a happy dating life now!

6. Ask Her Out Properly

Have the courage to tell her what you really want.

Have the courage to tell her what you really want.

Preparation is a must if you are really serious about successfully asking a woman out. Do some research regarding her likes and dislikes including the specific dates she is most likely to be available. Perfect timing is also very crucial. Those who deny the importance of timing often ends up suffering from demoralizing situations. Here are some other helpful reminders you need to consider before asking a woman on a date:

  • Don’t overdo it. If she has a good reason to say no, understand it and simply postpone it for another time if possible.
  • Don’t stick on a specific date. Be flexible with your schedule and offer several options.
  • Be constantly reminded that some people are simply not meant for each other
  • A weeknight is the best time for a first date.
  • Approach her on the right time. If you noticed her in a bar, make sure she’s not with someone else or her friends are not around. This will eliminate her shyness and assures a response to your proposal.
  • Don’t hesitate. Think of every chance to ask a woman out as an opportunity to gain experience.
  • Smile even if she says no. Who knows she might change her mind after having a fun conversation with you for a few minutes more.
  • Don’t even think of asking her out if she’s stressed, unhappy, sick, or busy on something since these factors usually leads to a bad result.

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5. Lessen Your Expectations

Safeguard your heart from disappointment.

Safeguard your heart from disappointment.

Expect less even if you firmly believe that the date will turn out well. Most importantly, don’t look forward for very intimate moments during the first date. Forget about the date if your main intention is to have her in bed. Keep in mind that there’s nothing sexier than a man who is willing to wait for the right moment. With minimal expectations, you won’t be greatly affected if ever the date won’t end up like how you planned.

Nevertheless, there’s no excuse for not looking at your best on the night of your date. Grab decent clothes and shoes. Your date will surely notice a worn-out pair of shoes. If you can’t afford a new one, at least wash your old pair or clean them properly. Remember that it’s not about having the most expensive clothes and shoes but how you choose garments that look nice on you. How would you take care of her if you can’t even take care of yourself? First impression last so be sure to impress her during your first meeting.

4. Initiate A Light And Fun Conversation

Make her smile and you can win her heart.

Make her smile and you can win her heart.

Studies confirm that women are more into verbal conversation compared to men. You should get the most out of this fact by asking interesting questions and opening subjects that can make her laugh and enjoy the moment. Ask about her hobbies and interests. There’s nothing to worry about a one-sided conversation since most women usually act as interviewers during a date. Be prepared. Humorous answers are good but don’t overdo it.

Keep it natural as much as possible. Be proud of your accomplishments in life and share it. You can also tell her about your embarrassing moments during highschool or your first day in college. Such kind of conversation can lighten things up and somehow eliminate her anxiety about your seemingly perfect life. Make her feel comfortable as much as possible but don’t get too close. Avoid offensive topics since one wrong word could turn her off completely. Talking about your previous relationships is not a good thing to do as well since it will only convince her that you’re not good in handling such kind of things.

3. Be Kind To Other People During Your Date

The date should never be just about her.  She will surely appreciate if you also treat others around her well.

The date should never be just about her. She will surely appreciate if you also treat others around her well.

The saying “Nice guys finish last” is totally wrong. The truth is, women prefer good men over selfish and rude ones. Be kind not only to your date but to other people as well. Be generous in giving a tip and be nice to waiters. Women are not dull. They’ll easily spot a really good man from a pretentious one. If you’ve been bad all throughout your life, maybe this is your biggest chance to change. It’s never too late. Simply have the courage to overhaul your personality and work hard to stick with your decision.

You can do so even without an upcoming date. Like what is mentioned earlier, preparation is a major key to a successful date. Treat your sister and mother nicely. While going out for a dinner with them, treat the event as a date. Have fun with them and make it a memory worth remembering. You’ll not only get used to dating in the process but also tighten the bond between you and your family. That’s like hitting two birds with one stone!

2. Giver Her The Chance To Share

Encourage her to talk more about herself.

Encourage her to talk more about herself.

Though you need to carry the conversation especially in front of a shy woman, a time will surely come that you’ll need to listen. One of the most common mistakes of men is turning their dates into a one-man circus. They tend to speak endlessly without even noticing it. You must be sensitive and always keep her involved in the conversation. As she talks, carefully listen and don’t forget about everything she says. Recalling most of what she said during your first date will definitely impress her.

You simply can’t talk the whole night. Invite your date on a dance and have fun! If you don’t know how, this is the right time to learn. You don’t need to be a Travolta. As long as you can follow to the song’s rhythm and prepared a couple of cool moves, your date will surely enjoy being your partner. If you failed to prepare, don’t force it and do something else like ice skating or biking. There are tons of activities you can do together that can spice up the date so be creative.

1. Confidence Is Your Main Weapon

There's no such thing as perfect in this world so don't aim to be one.

There's no such thing as perfect in this world so don't aim to be one.

Confidence is a deal-breaker when choosing a man as what majority of women in a survey stated. If you don’t have enough confidence, work hard to build some. There are various methods to shape up your self-confidence but the most suitable for men is to practice. Have the guts to approach someone you don’t know in an event and talk to her. You don’t need to invite her on a date afterwards. As long as she had a good time during the whole conversation, you successfully gained valuable experience. Nonetheless, don’t expect everything to be perfect. Some women are rude enough to walk away after seeing you approaching. Don’t be turned down since that only means she is not worth your attention.

Seek for a much better option. There are countless fish in the sea so be strong. To serve as an inspiration, don’t forget that there’s a lonely female heart waiting for you. In some cases, you don’t need to find her since both of your paths will slowly entangle with each other. Have fun with your next date and I wish you all the best guys!

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dailytop10 (author) from Davao City on July 04, 2013:

True. Thank you for appreciating my hub.

CaravanHolidays from Wales UK on July 03, 2013:

Excellent hub, and yes confidence is number 1, and that goes for most things in life

Amanda Jones on June 12, 2013:

Really good way to attract a girl you really share good ideas about date lot of information your post your Hub!

dashingscorpio from Chicago on December 15, 2012:

As a (one) man I will recap these tips. :-)

#10 Be ready for a relationship. “Your aim must be to find the woman of your life” Men don’t seek out relationships or go wife hunting. Our relationships evolve overtime. However if we don’t enjoy being around a woman a relationship will never develop. There is no shortage of women looking for a committed relationship. Most men don’t start thinking in terms of marriage until they are near age 30 or beyond.

#9 Value yourself. This is good advice however I suspect most women would say us men think too much of ourselves! LOL! Most self-help books for low self-esteem tend to be marketed towards women. #8 I believe more guys are “pro-Internet” dating than women are!

#7 Fear is something that fades after our teenage or college years. Grown men rarely “fear” asking a woman out. Grown men are not afraid of being rejected. They get (tired) of being rejected!

#6 Ask her “properly”. It doesn’t have to be all that formal. If you have tickets for an event, there is something taking place this weekend or whatever you have in mind…Simply ask her if she’d like to join you. The more relaxed and casual you are in your approach the less pressure a woman feels.

#5 Expect less. Men don’t (expect) to have anything other than (fun) on a date. We may (hope) for something more if things seem to be going well. Leaning in for a kiss is a good way to gage or determine whether or not she is remotely “into” you. If a woman truly thinks a man is “hot” she is not going to reject a good-night kiss. Generally speaking people don’t want to risk blowing an opportunity to be around someone they are “into”. Too many (no)s earlier on is a sign you’re heading towards the “friend zone”. LOL!

#4 Encourage a (fun) conversation: This what most men want period. It’s usually the women that ask serious questions like: Where do you see yourself in 5 years? Have you ever been in love before? Why did you and you ex breakup? No man wants to talk about this stuff on a first date!

#3 Be kind to others; My suggestion is “be yourself”. Don’t try and fake kindness for the sake of trying to impress someone. Ultimately you want to be around people that love and accept you as you are! #2 Give her a chance to share: More often than not it is the woman who is talkative one! Some even go on talking about guys they (use) to date! No man wants to think about or visualize about other men being with his date. #1 Confidence is your main weapon. Absolutely!

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