To keep that spark of Love
spend time together.
Take time to know each other.
To keep those fires of love burning in your marriage don't forget to spend quality time together.I don't mean those moments that happen everyday like sharing meals and doing chores together, these are important, but they are not enough, Your partner needs to feel special, make sure that you have a sharing time put aside in your all too busy lives. Do something together without other distractions, go to the cinema to watch a romantic movie or one you both really have interest in, go for a nice quiet walk in the country, pack a picnic basket and enjoy each others company, if you both enjoy eating out, why not try different types of cuisine, or engage in a hobby like cycling or going to the gym together, you can work together and a little healthy competitive activity is sure to keep the spark alive.
All to often it is easy to get wrapped up in your own separate lives, a strong happy and healthy marriage doesn't just happen. It, like any other time in your life needs working on. Do not take your spouse for granted.
You Best Friend.
What does a best friend mean to you? what does a best friend mean to your spouse?
A best friend is the first person you think of when making plans, they are the ones you turn to when things go wrong, and you need support.You may have many friends, but only one best friend.. the one you want to see every day, the one you want to hug and make happy.. you wouldn't want to see your best friend hurt and miserable so make sure your best friend is you Spouse, someone you want close to you for the rest of your life.
A true friend laughs at your stories even when they're not so good, and sympathizes with your troubles even when they're not so bad
Be considerate and forgiving.
Treat them as you would want to be treated, try not to use harsh words. Take a moment to think before you speak, would you want those comments made to you, would they hurt your feelings, if so then do not let them exit your mouth.. it is better to stay silent than to hurt with words, once said, they can never be unsaid.
We all make mistakes, sometimes we are a little short tempered so be quick to admit your shortcomings and work to amend them. Be understanding when your mate does not live up to your ideals and gently try to motivate him or her in the right direction.
A little Consideration, a little Thought for Others, makes all the difference.
remember to smile..
no matter how bad things are, a smile is the best medecine you can give your spouse, keep a sense of humour and laugh about some of lifes aggrevations, greet your spouse always with a hug and a big smile, no matter what kind of bad day he/she may have had, that smile is sure to be catching...
Laughter is the shortest distance between two people. ~Victor Borge
Men...today most women work outside the home so it is very important that you give some of your time to helping with the household chores.Who knows? You might find you actually like preparing the evening meal, your wife will be very happy that she has a little time to herself and don't forget you will have more time to be together if the chores and shared.
Life ends when you stop dreaming, hope ends when you stop believing, love ends when you stop caring, friendship ends when you stop sharing.
Don't be a Nora Batty...
Just because you are married does not mean that you no longer need to look after yourself, remember how you used to make the most of your appearance when you first met your spouse, that was all part and parcel of the package. The time you spent on your hair, how you made sure you always smelt nice. It is very important to keep up your appearance.It is all too easy to get lazy, a few pounds can soon show up round the middle, very easy to disguise when you go out, just throw on a big baggy t-shirt, but there is no hiding it from your partner..after all you don't want them being tempted by the long legged model type down the road.Shower regularly,make sure you always keep a clean appearance, wear make up for your husband, men.. splash on the aftershave,take care of your hair. Go jogging together, join a gym or go swimming, you will feel so much fitter, be more radiant, feel and be more attractive to your spouse.
Clothes and manners do not make the man; but, when he is made, they greatly improve his appearance.
Try not to call to attention the big eyed green monster, do not try to test your spouse's affection by pretending to be interested in another. This will only cause dissension and bad feelings.A certain amount of jealousy in a relationship is only natural, but there is no good in causing unwarranted suspicion.
Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening. ~Maya Angelou
Buy her a little gift, it does not have to be expensive, a card with your own loving words would be very special to her, a bunch of her favourite flowers or an evening out alone, away from the children and the in-laws.
Ladies your man will also love to receive a little something from you, maybe cook him a special meal.. buy his favourite cologne, whatever you decide, this will definitely help to keep the spark in your marriage..
“Love is when the other person's happiness is more important than your own.”
Pay each other compliments everyday.. be happy to see your spouse when they return home, greet them with a hug and a kiss.Tell him/her how wonderful they look. Where there is disagreement, have an open discussion. Don 't collect grudges...
For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness.
Happiness can not be bought...
Stay away from credit cards and debts if you can. Don't envy the possessions of your friends,we do not all have to keep up with the JONES'S and don't belittle your husband because he can't provide them for you. Money can not buy happiness...
“If you want to feel rich, just count the things you have that money can't buy”
Never, never share your problems with friends, they are known to fall out and will be sure to gossip about what you have told them, it will only cause problems.There are a few exceptions to this rule, but if you must discuss personal problems, make sure it is with a person in whom you have the utmost confidence.
Who gossips with you will gossip of you
If you want to share a piece of news, don't do it when your spouse is 'down in the dumps.' Wait for the proper time.He may have had a really lousy day at work, he won't want to hear you complain about the gossip you have heard that day.. give it time, he will listen once he has unwound and relaxed a little.
You may be saying to yourself, "All This is easier said than done." Well, you're right. A successful marriage doesn't just happen. It like everything else in life needs working on..
Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. ~Simone Signoret
laugh and smile.
take pride in your appearance
Can't buy Happiness
Wonderful Words of Advice...
Open your door to a good day and prepare yourself for a bad one .
Pleasant words are a honeycomb , sweet to the soul and healing to the bone .
Patience tolerance and understanding are important disciplines to be observed and practiced by all people in marriage.
The relationship between a husband and a wife is like the relationship between the hand and the eye if the hand gets hurt the eye cries and if the eye cries the hand wipes its tears...
A relationship doesn't need any promises, terms or conditions....It just needs two wonderful people .. One who can 'trust' and one who can 'understand'
Love is the thing that enables a woman to sing while she mops up the floor after her husband has walked across it in his barn boots.
There is no Market for your Sorrows - So Never Advertise your Feelings **
If you are patient in one moment of anger - you will escape a hundred days of sorrow ...
If you want to understand your spouse then pay attention to their silence and reactions. And if you want them to be happy then shower them with patience,understanding and comfort.
You should be always close to your husband..give him a hug when he doesn't expect it..warm kisses are medicine for all his wounds..
Suspicion is a filthy garment. Wear it and watch even those you love very deeply flee from you. It is not because you are right about your suspicion but it is because you have made it a habit to suspect every little move they make.
And finally REMEMBER...
Life Is Just A Journey In Which Every Path Is Commonly Different....
and above all else... Stay in Love..... love conquers all
"And those who pray, 'Our Lord! Grant unto us spouses and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous.'"
"The whole world is an asset and the best asset is a good wife." (Muslim)
"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts). Verily in that are Signs for those who reflect." (30: 21).
Zubair Ahmed on July 14, 2011:
I like this hub, a very important topic you've covered here. Enjoyed reading it, if only more people were able to take this advice and put it into action then we'd all be in happy relationships.
Jazzak'Allah for sharing