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Tips on Healing and Moving on

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No one wants to fall in love with someone who doesn’t feel the same way about them. It’s a sad reality that most of us will experience at least once in our lifetime, and it’s not always easy to get over. But even though it takes time and effort to heal from a broken heart, it’s possible. Here are some ways you can start healing from your past now.

What causes a broken heart?

First things first, how do you know if you have a broken heart? If you’re unhappy in your current relationship, there’s a good chance you’re suffering from a broken heart. “A broken heart is the emotional version of a flat tire,” Klapow says. “You’re in much pain because something you wanted to happen has not and cannot.” He adds that people tend to be misinformed about the reason why we experience broken hearts. “We’re very willing to throw around terms like heartbreak and heartache, but that’s not what causes broken hearts,” he says. “The one thing we do know for sure is that when a relationship ends, when we are brokenhearted, or even when we experience disappointments, these are very complex and often long-term conditions.

How to start healing your broken heart
When you break up with someone, your body goes through the various stages of grieving. It goes through all the typical stages – denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. As with any other traumatic thing, every individual responds differently, and every individual has a different timetable for healing. In some people, it takes weeks or months to get over the loss. Others can even get over it in just days or weeks. It would be best if you gave yourself time. Here are some tips on healing your broken heart: 1. Realize that you made the decision. This is often one of the most challenging things to do when you’ve been through a broken heart. When you break up with someone, you’re going to experience all the emotions that come with it.

How to cope with love and loss
You can do it. #1 Keep yourself busy Even though you’re very much missing your beloved, try to stay active and try not to dwell on the past. Get your phone out and keep yourself occupied. Read. Watch movies. Make a playlist. Go dancing. Live your life. Don’t let yourself dwell on the fact that they’re not there anymore. #2 Focus on the positive Another great way to deal with your heartbreak is to start looking on the bright side. When you’re at your lowest, try not to overthink about all the things that you lost. You’ll never get your loved ones back, and as soon as they’re gone, you can never have them back again. Instead, focus on all the great things you had in common with them and the fun times you had with them. Focus on the good times.

Even if you haven’t experienced the kind of loss that a breakup can bring to you, it’s possible to move on and come to peace with the situation. The worst part of the breakup has to deal with the pain of the separation, but taking action and trying to overcome your hurt and pain by finding the right moves is essential in finding closure. It’s necessary to face your problems head-on, but that doesn’t mean that you need to settle. Continue moving on, and eventually, you’ll come to a point when you can see it as a new beginning.

How to start healing your broken heart

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phoebe180 (author) from Philippines on August 04, 2021:

Very well said, I'd like to give you a thumbs up on that. Although the no contact rule is somehow neglected due to easy accessibility with the help of social media.Stalking has become an acceptable habit but yes this recommendation is only for those who are really serious on moving on.

"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

- Oscar Wilde

great share!

dashingscorpio from Chicago on August 02, 2021:

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Sound advice.

I would also add it's important to keep things in perspective.

In order for your (ex) to have been "the one" he/she would have had to see (you) as being "the one".

At the very least a "soulmate" is someone who actually wants to be with you! (And vice versa)

In order to "move on" you have to (want to) "let go".

Your future lies ahead of you and not behind you!

You can't get to second base if insist on keeping one foot on first.

Enacting the "no contact rule" is highly recommended for at least six months to a year or more. This means blocking their phone numbers, email addresses, unfriending them in your social media, and if possible avoiding places you know they frequent.

It's unrealistic to expect to go from being "red hot lovers" to "instant platonic friends" resembling being siblings.

Your (ex) is the last person who can help you get over them and vice versa!

Grieve among your (close friends) and family. If you aren't making any progress after a few weeks maybe you should consider getting some therapy. Some people feel better opening up to a stranger (licensed professional) than those who know them.

Always remember "right now" is NOT forever!

When it comes to love and relationships most of us (fail our way) to success. Very few people hit a homerun their 1st, 2nd, 3rd, or 4th time up at bat. If this were not the case we would all be married to our high school sweethearts!

With each failed relationship, heartache, or betrayal we are presented with an opportunity to either craft or refine our mate selection screening process and "must haves list" for choosing our next mate.

"Some people come in our life as blessings. Some come in your life as lessons.' - Mother Teresa

"Dating is primarily a numbers game.... People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That's just the way it is." - Henry Cloud

"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

- Oscar Wilde

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