Sabrina loves to write about love, life, and everything in-between in a candid yet humorous approach.
The end of the year brings about a longing in many people to look over the whole year to see how far they have come. Sometimes it even brings about a desire to look over their entire lives as a sort of overview; to recognize what went wrong and appreciate what was right. The end of one year and the beginning of another urges people to get closure and move on for the blank slate that is soon to come. If you did that overview for your entire life, you would realize that there are three types of people you have met. They are the ones for a season, the ones for a reason, and the ones for life.
The first type of people you will meet in your life are the ones that are there for just a season. It’s been said that our lives, much like the year, are divided into seasons; spring, summer, fall, and winter. Spring is birth and awakening, it’s when you are born into this life with a blank slate or canvas. Summer is your childhood and youth, it’s supposed to be the happiest and most carefree time of your life. Fall is adulthood and mature adulthood, where you’re supposed to be older and wiser because of your many life experiences. Sadly, winter is the end of life known as death. All life must come to an end, because where there is life there is always death. The types of people who are only in your life for a season are like the ones who are only there for a certain time. It could be a childhood friend who you lost touch with after high graduation. It might be a someone who was a big part of your life all through your college years, but after you got your degree life took you into two different directions. It might even be a husband or wife who was there for the fall season of your life but passed away only to leave you behind. Just because these people were only there for a season of your life, doesn’t make them any less important. The time they were there and the lessons they taught you will stay with you forever. It’s not about the amount of time someone was in your life, but rather the impact they had on it. The people that were there for a season did what they needed to do for your life in that amount of time. Seasons change and so do the types of people that enter and leave your life. When it’s someone’s time to go you can’t do anything to control it, just like you can’t stop the leaves from changing color in the fall or the snow from falling in winter.
The second type of people you will meet in your life are there for a reason. This is a tough category because the reason may not always be good. These are the types of people who will teach you the tough lessons in life. They may love you, hate you, abuse you, but above all impact your life in a way that will be evident. You may not realize what’s happening in the moment, but when you look back at your life, you will realize they were there for a reason. This could be a boyfriend who abused you physically or verbally. You might have wished you’d never meet him at the time because he hurt you so much. When you look back on this relationship though, you will be glad it happened. You will see that he was the one who forced you to grow up and realize your worth. He was the one who made you see that you deserve better and will never settle for less ever again. He was the catalyst in your life that changed your entire outlook on men and relationships in general. Did it hurt more than anything in your life? Definitely. But was it worth it? Of course. You wouldn’t be where you are now if it wasn’t for his abuse. In the end, it was worth all the pain and struggle.
This could also be a person who you meet in the most random of ways. It’s like you were at the right place at the right time or something. They came into your life in the best way possible to teach you something that will change your life in a profound way. It could even be at the most difficult time in your life. Suppose you lost a loved one and were deeply grieving. You might go to a support group for others like yourself and meet someone that just makes the grieving process a little easier. Maybe they help you find religion or God, or maybe they just help you find yourself again. They could show you that it’s okay to be happy and that you’re not betraying your lost loved one because you have chosen to move on with your life and find peace again. When they have taught you what you need to know, these people will leave your life just as quickly as they entered it. But they will have touched your life in a way that will make them unforgettable. Sort of like guardian angels that enter your life in the nick of time to save you, and in a flash they are gone again but the light they left behind remains.
The people who are in your life for a reason might teach you lessons about kindness and love too. It’s like when two people fall in love and then one of them gets diagnosed with cancer. The sick person may teach their partner lessons about love and life that they wouldn’t have been able to learn otherwise. You ever notice how the people who are sick and know they are going to die soon are some of the nicest people you will ever meet? That’s because they know the value of life and aren’t going to waste it being prideful and angry. They’re past all that. They’re living in the present moment because that’s all they really have that’s guaranteed. These are the types of people who will teach the ones closest to them about the importance of life and how not to take any moment for granted. If you’ve ever had a sick partner or friend you know what I’m talking about. These people are put in your life for a reason to teach you something meaningful that you will carry with you for the rest of your life. The lessons these people teach you might not always be the easiest, but they will be essential for your growth as a human being.
Last, but not least, are the third type of people who I like to call the lifers. Theses are the people who are in your life from the beginning to the end of your journey. Many times they will be family members like brothers or sisters who you stay close to your whole life. Other times, they will be friends, like someone you meet the first day of kindergarten, stay friends with all throughout school, are in each other’s weddings, have your kids grow up together, and basically are present in all of life’s stages. The interesting thing about these people is that you may not always be constantly in touch with them, but somehow you know they will always be there for you. It’s like those friends who you know you can call after not talking for months and nothing’s changed. You don’t need the constant assurance to know they care. You just know they do, and that’s enough for you. These are the types of people who you know will be there for your no matter what. They won’t always agree with you, but they will never judge you. You may still have problems and view things differently from them, but you don’t have to worry about them abandoning or leaving you. You will always find your way back to each other and there’s a sort of comfort in that. They’re not going anywhere, they’re in it for life.
Now that you know the three types of people you will meet in your life, you can start to recognize them because most likely they have already made an appearance in your life. Sometimes it takes a little bit of time and reflection but know that it all happened for a reason. No one meets anyone by accident, there’s a special sort of serendipity to life that makes it so wonderful. Don’t wait until you’re older to appreciate all the lessons every type of person has taught you. Now is the time to realize that it all happened exactly the way it was supposed to happen to your greatest benefit. There’s no time for regrets. You never know when you will meet the next person who will change your life. It’s all part of this crazy adventure we call life.
Someday by Sugar Ray
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Cristiana Marques from Portugal on January 01, 2019:
This text sounds familiar. I guess that lot's of people share that common ideia.
dashingscorpio from Chicago on December 22, 2018:
"Some people come in our lives as blessings. Some people come in our lives as lessons." - Mother Teresa