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The Science Behind Why We Fall in Love

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Why we fall in love?

The science behind why we fall in love can be boiled down to one simple question Do you think that your biological reasons for falling in love are stronger than the chemical ones? The answer to this question is no. There is not just one single cause or explanation as to why we feel or behave in a certain way. There are multiple causes of a person's behavior and emotions. Therefore, it is important to find out what is causing you to feel or act a certain way.

A biological reason behind why we fall in love

A popular belief is that there is only a biological reason behind why we fall in love. This belief is not true at all. In fact, there are multiple reasons as to why a person feels the way they do. While there may be a biological reason behind why someone has a particular response, that does not mean that the response is the only reason.

Unique set of beliefs and thoughts

The truth is that each person has their own unique set of beliefs and thoughts. To someone who has similar values as you, the idea of someone else using your body to satisfy them is appealing. To someone else, their idea of love may be completely different because of the beliefs and thoughts they hold in their head.

For example, if a man is attracted to a woman who has a strong sense of self-worth, she will likely be attracted to him regardless of whether or not he is rational. The reason for this is due to the fact that she is using her body to tell him how they feel. The same theory applies to women as well.

Each person is unique and others are not

However, most people share common traits and some traits overlap significantly. For instance, a person who loves fashion and style, is attracted to someone who shares the same interests as they do. Therefore, if you find a person who is into hip-hop clothing, then you are more than likely going to fall in love with this person. However, if you find someone who is into classic movie clips, then the idea of watching a movie is not something that is going to trigger your interest in them.

This same theory applies to men and women in general. If you find a guy who is talkative, then chances are you are attracted to the way he talks to you. However, if you fall for someone who is quiet and prefers to keep to themselves, then he is not someone you are going to fall for.

It's all about your hormones

The same theory can be used when it comes to falling in and out of love with someone else. When you meet someone and you instantly fall in love with them, you are doing that because of your hormones. However, if you meet someone, and you do not feel any sort of chemistry, or you find you are just not compatible, then you will likely not fall for this person. If you were to take these theories into consideration, you would probably figure out what it is you should do about it. The question is, are you willing to give these relationships a chance before you jump in?

Discover why you are falling in love

The other theory is that we fall for someone because we like them. That is why we often have so much trouble getting over someone. We like them, but we do not understand them, or we simply do not know how to handle our emotions around them. As a result, we end up falling out of love, and then we wonder why we never knew how to get better at being around them. The answer is, you simply never learned how to better manage your emotions, and handle your emotions. If you want to discover why you are falling in love, all you need to do is to understand your own emotions.

The Stages of Love

Experts think that during the first stages of love, three neurotransmitters (chemical messengers that transmit nerve impulses (i.e. impulses) from the brain to various parts of the body) play an important role. The brain sends the "love hormone" to all parts of the body to trigger the mood of passion, attraction, and sex. The three neurotransmitters are thought to stimulate the "reward centres" in the brain and give pleasure, motivation, and interest. These three neurotransmitters also give you a general sense of well-being and happiness, which may be a form of Attraction.

1'st Stages of Love - Lust

The first stage of lust is defined as having an intense sexual desire for a woman. This is a common occurrence in all humans, but the difference between a man and a woman is that a man's brain is hardwired to be wired for sexual activity, while women's brains are much more flexible. When a woman gets turned on she begins to feel a sense of euphoria. She can feel the tingling sensation from her body, and the pleasure and excitement that she is experiencing are so powerful that it spills over into the next stage in her love life, which is defined as lust.

As lust slowly fades and one woman moves into a more functional relationship with a man, she may find herself unable to experience these intense feelings for the same reasons that she felt during the beginning of her relationship. She is experiencing a wide range of other emotions such as jealousy, anger, frustration and jealousy. She has simply moved from one psychological state (lust) to another (being dominated by a man). At this point in her life she is still functioning within the basic circuitry of her brain, but has not experienced the euphoric release of testosterone and oestrogen which are the defining elements of lust.

Being able to determine whether or not you are functioning in the right physiological state for lust is very simple to do. If you are experiencing physical symptoms such as dizziness, headaches, stomach pains, irritability, insomnia or any number of other physical problems you may be lacking in the natural chemicals that help to trigger these deeper states of arousal. Women typically begin to become sexually aware around the age of twelve or thirteen, while men typically begin to become sexually aware around the age of twenty-one. However, this is not to say that a man cannot experience love, just that they typically have a much longer period of time between their discovery of love and they're experiencing it in a satisfying way. While most people assume that lust and love happen at the same time, they are actually completely different states of mind and body that can take a very long time to reach and will certainly vary between persons.

2'nd Stages of Love - Attraction

The 2nd stages of love is when your feelings and emotions are very closely related to lust. You have the desire to touch, feel, taste and have sexual contact with that person, and you also have the need for him/her to be sexually attracted to you as well. The physical and the sexual parts of the interaction are associated with Dopamine norepinephrine and Serotonin. These neurotransmitters are closely related to lust and sex. When these neurotransmitters are high, your mind starts to focus more on things relating to sexuality and you start to experience strong feelings of intense pleasure, desire, arousal, and orgasm.

As the interaction continues, you and your partner begin to share deeper feelings and emotions related to love, and you may also feel like having a sexual release. This is the peak of your experience of love. Once this peak is reached, your brain signals your nervous system that it is time to calm down and take a nap. The chemicals that make you feel good are sent into your bloodstream where they are quickly acted upon by other parts of your brain which deal with rational thoughts and decisions, and feelings and emotions related to love, security and safety. However, your emotional states and thoughts are not in harmony with your physical states and thoughts, so you end up feeling unfulfilled and lonely. This means that you do not get what you desire in terms of a satisfying relationship.

So, if you want to manifest your desires in love, you must first go through the 2nd stages of love. First, you must increase your neurotransmitters; and second, you must decrease your feelings and emotions related to lust. In order to achieve this, you need to learn the basics of Neurochemistry. This science of the mind, body and soul deals with the interaction of neurotransmitters and their subsequent effects on consciousness, moods, behavior and conscious and unconscious processes. By mastering the science of neurochemistry, you can use this knowledge to balance the chemical imbalances in your brain, thus allowing you to experience love in all its aspects.

3' rd Stages of Love - Attachment

The 3' rd stages of love is Attachment. Attachment is the basis for all later stages of love, whether it's long-term or casual relationships. You basically need two chemicals to define long term relationships: Oxytocin and Vasopressin. Oxytocin is what makes us fall in love; it's also what makes us want to commit and be committed. Attachment is the foundation for all stages of love, whether it's a casual relationship that just started, or if it's been going on for a while, a serious relationship that you want to explore further.

Once you have reached this stage of love, and if you have chosen to be in an attachment-based relationship with a person, then you need two other chemicals to further fuel your relationship. The first one is dopamine; this is the same group of chemicals that make us feel good when we're having sex. Dopamine makes us happy, excited and motivated, and helps us avoid worrying and negative thoughts. The second chemical that needs to be present is vasopressin; this is what makes us want to stay with someone and provides us with the strength to keep us attached.

Now, if the relationship that you are in now has reached attachment stage two, and you still have not defined who you are supposed to be with, then you may have run out of oxytocin and vasopressin. This is not uncommon, especially if you are having a difficult time defining yourselves as individuals (which is quite common). If this is the case, you may need to go back to the drawing board and re-evaluate your wants for a serious relationship with the one that you have now. The next stage of love is important, and it is called grounding. Without either oxytocin or vasopressin, there will be no grounding for a relationship.

Do You Know What Your Partner is Really Thinking?

Signs of a love addiction are everywhere. A lot of relationship experts think that as we get older we often get attracted to people who look older than us. The thing is we do not see ourselves as aging. When you do begin to argue with your partner over small things, for no apparent reason, then there is definitely a problem.

Do you know what behavioral addiction is?

It is compulsive behavior. A person can be hooked on cigarette smoking, drinking alcohol, spending money on useless things or spending it all on the one person they love. Once you notice the behaviors are becoming uncontrollable and your loved one has been complaining about it, then it's time to get help. You will do anything for the love of your life but will they do anything for you?

Notice them arguing over small things

Signs of a love addiction for the one you love is when you notice them arguing over small things. When you get home from work and they are complaining and arguing about something that only makes sense. Like they bought the wrong outfit for the day or they forgot the bread. If your loved one has been getting angry over such things and arguing over every little thing, this could be a sign of an addiction. They will argue over little things and then cry and apologize several times. When this happens it may be a sign that they are hiding something.

Feels the need to control everything in their lives

Signs of a love addiction to money are when a person feels the need to control everything in their lives even if it is detrimental to their well being. They will argue and fight for more money, even if it means losing all they have. If the one who is addicted is in a toxic relationship, then the constant fighting and controlling of their money will cause them to lose all their friends and their ability to obtain personal power in their life. A toxic relationship where there is no acceptance or respect for other people and money becomes the number one reason a person gains toxic relationships.

Withdrawing from having any type of social interaction with others

Another common sign of a love addiction is when you notice that they are withdrawing from having any type of social interaction with others. They will avoid all parties, events and will only give their closest friends and family members' attention. They will give no one their most personal thoughts and will keep their friends in the dark about anything that is going on in their life. If a person feels they must maintain control over the life of the people they care about, then they are using their love addiction as a shield to protect themselves from any criticism. It is very difficult for them to admit that they have a problem because it would be too painful to have to accept that their actions have created hurt and anger.

Argue every chance they get

One of the most obvious signs of a behavioral addiction along with money is when you notice that they argue every chance they get. When there is absolutely nothing else going on in their life, they will argue over small things. They will argue about every small thing including a bill or a parking space. When they have nothing going on in their lives, they may become argumentative over seemingly inconsequential things such as what to do for Thanksgiving dinner.

Love one as a way to get ahead in the relationship

The behavioral addiction is also present when a person uses their love one as a way to get ahead in the relationship. It is common for them to ask their significant other to do things for them in order to "make them happy" or "get them ahead in the relationship". When they receive nothing in return for these requests, they become upset and angry because they feel their request was not met. Their anger causes the behavioral problem and they end up using the same tactics over again to get their requests met. In the end, they end up hurting their loved one even more by arguing over every little thing in the world.

Continuously argue about the details of their relationships

The final behavioral sign of a love addiction is when they continuously argue about the details of their relationships. When they are apart, they insist that their significant others give them exactly what they want even if they are broke. When they are together, they point out details of their relationships like the lousy break-up or the time they went on a two-week diet. They give their partner's advice like "you never know how long you can keep up this pace" and "if you give your partner exactly what they want, they might just take your life away from you."

Conclusion

Interpersonal romantic relationships are basically defined as any intimate relationship between two people. The word "interpersonal" means interpersonal or social relationships, or even personal relationships between two or more individuals. However, it can also mean a particular relationship between people that is clearly defined by some sort of emotional connection and often involves arguments of one sort or another. There are many reasons why this type of relationship is so popular among couples who are attracted to each other, and they include physical attraction, friendship, lust, and even love. Although it has many forms, the most common reason behind this type of relationship is friendship.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2021 Surajit Roy

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