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The Proof is in the Pudding

A Hub inspired by Brenda's Arledge's week 11 prompt, ''Proof''

The proof in the pudding means evidence can’t be denied. this is an old proverb. No matter what you say and do about your actions when there is evidence of your wrongdoing, or a good doing it is there in front of you. The proof of something doesn’t vanish.

Flirting with the same person ought to tell you something is not right there!

Here he is married to a young beautiful wife, yet he wants to flirt with other women. Irrespective of what his wife thinks about his actions, he continues to flirt like he is a single man.

The problem is, that he doesn’t see what he is doing wrong and that he is defying his wife’s wishes.

He flirts with the same person more and more each day. Sounds like working together has brought them closer, friendlier, and used to each other’s ways and habits.

This has been going on for four years. He would come home tired from work, sit on the couch, eat a meal, and fall asleep. His wife had not much of a conversation with him. It was not possible to get a word in to him. His work life had taken him away from her.

She tried to make conversation, but he was never interested in hearing it. Every day was the same, too tired to talk to his wife, having no time for his wife, and denying his wife about not flirting with his female coworker.

The wife knew there was something missing about him in their marriage, but couldn’t quite put her finger on it.

Months passed and he would get up with a smile each day, sound happier and look forward to work. While the wife worked her day job, he worked his all-day job, and hours away from each other pushed the couple to different sides.

It happened one day that the wife had enough of her husband’s behaviour.

She installed a recording device on her husband’s phone, for that was the only way to know about him flirting with the same person. She secretly heard the recordings and found out that she was right all along.

He had overstepped his boundaries and his wife confronted him about it. However, he denied that too. She played the recordings to her husband and he denied it.

This was unbelievable to the wife.

The whole time the wife knew her husband was flirting with the one and the same person, his coworker.

Flirting with the same person tells you he is attracted to her. Trust is there, but it is not fair to the wife to flirt and disregard her feelings. In such times trust doesn't matter, and love subsides with trust.

Well, the proof is in the pudding. The recordings don’t lie and that is what happened here.

He thought he could fool his wife about his flirting. Unfortunately, he is the one living in denial, and being dishonest to her.

The wife tried her best to go on with him in her marriage, but couldn’t last any longer with the man she thought she knew all her life. Loved someone for so many years and this happens just made her feel heartbroken.

She only needed evidence to prove to her husband she was right about him flirting with his young female coworker. The coworker enjoyed flirting and he didn’t care for his wife’s feelings.

Years later, he retired and the coworker was sad after he retired. She wanted him there every day to make her feel happy.

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It is not what the wife expected from the one she loved so dearly. Evidence supported the instincts of the married woman. Nobody can change the facts and the truth that developed in this situation.

To me, it means that a way to find out if something is true of what you believe is to get answers firsthand.

I know that, if this woman did not install the recorder on her husband’s phone she would have not known the truth about her flirtatious husband and his coworker. The proof is there and denying that proof makes him a liar. The end result was a success.

His plans to flirt daily with the same woman have brought them closer and she needed him by her side. The truth is said in the recording and the husband had not much to add to the conversation with his wife.

He knew that he enjoys flirting with other women, but his wife also learned of that and has become wiser.

When you flirt with the same person you are bound to overstep boundaries in your marriage. It is clear that in this marriage the husband overstepped his boundaries and in his eyes doesn't see that as cheating.

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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2021 Devika Primić


Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on May 04, 2021:

dashingscorpio Wow! This is an interesting insight here. So true ''Always remember no one is "stuck" with anyone. Suffering is optional'' That old story speaks for itself. Sometimes people think they can pull the wool over one's eyes but when caught red handed they will find an excuse to get out of their mess. Thank you very much for sharing that.

dashingscorpio from Chicago on May 03, 2021:

"She only needed evidence to prove to her husband she was right about him flirting with his young female coworker." - Not exactly.

Her husband {already knew} what he was doing! The wife needed to prove to (herself) that she wasn't crazy or imagining he was flirting.

Some people have a difficult time trusting their own instincts which causes them to feel the need to "play detective" in order to confirm their suspicions.

In the end she didn't leave her husband so it wasn't exactly a "deal breaker".

There was an old joke about a man whose wife walked in a room and caught him in a sexually compromising position with another woman.

He said: "Are you going to believe (me), or your lying eyes?"

It's not uncommon for people to deny something despite having proof.

Having boundaries and "deal breakers" means you're willing to walk away.

Always remember no one is "stuck" with anyone. Suffering is optional.

"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

- Oscar Wilde

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 29, 2021:

Misbah thank you very much for comments. The Proof is in the pudding is an old Proverb. It works well in this hub.

Misbah Sheikh from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on April 29, 2021:

This is a good response to Brenda’s prompt, Devika. Trust is the most important thing in a relationship. If it breaks, it can’t get fixed again.

Thanks for sharing


Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 28, 2021:

Adrienne Farricelli, Haha! This is an old English Proverb. The proof is in the pudding meaning when the truth is out there is no denying it. I appreciate your comments thank you very much.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 28, 2021:

Peggy Woods Well, I am glad you found my hub. Yes, that is what it is. The proof is in the pudding and old proverb. Thank you very much for comments.

Adrienne Farricelli on April 28, 2021:

I am so sorry that this happened to your friend. As the saying goes: "trust your gut instinct." It sounds like her gut instinct told her to investigate and by recording the conversation she caught her husband red-handed and got the proof she needed. Now, I am craving some pudding!

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on April 28, 2021:

You used that old saying to use Brenda's word prompt well. I tried all day yesterday to find your article in the feed. I am glad that I was able to see it today. And I thought that this was going to be a recipe! It proves how wrong a person can be. Haha! The recipe for a good marriage is not only love but trust.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 28, 2021:

Chitrangada Sharan Thank you for a comment. I am pleased you shared your views here.

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on April 28, 2021:

Nice article and a wonderful response to Brenda’s word prompt challenge.

You have made some important points, which happens in relationships. There are so many examples around. It’s true that, Proof can’t be denied. Once the trust is broken, things can’t be the same.

Thank you for sharing.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 28, 2021:

Mary Norton thank you kindly for comments.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 28, 2021:

Ann Carr thank you for supporting me I appreciate comments.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 28, 2021:

Bill Holland you are so kind to stop by I appreciate your time. Thank you

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on April 27, 2021:

Oh no. This is not something I would enjoy. Congrats for meeting the challenge.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 27, 2021:

Dora Weithers Thank you very much for stopping by always appreciated

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 27, 2021:

Ravi Rajan I am pleased to have met this challenge thank you very much for sharing your views.

Ann Carr from SW England on April 27, 2021:

A good response to Brenda's prompt, Devika. These things happen and clear proof is undeniable. Trust between two people is easy to break but much more difficult to repair! Well done.


Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on April 27, 2021:

It's a strange saying, isn't it? I wonder what the origin of that is? I'll have to look it up. As for your article, flirting is a dangerous street to travel for anyone.

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on April 27, 2021:

Boundaries are made to prevent overstepping. It will always be wrong and the proof is in the disaster that results. Not interested in tasting the pudding!

Ravi Rajan from Mumbai on April 27, 2021:

Interesting Devika. The problem is flirting is that it mostly starts harmlessly and unintentionally but gradually it may exceed the boundaries leading to infidelity and heartbreak. Any marriage is based on trust that never should be broken.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 27, 2021:

Thank you Pamela99

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 27, 2021:

Hi Pamela this is a true story and I have seen it happen to friend. I am glad you shared your views here and that I put together this hub to see Brenda's prompt. It is my way of using the word ''Proof.'' Thank you

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on April 27, 2021:

This is an interesting article and certainly did see Brenda's prompt, Devika. I wondered if this was a true story and maybe you knew someone who was dealing with a flirting husband. I know I have seen things like that happen over the years.

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