Find all you need for a divorce party on this page. These divorce party ideas include themes, decorations, favors, pictures of divorce cakes and gift ideas.
Why have a divorce party? This party idea isn't for everyone. The traumatic experience of a divorce leaves many with no cause to celebrate and in no mood to party down. That said, divorce parties are absolutely the right decisions for very special people. If you're one of them, start planning your event here.
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Divorce Party Ideas
The very fact that you’re thinking about throwing a divorce party is a sign that the idea is right for you. If you think this might be over-the-top, consider the reasons people throw divorce parties. As you begin to brainstorm divorce party ideas, consider these eight benefits of the party you are planning:
1) Giving a party is the perfect time to thank friends and family members who were there for you and helped you reach this day. Just as all of your major life events are shared by your favorite people, the finalizing of your divorce should not be an exception. People who care about you often don’t know what to do or to say when your divorce comes through. The divorce party will give your guests the opportunity to express their support for you in a relaxed, welcomed atmosphere.
2) A gathering of friends at this time will emphasize just how many wonderful people are connected to you with love. The event will surround you with warm, comforting hugs just when you need them the most. The day your divorce is final is not a day to be alone.
3) The party will give you a happy, smiley faced, future memory when your mind wanders back (as it will) to the day your divorce was final. You can choose to have a happy memory by planning your divorce party now.
4) The party is your opportunity to vent and to rant however you please. It is a safe environment to release the floodgates on all of the deep seated emotions you have accumulated during your divorce.
5) Divorce parties are the events which bring closure to the divorce process. Having a party when your divorce is (finally!) final can be like a huge sigh of relief for you and for all of your guests. The party marks a major milestone turning-point in your life's direction.
6) Your divorce party can mark the turning-point in your marital status. It is the event that can formally send your spouse to ex-spouse-land and crown you with your new single status.
7) Having divorce parties has become the new rite of passage. If you don’t have one, years from now you just might regret your decision.
8) This party can be the jump-start and the send-off for the next phase of your life.
Divorce Party Rules
There are only two rules for divorce parties:
1. No children allowed
2. No party-poopers allowed
“Don’t invite the ex” used to be on the list for divorce party ideas until joint divorce parties set a new trend. Certainly this isn’t the right idea for most divorced couples, but billionaire Charles Bronfman and his ex-wife, Bonnie, threw an extravagant party for themselves that rated a divorce party article in The New York Times and placed the joint-divorce-party idea front and center.
The Bronfman party brought a sense of respectability to what had been publicly viewed as something only for rockers and movie stars, e.g., musician Jack White and his supermodel ex-wife Karen Elson.
Divorce Party Themes
when you start to accumulate divorce party ideas, you'll notice that choosing the right location is significant, because the location sets the tone for the entire event. If children from the divorce are living in your home, your home is off-limits for the venue. Your children are not experiencing the same emotions that you are and should be kept totally away from the party and the planning.
The home of a friend can be a great location for a small group wanting privacy. Restaurants and bars are also perfect places to throw parties and most establishments will have private rooms available if you don’t want to party in the public eye. A picnic ground with a campfire might be just the place to have a roast for your divorce party and simultaneously burn old love letters, pictures and mementos. Some ex-brides even throw the wedding dress in the bonfire.
Need some great ideas for themes for divorce parties? Try these:
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Big Fat Gypsy Divorce Parties – In the U.K., where 'Big Fat Gypsy Weddings' are all the rage, the 'Big Fat Gypsy Divorce' is a popular divorce party theme.
New Bachelorette Divorce Party Ideas – Read over a dozen great ideas for divorce party themes from a professional party planner.
Divorce Party Planners – These popular ideas are from all over the U.S.
Then there's the 'Baby Shower Divorce Party' theme, made famous by Kim Kardashian upon divorcing her second husband Kris Humphries.
Kim Kardashian combined her divorce party with a baby shower on June 2, 2013, as her divorce was (finally) finalized from basketball star Humphries.
The multi-million-dollar wedding and 72-day marriage had been dangling in divorce court since October 31, 2011. Now resolved, it came within weeks of Kim’s delivery of a baby girl with new romance (now husband #3), rapper Kanye West.
The Baby Shower/Divorce Party was announced with lavish invitations which were music boxes playing a lullaby.
There's also the 'Divorce Anniversary Party' for those who need a little more time to enter the celebration phase of their new single lifestyles.
Katie Holmes received her divorce from Tom Cruise in less than two months after she filed papers in 2012.
A year later on the one year anniversary of the divorce, Katie threw a lavish divorce party on the July 4th weekend at a posh Manhattan hotel.
Grazia magazine reported that the event was for all of Katie’s friends “to thank them for their support throughout a momentous year.”
Divorce Party Favors and Decorations
The selection of divorce party decorations and favors has mushroomed in the past few years due to increasing demand. There are invitations, divorce cards, and even wrapping paper made especially for this milestone event.
There are divorce party favors and decorations for every personality and you are sure to find the ones that make just the right statements for you. Just looking through the online party catalogs can be a party in itself and is a guaranteed, amusing experience.
Pictures of divorce party favors, cards and invitations that you find online can also be printed from your home computer and used to decorate the party tables and the party room. (Save a few for your party scrapbook, too!)
More than anything, the decorations you choose will say to all that you've been through a lot, but have not lost your sense of humor.
Remember that party favors are the take-away gifts for your guests. Choose divorce party favors which will enhance the event and be appropriate for your guest list.
Divorce party favors can also be used as cake toppers. Although bakeries in major metropolitan areas are now offering cakes specifically for divorce parties, you can make your own with the right divorce party favor on top. Smaller party favors can be used for cupcakes and for decorating the hors d’oeuvre tray. If you are planning an elegant event, use party favors as napkin rings.
And don’t forget to look for a stellar divorce party favor to use for a table centerpiece.
Divorce Party Games
When you are choosing your party favors, you will also find divorce party games. Games are a great way to get the party started.
You can find dart boards printed with a picture of your ex, ex-spouse piñatas ready for bashing and the best-selling, divorce party game: ex-spouse Voodoo dolls.
Have a divorce Haiku contest; this is always good for laughs. A Haiku consists of three lines, as follows:
A custom which is trending in England is a ‘trash the wedding dress’ game. This photo is from a real divorce party game and the party was combined with a weekend camp-out.
Make a divorce party game of giving a divorce party toast or roast.
Let participants make a speech, read a poem, or sing a song. Whatever agenda you plan, be sure to include the Champagne or sparkling cider toast. Your marriage probably began this way and it is a symbolic way to close this epoch in your life.
Offer your guests the opportunity to give a toast and you’ll be rewarded with fond sentiments as you move forward in your life journey.
This toast to you is a fabulous way your guests can say: “You’re good to go – now on to the next chapter in your life story!”
Your local bakery probably has a lot of ideas for divorce cakes. Of course, you can always bake your own, too. Here are a few ideas to get you started:
Need more inspiration and great ideas? See 25 more divorce cakes.
Divorce Party Gift Ideas
Here are three great divorce party gift ideas for the new divorcée:
This is the book that can turn her life in the right direction:
And this is the perfect divorce party gift idea for the woman getting divorced after age 40:
The musical 'Divorce Party Las Vegas' opened at Bally's and is now touring the country. If it's featured near you, start your party with front-row seats for the live performance. Here's a preview video:
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Writer Fox (author) from the wadi near the little river on January 31, 2015:
Hi Peachpurple. Every divorce is different just like every marriage is different. Sometime couples make an amicable separation and sometimes they don't Most divorce parties, however, are held without the ex-spouse.
peachy from Home Sweet Home on January 30, 2015:
Wow it isamazing that western people can accept divirce party and cakes, here once you are divorce, both are arch rival eneMies like cats and dogs
Writer Fox (author) from the wadi near the little river on January 25, 2015:
Hi Susie: Thank you so much for your comments. I think some of these ideas are funny, too. Appreciate the vote and tweet!
Susie Lehto from Minnesota on January 09, 2015:
Writer Fox, I saw the title of this hub before (got a kick out of it) and intended to visit it someday. Now, is that day. This is not only funny, but it is interesting to read, and you have made it useful for people who are planning a divorce party. - Voted up and tweeted.
Writer Fox (author) from the wadi near the little river on December 31, 2014:
It sounds like you've moved on with your life quite well for 35 years, but if you feel like a party now I'm all for it. Just imagine all of the things you would not have experienced had you remained in a marriage that wasn't working out. The truly positive personality you have now might have never developed! Thanks for comment.
Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on December 31, 2014:
I love this!! I did not take my marriage litely by any means...I was desperately in love and then well things went south .... I have written about DIVORCE here on HubPages.
but if I had had more of a sense of humor rather than being bummed out it would have been much better. Is is too late to have one? I have been divorced since 1980??? This is good for all who need to move on!!!
Angels are coming your way ps
Writer Fox (author) from the wadi near the little river on October 23, 2014:
Hi Alicia, there are reasons why this is a good idea for some people. I'm glad you liked the list I gave.
Hi June, I think that whole family is in bad taste! They surely make a lot of money for not really having any talent, though. I also thought the baby/shower divorce party was a little sleazy.
Hi Sally, I know that this idea for a party isn't for everyone. But, don't be surprised if you are invited to one someday.
Sally Gulbrandsen from Norfolk on October 19, 2014:
How sad is that - one wonder why people bother to get married at all. I would prefer to spend the money on something really tasteful rather than a tacky Divorce party. There is no fun in Divorce - there are only losers - it affects every person who knows or loves the couple - seems to me that this is just adding salt to the wound - there I said it, just my opinion.
June Campbell from North Vancouver, BC, Canada on October 19, 2014:
Gr eat ideas and I think divorce parties are just fine. The Kardashian divorce/baby shower combo reeks of bad taste though.
Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on October 19, 2014:
This is an interesting hub, Writer Fox! I especially like the opening section. You give some excellent reasons for why a divorce party could be right for some people.
Writer Fox (author) from the wadi near the little river on October 19, 2014:
Hi Flourish: I liked the divorce cakes pictures, too, and started a Pinterest board for the many others I found. Thanks for the pin!
Hi Jodah: I read your 'Dearly Beloved' article. What you are describing there is a divorce ceremony, which has also become popular and people who have those also tend to have their children there, too. Thanks for the comment and the vote.
John Hansen from Gondwana Land on October 19, 2014:
Divorce is so common now Writer Fox that it's only natural people should celebrate with divorce parties. Good tips and suggestions. I wrote a hub called "Dearly Beloved" that has a suggested divorce ceremony vow. Interesting read, voted up.
FlourishAnyway from USA on October 18, 2014:
What a fun and original way to celebrate a bittersweet occasion. I especially enjoyed those photos of cakes and your suggestions for activities. I have never been divorced but know plenty of others who have. I will definitely pin this one.