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The Dilemma of Love and Regret: Moral Story

Writing is my passion. I have an undying thirst and quest in the field of writing. Some eat, drink, or use drugs when stressed; I write.

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The moral of my story begins when I was twenty-one years old and married a young man whose smile shone like the sun. Not only did he have a smile that filled my heart, but he also had a personality that stood out from the crowd. He was a down-to-earth guy with a loving heart, the kindest, most caring man you could ever meet.

Fate brought us together. We spent our lives together in a way most people can only dream possible. Helping other people made him happy, and he did that because he thought it was the right thing to do.

The guy of my dreams. His heart was just so big that he would give his last dollar to a stranger if it would help. Many things about him were exceptional, but his wonderful character stood out the most. He was glib, resilient, and handsome like no other man, and He was everything a woman could ask for and more.

Despite this, knowing he was my protector made me resistant to pain and fear. And being deeply loved by him made me strong. He was and always will remain the love of my life and the only man I have ever felt comfortable placing my life in his hands.

I felt blessed to talk with him about anything. Whenever a problem arose in our lives, he knew how to solve it. My life changed forever when he left the Earth. What a gift from God he was, and I will forever cherish his sunny disposition and that bright smile.

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As soon as I met my soul mate, I realized fairy tales do come true. When we were kids, he had a big crush on me. I thought it was crazy. What are the chances of me meeting him again? It has been a dream come true to see Him and create something beautiful after many years.

When I was nine, I remember visiting my aunt on the 4th of July, and we were grilling outside. He used to follow me around, and he would tell me how much he wanted to give me the world. Someone who seemed odd and not what I was looking for in a mate was not someone I could see myself dating. It was not until I met him again via TGI Friday. I did not recognize him. When he saw me sitting at the table, he somehow recognized me.

A year after we started dating, we got married, and we have a beautiful daughter. Most people could only dream of living a life like ours. Nevertheless, life has its ups and downs because I received a call one morning informing me that my mother was in the hospital. I couldn’t get dressed fast enough to get into the car to see my mother. Upon arriving at the hospital, I learned my mother had suffered a stroke.

The thought of how she could have a stroke and why it happened out of the blue filled my mind with questions. Her doctor just gave her a clean bill of health at her regular checkup.

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It is hard for me to understand how to react to someone who appears healthy and strives to change the world, like my mother. Also, I don’t know how to think or feel about her. All I could think about was what I would do if she didn’t make it.

As I think back to our last conversation, she must have realized she served her purpose. Her phone call was her way of saying goodbye. I will never forget this conversation, even though we talk a lot on the phone.

I think it’s best to see the last phone call as our ultimate connection, as it shows she wants me to move forward. She wanted me to stand on my own two feet, but I did not do so for many months.

I am grateful for everything my husband has done for me. I cried on his shoulder many times while he reassured me that everything would be okay. Two years after the same tragedy, moving on and living my life as they would have wanted was difficult.

It terrified me when my husband fell out of bed shaking. The doctor diagnosed him with a heart attack after taking him to the hospital. What can one do when the same tragedy occurs without warning?

Just like my mother, he did not show any sign that he was ready to go home. It devastated me to lose him. He was a workaholic who put a lot of time into helping others. But he lived a healthy life.

While it felt like He was overdoing it, helping others was His passion, and I had no power to stop him. The doctor told me that my husband had passed away, and I could not believe it. I sobbed. “What?” What, what? “I am sorry your husband did not make it,” he repeated, and I screamed, “NO!”.

I tried to leave the room to get some fresh air, but I passed out before opening the door. Even though I don’t know how long I was unconscious and unaware of my location when I regained consciousness, my sister kept telling me that everything would be fine, but I knew otherwise.

Never in my life have I felt so alone. I remember thinking that. Am I going to be okay without him? As a result, I had a genuine need for Jesus and did not know how I could go on living. As I was thinking about how this could have happened again, I felt devastated and incredibly emotional.

The pain of one person should not be so great. My greatest fear was that I would be the next to die when my husband died. You know that no matter how much pain you have experienced, there will always be a special guy out there who will find you, waiting to heal all your pain.

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Nearly a year after losing my husband, I met this guy, a gem of a person; if only it had been at a different time, we might have been together forever. I could not have asked for more in a man.

He was one of those “idea men” who seemed to only exist in a storybook as the “knight in shining armor” type. My heart had not yet healed, and I felt everything I loved would leave me.

Therefore, I was incapable of loving him, so I let him go. If only I could love another. Before, I broke up with a guy so significant to me. If I had met him at a different time, my life would have been more fulfilling. Every time I walk in the wrong direction, he guides me back in the right direction.

I was the customer service manager at a retail store. I made sure the cashier had money and some change in the register. Also, I handle any problem that occurs. I even made sure they didn’t have too much money in the till. I requested backup cashiers to help when the lines were already too long.

This fantastic man came through the checkout line. I assisted with change. When I walk away to go to the customer service desk, He walks up to me and asks for my number. I continued to the customer service desk, and he walked up to me, and we chatted. He asked for my number, and I said we could talk later. As a manager, I work long hours, so I could not speak to him until the third time he called.

After we talk, he helps me get over a year of agony and depression. I felt an attraction to this extraordinary man as soon as our eyes met. He seems to feel the same way because he refuses to accept the word “no.”

Despite everything going on in my life, such a guy could love deeply, fully, and prodigiously. He helped me realize that no matter how many storms a person has weathered, they still have the choice to excel, and they can even decide to take a chance at love.

We went on a date and hit it off right away. Since then, we’ve stayed in touch almost every day. Also, he encouraged and assisted me in every way imaginable. He supported me as I went back to college to supplement my degree and further my career.

But most of all, he helped me realize that despite everything, love can be a complicated matter in our lives, and no matter how much a person has been through, they can also trust their heart and follow it courageously. At first, there was a great deal of uncertainty. No matter what happens, he made me believe that all would be well. The first date revealed him to be no ordinary guy.

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We both work long hours during the week, so we spend only a few weekdays together, but we spend every Sunday together. Every Sunday, we would watch the Honeymooner with Jackie Gleason.

The movie seemed odd to me at first, but after watching it with Him for a while, it became our movie, and I look forward to watching it with Him. He sometimes goes to a unique event that we can enjoy together like, a boat cruise with a celebrity like the O Jays or Luther Vandross.

He was a D.J. and had almost any CD you could imagine. At first, I wasn’t aware of his passion for music. He was very good at chess, and he loved to play it. It was a game that comprises strategies and using your brain.

Six months after we shared our lives, I stomped my toe and broke it. I was off work for almost a year. He knew I was on Worker’s comp, but he was a wonderful person. He came to my house to see what I needed and helped me.

He surprises me with a traveler’s check for three thousand dollars and asks me if that’s enough for the month. It was more than enough. Also, he brought me groceries, and it was the food I loved. When I was sad or having problems in life, He would call like he knew I needed Him.

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He was patient and loving to me and waited for me for several years. Truth be told, what I have learned from this regretful experience is that finding the right person to spend the rest of your life with is the most rewarding achievement, but the person must come at the right time to make a difference.

Occasionally, a person can find the right person at the wrong time. A similar thing happened to me. In no time at all, I realized he was someone I could count as a friend. Over the years, he was always there whenever I needed him.

Although he knew my feelings for him, he was still everything I needed him to be until the day he expressed he could no longer be my friend.

He wanted a relationship, which I couldn’t provide. Many of you will agree with me saying I should have jumped at the chance to be happy with such a wonderful man, but after losing two people so dear to me, I could not think of losing anyone else close to me. Love was frightening to me. If I loved him, he would leave me, too.

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Through the heartbreak, I realized the moral of the story is I wished I had been the person I am now. Because if I was. I would have been mature enough to know that a relationship failed, not just because the person entered your life at the wrong time. Fear also breaks relationships.

You cannot have a successful relationship if your heart is closed to love. I was incapable of loving the way he needed me to. The fear of losing him took its toll on me, and my heart could not handle it.

Although some stories of love and regret are not as heartbreaking as mine. True love is to love selflessly and wholeheartedly, not in a fairytale way.

Although fairytale love is not real, people can take part in the fantasy of fairytale love. If you find the right person, you may not be mentally stable to commit to him or her, or you may not be willing to offer a part of yourself - what they will need from you.

The True Love Quiz. Do You Want A Reliable Answer To The Question "Are You In Love?" Then Look No Further. This Test Will Give You The Answer You Are Looking Fo

For each question, choose the best answer for you.

  1. When You Are With Him/Her, What Do You Think Of Most?
    • How Much Fun He/She Is To Be Around
    • What You Could Do With Him/Her Next
    • How Fit/Hot/Gorgeous/Sexy He/She Is
    • What You Would Be Doing At Home
  2. When You Look Into Each Others Eyes For A Second Longer Than Natural You Think...
    • How Nice His/Her Eyes Are
    • Back To When He/She Last Made You Sad And Realize It Doesn't Matter
    • How His/Her Eyebrow Need Plucking
    • How His/Her Eyes Seem To Highlight The Tone Of His/Her Skin Perfectly
    • How Easy It Would Be To Fall Into His/Her Arms And Melt
  3. True Love Is...
    • Exactly What I Want
    • Exactly What I Need
    • A Bonus
    • Exactly What I Have
    • Out Of The Question
  4. You Go Out For A Meal And Your Partner Forgot To Bring Money Although He/She Said They Would Pay. You...
    • Head Home Together And Whip Something Up Together
    • Don't Really Mind - You Brought Cash With You And Offer To Pay If He/She Pays You Back Later
    • Head Home - Separately
    • Aren't Really Listening - His/Her Eyes/Face/Hair/Looks Are Far Too Distracting
    • You Immediately Delve Into Your Savings And Pay For It All Insisting That He/She Needn't Pay You Back
  5. You Would Usually See Them...
    • Most Of The Time, But Give Them Space If They Need It
    • Whenever They Wanted To See You
    • Every Single Second Of Every Single Day
    • Never
    • When You Are Both Free

Scoring

Use the scoring guide below to add up your total points based on your answers.

  1. When You Are With Him/Her, What Do You Think Of Most?
    • How Much Fun He/She Is To Be Around: +0 points
    • What You Could Do With Him/Her Next: +0 points
    • How Fit/Hot/Gorgeous/Sexy He/She Is: +0 points
    • What You Would Be Doing At Home: +0 points
  2. When You Look Into Each Others Eyes For A Second Longer Than Natural You Think...
    • How Nice His/Her Eyes Are: +0 points
    • Back To When He/She Last Made You Sad And Realize It Doesn't Matter: +0 points
    • How His/Her Eyebrow Need Plucking: +0 points
    • How His/Her Eyes Seem To Highlight The Tone Of His/Her Skin Perfectly: +0 points
    • How Easy It Would Be To Fall Into His/Her Arms And Melt: +0 points
  3. True Love Is...
    • Exactly What I Want: +0 points
    • Exactly What I Need: +0 points
    • A Bonus: +0 points
    • Exactly What I Have: +0 points
    • Out Of The Question: +0 points
  4. You Go Out For A Meal And Your Partner Forgot To Bring Money Although He/She Said They Would Pay. You...
    • Head Home Together And Whip Something Up Together: +0 points
    • Don't Really Mind - You Brought Cash With You And Offer To Pay If He/She Pays You Back Later: +0 points
    • Head Home - Separately: +0 points
    • Aren't Really Listening - His/Her Eyes/Face/Hair/Looks Are Far Too Distracting: +0 points
    • You Immediately Delve Into Your Savings And Pay For It All Insisting That He/She Needn't Pay You Back: +0 points
  5. You Would Usually See Them...
    • Most Of The Time, But Give Them Space If They Need It: +0 points
    • Whenever They Wanted To See You: +0 points
    • Every Single Second Of Every Single Day: +0 points
    • Never: +0 points
    • When You Are Both Free: +0 points

Interpreting Your Score

A score of 0 means: ?

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Comments

Pam Morris (author) from Atlanta Georgia on December 03, 2017:

Thank you, Shyron for your reply. I think of Him a lot, but I think that ship sail. I will NEVER say we will not find our way back to each other because what's meant to be will come to reality. It's a saying that states, “If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. I could have pressed the issue as I knew how to keep Him in my life, but I chose not to, I respect his wish with one thing in mind if it meant to be we a find our way back to each other.

Shyron E Shenko from Texas on December 03, 2017:

Oh Pam, this is sad but beautiful that you found such a love, and I think of a saying I heard long ago "It is better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all!"

The true love test, I could not answer, the answers do not fit, I have been married to my soul mate for 35 years and I almost lost him in 2005 (Count Down to a Miracle) We both knew we were made for each other from the day we met.

If you ever get the chance to get him back, just turn him every which way but loose.

I wish you love and happiness. Blessings my friend.

Pam Morris (author) from Atlanta Georgia on December 03, 2017:

Thank you, Patty, for your reply, and I agree with you, it best to be alone to heal all wounds. That's the number one reason most peoples relationship doesn't work because they are not capable of being in it. They should take the time to be alone to heal; then they can enjoy and be in a relationship.

Patty Florence from Illinois on December 03, 2017:

Thanks for this article. I'm glad that things in your life are at the point where you understand and forgive yourself for what was at the time in the wrong. I think it is understandable and most women would have probably done the same thing. Sometimes being alone heals all wounds.

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