Break-ups hurt but your pity is over! Use my top tips to heal your broken heart
Breaking up with someone you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with is always heart-breaking! No one said it would be easy to move on but it has to be done because no one wants to be known as the “Stalker Ex Who Couldn’t Get Over It” Here is how…
SPEND TIME WITH LOVED ONES
When you are going through a rough patch, hanging out with people who care about you always helps. They remind you of the blessings you have in life, which you might overlook during your mourning period. The loved ones also tend to bring warmth and comfort because they why you are special, which is what you really need at this point.
HAVE FUN WITH FRIENDS
Our friends are the second most important people in our lives after our family, so they should know us very well. The words “it’s over” don’t mean your life is over – they simply means that you and your ex can’t be together anymore. So go to the movies with your friends, grab a milkshake with a friend or have a spa day with your friends. Creating new memories will help.
Take some time out to think: What makes you happy? What do you want in life? Should you start dating again or is it too soon? Evaluate yourself to find out where you go from here. The minute you have a plan, you will start feeling better because now you have direction and a new lease in life.
CHANGE IS GOOD
As the saying goes, change is as good a holiday! Try doing something different – cut your hair, learn a new skill or start a fresh hobby. Life has so many things to offer, and now is the time to learn and experience change.
ACCEPT THAT IT’S OVER
They say acceptance is the first step to recovery. The sooner you accept that it’s over, the sooner you can deal with it, get over it and move on. Make peace with the fact that you guys are not together. And try not to be mad at your ex: respect their decision and wish them well. After all, whatever is meant to be, will be.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!
Yes, your ex dumped you and you are allowed to feel sorry for yourself and lounge about in your PJs with unwashed, unbrushed hair while nursing your broken heart – but only for so long! Now is the time to look after yourself. When you look better, you feel better so channel your pain or anger into exercise.
Start with a simple walk around your neighborhood, then perhaps start jogging. Have a healthy diet, drink plenty of water and before you know it you will have a beautiful body – don’t do it to get your ex back, but …if he happens to see how you look, and regrets his decision, then that’s a bonus.
dashingscorpio from Chicago on November 23, 2018:
I would also add: Put Things in Perspective
One of the reasons many people find it so difficult to move on is because they believe their ex was "the one".
In order for (your ex) to have been "the one" he/she would have had to see (you) as being "the one". At the very least a "soulmate" is someone who actually wants to be with you!
In a world with over 7 Billion people rejection just means: Next!
Your future lies ahead of you and not behind you.
Every ending is a new beginning!
"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
- Oscar Wilde