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12 Relationship Advice for Men for a Successful Relationship

I've been through too many failed relationships and finally found the one. I enjoy writing about relationships and spiritual connection.

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Have you ever thought to yourself, that you may just have got it figured out when bam, your back at square one? Well, that is a perfect description when it comes to men and how they face relationships. They are often left shaking their heads in bewilderment as they embark on the roller coaster ride that is called a relationship. Wives, girlfriends, or partners tend to think that throwing a curveball or two at the men that are in their lives is a way to keep their men guessing, a way to keep guys interested.

The stress that is endured as they fight to keep their sanity is enough to cause more of an imbalance in the relationship. You see, guys spend all that time in school learning their ABC's and 123's, but little (if any) education is given to the one thing that matters most in life: building and maintaining relationships.

Most of the time when it comes to relationships, men are kind of afloat at sea without a sail and no engine to power their way back to the safety that is the shore. Men, mostly become totally reliant on their partner to steer them in the right direction, hoping that their partner's patience does not wear thin.

Guys in this article we are going to give you some advice. Starting from the beginning stage which is the dating stage all the way until you reach that pinnacle of a relationship known as the “better to be with than to be without” stage, also known as the toleration stage.

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Relationship Advice for Men for Their First Date

There are the usual standard bits of advice to planning and executing flawlessly on a first date. For example, "Don't be late" or "Go somewhere public so everyone feels comfortable," you know, that kind of advice.

But there are other things to take into consideration as times are changing and there are fewer and fewer stigmas behind specific actions. First date success will lead to more opportunities including a possible second date.

1. Don't mind splitting the bill

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Guys, it is a new age, and with the way that we are progressing as a society, there is a lot more to be said about inequality especially when it comes to dating.

Not saying that chivalry is dead but be open to the possibility that your date may want to pitch in and help with some of the expenses.

And guys, this by no means that you are not expected to pay for the date. It just means that if she offers to pay for half or a portion of the date, don't shoot her down initially. Politely refuse the first time, saying it is your pleasure, but if she insists allow her to pay a portion of the bill.

  • *A good tip is if she insists on to split the restaurant bill, tell her that she can pay for the next activity of the date. Aim to pay for the most expensive part of the date like dinner. Allow them the opportunity to pay for something else on the date. It could be drinks or movie tickets (even though a movie is not a good idea of a first date due to the amount of time that is wasted where you could both be talking and getting to know each other more).

2. Put away the phone

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The one sure way to show that you are disinterested is by constantly looking down at your phone. This is one is so obvious, yet as a society, we are so glued to our phones that we do it without even thinking about it. All attention should be placed solely on your date. No distractions. Put the phone away and leave it be. Same goes for your date, if she is continually looking down at her phone, consider this date the last one.

3. Don't talk too much

Talking is essential especially on a first date. Talking and getting to know one another is necessary especially for setting up that sometimes elusive second date. But if you are the one doing all the talking and not letting her get in a word edgewise, or worse, she keeps looking at her phone, consider this date the last one.

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4. Don't be too pushy

Try to make plans but if they don't work out, be understanding. Also, if there is something that you may want to do but your date is not as exciting, choose another activity. You don't want to come off as too controlling and demanding.

5. Allow her time for her friends

This is a big one, even if she would rather spend time with you. Encourage her to spend time with her friends minus you. It will give her time to miss you and really look forward to the next time you are going to see each other.

  • Here's a tip: For extra points plan a spa day for her making sure to include her friends. Set up the appointment and plan the day's activities yourself. It will make for quite an impact on not only her but her friends too.

6. Be willing to plan out the date completely

As the relationship blossoms and gets closer to "Facebook Official," occasionally, plan the date out entirely with no input from her. If it is a success, it will show that you are not only spontaneous but capable of planning a good time.

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7. Share you feelings

Share your feelings especially the ones that may be uncomfortable to share

Ok, guys, you are past the point of holding back saying certain things for fear that you will not get another date. Be true to your feelings especially when it comes to stating your actual opinions. This is the time that you get to know each other even more, before possibly making a commitment for life.

8. Maintain friendships

Very important. You cannot expect your friendships to come to a sudden halt once your relationship becomes serious. That is a recipe for a very lonely individual in case the relationship does not work out. You guys are all about each other. You are around each other every second of every day, but there needs to be some downtime somewhere even if the planned activities include other couples. Make time to maintain those past friendships so that may continue, into the future.

9. Listen

I don't think we need an explanation for this one.

For Men who are Married

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10. Make date night a priority

Guys, this one is tough. Especially when it comes to trying to balance a career, kids, and everything else that is a part of our daily routine. But time together is important, even if it is just sitting in a parking lot, the two of you, enjoying yes, the silence. It allows you to reconnect with your spouse. Time to recharge. So that way you can attack another crazy week of "adultness" together.

11. Let her know that you are thinking about her

This should be done every day without fail. It could be from lipstick messages on the bathroom mirror, to a ton of NSFW text messages sent throughout the day. Keep it fresh! Keep it fun. Keep it exciting.

12. Remember the little things

Remember the last time you were looking at what color to paint the living room? Do you remember the color she liked? If you can answer this with confidence, then you get it. If you can recite back things she had mentioned, especially if she doesn't think you were listening, would get you bonus points.

Quotes on Relationship Advice for Men

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The wisdom from quotes are the best place to learn from people who have been there, done that; all summarized into the essence of relationship.

We have to recognize that there cannot be relationships unless there is a commitment unless there is loyalty unless there is love, patience, and persistence.

— Cronel West

The purpose of a relationship is not to have another who might complete you but to have another with whom you might share your completeness.

— Neale Donald Walsch

You don't really need someone to complete you. You only need someone to accept you completely.

— Unknown

You don't develop courage by being happy in your relationships every day. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.

— Epicurus

It's no good pretending that any relationship has a future if your record collections disagree violently or if your favorite films wouldn't even speak to each other if they met at a party.

— Nick Hornby

The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.

— Thomas Merton

If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you're allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.

— Shannon L. Alder

The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.

— Thomas Merton

Summary

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A relationship needs a foundation to start. It starts with confidence. Confidence in yourself to be able to ask her to go on a date with her. As the relationship grows, the confidence grows with it and turns into more of an understanding and a support role, followed by patience, lots of patience. Then the feeling of "I think I am in love," then becomes "I really can't live without them."

Comments

Muriel B Tewes (author) on March 01, 2020:

True. Thanks for your input. It is often painful but essential lessons to get attracted to bad boys and eventually we learnt to find the one that suits us, not the dark handsome mystery type.

dashingscorpio from Chicago on February 23, 2020:

Sound advice.

We cannot ignore the fact that there is no one size fits all. It's important to listen and learn about the specific person you're dating. What turns one person on another may find offensive.

Truth be told there are women who go for the complete opposite type of guy. Almost everyone has heard "nice guys finish last".

On the other hand no one has ever heard of the lonely "bad boy", "player", "jerk", "a-hole", or "narcissist". Is that a coincidence? No!

Being aloof, "cool", full of confidence/swagger turns some girls on.

Many women actually go through a "bad boy" phase.

You could stick such a woman in a room with five guys and have four of them drop to their knees extending their heart towards her while the 5th guy sits in a corner sipping on cocktail acting as if she does not exit. That will be {the guy} she wants to get to know!

She sees him as being a "mystery", a "challenge" he'll make her earn his attention and affection, and if she learns other women desire him it makes his stock rise that much more. She has to prove to herself that she can win him over.

Not knowing where she stands or what he thinks both (frustrates and fascinates) her at the same time.

Any "nice guy" she meets will get placed in her "friend zone".

He'll be the shoulder she cries on and ask him for dating advice or insight for how to get her "jerk of a boyfriend" to treat her better.

Some women have to "evolve" in order to appreciate the qualities and traits mentioned in this article. Timing matters!

However what is most important is to be true to yourself.

If you or your mate has to change your "core being" in order to make a relationship 'work" you're probably with the "wrong person". It's a two way street, make she is "the one" for you.

Most people want to be loved and appreciated for who (they) are. Generally speaking people don't change unless (they) are unhappy. Know yourself, Love yourself, Trust yourself.

Life is too short to be trying to change water into wine.

The goal is to find someone who (already is) what you want.

Compatibility trumps compromise.

Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!

"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

- Oscar Wilde

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