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Career Homemaker-Choosing To Be A Stay At Home Wife-Even Without Children!

Philosophical Writer and YouTube Creator covering the topics of Simplicity, Homemaking and the Romantic Vintage Lifestyle.

Career Homemaker-Choosing To Be A Stay At Home Wife-Even Without Children!

Career Homemaker-Choosing To Be A Stay At Home Wife-Even Without Children!

Why Be A Homemaker Even If You Don't Have Children?

The term stay at home mom (SAHM) suggests that the sole reason a woman is working at home is due entirely to the children. Being the husbands helpmate may not even enter the equation, also the virtuous work of performing household tasks may not be considered important. Saying that one is a stay at home wife, stay at home mom, or housewife does not capture the essence of the work involved, as the women is not merely "staying at home". She is working hard as a Career Homemaker.

If a woman says she is a homemaker, it is commonly assumed there are children. A married couple may be waiting to have children, unable to have them, or their children may have grown and left the nest. However, with no children in the home, there should be some extra time for a part time home business or volunteer work. Still much work needs to be done to create an environment of rest, serve meals, manage paper work, clean the home, and handle other domestic tasks. You don't have to live your life in the 1950s time era to validate your choice to work as a homemaker.

Career Homemaker (Stay at Home Mom or Wife)-Video by Rain San Martin

The Key Benefits of Working as a Homemaker

  • No fighting about whose responsibility it is to look after household duties.
  • A women usually takes on the lion's share of the household duties, even when both have a full-time job outside of the home because of her natural instincts and gifting in this area, yet it can cause resentment and extreme burnout!
  • Less stress = better health.
  • You can devote adequate time toward making a serene and decluttered environment, creating a home that feels like a bed and breakfast or vacation getaway.
  • Your husband will feel respect as the head provider.
  • By working as a homemaker: Your husband is freed up from the responsibilities of the household so that he can focus on being the best provider he can be. This may include having time to work on his dream business.
  • Time to pursue a part time home based business or do volunteer work.

Lisa Minner McLemore, wrote the following on a blog entitled, "YDU: Being a Stay at Home Wife is a Job":

"I decrease his stress by being at home to take on errands and housework so that he doesn’t have to do it when he gets home. If I was also out all day, more of the burden of housework would have to fall on him when he got home."

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

Genesis 2:18

“By working as a homemaker, your husband is freed up from the responsibilities of the household so that he can focus on being the best provider he can be.”  -Rain San Martin

“By working as a homemaker, your husband is freed up from the responsibilities of the household so that he can focus on being the best provider he can be.” -Rain San Martin

Homemaking is for the Frugal, Not Just for the Wealthy

Many families with children are realizing that they can't afford childcare. When factoring in all of the costs, working outside of the home can easily cost a full time lower middle class income, making the choice to work outside of the home, a wash financially.

  • $600 - minimum cost of daycare-per child
  • 2nd vehicle- Even if the car is paid off, there will be thousands of dollars per year in gas, insurance and maintenance costs.
  • Business wardrobe
  • Eating out during lunch (unless you pack a lunch)

There is also a hidden cost to the children, they are often sleep deprived as they have to wake and leave their homes at the crack of dawn, so they can be driven to day care or their before-school activities. Also their nutrition is not a closely monitored.

As a Homemaker, Manifest a Reputation of Diligence-Work Hard and Avoid Laziness!

"She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness."

Let your work ethic be paragon of diligence when you manage the home, work on your home business, or perform volunteer work. Tackle your to-do list with diligence and vigor. Are you available for recreation or internet surfing at all times of the day? Or do you guard your time well? Lessons from the public work place should be applied at home. Set times for brakes and lunch, yet these will be far more flexible when you work from home. Even in the office employee's may often fritter away their time chatting when they should busy working, set a higher standard. When you work, use all of your spirit, when you rest truly relax. Work hard, then "play hard" in its proper time.

The stereotype of a women staying at home and frittering away her time watching soap opera's (or in today's world doing non-productive recreational excessive internet surfing) was created by women who mismanaged their time. More than any other profession, the time spent working at home should have clear boundaries between recreational activities and work time. That work time may be spent housekeeping, in home-management, or with a home based business.

Have a joyful spirit in all you do, and bless others with your positive nature. Neighbors, your husband, and children are observing you daily, set an example with your lifestyle. Whatever your circumstance know that homemaking is important even if you don't feel appreciated.

“Let your work ethic be paragon of diligence when you perform household duties, work on your home business, or perform volunteer work.” -Rain San Martin

“Let your work ethic be paragon of diligence when you perform household duties, work on your home business, or perform volunteer work.” -Rain San Martin

Managing Your Time as a Homemaker, Stay at Home Wife or Stay at Home Mom-Audio Podcast

Part Time Business Within the Home

"She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes." (Proverbs 31:24)

If you don't have children most likely you will have time to begin a home based business. Why not work part-time out side of the home? Often working outside of the home will greatly increase your monthly expenses with two cars, business wardrobe and for some, eating out.

If children are in the home, you have the choice to manage your time in such a way, as to allow for a part time home business.

A woman who chooses to work as a full-time homemaker with a part-time business, can still achieve incredible feats. Only the speed at which the success can be realized will be slower, as in the story of The Tortoise and the Hare. Consistency is the key. There is nothing stopping you from creating and marketing, remarkable works that will last the test of time. However it's not required of the homemaker to go down this path.

"the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers {or keepers at home}, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed."

-Titus 2:3-5

Stay At Home Daughters

Some families encourage their daughters to focus on a homemaking apprenticeship rather than investing in career skills based outside of the home. Rather than going into debt with a college degree or gaining experience in the workplace they study the craft of cooking, childcare, sewing, and may participate in volunteer work. They focus on living out the scripture of Titus 2:5.

Conclusion

There are many ways to live out the life of a Career Homemaker, choose a path that works for you and your family.

© 2013 Rain San Martin

Comments

Rain San Martin (author) from Fort Wayne on November 16, 2018:

For this route it is recommended the daughter complete high school. Have continual self education, yet not take on the debt of a college degree.

Sherry Hewins from Sierra Foothills, CA on November 12, 2018:

The one part of this I take issue with is the "stay at home daughters" section. It seems to be saying that educating your daughters is a waste of money. If a daughter chooses that kind of like for herself, that's fine. However, if she hasn't seen what her choices are, that's not really a free decision. Educating you children is not a waste of money.

Rain San Martin (author) from Fort Wayne on December 17, 2016:

I know your insight will help others. Thank you for sharing your experience.

Serena7 on October 21, 2016:

I was raised with the example that the man provides, the woman may do everything else (haha), but the man provides for and protects his wife.

When we married he worked full time and me about 30 hours. Something was missing. I didn't feel protected and sheltered. In fact I was feeling more like a roommate than a wife. My husband was feeling himself that he wasn't quite fulfilling the role he set out to when he asked me to marry him.

We made a few changes including relocating to an area where it was less costly to live.

I freelance very part time, but he takes care of the earning. I do all of the housework, errands, phone calls, bills, cooking, etc. I wouldn't have it any other way. As for whether or not people have an issue with me being at home, I couldn't tell you. Live and let live, is the way I see things. Women's liberation has basically enclaved many women, and found men confused as to their role.

Rain San Martin (author) from Fort Wayne on July 26, 2016:

It's unfortunate that today's homemakers have to explain the work they do each day. If Stay at Home Mom's or Stay at Home Wife's would state their career choice with confidence (possibly educating the listener with the work they do), it really would make a difference. Keep up your good work.

Michelle How on July 26, 2016:

Refreshing to read. I feel like I'm not worthy of my home making title (never a SAHM) even as a mum as my children are now at school. "What do you do all day, everyday?" I now volunteer at my local hospice just to have something to say. I do enjoy it but I also enjoy.my work at home.

Rain San Martin (author) from Fort Wayne on September 19, 2015:

Amy, I am so grateful that you have shared this testimony. May you continue to be blessed and bless others as a Career Homemaker!

Amy on September 18, 2015:

A career homemaker. I love it. I have been struggling with wanting to continuing to be a homemaker now that my kids are grown. My husband is very supportive of me being a career homemaker but i was letting what others might think make me feel like I should work outside my home. Thank you for this site. I feel that I can put to rest this issue and truly enjoy my career as a homemaker.

Rain San Martin (author) from Fort Wayne on February 20, 2015:

Elisabeth, Thank you for the testimony. Your homemaking work makes the world a better place.

Rain San Martin (author) from Fort Wayne on February 20, 2015:

Tara, I absolutely agree a woman should work on developing her own job skills and continually study (which can also mean online training, book reading or a home business). Also a boy should be trained in homemaking tasks.

Elisabeth on February 20, 2015:

My husband works between 50 and 70 hours per week. I handle all of the cooking, errands, and housework. He does not have to lift a finger when he comes home after a long day. I enjoy being able to care for the house that he is paying for.

Tara Lawson Stand from Bronx, New York on February 19, 2015:

This is an insightful post for sure. I am considering transitioning from full time work to being the CEO of our household. That being said, I worry when people discourage women and girls from getting an education. There are very few guarantees in life, a husband may divorce you, he may be laid off for long periods of time, retirement savings may not be adequate, etc. No one can take away your degree. While it doesn't guarantee a job, it does guarantee options. I have and use my engineering degree, but my marketability, salary, and wonderful husband gives me the option of working or being a homemaker. My husband works in real estate and got laid off twice during the real estate crisis - during which I worked full time and he was the CEO of our household. If our family had to rely only on him, all four of us would be living with my in laws. I love celebrating the homemaker, but I also think that the education of boys and girls, women and men should be celebrated as well.

Lisa Martin on January 29, 2015:

This is an awesome post! I too am a stay-at-home wife....no kids. When I worked outside the home, I had trouble managing the household. Now, I feel a greater sense of balance. Homemaking is definitely work! I have a blog too...www.talesofamodernhomemaker.com. I will definitely put a link on my site to yours. Keep up the great writing!

Lisa

Rain San Martin (author) from Fort Wayne on June 24, 2014:

Cris, I felt the pull to communicate that Homemaking is not only for "Stay at Home Mom's". Thank you.

CrisSp from Sky Is The Limit Adventure on June 23, 2014:

I love this article! I always wanted to be a housekeeper since I started working at the age of 16. I wish to retire soon from my career without affecting my productivity and this hub says it all.

You're right, usually when we speak of homemakers, we generally think of housewives with kids. I like your perception of it.

Nice pictures. Good inspirational hub.

Rain San Martin (author) from Fort Wayne on April 08, 2014:

I love hearing this! It's considered radical these days, yet there has been an order set in place by God to yield peace and fulfillment. Your part-time home business work will give you the flexibility to be a helpmate to your husband.

"To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed." (Titus 2:5)

thefedorows from the Midwest on April 08, 2014:

What a breath of fresh air! Thank you for sharing your perspective. I am recently a stay at home wife, without children yet, looking for part-time work online. When I had to quit my job due to transportation challenges I was concerned I might not use my time at home well. But having extra time in the morning with the Lord is amazing! Having so much "me" time to actually do the things I enjoy and serve my husband by keeping our house in order so he doesn't have to do those things when he comes home is a blessing!

Rain San Martin (author) from Fort Wayne on February 21, 2014:

I appreciate it. Sometimes timeless principles, as in the art of homemaking, get forgotten over time.

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 21, 2014:

Career Homemaker-Choosing To Be A Stay At Home Wife-Even Without Children is a helpful and informative hub.

Rain San Martin (author) from Fort Wayne on October 02, 2013:

Exactly, that's why having a side business or meaningful volunteer work is so important. Having a life purpose goal in addition to the homemaking work, adds a sense of purposefulness to our everyday work. Thanks for your comment.

trailrunner7 on October 02, 2013:

This was a very encouraging article. I strongly agree that if it's financially possible, most married women will find great satisfaction and fulfillment working as a homemaker, even when her children are grown and out of the house. However, I do feel that women should have a creative outlet and goals that are her very own. We need to keep our own fires burning!

Rain San Martin (author) from Fort Wayne on September 04, 2013:

I hear you! That's a rough commute. I've experienced first hand what it's like to work-full time with a newborn baby, waking her at the crack of dawn to drive her to daycare, and having only a moment to care for the home and work on my lifetime goals.

Lady Summerset from Willingboro, New Jersey on September 04, 2013:

Greetings,

Your article brings to life the struggle that most of us mothers and wives who must work outside the home for financial and stability reasons. My mom and I were talking about how the woman being at home and available to her family enables a stability on the home front when done correctly. My time is split between a 2-hour/one way daily commute/work/commute/dinner/homework/husband/grandson. You are blessed to be able to enjoy this lifestyle.