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Six Easy Ways to Identify a Fake Friend

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The majority of us find it challenging to create and uphold healthy relationships with others but to maintain happiness and fulfillment in life, it is essential to have a loving and supportive family, spouse, and social network. In reality, it is impossible to experience only the positive aspects of life without encountering the negative ones. Being friends with toxic people is one of those common unpleasant factors of life. Mutual interest is the base of genuine relationships, while fake relationships are more concerned with taking advantage of the other. False friends are like fake relationships that treat you selfishly and dishonestly. They exploit your weaknesses by always flattering by doing so they try to take a favor from your side.

Fake friends are like shadows: always near you at your brightest moments, but nowhere to be seen at your darkest hour.

It is necessary to find out and break up with the toxic friend as soon as possible because it is detrimental to your overall well-being. There are several ways to identify false friends: the people who are constantly bringing you down.

1. They leave you in the hour of need

When you leave, true friends cry. Fake friends leave when you cry. If a friend rarely offers you support during difficult times, they are most likely not genuine. False friends act like shadows, appearing when things are going well and disappearing when things are going poorly. They see no benefit in being there for you or providing emotional support. When they offer assistance, it appears forced and unnatural.

2. They treat you disrespectfully

The foundation of close bonds like friendships is trust and respect. Respecting one another is essential for a long-lasting relationship. If a friend speaks negatively about you to their friends, it is clear that they do not respect you, and this is an indication of a false friendship. They insult you even though they know it will make you feel bad. If your friend continues to make jokes about you in front of other people, it is clear that they do not care about you or your friendship.

3. They are jealous of you

When you share the good news with someone, and they immediately respond with criticism or something unpleasant, that person is probably envious of you. The soundest way to gauge a friend's sincerity is to notice if they are glad for you in a genuine way. Certain people (false friends) are adept at concealing their true selves behind masks; it can occasionally be hard to know if he is glad for you or not. Because they do not want you to succeed much, the false pals have jealousy but they try to hide it. They are interested in being friends with you; since they can benefit from you.

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4. They are always in competition with you

If your friendship is healthy, your friends encourage you and view you as an inspiration. Friendships can occasionally contain a healthy amount of competitiveness however false friendships are frequently highly competitive; fake friends do so out of a sense of envy. You are not always be aware of it, but they view you as a rival and an enemy. Being superior to you is always their aim. They might always try to outdo you in the discussion, whether it is one-on-one or even in a group environment; they only want to appear superior to you.

5. They whisper negative things about you

Friendships last as long as no one talks negatively about you. If they do so then they are not friends, they are treacherous. If you find that one of your friends is gossiping about you, telling lies about you, or just generally trash-talking behind your back, they are not your real friend. Although they are speaking about you, their conversations behind your back reflect their personal lives and self-perceptions. And the sooner you accept and come to grips with that. The more you can forgive them and understand them, the simpler it will be for you to move on with your objectives.

6. They make you feel exhausted

If your friend only spreads negative energy, you should break up with them before their negative energy affects your mental health. Energy vampires frequently disguise themselves as your friends to bring you down. Exhaustion, headaches, stomachaches, and insomnia are the most common complaints from energy vampire victims. If you are unsure whether a fake friend is contributing to your fatigue or stress, try to avoid visiting them for a few days and then evaluate the difference.


Everyone has the right to be in the company of admirable and honorable people. You do not need to be friends with a lot of people to be happy since quality counts more than quantity. Some genuine people who understand you are enough. If you experience sadness, anxiety, or irritability after spending time with a friend, do not let those negative individuals get you down.

There is a famous quote that will help you to identify your fake friends,

Pay close attention to those that do not clap when you win.

After identifying, try to avoid your fake friends, and recognize when it is time to move on.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2022 S Saleha

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