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Single men over 40


Single men over 40

He's interesting, intelligent, well read, well educated, dressed with taste, knows how to attract women's attention. Finding a decent man is quite a challenge, they seem to hide somewhere or already taken. But what shall we do, women who is in search of their perfect man, to date with and to start a relationship with.

There are many reasons why men choose to be bachelors, some like the feeling of excitement, to live every day like it's the last day of your life, to be unpredictable, to be free in all senses.

Bachelor men have specific behavior which distinguish them from married men, in general it's not difficult for a woman to notice a signs of a bachelor.

Dear women if you doubt that you boyfriend is a bachelor, below is a list of sings of a bachelor, study it to be 100% sure of your choice.


How to Tell that a Guy is a Bachelor

  1. Look at his hands, check if there is a wedding ring, or maybe a tan line from a wedding ring. Some man do not wear a wedding ring in this case be attentive and listen to what he says.
  2. When a bachelor is looking at women he evaluates them, his foxy look makes him a hunter. These men look at women with a desire, with passion in eyes, like a leopard is hunt down his catch.
  3. Look at his clothes. If a guy is a bachelor it doesn't mean that he should wear dirty clothes, have untidy look, dirty nails, and smell bad, actually on the contrary. Nowadays bachelor look hot, dress stylish they take good care of themselves to attract women, so if a man looks hot this is a red flag.
  4. Listen attentively to what a man talks. Pay attention to some little details, things that can help you to get the hang of him, or to calm down and stop suspecting him in all sinful actings . Ask him a few controversial question and watch his reaction.
  5. If you have mutual friends ask them about his marital status. Find him in social media there can be a lot of useful information about him, his pictures, which can be a good source of additional information.
  6. They usually have tens of female friends, and feel relaxed in their presence.
  7. Bachelors are always flirty and ready to act, they know how to seduce a woman, what to say.

How to recognize a single man

"You can read it in his eyes. A single man is looking for a Ladylove. He seeks and waits around, evaluates women. Married man when he looks at a woman he's only looks at woman's face and figure. This is my opinion because I'm single." - Mike, 42.

"Most often a single man is dressed impeccably. But there is always some little thing that disprove it, it maybe a different color socks, or stain on the short-band, or something sticking out of his pocket, or are not neatly draped scarf. In general, everything is perfect, but there is a small flaw for sure." - Jessica, 38.

"In the bachelor house you will never find "accidentally" left lotion makeup remover, face cream, pink wisp of bast, lingerie, slippers ..." - Mat, 46.

"Single men immediately begin to praise themselves in conversation, how clever he is, his cooking skills, that he's a man in the house. They love to show off." - Sophia, 43.

"Bachelors are generally boring." - Katie, 41.

"You can see a single man by his behavior. He's never in a hurry, as opposed to a married man. He does not often look at the clock." - Emma, 47.

"If you propose to go to his house a single man does not hide from anyone, and he won't begin to invent a bunch of reasons for the refusal. After verification, you can dramatically remember that you have something to do, and to postpone it on indefinitely." - Erin, 44.

"A single man buys a toothbrush at the store. It has one cup, one spoon, one fork and one chair in the kitchen. It has devastated half a pack of ravioli and a half-eaten sausage in the refrigerator. He has a mountain of dirty dishes in the sink. He has a mountain of dirty clothes in the closet. He knows how to washing, to cook and mend. Although he does not like to admit it." - Alice, 55.

Hollywood's TOP 5 Bachelors


If at least a half of the points listed above describe your man, then you are dating an eternal bachelor. If you plan to get marry and have children someday, then you should immediately break up with this man, and not to waste your precious time. If he's 40 + and have never been married, maybe he has another plans for life and commitment and marriage are not an option for him.

Don't regret about the time you spent together, now you've got experience. I'm sure there are men who want to have a wife, to commit, to have kids and be happily married. You can try your luck online if you're tired or traditional way of meeting people, I'm a live proof of successful online dating.

Stay safe and believe in Love!


Dan Lema from Tanzania on July 02, 2014:

Very interesting article and well written, full of useful information....And i also loved the photo above of a family man versus single man......however not all men are predictable...

Amanda Jones (author) on July 05, 2013:

Kapilddit, thanks for stopping by my hub! All the best!

Neil Sperling from Port Dover Ontario Canada on July 04, 2013:

Walterpoon - What you look for - you will find. It appears to me you are tuned into and looking for the bad in people - may I suggest you try watching for and searching for the beauty in people... you will be amazed. There are way more beautiful people than jerks.... the jerks generally simply make more noise! Seek and ye shall find!

Poon Poi Ming from Malaysia on July 01, 2013:

AmandaJon, would you rather I tell you a lie then? What I am trying to say is "be aware". Do not think that this world is full of nice people. The truth is that nice people are more of an exception than a rule. But that's not to say that there are no nice people in this world. All I'm saying is that they are a minority.

Amanda Jones (author) on July 01, 2013:

I don't know maybe I was quick to say about “horrible people”, but I was shocked about your previous comment “one of my managers taught us how to take advantage of women”, that's why I said this.

Poon Poi Ming from Malaysia on July 01, 2013:

AmandaJon, I wonder how you jump to the conclusion of "to become one of those horrible people, to lie, to cheat to people you love". Shouldn't it be the other way round?

Poon Poi Ming from Malaysia on July 01, 2013:

I've no suggestions...

Amanda Jones (author) on July 01, 2013:

And want do you suggest? To Become one of those horrible people, to lie, to cheat to people you love?

Poon Poi Ming from Malaysia on July 01, 2013:

AmandaJon, beautiful people are a rare commodity these days... sweet nothing before marriage and nothing sweet after is all I frequently hear, LOL.

Amanda Jones (author) on July 01, 2013:

Guys thanks for your comments, if a man want to take advantage of a woman whether he's married or not he will do that. But as Neil said there are many beautiful people out there in the world.

Neil Sperling from Port Dover Ontario Canada on June 28, 2013:

Walter - there are a few jerks out there - but a very large percentage of the population are beautiful people.

Poon Poi Ming from Malaysia on June 27, 2013:

Neil Sperling: "The way to tell if a man is married or single is ask...."

Neil, when I first graduated and joined the construction industry, one of my managers taught us how to take advantage of women: "Never say you are married. Never give your contact number or if you do, give them a special number to call. If they ask a pointed question, just evade it by turning it into a joke." Some men are just born to take advantage of others.

Amanda Jones (author) on June 26, 2013:

Thanks for read my hub and for the comment, everyone has own opinion.

Neil Sperling from Port Dover Ontario Canada on June 26, 2013:

The way to tell if a man is married or single is ask.... there is no other way. All your points stereo type people into a round hole, when in reality things are more of a geometric design. People come in all shapes and sizes and character types. I'm with dashingscorpio on most of her comments.

Variety is the spice of life - that's why people are all different.

Amanda Jones (author) on June 21, 2013:

It's my personal thoughts and observations, actually it's really hard to tell in a man is a single indeed. Ladies be attentive and safe.

Poon Poi Ming from Malaysia on June 21, 2013:

Personally, I think it's hard to spot an amorous married man, pretending to be single. I've friends who have been living with married men for months before they found out the truth! Most of them got cheated because the men were living in another town. It may be worthwhile to get a private detective agency, if that's the case and you're really serious about him, but ask for the price first. You don't want to be saddled with a huge debt, just to find out the truth.

Tail the person, if he's living in the same town. Matthew 7:7: Seek and you will find.

Amanda Jones (author) on June 18, 2013:

Thanks a lot for your comment Prasetio, I'm glad you enjoyed my hub. feel free to read other hub, maybe you'll find something interesting for you.

prasetio30 from malang-indonesia on June 17, 2013:

Very inspiring hub and I hope to be those men in the pictures above...hahaha. Very well written and thank you very much for sharing with us. Voted up :-)


Amanda Jones (author) on June 17, 2013:

Hello Dashingscorpio, I agree that honesty is a key to happy and successful relationship, if both partners are honest about their future plans and expectations then their relationship are will be happy and healthy.

Amanda Jones (author) on June 17, 2013:

Nighthag, thanks for read and share it, glad you enjoyed it.

K.A.E Grove from Australia on June 16, 2013:

Its reads like this that make me so happy to be an old married lady.

a fun article that I have to share on and vote up!

dashingscorpio from Chicago on June 14, 2013:

Some people I suspect don't want to risk being part of a statistic. With a divorce rate hovering around 50% clearly suggesting as you stated there are no guarantees.

Bottom line all that really matters is (both people) are happy with their current status/future plans. If one wants marriage and the other one does not then they are not right for one another. At least George Clooney is honest up front about not wanting to get married again.

Amanda Jones (author) on June 14, 2013:

Maybe you will call me old fashioned, but i think that commitment and marriage are two inseparable things. If you commit then what stops you from marriage? I'm not saying that marriage is a guarantee but I don't see a problem to get marry if you two are crazy in love with each other.

dashingscorpio from Chicago on June 14, 2013:

AmandaJon, As far as I know George Clooney has never had a reputation for cheating in any relationship. Is (marriage) your definition of commitment?

Kurt Russell and Golde Hawn have lived together for (30 years) while Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries who were married split after (72 days)! Would you say Kim & Kris were "more committed" because they exchanged vows? I think (time) and how a couple behaves in their relationship is the only way to measure how committed they are. Awhile back I wrote a hub on this topic.

By the way unlike the other actors you have listed George Clooney is the only one has been married before. :-) https://hubpages.com/relationships/CommitmentWitho...

Amanda Jones (author) on June 14, 2013:

Thank you for browse my hub LadyLLD. George Clooney is a handsome man in his 50+ , men become better with age, but his not willingness to commit puts me off.

Amanda Jones (author) on June 13, 2013:

Thank you so much Eddy for your kind words! I really appreciate it.

Eiddwen from Wales on June 13, 2013:

A wonderful read and thank you for sharing. I now look forward to so many more by you.


Amanda Jones (author) on June 11, 2013:

Thanks for your comment. Nice to hear that I'm right, men are so predictable.

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on June 11, 2013:

I know of a bachelor and he is everything you say here interesting points here about to spot a bachelor

Amanda Jones (author) on June 10, 2013:

Hi Rose thanks for read my hub. I won't tell you husband that you read this hub. Feel free to read my other hubs hope you'll enjoy them.

Amanda Jones (author) on June 10, 2013:

Thanks a lot dashingscorpio , nice to hear from you. I agree with the saying that there is no"one size fits all” , I listed some general signs according to my own and other people observations, and of course it's much easier to ask straight if a person is married or single.

rose-the planner from Toronto, Ontario-Canada on June 07, 2013:

Now what would my husband say if he saw me reading this article, lol?!? This was great! I think I can still spot a bachelor a mile away........well, maybe. By the way, I totally love the images of all the gorgeous, eligible celebrity bachelors. I think they are all amazing, especially George Clooney! Thanks for sharing. (Voted Up) -Rose

dashingscorpio from Chicago on June 07, 2013:

Voted up! (Very interesting)

"if a man looks hot this is a red flag" LOL!

"7.Bachelors are always flirty and ready to act, they know how to seduce a woman, what to say."

I think some guys are bachelors because they (lack) these skills as well. :-)

Overall I would say there is no "one size fits all" when it comes to single men or women for that matter. Sometimes it's just as easy to ask a guy if he is married or dating someone or ask them if they could ever imagine themselves married. George Clooney for example has said many times publicly that he will never re-marry again. Oddly enough some women become even more determined to pursue him!

Once Annette Bening snagged Warren Beatty a world famous "lothario" at the ripe age of 54 it caught many by surprise and no doubt gave lots of women hope that they too could capture the heart of an "unobtainable" man. :-)

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