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Signs of Unrequited Love

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Loving Life

Coping with unrequited love can be distressing and can lead to depression if you do not avoid the clouded feelings you have for the other person. In life, you are faced with romantic feelings, lust, and falling head over heels for someone. Unfortunately, this love is not returned to you.

I call this unrequited love.

A love that is not returned and is from one side only. These strong feelings you have for that person can leave you feeling a lot of pain and grief.

This one-sided love can cause you confusion and is not emotionally clear. You love him/her or whomever you have met and they do not return those feelings making you feel unrewarded.

Longing for someone who is never there for you is not who you want in your life.

There is a mutual attraction, but for others who are in other relationships. You are not part of that relationship. You have this desire for your ex. Someone you no longer are with.

That person doesn’t want to have anything to do with you. The love you feel for someone isn't reciprocated.

In this love, you receive mixed signals. You later find out this love is unrequited. The only person making an effort is you and not the other person.

You reach out to call the other person to find out how they are doing and what is important is happening in their life. They do not call you ever to check up on your day.

When you are the only one finding out about the other person and they don't do any of that to you, it is an unrequited love you have there.

Two people care about each other, and find the time to see each other and connect. This is a sign of a mutual relationship. They have a healthy relationship. You connect with others and have a balanced relationship together.

People who reject others' feelings have guilt. These types are unreasonable, self-deceptive and are not reasonable lovers. Such people are not good lovers, instead are annoying lovers.

Physical Touch

You long for their connection, their touch or kiss and to hold hands in a grip. This is when you want to connect on a physical level, but do not get that from the other person.

Are you the one often initiating a physical touch?

It doesn’t go your way and you have the other person pulling away from you. A sign that you have a one-sided love. In unrequited love, you do not have a healthy situation. A perceived love relationship, whereby, one person puts the other above the other.

In a healthy bond in a relationship, you see the faults of each other, as in weakness or negative points.

Both can see their vulnerabilities and in unrequited love, the one who loves the other will be connected to that person. You won’t find a mutual relationship in unrequited love.

In healthy relationships, both take time to get to know one another and in unrequited love, one person will take time to know the other person.

The effort made by one person is enormous and the other person doesn’t show interest in anything such as hobbies and the likes and dislikes of the other person.

It takes time to heal from the heartbreak of unrequited love.

You can move on from that experience in the following ways:

Understand what and who you need in your life.

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The experience brings you to a point where you see for yourself what it is you want from a relationship.

This leads you to want a healthy relationship and one that is positive, and better for you and the other person.

Unrequited love leaves you feeling rejected because you invested your emotions in a one-sided love experience. They did not feel the same way making you feel down, and at a loss.

Such experiences make you question how worthy you are of others?

You feel that you are not normal, you feel you are not good enough, and that would be one of the reasons for your love not being returned.

The best option to get over the hurt is to keep occupied. Avoid thinking of that one-sided relationship.

It is a heartbreak, but you can treat this differently from other breakups. A busy mind leads you to focus on what is worth having in your life or who is worth having your life.

This is a way to go past that dwelling and negative thoughts that frequently pop up in your mind. Sometimes experiencing unrequited love can be a pattern for you.

A lot has to do with your childhood. In the way, you were raised and taught about love. You have learned and observed about love and as you grow older it affects you in those ways.

Everything begins at home and if you had bad parenting you are bound to have such experiences. Your emotional connection is weak when you have an unhealthy relationship with your parents.

In unrequited love, you feel drained and have less emotional energy.

Your sense of self longs for that love from the other person. To feel connected and to love one another. However, it doesn’t happen for you.

Sadness, anger, and depression can be part of an unrequited love break-up. It is time to seek professional help when you know coping is unbearable.

The signs of a struggle to get back to your life as in a daily routine. Depression hits its hardest. Negative feelings do not leave your mind. If you are having suicidal thoughts,

It hurts you to be in an unrequited relationship when you realize your love is not returned and you feel less connected to the other person.

This is crucial to you, to not take the other person’s feelings to heart. Something you could have missed about the other person.

For example, they have a problem with love. You have to accept their feelings and move on to other relationships. A mutual relationship is what you want, look for that elsewhere.

No one has the same feelings for each other.

Why do you fall in love with someone who does not reciprocate your love?

You admire someone and wish you could be together. As in having a crush on that person. In other situations, you see someone you think is perfect for you, but that person doesn’t see it that way.

Mixed signals are sent to one of you and that is not assured. Sometimes this happens when you enjoy those feelings.

If you are anxious about relationships you are most likely to experience unrequited love. Those who didn’t care for relationships experienced romantic relationships in idealizing it.

You can have a relationship that begins with a friendship, but will that person reciprocate your love?

Sometimes your love is never returned and you are with that person for your whole life.

Love is life


Unrequited Love

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2021 Devika Primić


Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on May 04, 2021:

MG Singh thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on May 04, 2021:

Mary Norton Thank you very much for stopping by. This can work both ways.

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on May 03, 2021:

It must be hard to feel unrequited love. I hope that the soonest one realizes the love is one-sided, the fastest she's out of it. Easier said than done.

MG Singh from UAE on May 03, 2021:

This is a nice article and very well written.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on May 01, 2021:

EK Jadoon Thank you kindly for sharing your views here. have a good Sunday.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on May 01, 2021:

Chitrangada Sharan I write a bit more on relationships through observations, and from what I have experienced in the past. Anything to do with love is always of interest to someone. I appreciate your comment thank you

EK Jadoon from Abbottabad Pakistan on May 01, 2021:

Love is a feeling and the one who is being loved can feel it easily. But this may be painful for the lover if the love is unrequited.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts DDE.

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on May 01, 2021:

A thoughtful article about unrequited love! Your articles on relationships are praiseworthy! I hope it will guide those, who are in a similar situation, to take the right decision about their love life!

Thank you for sharing!

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 30, 2021:

Nithya It is just that, painful and tragic. Thank you for comments.

Nithya Venkat from Dubai on April 30, 2021:

Unrequited love can be painful and tragic. A great article about unrequited love and how to overcome such a situation.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 30, 2021:

Peggy Woods I too think that about about the words of Misbah. Thank you very much for stopping by.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 30, 2021:

Bill Holland Thank you for sharing your views here. I appreciate that you stopped by and shared a comment. Unrequited love hurts the most when younger.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 30, 2021:

Pamela Oglesby Thank you for kind comments. Unrequited love is painful. When younger I think it hurts the most.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 30, 2021:

Misbah “ If you love something, let it go. If it returns, it’s yours; if it doesn’t, it wasn’t.

If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.” You are right! I have a watched a series called Love life and from that I decided to write about unrequited love. Thank you very much for sharing that

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on April 30, 2021:

Unrequited love can be very hurtful, especially if it is felt early in life. One example of that is the lack of love of a parent for their child. Sometimes therapy may be needed to help such a person recover. You have touched on a serious topic.

Misbah's words ring true. "If you love something, let it go. If it returns, it’s yours; if it doesn’t, it wasn’t.

If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.”

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on April 30, 2021:

I felt this when I was younger, but not for many decades now. I think you captured it perfectly, and I think we all can relate to many of the things you stated here.

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on April 30, 2021:

This is an interesting article and the emotions of a relationship where your love is not returned are well-explained by you. You went through all of those painful feelings very well. Thanks for sharing all of this information.

Misbah Sheikh from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on April 30, 2021:

This is a very nice hub, Devika. When the beloved may not be aware of the admirer's deep and strong romantic affection, or may consciously reject it. That’s hurtful. I have seen people who push away the loved ones and later in life they feel guilty and lonely for treating them badly. If love is not returned. Love was just one sided. As they say, “ If you love something, let it go. If it returns, it’s yours; if it doesn’t, it wasn’t.

If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.”

Thanks for sharing

Blessings and Love

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 30, 2021:

Ravi Rajan Thank you kindly for leaving comments at my hub. I appreciate your time and views.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on April 30, 2021:

MG Singh Thank you for comments. I thought of the topic after watching a series and this came to mind. I appreciate your time

Ravi Rajan from Mumbai on April 30, 2021:

Wonderful post. One-sided love is painful especially when the other person is not at all reciprocating or is in love with someone else. In such cases it is better to follow the brain than the heart. Take a long hard look at your life and move on. There is no other way. Thanks for sharing Devika.

MG Singh from UAE on April 30, 2021:

Wonderful article.Devika you have put a lot of emotion in your post, well done. I remember once I wrote a story on unrequited love some seasons back.

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