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4 Signs That Your Relationship Has Run Its Course

Sabrina loves to write about love, life, and everything in-between in a candid yet humorous approach.

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It’s never easy to admit, but you will know when it’s time to call it quits. Something inside you, maybe your intuition, will let you know that it’s time to move on. Another part of you will try to fight it and come up with reasons why you should stay and try and make it work. One of those reasons may be the time invested into that relationship. The longer you have been together with your partner, the harder it will be to walk away. Another reason to stay may be that you have become comfortable with your significant other. Comfort may be nice in a blanket on a cold night, but it doesn’t translate into a happy relationship. I could be comfortable in my favorite sweater, but that doesn’t mean I should wear it long after it has become worn out and has holes.

The first sign of death in your relationship is the lack of sex. It won’t happen all at once. Slowly, without you really noticing, you will start to have sex less and less. No one is saying the honeymoon phase lasts forever (honeymoon phase being the first six to twelve months of a relationship). But regardless of how you look at it, sex is an important part of every relationship. Without it, you simply are friends, maybe roommates, but never lovers. Most likely in the beginning of your relationship, your sex life was frequent. You couldn’t keep your hands off each other. Maybe you had sex every time you saw each other. If not, you definitely had it at least a few times a week. This might have lasted months into the relationship. Then over time it decreased to maybe once a week. You weren’t too worried because you were both busy and had other responsibilities. As time went by, it got down to once every two weeks, then once a month, and now maybe once every couple of months if at all. You can blame it on all kinds of reasons, but when it comes down to it, if you really wanted to be having sex you would be. You’re not having sex and that’s a big problem in a relationship. Sex may not be the most important thing in a partnership, but it certainly needs to be acknowledged.

The second sign kind of stems from the first one; you start to argue more and more with your partner. Sex is a sort of pacifier in relationships. When you’re having it on a regular basis you just tend to argue less about other things. Maybe it’s because you’re both in better moods so any other problems you may have are just easier to overcome. On a chemical level, sex releases endorphins in the brain which are basically “happy hormones.” When you have enough endorphins you are generally a happier person and less likely to start arguments. Usually the lack of sex upsets one person in the relationship more than the other which in turn causes even more issues and arguments. Whichever way you look at it, a lack of sex and constant arguing does not make for a happy couple.

The third sign that the end is near is when you start to become interested in other potential partners. You might officially still be in your dead-end relationship, but your mind starts to wander how your life would be if you were dating someone else. At this point you’re not cheating, but it’s not like the thought hasn’t crossed your mind. Maybe you meet someone who is perfect for you and you start to become curious what it would be like to date them. A person who is truly happy in their relationship would never have these thoughts and would definitely not act on them. An unhappy person in a relationship might find themselves crossing the line at this point in time, even if they never thought of themselves as the type to stray. This is about the time in a relationship when one or both of the partners may cheat. Happy people under normal circumstances wouldn’t cheat. Unhappy people plus unusual circumstances is a recipe for disaster.

The fourth sign that your relationship is hanging by a thread is that you just don’t care anymore. Maybe in the beginning you really cared about not having sex and it bothered you. Now you don’t. Maybe you had heated arguments about the lack of sex or other issues, but now you don’t even bother arguing because you just don’t care either way. In the beginning of the relationship, you might have been a jealous person who didn’t even like your partner talking to the opposite sex, now you couldn’t care less if they talked or even slept with someone else. Something inside you has shifted and you just don’t care about the relationship like you used to. This is a problem because when something is important to us, we care about it, in fact we care about it a lot. A lack of caring in an otherwise caring person is a big problem and a red flag that something is wrong.

Ultimately, you are the one to decide whether your relationship has run its course or not. It may be a million little things everyday that finally add up and make you realize you are better off alone. Or it may be one big thing that you just can’t overcome that makes you recognize you need to change your relationship status. Regardless of what you decide to do, just remember that happiness is the only thing that matters in this life, because if you aren’t happy, you don’t have anything. And if you are happy, you have everything you could ever need.

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Comments

Annette Thomas from United States on September 16, 2021:

Sounds pretty much 'spot on'

dashingscorpio from Chicago on September 15, 2021:

Naturally if your needs aren't being met the relationship is over.

"The fourth sign that your relationship is hanging by a thread is that you just don’t care anymore."

I would probably rank this as being the first sign!

When you don't care what your partner does, thinks, and you no longer use an "edit button" when you're upset, no interest in having sex with them, and actually find yourself happier when you are (not) around them....etc.

It's only a matter of time before you cheat or leave.

Not caring means you don't want to put effort into it anymore.

The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.

Oftentimes it's got nothing to do with what is going on in the relationship. Sometimes a person just feels "bored" with their life in general and one of the easiest things to do to shakeup things is by dumping their mate.

They'd rather hunt for new mate than a new job.

Some folks are "in love" with (falling in love) and not sustaining a relationship! There is also FOMO (fear of missing out) especially when you are younger and have lots of friends who are single/free.

The person you're with "on paper" has everything you are supposed to want in a mate for life, except they don't make your heart skip a beat. You ask: "Can I see me with him/her for the rest of my life?"

Mentally there is a "finality" associated with being in a committed relationship or marriage. Essentially saying it's {the end of the road} for the mate seeking/dating portion of one's life. Some folks miss it!

"The grass is always greener on the side you water."

- Neil Barringham

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