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Reasons Why Ladies Reject Guys Who They Once Had Feelings For

Reasons why Most Ladies Reject Guys They Once Had Feelings For

A woman wondering whether or not to accept a Man's gift.

A woman wondering whether or not to accept a Man's gift.


So, Probably you are confused whether she loves you or not, right? Do not worry, It is okay to be confused sometimes about attraction. Now that you are here, this article will help you out. I am going to help you know the reasons why she might reject you and also help you know what is to be done for that case to improve yourself.

I am going to look at Five different Reasons why a woman might reject you even though she initially showed you Green Lights. Stay tuned until the end to ensure you understand it better.

Before we go deeply into it, here is the list in brief

A woman might reject you even though she initially showed you green lights, may be because of the following reasons:

  1. She is just being shy.
  2. She is just afraid of being used by men.
  3. Your dressing style is not as impressing as she expects you to.
  4. She is doing it to impress her friends
  5. Your lifestyle is what turns her off

In that case, without taking much of your reading time, let's dive in to today's business.

1. She is just being Shy.

Sometimes, it may not be her wish to reject you. Which means, she is likely to reject you unwillingly. What happens is that, she finds herself doing it so because she is being shy by nature.

In other words, her confidence is not enough to enable her cope with the current situation, that of saying yes or no. That is why she will reject you or even ghost you.

In that case, how will you tell if she has rejected you because of her shyness?

You can try to observe the following factors to see whether the rejection is as a result of shyness,

  1. Her eyes seems to betray her.
  2. Her friends knows the story about you trying to reach to her.
  3. She listens keenly when you speak.

If you can clearly spot these signs in her, then keep it in mind that she is just being shy. She loves you for sure. The solution is to give her time and space, she will be good soon.

2. She is afraid of being used by men

The Next thing that most ladies are afraid of, is being used by Men around. It is something that makes them hate themselves and to some extent, some girls may decide to take things to the grave.

It can be may be because she had encountered a similar situation with some guys in the past who wanted to use her for sexual desire. It is the time she decided to start hating men with passion.

In this case, what can save you from a rejection is your Approaching style. This means a lot to her, it is what will help her decide either to reject you or give you a chance to see how unique you can be.

Always be careful on how you make your approaches to girls, do not copy other people's style, and be unique in your own way. Otherwise, rejecting you maybe so easy to her that you won't believe. Avoid copying other men's approaching styles as this may remind her of the past, which then may lead to a rejection, so be careful.

3. Your dressing style is not as impressing as she expects

How do you dress whenever you are going out into the streets? Well, the way you dress up when moving out means a lot in building attraction from new people. This is the other reason why a woman might decide to reject you.

Yes she liked you at first, but now your appearance is discouraging to her. She is wondering why you are dressing like a wretch when she knows you can do better than that.

When you dress well, everybody becomes proud of being around you, but when you dress poorly, even your friends becomes shy to introduce you as their friend. So, take your time and invest in clothing, it is the only way to improve attraction.

Love becomes sweeter when you date someone who Loves you too.

Love becomes sweeter when you date someone who Loves you too.

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4. She is doing it to impress her friends

In this world, peer pressure seems to control everything such as the way people interact with each other on a daily basis. It may affect you either positively or negatively, it all depends with how you see people.

Now, back to the topic, this is how peer pressure leads to girls running away from you after showing you green lights; girls do discuss with each other on what they are going through with their friends. It is no doubt that at some point you will become the topic of discussion.

For instance, the friends concludes that you are not that handsome to date their friend, then she will have no option than to let you go. This time she is doing it for the sake of her friends. That makes the other reason as to why she will reject you.

5. Your lifestyle is what turns her off

It is a personal decision to live a life you desire, meaning, no one is allowed to come and question you why you live that kind of life unless they are so much interested in it or may be they want to be like you. Just to mention it, most ladies are against men who take alcohol.

That means, if she finds out that you do take alcohol, then she will have no option than to reject you. Most women find it difficult to withstand a man who takes alcohol. In that case, you should be careful when choosing a lifestyle.

Some lifestyle may fool you into thinking you are the best while you are the poorest ever. A lifestyle might lead to you losing out on good things. It is your lifestyle that may be keeping you off from achieving your goals.

Changing it may make you get all (if not all, then almost everything) that you want in your life. Otherwise you will continue losing on good things, if you won't change the lifestyle.


Sometimes it is never a woman's wish to reject you, but due to these factors, she finds herself doing it. In that case, it is an advise, that as a man, always try to watch your steps and eliminate any factor that may lead to her or any girl rejecting you.

Try to raise your standards to another level. It is by doing so that you will never have issues dealing with women again. Having said that, I have no more to say other than to wish you good luck as you look forward to improve your lifestyle and get yourself a good girlfriend for life

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

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What have you learnt from this article, feel free to comment it below

dashingscorpio from Chicago on August 21, 2020:

In a world with over 7 Billion people rejection just means: Next!

"The problem with men nowadays is that they also want to be chased as they chase ladies leading to them also playing hard to get." In this era of #MeToo and #TimesUp a lot of men don't want to initiate pursuing women because they're afraid they might be accused of some form of harassment or worse, stalking.

6. He's "too nice"

Some women go through a "bad boy" phase and if a guy comes across as "too nice" or puts them on a pedestal they will put him in the "friendzone". They're not comfortable being treated like a princess. Their best friends and family don't treat them that way.

You could put such a woman in a room with five men and have 4 of them drop to their knees extending their heart out towards her while the 5th guy sits in a corner sipping a cocktail acting as if she does not exist. That's the guy she will want to get to know!

"Isn't it ironic . . . we ignore those who adore us, adore those who ignore us, hurt those who love us, and love those who hurt us."

- Ellen Hopkins

Generally speaking with age comes wisdom and everyone makes adjustments to their mate selection/screening process and "must haves list" for choosing a mate. What was ideal at age 18, 21, or 25 probably won't cut it for you at age 30, 35, or beyond.

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