This article is an open secret, only truth shall be told, so if you are allergic to truth, please don’t read further, thanks.
It is a good thing and a great advantage to you that you were born physically beautiful or you grew up looking gorgeous, probably more beautiful than your other siblings, peers or some other ladies in your neighborhood, but it may turn scary and end up becoming a great disadvantage if you are not careful and fail to do certain things.
Remember, this article is not meant to ridicule the physically beautiful ladies out there, nope, instead, it is meant to boost your ego, your confidence and to also educate you on the dos and don’ts that has kept you perpetually single and unhappy, or will I say that this article is meant to open your eyes to some of those major reasons that no one dares to tell you, which have kept you away from your dream man and have also kept you lonely without a deserving man to call your own, so don’t go yet, just hang on a bit and read on…
Are you still wondering why you haven't found true love when you're busy committing these crimes:
You Set Your Standard and Expectation Too High
In as much as it is good and advisable to dream big, it is not so commendable to be unrealistic as a lady. Remember, there are a lot more beautiful ladies out there competing aggressively with you, with that in mind, let’s move on.
Virtually all men dislike materialistic woman; be it Bill Gates or Carlos Slim, you know why? Because it is dangerous for a man to be loved by a woman just because of his material possessions, because this can expose him to so many dangers including- assassination, prone to fraud, heartbreak, etc.
Aside that, you have set your standard and expectations too high that it is unrealistic within your environment, and you have also scared real guys away while attracting players into your life.
Now, I want to elaborate more on this issue of setting your standard too high, but first, I want to reaffirm that no woman should sell herself short only to end up regretting later. But then, there is such thing as having high standards that are overly high. So what’s the difference between having a high standard and a normal standard you may ask?
Well, normal standards look like this: “I want a man that will respect me, treat me right, be honest to me and also shows decency in his dealings”, this is a typical example of a mindset of a lady with normal standard, while the high standard lady’s own looks like this: “I want a guy that drives a BMW X6, who works with a blue chip company or a prosperous businessman…and I wouldn’t mind if he is rich or a celebrity, I’m ready to give him all my heart.”
Definitely, it is good to dream big, but one thing most pretty ladies fail to realize is that whether he’s a high income earner or not, isn’t going to bring you happiness or stable relationship, you know why? Because money, material possessions and human personality and opinion about love and romance are different things all together; take away his wealth and watch out who he is, that should be it. Most playboys are covered under the umbrella of wealth, and when you accept to date them and gets to be their girlfriend, and then get enough of the money-money things, and finally gets to meet his personality, it is then that most ladies do realize that they went into the relationship for the wrong priority and this is one obvious reason most celebrity relationships and marriages fail globally.
Don’t let your high standard get in the way of a good guy if you truly want to find true love. Sometimes, a pretty lady will pass on a good guy in anticipation to get a superstar, only to settle with a lesser class guy years later.
Each day you wake up, ask yourself this question: are my standards for a man too high? Is it only achievable in my dream? Will my standard of a dream man ever get me a real man that isn’t after my body for a fling?
Now, another reason most beautiful looking ladies are still lonely and single and you keep wondering why and how, is because:
They Harbor Negative Mindset About Men!
If you are always confrontational, trying to win all arguments, always judging people without knowing their true personality, then you may have been the reason for your loneliness, change that mentality.
Personal research and more have proven that most beautiful ladies within the age ranges of: 19yrs to 34yrs always nurture a negative mindset about men in general, and they exhibit this whenever a man approaches them, which is totally wrong.
Negativity can come from different angles, as a beautiful lady, do you find it difficult to give compliments, or are you always negative about men or can’t be pleased? Believe it or not, there are certain personality traits that will turn men off no matter how beautiful or sexy the woman is, and one of such traits is being a negative-minded woman!
Remember, if you always walk into a relationship with a negative mind, always putting up this attitude that whatever he does pleases you or is good enough, don’t get it twisted, he wouldn’t stick around for long.
Stop making yourself too difficult to deal with just because you think you are beautiful, remember, no real man wants to hang around a combative and hostile woman, so slow down.
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Beautiful Ladies Always Go For The Wrong Guys
Yes, this has kept so many pretty and gorgeous looking ladies lonely and single. You have taken your time selecting from the hosts of guys coming to ask you out, and finally you have settled to date this fantastic guy who meets virtually all the qualities you desire in a guy- rich, good looking, charming, a head turner, in fact he is a guy any woman would kill for, and he is so charming he can get whoever he wants at any time he desires. And will I be wrong to tell you that that’s part of your problem? Let me tell you dear, if you are constantly seeking for the guy who’s going to make your friends and in fact every woman jealous, then you must be ready to welcome heartbreak too, you know why?
Because this guy knows what he’s got, and he is well aware that he can get you and any other woman he wishes at anytime he desires, and you going after such guys and still expecting him to stick around with you passionately for long, are where your mistakes of going for the wrong guy lies.
You Don’t Listen!
Nothing kills romance as lack of communication. Imagine how it feels when you make out time and effort to tell somebody a story you think he/she would find interesting, and only for the person to end up not listening or paying good attention to your story? This is to tell you how bad it is not to listen to that guy.
Stop being overwhelmed that you are beautiful, come on its high time you get off those high shoes and show some humility. Because you are beautiful doesn’t mean you shouldn’t listen to him when he talks.
Most beautiful ladies are also single because they are in the wrong location, so they end up being admired by men they cannot connect with. For instance, you are a beautiful girl, and you are attracted to mostly cowboys, or say singers, and you are currently living in a countryside where no such guys exist, so you may end up unhappily single for long until you make a move to relocate to a place where those your dream guy habit for greater chances of connection.
You Still Think About Your Ex
Remember, an ex is an ex, and can never be again, except on very rare occasions, which hardly works out fine, so girl move on and stop carrying that scary image of one who lost a fortune. So funny how some pretty ladies go on for years wallowing in self-criticism and pity for being dumped by a guy who came to catch fun with them, and had moved on smoothly with his own life.
Sometimes carrying the memories of an ex can prevent and completely hinder you from investing sincerely in another prospective guy, so let that emotion of an ex go now for your own good.
Before I go, may I reveal to you that most often guys get pissed with a lady whom they sense is still partially in love or thinking about her ex who had moved on happily with his own life somewhere?
You Are Too Judgmental and Insecure
No man wants to hang around a woman who is full of judging others, it’s a completely negative attitude to attract true love. And lastly, hating on other women makes you look insecure, so quit that too!
You Give Everything Up Too Easily
You meet a man today, and because he swept you off your feet, and because he is that guy you had been dreaming off for years, you just let your guard and self-control off and sleep with him even without waiting to know what he’s up to, come girl, that’s too shabby of you, stop that attitude today!
Again, because you are beautiful, have nice shape and body physique, you now see it as the only way to win your way in everything about life- you sleep with rich guys to get monetary favors, you sleep with your employer to get promoted, you sleep with celebrities to get noticed, you sleep your way through all things, and you still hope to find true love, how and where?
….to be continued…
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Rakib on October 18, 2019:
You are the most beautiful
Joey on February 13, 2018:
I would love to find a beautiful single lady that lives in Louisville KY
u23242530 on April 30, 2017:
Jennifer Mugrage from Columbus, Ohio on March 23, 2016:
In my experience, though very many women are beautiful, most women don't believe they are. It's hard to imagine most women reading this article and applying it to themselves.
accofranco (author) from L Island on May 01, 2013:
Funny, hard to believe that most times true...@AmandaJon, maybe they need to open up to those they would love to be with too, to at least give him a heads up...lolz...thanks for stopping by Amanda......
....and you are beautiful too, hope you aren't lonely, lol...*winks*
Amanda Jones on May 01, 2013:
Beautiful women are often the most lonely. This is a fact. Nice job! Voted up!
accofranco (author) from L Island on November 21, 2012:
@vparker , thanks once again, its really awesome to hear from someone with similar experience...and I must say that your beauty is not in any way hidden from the little view I am seeing in the profile pic...lol, sorry to hear that you learnt the hard way, and thanks a bunch for coming out honestly to share your personal experience, I strongly hope other readers will learn from your comment.
vparker, so so amazing I must say...thank you once again.
Veronica Parker from From Mars on November 20, 2012:
@accofranco Thanks, I have a lot of experience in this area and the advice I give is easier said than done. Everyone wants an attractive partner, but sometimes it comes with a price. I can't tell you how many jerks I've fallen for just because they were hot and popular. I missed out on a few decent to great guys because I had really high standards. People constantly tell me that I am pretty, so I had in my head "why date that guy, if I'm so hot why can't I get xyz guy to like me?" It can be self esteem damaging to not get what you think you deserve.
accofranco (author) from L Island on November 20, 2012:
@vparker thanks a million folds for that wonderful, inspiring, and informative comment up there...you sound so informed and at the same time knowledgeable on this very topic...all I can say is thank you for stopping by, and not just stopping by, but for adding more wisdom to the topic...stay loved!
Veronica Parker from From Mars on November 18, 2012:
I'll go in....
Confidence goes a long way and for many beautiful women they are not taught to harness their self worth beyond their outer appearance. There are also a lot of women suffering from ugly duckling syndrome. The attention from men can be over whelmening and superficial. A good percentage of men do not see pretty women as long term companions just sex toys and a trophy. Their ideology is that pretty women cheat, and/or that there is just way too much competition to deal with when settling down with an attractive woman. This leaves a lot of pretty women to have poor self esteem, thus opening themselves up to be preyed on by abusers/users, stalkers and players (who easily manipulate and dominate).
The moral of the story for pretty women is to become friends with a guy -- date him but befriend him. Make sure that all his words meet his actions; don't just fall in love with words. Make associates with many men and create a process of elimination settling on the one that makes the best friend.
Also many pretty women must learn that beauty fades, most men who are handsome now will not be handsome later on in life – due to age, poor health, hair loss, weight gain, and other forms of sloppiness--- hey this can be said about women as well .
accofranco (author) from L Island on November 13, 2012:
@Mellonyy, thanks for stopping by...really appreciate, comments like this motivates every writer to put more effort...wishing you the best in your love life, cheers!
Mellonyy on November 12, 2012:
Interesting and useful! Voted up!
accofranco (author) from L Island on November 11, 2012:
dashingscorpio, thanks for stopping by with a very thoughtful review of the article.
But I will disagree with you on some of your points like where you said: "Every man I know of including myself always wants to be with the most attractive woman he can attract." isn't entirely true because most guys I know just want to have a good looking lady who is out to love them for whom they are and not for material or financial reasons like we have majority of beautiful ladies do today.
Have you wondered why most honorable and successful men (not the singers, rappers, footballers, actors, and generally entertainment folks) always marry not too beautiful women? I can say is for several reasons including the fact that they don't want drama and they want a lasting, peaceful marriage.
BTW, there are well groomed beautiful women, though they are rare to come by, and that is why this article was written, to help beautiful women reflect on their lives; who they attract, their role models and desires in life, etc.
Thanks once again.
dashingscorpio from Chicago on November 11, 2012:
Although I did see a few assumptions such as linking beautiful women with materialism.
However many young men are taught: (if you become successful you can have any woman you want.) This reinforces the idea that no matter how unattractive a man is if he is rich he can have a girlfriend/wife that looks like a model. By contrast women are taught in this society that youth & beauty is what attracts men! The more beautiful she is the more successful man she can attract.
The next assumption is if a man is rich he is a jerk which explains why so many celebrity relationships/marriages fail. Quite a few celebrities marry (other) celebrities or partners who are successful in their own right. Lets face it the divorce rate is at 50% which would indicate a lot of folks are selecting the (wrong mate) for themselves! (regardless of money or looks)
Your statement, “Personal research and more have proven that most beautiful ladies within the age ranges of: 19yrs to 34yrs always nurture a negative mindset about men in general” is probably valid. I would imagine most (beautiful) girls have been hit on by men, felt up, sexually harassed, endured cat calls from guys passing them on the street since they were in their early teens! After years of dealing with that it’s only natural for these women to put up a guard when men approach them.
As for beautiful women going for the “wrong guys”…etc. I believe most (young women) go through a “bad boy” phase or want to be with the star player of the football or basketball team, or the leader of the gang. Bottom line is women will pursue any man that (men) admire or respect.) A woman wants to be with the man other men wish (they) were. Again this is generally a (phase) many young women go through. Gradually they start to look at other traits when they reach their mid 30s and beyond if they’re still single. Every man I know of including myself always wants to be with the most attractive woman he can attract. We don’t dream about nor do we pursue “unattractive” (nice women) to spend our time and hard earned money on. My point is neither gender is standing on “holy ground”. :-)