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Read Body Language of Men for Physical Signs of Attraction


Why Learning How to Read Body Language Can Be Valuable

Reading body language is a valuable skill to learn. Humans communicate non-verbally much more than in what a person actually says or does. More than half of our communication with others is through body language signals. And the great part is that people can't be deceptive with body language. Learn how to read body language of men for physical signs of attraction and know when a man is genuinely attracted to you, even if he may not show it in the obvious ways!

Subtle Physical Signs of Attraction in Men

Men will start to do subtle things if they're interested in you, even if they don't know they are doing it. Like women, men will run their fingers through their hair or start fixing their appearance in other ways, such as straightening a tie or tucking in a shirt.

Other physical signs of attraction in men are if they start to get fidgety. If he starts slowly spinning a glass around, drumming his fingers on his pants, or other similar actions, it is a sign that he is getting nervous contemplating approaching you or asking you out.

Of course, this can be dependent on the man. Some men just have nervous habits. Or a man may be bored. You will have to judge the body language signs in context to tell if he is attracted to you.

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(Almost) Sure Signs That a Man Is Attracted

Read body language for some sure physical signs of attraction that a man can't hide. Dilated pupils are almost a sure sign that a man is attracted. Also, if a man blinks often, it is a body language signal of attraction. Flushed cheeks are another possible male body language sign.

Read Body Language of Men During a Conversation

If a man is talking to you, look for many different physical signs of attraction. Read body language signals. How close does he get? Is he sitting or standing close to you? Does he lean in when you're talking? Does he nod sometimes when you speak? Does he touch your arm or shoulder often when carrying on a conversation? All of these body language signals in men are physical signs of attraction.

If, on the other hand, the man you are interested in looks away often during the conversation, he's probably just not into you. Or if a man nods too often, it probably means that he's bored and looking for the quickest exit.

If the man you are attracted to starts to run a hand along his leg, the feeling is mutual!

A surefire physical sign of attraction from a man is if he offers to get you a drink (or several drinks). Also, if he puts his arm around your chair or along the back of it.

A man may be undecided if he is attracted to you. Here are some of these male body language signs- placing his hand on his cheek, stroking his chin, or pulling on an ear.

Be Careful When Looking for Physical Signs of Attraction from Men

When learning to read body language of men, be aware that the previously mentioned physical signs of attraction are basic guidelines. Each of these male body language clues must be judged in context. And if you don't know a person well, they can be misleading.

Some examples-
A man may run his fingers through his hair because he is frustrated.

A man straightening his tie or collar may simply be vain.

Regarding many of the physical signs of attraction mentioned above, even they aren't foolproof. If a man's eyes are dilated, he probably is attracted to you. But he could be high on drugs. A flushed face? This is a very good sign of attraction in men's body language. But if you've just met him in a bar, it may be the alcohol that's putting a flush on his face. Blinking often is another very good physical sign of attraction from a man. But then again, he could just have a nervous tic.

Just be aware that learning to read body language of men takes regular practice. But, it's an excellent skill to acquire. And not just for romantic relationships, but for all areas in life. The more you practice reading body language signals, the better you will be at spotting true physical signs of attraction from men.

Read Body Language of Men for Physical Signs of Attraction Comments

Sami from Kansas on July 27, 2014:

Thank you for writing this hub. It is helpful for those of us who are single again and have yet to get out there in the playing field. It also helps to fill in the blanks and to help us understand the mixed signals that guys sometimes put off.

anonymous on November 21, 2013:

OMG, there's this one boy in one of my classes... He's on the quieter side... Anyway, he looks at me a lot during class and he talks to me frequently. There was this one time when we went to this same event and we smiled to each other and said hi. I was so excited!! I have blonde hair and green eyes and am pretty smart... We have like everything in common! I was just wondering if he liked me...? I think that he might but I'm not sure. But I love it when boys ask me out I really wish he would... Anyway he was HOT HOT HOT!

Carrie Lee Night from Northeast United States on September 22, 2013:

Thank you for writing this fun hub :) The bottom line here is everyone's different in the laws of attraction, but to make it clear one of you (the woman or the man) has to approach their attraction and let them know straight up that they are interested...then there is no mind or body language reading(although it is fun). Have a wonderful week :)

Christopher Hyer from Midland, Texas on July 06, 2013:

Interesting article, and partially true. However, women give off more body language than women do. It is a mere fact that women are logical and emotional, and giving that when a women uses her body language , it is easy to see where she stands with another man. As a man , it would seem that the stated facts in this article are about the same as what men look for in a women that likes us. Body language is a sure thing when it comes to should I stay or should I go. Most men do not get

... on March 24, 2012:

My friend likes me and I don't know what to do he has told me straight out and sits next to me a lot and he has also called me hot all his friends think I like him and I kinda do...what should I do?? Plez help

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Laura on January 29, 2012:

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Let's say you've been friends with a single guy for 4 years and now you are going through a divorce and have secretly had a crush on him. So how do you read him. Recently. They spent time together alone when in the past it had been with other people. With no avail the guy made no advances but there were looks deeply into the eyes that give her hope Also once he seemed more interested but found out that the woman tried to reconcile with her husband but he left again. Do you think this guy is waiting to make sure the marriage is over or do you think that he's just not interested. Help!! Thank you

Laura on January 29, 2012:

Let's say you've been friends with a single guy for 4 years and now you are going through a divorce and have secretly had a crush on him. So how do you read him. Recently. They spent time together alone when in the past it had been with other people. With no avail the guy made no advances but there were looks deeply into the eyes that give her hope Also once he seemed more interested but found out that the woman tried to reconcile with her husband but he left again. Do you think this guy is waiting to make sure the marriage is over or do you think that he's just not interested. Help!! Thank you

Amy on January 16, 2012:

There are flirting or signs of interest. But you can't go on just one sign alone. Like he runs his hands through his hair while looking at you. Then about 10 yrs later he smiles at you. You have to go with clusters of signs together, to get a good idea if he digs you or not. About 4 signs is a positive sign he's got the hots, ok!

lols on December 28, 2011:

I hate to like men, but I can't control my brain.

Retro Babe on November 11, 2011:

Hey, Stacey, I could have written your words myself!!

I too am in my 20's,and am at university, the student officer guy Edmund is SO cute, I am not a bunny boiler or owt, I sensed something, like frission pass between us last year when I enroled...things then got a bit odd, maybe on my side.

Yesterday I was outside uni having break with a pal when Edmund happened to be jogging past, he seemed to make a point of specifically saying hello to me, nowt to my pal..may be nothing, but am pretty intuitive.

In regards to your situation, you may be right, or he could just be being polite, and be more aware of you due to your work standing out.

As you say,you have to tread carefully as he is your lecturer.

I think when students and lecturers/staff are in same area as students who are around same age, there is bound to be sparks, after all, we are adults with sexuality.

I would say go with your gut instinct, even if he does fancy you, he very well may not ever do anything about it as he is bound by ethics and rules/teaching code.

I have been thinking same thing about Edmund, hence me googling for signs, it can be more difficult to notice.

If he were a man you met at club, a lot more easier to tell, but as he is teaching you, he may in fact act like he DOESN'T fancy you in order to cover how he really feels.

Three weeks ago, I went into office to speak to Edmund, he literally ignored me, would not look up from laptop..yet he sat in an exam I was sitting two weeks before this, and there was a CLEAR over awareness of me in the room.

This may sound cheesy, but at one point I began biting the top of my pen, I now know, signs of female attraction, there was also mirroring between us.

I told myself to forget it a month ago, but seeing him yesterday and him making a point of speaking to me..was..something about it...anyway, good luck with your studies, and enjoy this feeling regardless of what may or may not happen between the two of you.

Stacy on November 04, 2011:

Okay I need help! I am 26 and in collage. My teacher is around 30 and I got it bad for him. I think he likes me too but I can't tell... He makes a lot of eye contact with me when he is teaching but that could be because I am staring him down. When we go up to collect our assignments he always tells everyone to say their first and last name because he does not know who we are. When I go up he tells me I already know who you are. I know I might be reading to much into this but I really like him. I can't just ask him out because he is going to be my teacher for a long time and I can't risk rejection. Help!!! I don't think teachers and student are allowed to date and maybe that is why he has not made a move... What are some signs I can look for in this situation?

Oyewole Folarin from Lagos on October 26, 2011:

what an interesting content. It's true we all need to learn what every body is saying so as to succeed in life.

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gabs on February 07, 2011:

I really have an experience with this guy... sometimes he is so annoying because we are apar

bian shaw on January 18, 2011:

Yes, it is true oral language is a minuscule element of communication. But why does no one ever ask the obvious questions: why do we seek to be deceived? why do we seek to deceive?

"...when you can successfully understand 'the unspoken conversation' you then have more control over the eventual outcome." When it comes to romance I would venture to say that most people want to be surprised or astonished by some chance meeting then meet secret-agent-dating-person.

I think if you can honestly answer a fundamental question with: 'I am seeking such and such' or 'I seek a so-and-so' then you can communicate that to someone else. Or you can go to the bar and get drunk and let your fitness signals fly willy-nilly (but make sure you have some first). Or you can be the guy I quoted who seeks to stalk and prey.

Here comes the paradox: the word 'control' comes up because essentially we all experience powerlessness as the human condition.

Part of ordering the universe so to speak, for me, is entertaining the romantic notion that there is someone out there for me.

When the construct of that romantic notion is challenged my universe appears in disarray and when it is reaffirmed there is order.

The end result of the family romance is the archetypal family which is not mine I essentially borrow it and eventually I have to give the family unit

back - it changes or grows. And there is chaos in the my universe because I, again, am alone.

We are born that way and then we die that way but we spend are whole lives trying not to be. To suggest that deception is the way to do that is kind of funny to me.

Signs of Attraction from Men on January 05, 2011:

Good basic tips, however many people are just not going to look for dilated pupils during a conversation unless they are body language experts and have been training for years. The best ways to spot if a guy is interested in you is if he moves closer, hangs around a lot longer than expected and strikes up any type of conversation just to keep the spark alive. Men can't read signals well ladies, so make it easier for them if you are attracted of course!

Jasmine JellyBaby on January 03, 2011:

Though you make valid points but most men I've encountered don't even give me a chance to notice these signs because the drool on their faces says it all so saves me the task of noticing all that!

Guest on December 01, 2010:

Interestingly, you list a number of physical signs that indicate a man is interested, then you say that they may NOT indicate that a man is interested. Would rather have read this without the latter, because it would show your confidence in the material & is less wishy-washy. Don't shoot yourself down. We already know that these traits are not ALWAYS signs of interest. Give us some credit. And be/sound more confident in the material you put forth. Just sayin...

johnny seguro jr. on November 10, 2010:

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couturepopcafe on October 13, 2010:

This is a great article, informative. Will use it many times and have fun with this. Thanks.

Any Idiot Can on September 23, 2010:

I've always been able to tell if a guy likes me just from watching how he sits, stands and moves. It's fascinating, especially as in most cases they don't know they're even doing it :)

lindagoffigan from Phoenix, Arizona on August 02, 2010:

The body language of a guy also depends on if he is introverted or extroverted. The most appropriate way to know if a guy is interested aside from body language if he approaches in a polite way and ask for the pleasure of getting to know you.

Dave Mathews from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA on May 12, 2010:

The eyes are a true mirror to the soul.


Unchained Grace from Baltimore, MD on February 08, 2010:

This comes under profiling and anyone who has been an experienced and well-trained interviewer will reiterate these same tendancies plus those signs of attempted deceipt.

It is why many intelligence agencies send recruits into nightclubs or bars. Sit and observe. Watch everything. Pick out one male or female and subtly watch their actions. You learn a lot. As you said, when you can successfully understand "the unspoken conversation" you then have more control over the eventual outcome. Nice Hub.

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