I was driving through a small town and saw a woman waving, I thought, frantically. Maybe she was frantic. I thought something was terribly wrong. I was a volunteer fireman, trained in CPR and as an EMT Basic.
I stopped. I was correct. The woman was down on her luck, down on life, and down by the side of the road. I didn't know how to help her. I still don't. I gave her some money.
We are our brother's keeper. We are also our sister's keeper.
I didn't have much money to give her. I was family oriented. I felt the strong need to hoard the little money I had, for my own family.
I wanted nothing in return for the money I gave.
It would be cheating my daughter.
It would be cheating "society" as I would like to see it.
It would have been cheating the woman. She should not have to be in the company of strangers for any reason. She should not have to sell herself for basic needs. She should not endanger herself for a place to live or for food to eat. She should not have to compromise her body, mind, and soul.
It would have been cheating me. I want to be a better person. I want the same things for that woman as I would want for my daughter.
I want "the lady by the side of the road" to have a home, nourishment, clothing, a lot of things, and respect.
I don't want to be better than the "lady by the side of the road".
I want the best for the "Lady By The Side Of The Road".
When I make a reference to Jesus, it is not that I want you to join a religion, a cult, or a club. It is because this Man lived a perfect life. He strove to raise the beggar, the sick, the sinners, the down trodden to a loftier position in life, or perhaps their own minds.
Who would I be, to want anything less?
I am not very smart. I write about what I see. I have worn a lot of hats, and I've been in some "other sides of life". They are not "so other side". The "other sides of life" are far too common.
The strains being put on Americans today, because of the gulf between "haves and have-nots", may push and pull the human tolerances apart, right here, right now, before our eyes.
I could give you facts about prostitution, from the beginning of recorded history. I could give you the definitions, synonyms, the diseases associated with sexual slavery, and sexual slavery is what it is. It is human trafficking. But the worst result of "it", is what "it" does to the spirit of one who is enslaved as this.
The repercussions of being treated as a "thing" or a "tool", instead of a human being worthy of what humans are worthy of, and capable of, is demoralizing to the point of "animalizing" and worse. The "tool" is not worthy of what a normal pet is afforded.
So, I'm not smart. I don't know what I can do besides to throw some bits of money to them. I don't know how to treat the homeless, but to throw some pieces money.
I don't want to ignore them. I want to inquire. I want to know how they came to be. But how does one do that without intruding, without embarrassing, and without hurting?
How does one become involved, without becoming involved?
If the "truly educated", the affluent, the movers, and shakers cannot solve this riddle -they are no smarter than I, and no smarter than the other slaves.
It also makes no sense to punish the victim. Instead- punish the "buyers" not the "sellers".
Lady By The Side Of The Road
She flagged me down in a one horse town.,
Hopping and waving her arms all around.
I pulled over quickly to see what was wrong,
Hoping more help would soon come along.
I had to know what words would be spoken.
She said she was alone and her heart was broken.
I asked her how she had come to be there.
Her love had left her and no one seemed to care.
She had no money or food to eat.
So she’s standing by the road with strangers to meet.
“I’ll do anything for ten dollars she said.”
I gave her a twenty and drove on instead.
I guess she’s standing by the road turning tricks.
But what came first, the tricks or the pricks?
If only there were an ending to this tired episode,
And the "Lady Standing By The Side Of The Road".
Escort Me Out Of Here
A Feminist Overview
- Women\'s History Then & Now - Prostitution
Reason why women become prostitutes, societal views and the debate over a solution have remained the same since the 1800s
Prostitution And Research
Micky Dee (author) on April 19, 2011:
Thank you dear jandee!
Thank you brother Tony.
Tony McGregor from South Africa on April 19, 2011:
So true and beautiful, my brotherman! Your kindness and humanity shine through your words.
Love and peace
jandee from Liverpool.U.K on April 14, 2011:
Hello Micky, that was really nice. Enjoyed very much.
So many comments that a return is needed ! Best,jandee
Micky Dee (author) on February 16, 2011:
That's how we think brother McHamlet! God bless you!
Paul Buckle on February 16, 2011:
You've done a service with the hub Micky. Both the prostitute and her customer harm themselves in the act. Lost people looking for some comfort from money and from sex. And you did the right thing by giving her money, you probably saved her from at least one humiliation and your kindness may even have given her some hope. Peace.
Micky Dee (author) on January 02, 2011:
You are so exactly right Katie dear! I think the same way. There are many ways to sell your self, your dreams, your dignity. God bless you dear Katie!
Katie McMurray from Ohio on January 02, 2011:
Any time I hear the word Prostitution, I think about what a broad meaning the word truthfully has and all the many diverse groups of people from both sexes who prostitute themselves is SO many ways. Prostitutuion is a broad and wide condition or affliction! Love and Peace :) Katie
Micky Dee (author) on December 26, 2010:
God bless you drpastorcarlotta!
Pastor Dr Carlotta Boles from BREAKOUT MINISTRIES, INC. KC on December 25, 2010:
You have the love of Jesus!!! Wonderful Hub!
Micky Dee (author) on October 22, 2010:
You already know I love you Freya! I like to to say it though! I love my Freya!
Freya Cesare from Borneo Island, Indonesia on October 22, 2010:
What can we do, Micky? I have the same question too. :(
Deeply moving heart piece. Vote up!
Micky Dee (author) on September 28, 2010:
Hi Noorenaz. Thank you Ma'am. God bless you Dear! ALWAYS!
NEHRA from MAURITUS on September 27, 2010:
its a sensitive hub u wrote here, you are a honest and generous person, we have very few like you.
GOD bless and protect you alwz.!!
Micky Dee (author) on September 26, 2010:
God bless you Katie! You know it! She should not have to! Amen Sister!
Katie McMurray from Ohio on September 26, 2010:
Amen Micky she should not have to. So many people are prostitutes yet not in the literal sense. Many prostitute themselves at work and day to day go about giving of themselves something they too feel they should not. I especially appreciate this as I can tell you when it comes down to it, many a woman has said, if I have to I will... she should not have to! Peace :)
Micky Dee (author) on September 26, 2010:
Hey Sa'ge. Yes, Ma'am. Way too many stories like these. There are so many ways to prostitute one's self. Thank you Dear!
Sa`ge from Barefoot Island on September 26, 2010:
I could write a hub on all the different stages of prostitution. You may be surprised as to the depth and history in all societies. There is the little girl on the street and the housewife in suburbia. The college student that will be a lawyer or doctor some day along with the street walkers. The street walkers are the poor prostitutes. ok, i was not gonna say much! you can shot me now..
there are the call girls you never see as call girls. They live regular lives in the higher end of town. many own their own homes by the time they retire. Some drop out long before that, but they still happy people not in the business anymore. I had a best friend, lost touch when they got transferred, who was in the business. Yea, one never knows, you only see the girls on the streets mostly. yea, I got stories could burn holes in steel! or pop corn next to a radiator on a hot desert day!~aloha~
Micky Dee (author) on September 15, 2010:
God bless you Sa'ge! I just gave $20 to another prostitute near the house here. Well- I can't positively say she was in the business. I didn't partake but I gave her some money and I think that's all I can do. Show kindness.
Sa`ge from Barefoot Island on September 15, 2010:
so many have already said what I would, so just saying voted up!
Micky Dee (author) on August 24, 2010:
Thank you Bobbi! It's a long hard road Bobbi. My time has to be done. Thank you Bobbi.
BobbiRant from New York on August 24, 2010:
Absolutely beautiful and not everyone does the right thing. The world could use more Micky Dees. Awesome hub.
Micky Dee (author) on July 10, 2010:
Oh Coolmon! I do want to do the right thing. I hold the Golden Rule really tightly. I cannot be anything else to that lady by the side of the road. Thank you Dear!
Coolmon2009 from Texas, USA on July 10, 2010:
I enjoyed reading your story. You are truly a unique man among men.
Micky Dee (author) on June 15, 2010:
Trick and treating! You TurkeyMan Saddlerider! Funny!
saddlerider1 on June 15, 2010:
You are a kind roadside Knight of the road, your rewards await you my son. Just keep doing what your doing, helping people and peddling all the love you can muster. Great hub I hope she got out of that trick and treating. Rated UP
Micky Dee (author) on June 15, 2010:
Just gotta treat everybody "safely", respectfully, humanely. I just want the besy for everybody and every daughter. God bless lxxy!
lxxy from Beneath, Between, Beyond on June 15, 2010:
Mickey, I understand where you are coming from. But on the other hand, I also believe that it is the oldest profession for a reason. I personally can't see why anyone would want to make pay for "love," but...
Micky Dee (author) on June 12, 2010:
It's a shame the world cannot grasp the Golden Rule. We need to lift everybody up. A prostitute is someone's child. She is God's child. Let's lift everybody up Valerie. Thank you Ma'am!
valeriebelew from Metro Atlanta, GA, USA on June 11, 2010:
This is a sad story, and all too true. Jesus, as described in the Biblical New Testament accounts, was a liberater of women, and of the poor. Good and thoughtful hub. (: v
Micky Dee (author) on May 27, 2010:
Yo Joy! I do love coffee my Dear! I would love to have an espresso with you! My daughter is 21 but I see here as every age between seconds and 21. Do you take sugar? Thank you Dear!
Joy56 on May 26, 2010:
I so like you, i really really do, you are a lovely person, let's meet up for coffee, i am not fit at all, i could not ride a bike up hill, but we could chat....... i like the way you think, i like the way you write........ How old is your daughter, i am so nosey...
Micky Dee (author) on May 25, 2010:
Hi Contagious! Thank you very much. We do need to be compassionate. It's the gift of life- compassion! Thank you!
Contagious! on May 25, 2010:
Wow. What a thought-provoking piece. I appreciate your concern and your anguish at not being sure how to help. If we all just WANTED to care all we could and strove to figure out the best way--the whole world would be in a better place. Thank God for you and your desire to love. We're all so far apart in so many ways, and good people hate other good people (see the hub about "Illegal Immigrants and the American Dream" we commented on) and Lord knows it takes WORK to try to love and help all--but it is always the right (only) thing to do with our lives, I believe! If you're ever around Arcadia, CA, please come to my church, Arcadia Congregational, United Church of Christ. Thanks again for your hub and I really look forward to reading more of your stuff.
Micky Dee (author) on May 13, 2010:
Hi Timothy. You know- we can't help it sometime. We have to bend and respect other people. Thanks Timothy!
Timothy Donnelly from Ontario, Canada on May 13, 2010:
Good going Micky, I'll bet you left a good experience in her heart - one that will rise when the time and the Spirit coincide - again.
Micky Dee (author) on May 11, 2010:
My goodness Always- You are so nice! "Our thoughts are alike"! Oh - thank you for finding the little humor McNuggets I drop occasionally! Thank you Dear!
Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on May 11, 2010:
MY LORD U HAVE TO STOP WRITING! I HAVE BEEN SITTING AT THIS COMP. ALL MORNING, READING YOUR HUBS. U ARE SO GIFTED. YOUR THOUGHTS ARE LIKE MY THOUGHTS. WELL IV,E GOT TO GET BACK TO YOUR HUB ABOUT POLITICIANS.MY FAVORITE SO FAR, "DR. JECKLE AND HENRY HYDE HEE HEE
Micky Dee (author) on May 09, 2010:
You're so right DREAM ON! If I have a little I want to share a little. It's taking care of each other and that's the best law that is. It's that Golden Rule thing that the Master put on us thousands of years ago. Thank you DREAM ON!
DREAM ON on May 08, 2010:
That was truely a great deed.I myself have offered to help someone in similiar situations and sometimes I get in the middle of something I know nothing about.I feel so much better to have helped than look the other way.So many people don't want to get involved.I feel for their own safety when I go home to my world.I never quite forgot there facial expressions of sadness and pain.The government wastes so much money on other things.Why not spend it on people,real people who need a break in life.I blame politics and red tape.If a man had to lower himself to her position just to survive. I think many laws and people would be different.Good informative hub like always.
Micky Dee (author) on April 16, 2010:
We are so much alike! Thank you Blackreign! Let's be good to each other! Thank you Blackreign!
blackreign2012 on April 16, 2010:
Simply divine work... I am truly impressed. You can't say you walk with The Creator and not care about your fellow man. At the end of the day, we are all HIS children whether you believe in HIM or not. That is what is truly awesome about HIM. HE loves even those who deny HIS existence. Truthfully, there is a litle "Lady by the side of the road" in all of us in this stageplay called Life. Great hub I'm a fan
Micky Dee (author) on April 15, 2010:
Thank you Rossimobis, my brother! You know it's all true. Why should a person "buy" another. If a person can make a life better then they should- without the loss of dignity. You know it's true. Thanks Rossi!
Chibuzo Melvin Mobis from Nigeria on April 14, 2010:
I have read 30 so far, (31) punish the buyers not the sellers.I have thought about this a long time.Great hub bro.
Micky Dee (author) on April 11, 2010:
Hi Shirishkoid. We have to be compassionate. We have to love our brothers and sisters. There is no other way. Thank you !
shirishkoid on April 11, 2010:
your writing is so pure..straight to the point...you have a very true heart...a heart that every one in this world must have...
Micky Dee (author) on February 26, 2010:
Thank you MFB. I found your words more important than mine. Poignant. I found your words so much more important. Thank you for coming to this page. Be well!
Matthew Frederick Blowers III from United States on February 25, 2010:
Queen Of Nothing Now.
and the tarantula mascara,
the hard lines, and the hungry look,
there is a young girl in ruins,
her tattered soul flapping
in the inner city winds
trying to find a john
but not to relieve herself,
only seeking her jones,
the needle and the rush.
Dress too tight to
all that made her a prom queen once,
now sagging a bit, and scarred,
at the crooks of elbows and knees,
which hold the tracks of her downfall.
Condoms and cigarettes fill her clutch bag,
dreams long since emptied from her soul,
her soles pound the streets each night,
looking for some quick tricks
to make her feel human again,
after the spewing out,
and the injecting in,
she can float like
she did on that float,
in the homecoming parade.
A few more spasms
in the front seat
of a Lexus or a Cad,
"Hell they are all cads now."
and some spurts of passion spent cheaply.
Forty bucks a pop,
and she will go home
to her one bedroom walkup, unfurnisned,
and crash on the stained mattress
found in a dumpster behind
a Goodwill store.
Sadly her next trick,
in a phsycopathic rage,
slits her throat
as he reaches climax,
and dumps her in an alley
just east of hopelessness.
She is found the next morning,
just the ruins of what was
the girl all the guys wanted
just a few years ago,
in the hometown she
long ago orphaned.
Excellent hub...enjoyed your thoughts/
Micky Dee (author) on February 25, 2010:
Thank you Hummingbird. Above all else- she should not have to put herself in danger for a few lousy bucks. She deserved dignity. I could not have given her dignity by doing anything else. I could not have given myself dignity by doing anything else. Thank you very much Hummingbird.
Hummingbird5356 on February 25, 2010:
I agree with your answer to Myriad. You did a good thing helping that woman. Why should you defile her just because others have? Your writing shows you are a good person. It is true we cannot help everyone but every small thing we can do helps. It might have given her hope that there is not only misery in the world. Sometimes people drag themselves around day by day thinking everything is hopeless. Just one small thing like you did, giving something and not wanting anything in exchange, could have been the start of different thoughts in her mind.
I know this might sound like a fairy story but who knows?
As we go through life, every little deed we do changes someone´s life for better or worse. It is hoped there is more of good.
Micky Dee (author) on February 23, 2010:
Myriad-First of all-how does your comment show when I'm supposed to approve it? Second- are you high? I did something cruel to her? I stopped to help. I helped. She wanted money. I gave her some. What part of this don't you get? No harm in having sex? You're playing Russian Roulette with your pecker there peckerwood! I didn't want to have sex. Are you saying I have to have sex? You're saying I did something cruel to here by not doing something to her? You're a moron aren't you?
Myriad from the bottom of your heart .. ie chennai! on February 23, 2010:
You did a cruel thing to her , You give her money , it s like helping her for a moment , You give her food and shelter , You shall help her longer , But you give her things to do , believe in , You help her most . But brother you must give her faith too .. SO you shall help her eternally ! To be frank I have no faith in god . But I have faith in love ! You cant help them all , But one s you see , ones who turn towards you ..you can help . Yeah there is no harm in having sex , with her .. only you should love ! Free love man ! Grass roolless
Micky Dee (author) on February 08, 2010:
Thank you Truth. Most seem to sell themselves/ourselves somehow. I just wish we could all get straightened out a little better. Thanks
Truth From Truth from Michigan on February 05, 2010:
Thanks for a great story that was sad, yet inspiring. really nice poem also. Well done.
Micky Dee (author) on January 27, 2010:
Excuse me but IBarkClownsauce,I don't don't mean IBarkClownsauce, it just that IBarkClownsauce- Oh never mind- thanks very much for stopping by and commenting. If I'm ever your way IBarkClownsauce, I hope IBarkClownsauce. Thanks
IBarfClownsauce from Water and Gold Land.. >---> on January 27, 2010:
This is an awsome story. :)
Micky Dee (author) on January 04, 2010:
Love is elusive. I don't know where to find it but I know some places it isn't.
Annie from NewYork on January 04, 2010:
A wise man, will always remain a healthy man
good for you. You might have gotten more than you bargain for(:)
Micky Dee (author) on December 22, 2009:
Thank you Maita. You are so nice.
prettydarkhorse from US on December 22, 2009:
hi Micky, hmmm, I wish all people are like you, caring and you have wisdom too,
Thanks for the nice poem too,
Micky Dee (author) on December 21, 2009:
You put our picture up there. Thanks you DEAR!
Jauni on December 21, 2009:
You are indeed an amazingly caring and wise man.
Micky Dee (author) on December 13, 2009:
Thank you kirstenblog. You and I know from whence we blog. Always keep a good couch!
kirstenblog from London UK on December 13, 2009:
This is always such a sad situation, a good person wanting to help with a problem that is bigger then any one person and unsure how to really make a difference. Some say that we should not give money to the homeless and desperate for petty reasons, usually to do with what they will do with it. This to me is a part of the problem, what business is it of mine what they do with, I just want these people who have obviously seen the worst of humanity to see that it also possesses generosity too! It is sad to say that I have seen more generosity in people who can barely afford it themselves then from those who can afford it several times over. You wish you could have done more, the mark of a caring and decent man and you should know you probably gave more then just 20 bucks that day, you likely gave the message that this world can be kind sometimes as well. Having been poor and even homeless in my life I can say that I might have become this desperate if it had not been for the kindness of friends who were only just a bit better off then I in having a place to live, I got their couch and more importantly my self respect did not have to suffer at all. I managed to build a life for myself that I can call happy because of that generosity and I know from my experience that generosity is never wrong.
Micky Dee (author) on December 03, 2009:
Thank you very much- Brynda, Tim-Tim, Blondepoet. Your words of appreciation really move me as the incident did. I get a little emotional about this story. I re-read it when someone remarks and it all comes back. There are too many stories like this that will never be heard. Thanks!
blondepoet from australia on December 03, 2009:
Wow Mickey it was good to read a story as refreshing as this, loved it.
Micky Dee (author) on December 03, 2009:
If I were more like a dog I'd be wagging my tail. Thank you ladies for your kind words!
Priscilla Chan from Normal, Illinois on December 03, 2009:
You are more than smart! You are so kind and caring. This world would be better if we have more people like you,Micky Dee!
Brynda on November 18, 2009:
You are a wise man. That's more valuable than book-learnig, but I think you're pretty smart, too!