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A Mindset for Successful Relationships

Sarah is a certified Hatha, Vinyasa, & Kundalini yoga teacher. She is an artist who believes in the importance of living a creative life.

Artwork by Sarah O'Brien

Artwork by Sarah O'Brien

Relationships Within and With Others

Relationships exist at all levels of life. We have a relationship (good, bad, or neutral) with our family, our friends, our work, our body, and perhaps most importantly, our selves. The relationship we have with ourselves lays the framework for our relationships with anything outside of ourself. What goes on outside, is simply a reflection of a part of yourself. For example, a person such as a spouse or friend who you deem as messy and sloppy, always leaving a trail of empty coffee cups and ketchup stains, could actually be reflecting a judgement you are holding towards yourself. Perhaps you have a fear of being seen as messy, are overly neat and find yourself in constant judgement of others who don’t live up to your standard of cleanliness.

By changing our own thoughts and beliefs toward ourselves to incorporate more love and compassion and less judgement and criticism, a positive change in our outer relationships will naturally occur. One practice for changing thoughts, is through repetition of new thoughts. Listed below are some examples of positive affirmations. You can replace the word “partner” with a specific person or “yourself”. Take note of any that spark something inside of you, or write a few of your own. You may choose to have them around visually on a post it note, write them in a journal, or speak them out loud. Repeat often, and notice any changes!

  • I honor and respect myself and my partner.
  • I speak truthfully and from the heart, even when it feel difficult in the beginning.
  • I am grateful for all of my partner's positive qualities.
  • I choose to focus on what brings more joy, love, and peace to my relationship.
  • I am worthy of the deepest love imaginable.
  • I love openly and freely, without holding back.
  • I am respected and honored for being myself.
  • I allow deep levels of love in intimacy into my relationship.
  • I feel safe and can be vulnerable with my partner.
  • I listen deeply, and in return I am also listened to.
  • My needs and desires are valid, honored, and respected.
  • I feel comfortable voicing my fears and concerns.
  • I feel comfortable voicing my desires and dreams.
  • I can be myself at all times.
  • Love is all around me and reflected in everything that I do.
  • I see the beauty in my relationship.
  • I feel beautiful, desired, and sexy.
  • My relationship is authentic and deep.
  • I allow time to nourish my relationship in positive ways each day and joyfully watch it grow and deepen.
  • My relationship flourishes and reaches deeper and deeper levels of excitement and intimacy.
  • I am never afraid to be myself or use my voice.
  • I honor and respect my partner.
  • I am grateful for all the love in my relationship.
  • I am excited for the future and where my relationship is headed.
  • Clear communication is a priority for me and my partner.
  • Every day, I experience deeper and more profound levels of unconditional love.
  • I feel loved and taken care.
  • I am happy, healthy, whole and complete.
  • I forgive and peacefully let go of mistakes.
  • Mistakes are small, love is big.
  • I look forward to discovering and learning more about myself.
  • I look forward to discovering and learning more about my partner.
  • Relationships are an adventure.
  • My relationship is meaningful, sincere, and authentic.
Artwork by Sarah O'Brien

Artwork by Sarah O'Brien

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