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Did You Find Someone Special at a Online Dating Site?

2020 Update Especially for My Rural and Country Dwellers

I enjoy writing about online dating for the ones who are brave enough to try it. I am not one of the brave ones. However, I have a niche that I hope you will check it out and maybe share your experience in a blog or share here online.

I find one for dating Cowboys and Cowgirls locally, it is At the end of the page you just click on your state and then fill in the information.

Make sure you do your research for this site and then decide if you feel it is safe to use.

Are You Waiting for a Knight on a White Horse?


Are you sitting at home and wondering what to do for the weekend?” Well get online and find that dating niche just for you. There are so many online where you can meet great people to date and find that special someone for a relationship.

All I ask of you is to be careful and use good common sense and research the site before you join. However, do not stay in your lonely apartment eating ice cream and watching romance movies---and you are asking yourself—“How does she know?”

A couple on a date.

A couple on a date.

Someone Special Might be Searching Too

Well, I have been there and done that---and now you need to blow the dream of a handsome Knight riding into your apartment looking like Hugh Jackman. And get online so you can get out there in the couples world.

If you have a girlfriend who wants to do this with you---and maybe a double date with you and the guy you selected---just ask the service if it is possible.

Remember---if you don’t ask these questions you will never know. It is the squeaky wheel that gets the most oil. If you have never heard that saying research it---just Google it for your answer.

Savvy Women: Time to be Aware.

After writing this article I did some research about some woman and their encounters in online dating. So I wanted to share this information with anyone who uses these services.

First, for ones protection---every online service should do background checks before approving membership.

Ladies Be Aware of:

1. Men who want you to drive or fly any distance to meet them.

2. Men who ask for airfare so they can fly to you.

3. Men who are still legally married.

4. Men who are separated from their wife.

5. Men who have children and mainly want a free babysitter.

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6. Men who are unemployed and have been for a while. Might be seeking a meal ticket. (It is not a sin to unemployed---so many good people are facing this today in this economy.)

7. Never be intimidated by a man who does fly or drives a distance to meet you--- then asks for money to return home.

8. Never give out financial information or loan your credit cards to anyone for that matter.

Online dating is to meet others and have fun---not be abused socially or financially. Ladies when someone online sends you an email---it does not mean this is your last choice. You should have enough love and respect for yourself to be highly selective.

Be aware do your due-diligence before obligating yourself---this is only common sense. There are good men out there but one has to weed out the bad seeds so the garden can grow--- as well as relationships.

Don't be afraid to ask any "Online Dating Service" if they do background check before you sign up. Remember this is your life and happiness we are talking about---so be smart online.

A handsome guy with his horse walking on the shoreline.

A handsome guy with his horse walking on the shoreline.

People on the Planet Earth devotes most of their time on the Internet just doing their daily jobs. After work we all need some R&R with maybe a little TLC.

And if we are obedient we will take Grandmother’s advice on where to meet that someone special. She thought of shopping in Grocery stores, attending different churches, going to weddings, and making appearances in all the communities social gatherings, and parties that unique person would be there. However, I am not saying it is not possible, but improbable.

So what is the common sense plan? Since most of one’s workplace time is largely consumed online. This means we are comfortable online---so now we have the place.

Now you pick the time---at home when it is quiet and---you have time to think. Pour yourself a glass of wine and turn your computer on---because you are going to have fun.

Online dating is a 2.1 billion dollar business, and it’s growing daily. Since people are being more audacious and letting their Internet savvy work for them we see a different future with the brave pioneers of---Internet space. We are little Cupid Cadets in quest of someone special to meet, date, and enjoy life with---as we zoom about in our little Spaceship Hearts seeking that phantom lover.

What should one do now? Does one join the big dating sites that have been here the longest? Or should one find their dating niche?

Here is my opinion: Why should I join a very popular site where everyone is thrown into the mix, to wade through the vast people---who are still there---and have probably grown weary of not finding the well-matched date?

I say “NO” I will not stress myself out on the big sites that everyone and their grandpa has joined. My theory is why swim in the sea of generality, when I can dive into a “Niche Pool” and find what I want.

In essence, if I wanted a “Sugar Daddy” I would go the site sugardaddies or any other site under that niche. Or if I wanted a cowboy because I lived in the country on a ranch or farm, and this is the kind of life I would want in my future then I would search the niche of--- Cowboy Dating Service---and find— and other sites under this niche.

I smiled when I found this one as I thought of a few of my friends who would love this niche---Beautiful,com--Ugly People need not apply. (How does that grab you?)

This site boasts of over 750,000 members. The director stated that millions of people have applied at ---Beautiful site, but only about I in 8 are accepted.

It is a strictly-controlled community for the aesthetically blessed. Members pay $25.00 per month for the great pleasure of belonging to the site.

With their bragging faces on and chests swelling with pride---this site brags of over 700 marriages as the proof of the beautiful seeking the beautiful, and then producing beautiful families.

We do not want anyone left out so there is a niche for The Ugly People Dating Service—(Do you believe it?) They are taking the very words out of my mouth---as they say---about ½ of the dating society is not beautiful, so why fish in a small pool catching nothing---dive into an ocean of ugliness.

Supposedly, they are saying plainer—or ugly people are nicer and more real. Everyone has a niche to call their own so niche away everyone and be happy.

And if I wanted to meet people who loved horses like I do I would search Equestrian Singles--- it is more than just a dating service it integrates horse groupies worldwide. This niche site enlarges your circle of friends, creates the best areas to ride and communicates with others who share your love of horses.

A Few of the Niche Online Services and Sites

In the Cities dating niches grow with the population, therefore, they have a larger database. Such as:

People who love to read books


Jewish dating Jewish




Social Network for Singles


Up Size your dating life---size 6 on up


Dating based on people who love to read


Find Your Greek Match


Only generous men need apply SugarDaddies/Sugarbabies


Christians seeking Christians


Black Singles seeking Black Singles


Democrats meeting Democrats


Tattooed people meeting


Older women seeking younger men


Meeting other lovers of punk style


Waiting for marriage first


However, you can also find these dating niches in almost every large town. So if at first you don’t succeed try another niche in the same category and as I said before there are 1,500+ Dating Service on the Internet.

Now it is easy to pinpoint a niche of one’s choice. There are many free dating sites and others that charge a fee.

Please investigate the following before becoming a member:

1. Does the site do background checks?

2. Is this site free?

3. How much does the membership cost?

4. Are all members single?

Guidelines for Writing a Winning Profile:

Start with User Name Only: (The user name you registered on the site)

Tell about me: (Write a paragraph or two about yourself remaining on the positive side. This is not the time for funny jokes---save the funnies for answering emails it is more appreciated at that time.)

The person I am looking for: (Write from the heart without intimidating the readers.)

What I think would be a perfect first date: (Think about this one, and again from the heart, because this is your party.)

My insight of an idyllic relationship: (Answer this one with a positive tone also---do not let any ghosts from a bad relationship plague your opinions.) Be honest with yourself first---then write your true feelings.

Note: Always triple check your spelling and grammar and read it out loud to yourself. Does it illustrate your true feelings? Don’t be afraid to communicate how you feel and what you want with the utmost diplomacy.

The Profile Photo:

Use a Professional you will be glad you did.

Have at least two made: One with a partial body pose.

Then a head photo: Make sure you smile for the camera for both photos.

A little cleavage is acceptable: But make sure it is done with good taste.

Now you are ready to go shopping for one compatible person who will make your life sizzle.

Remember---this is your journey make it worthwhile---do not settle for a date just because you received emails right away.

Read them well—bisect and dissect each word because their profile and emails are sent to electrify you. Read between the lines.

Select wisely, and remember to have fun---make yourself smile with your positive attitude in motion.

On First Date No Conversations About:

  • One’s Life Story on the first date.
  • Do not talk about old boyfriends, or that you and your fiancé recently broke up.
  • No Negativity.

So remember, it is easier to fish in a Catfish Pond if you want Catfish than it is to fish in the ocean for them. With total confidence this is why I say it is best to join a niche online dating services and sites and select your niche.

Good Luck! And use good common sense for your happiness and safety.

Online Dating Is Safe With Due Diligence

This content reflects the personal opinions of the author. It is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and should not be substituted for impartial fact or advice in legal, political, or personal matters.

© 2012 Barbara Purvis Hunter


Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on March 18, 2016:

Hi moonlake,

It is great to hear from you and I am happy you enjoyed it.

Take care and have a wonderful day,

Bobbi Purvis

moonlake from America on March 18, 2016:

There are so many creeps online. I guess I watch too much ID and Dr. Phil. Some turn out to be killers. Enjoyed your hub.

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on May 27, 2013:

Hi AmandaJon,

Thanks--some of my friends and others need to read your hubs. I will read them sometime today---I will have Memorial Day company soon. It is 5:58am.

You have a great day.

Bobbi Purvis

Amanda Jones on May 27, 2013:

Hi Bobbi,

I mostley write about dating for single over 40, you and your single friends are welcome to read my hubs hope you'll find some useful information there, .

I definitely will start a new hub on this week to encourage your friends and other single in their 40s.

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on May 20, 2013:

Hi AmandaJon,

I am so happy to hear from you. I am glad it was a wonderful experience for you and you met the right one. I initially wrote this hub for some of my friends---who have become weekend insiders---stay at home. They will not socialize with any new people. I am still trying so I will be happy to tell them it really does work.

Maybe you can consider doing a hub on your experience---that would be great for many.


Bobbi Purvis

Amanda Jones on May 20, 2013:

Wonderful hub, great advice. I met my husband online so it worked for me, just be aware of scams and players, and keep looking for your perfect date, it defititely worth a try.

Good luck.

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on April 03, 2013:


Thanks for your visit and comment. I will see you on Google+ later tonight.


Ruchira from United States on April 03, 2013:

great hub, purvis.

Helpful tips...shared it on google + :)

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on November 14, 2012:


Thanks for your visit and comment. I wrote this to maybe help people who need to reach out for friendship and maybe love. I have friends who need to do this for themselves and I hope it helps others..

Thanks again,


cbpoet from Las Vegas, Nevada on November 14, 2012:

Great hub with lot's of valuable and innovate internet dating web links that I hadn't heard of before. Thanks for sharing ..

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on September 19, 2012:


Thanks for the visit and comment. And for the link---I will add that today. You have a wonderful day and enjoy the fall of the year.

Your Hub Friend,

Bobbi Purvis

Brian Leekley from Bainbridge Island, Washington, USA on September 18, 2012:

Another is

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on July 04, 2012:

Hi Snowdrops,

I hope you have a nice July 4th, and thanks for the visit and your comment. You have a great week.

Your Hub Friend,

Bobbi Hunter

snowdrops from The Second Star to the Right on July 04, 2012:

this one is the best slogan ever:

Ugly People need not apply.


Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on July 01, 2012:


Thanks for the visit and comment. Have a great Sunday with your loves ones.

Your Hub Friend,

Bobbi Purvis

Joseph De Cross from New York on July 01, 2012:

Congrats Bobbi, Was out of the Country on June 16th. This hub is well research and you have come a long way dear friend. Dating sites have become a big industry. I would not be surprise if they ever open a site like, "datingpets." For all the broken hearted pets that need a lending hand from their master... in finding a date. Great read Barbara!


Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on June 27, 2012:


Yes and I think it is exciting because I know so many single people who could benefit from Niche Online Dating--and some of my girlfriends would. So I decided to write this and spread the word---and I was surprised myself of the 1,500+ sites out there for everyone it seems.

Thanks for visit,

Your Hub Friend,

Bobbi Purvis

Suzanne Ridgeway from Dublin, Ireland on June 27, 2012:

What a great hub Bobbi! Love the "Cupid Cadets" !! Packed with excellent info and refs to sites, i had no idea sooooooo many niche sites!! For anyone interested in trying online dating this hub is a fab one stop shop for where to go and what to expect. Congrats, voted and will share!!

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on June 24, 2012:


Janine Huldie from New York, New York on June 24, 2012:

Oh me too and u also have a great Sunday!!

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on June 23, 2012:

I tell it like I see it. Have a great Sunday with your family.

Your Hub Friend,

Bobbi Purvis

Janine Huldie from New York, New York on June 23, 2012:

Bobbi Purvis,

You are honestly too kind and from the bottom of my heart thank you!

Yours again,


Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on June 23, 2012:


You keep writing because you are great in writing from your heart. I can not wait to read more. Have a great Sunday.

Your Hub Friend,

Bobbi Purvis

Janine Huldie from New York, New York on June 23, 2012:

Bobbi Purvis,

Thank you again for kindness and support. It truly means the world to me. I honestly love to write and am totally enjoying writing Hubs now.

Your friend,

Janine Huldie

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on June 23, 2012:


I am very happy you shared your story with HubPages, and I am sure many more will be writing you and sharing.

Your have a wonderful life.

Your Hub Friend,

Bobbi Purvis

Janine Huldie from New York, New York on June 23, 2012:

Very nice Hub and from someone who did meet their husband on can truly say online dating does work and my husband and I are living proof of this.

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on June 17, 2012:


Thank you for your visit and your kind words. Have a great week.

Your Hub Friend,


Christy Birmingham from British Columbia, Canada on June 17, 2012:

A useful hub for anyone considering online dating sites. Congrats on #100 as well!

Dianna Mendez on June 16, 2012:

Great suggestions for those singles who need some advice and suggestions on dating. I know a couple of people who found their spouse online. It works for some.

Vinaya Ghimire from Nepal on June 16, 2012:

Online dating is something I have never done. Maybe I should give a try. LOL

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on June 16, 2012:

Jackie, naimishika and Docmo, I replied on my hub, and it did not go through and now this is not going through---but if you get this third time reply--I thank you all for the visit and for leaving such nice comments.

Your Hub Friend Bobbi

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on June 16, 2012:


It is nice that you visited and commented. I appreciate it very much.

Have a great Sunday,

Your Hub Friend,


Jackie Lynnley from the beautiful south on June 16, 2012:

Congrats! I will take the guy with the horse, let me put my order in now! Great hub. Lot of work. Voting up.

Mohan Kumar from UK on June 16, 2012:

Congratulations bobbi on your well researched and exhaustive 100th hub. Well done! This is certain to rise through the rankings as it is a popular area of search. this is very comprehensive.

Audrey Howitt from California on June 16, 2012:

Congrats!!!! Yay!!!

Ruchira from United States on June 16, 2012:

Congrats on your 100, PurvisBobbi...YEAH!!

This was such an extensively researched hub...did not know many things about these dating services. Also some names are

voted up and sharing it across.

Jools Hogg from North-East UK on June 16, 2012:

Well Done on hub #100 and this one is really good fun! today I told my hubby I was sick of all of these dating sites ads popping up when I'm on HubPages - well you noticed too! This is a cracker Bobbi!

Voted up and shared.

Susan Holland from Southwest Missouri on June 16, 2012:

Bobbie, congratulations on your 100th hub. This is a fun one, too. I think I might get into trouble if I checked into some the sites, though. My husband is just picky that way. LOL

I can pass it on to some of my single friends, though. Great advice. Great hub! Votes and shared! :-)

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on June 16, 2012:

Congratulations on #100...this was definitely entertaining to say the least. I roamed around the online dating circuit for awhile; it ended up being exhausting for me.

I really enjoyed this hub Bobbi! Have a wonderful weekend.

your friend,


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