Natasha Tsarina is an Erotica author and enjoys writing about dating and relationships as well as sexuality.
It can be a lonely world out there sometimes. You might have lots of friends and family but when the wind blows and the rain comes down hard at the night it would be nice to have someone to cuddle up to, share the warmth of another human being, a touch, a hug, a soft kiss on the cheek. We all need this, we crave it for as humans we are bound not to be alone.
In today’s hectic world there is little time to go out and meet people. You might stop for a happy hour with colleagues or go to a birthday party for a friend. But who has time to look for a partner?
Lucky for us there are dating apps and dating pages. So many hot men and women looking for sex, a partner, friendship, or something else. It’s easy to sign up and usually, it doesn’t cost much or it's free. You enter your personal information, a few cute pictures, and what you are looking for and click enter. You are now a part of the internet dating world
I can only write from the perspective of a woman but I am pretty sure men have had similar experiences as I will talk about in this article. If you are a man reading this, please comment below on your worst experience with online dating.
Their manhood seems to be very important to men.
One of the first messages I got from a man was a photo of his manhood. Don’t take me wrong, I have seen them before and I can appreciate a nice looking one. But, what I don’t want is to start a conversation looking at one. In this case, this was a man in his 30 so a few years younger than I. I asked him nicely to write more about him and what he was looking for. He sent another picture of his dong, and I deleted him from my list.
I contacted a gentleman who matched on the website and we got talking. We chatted for a couple of weeks before we moved on to phone conversations. I asked him a few times if he wanted to do a video call but he said it wasn’t convenient since his children were at home. He had told me he was a divorcee and had his two children at home often because his ex-wife traveled a lot during the week for work. After about two months we decided to meet up for a coffee.
I was very excited because this man seemed a great catch. He was handsome, kind, funny, and caring, so I was looking forward to our dated. I even bought a new dress for the occasion. It was a warm summer day and I walked down the sidewalk with a bounce in my steps, and when I reached the restaurant we had decided to meet at I didn’t see him. I checked the time and I was fashionably five minutes late. I sat down, ordered my coffee, and waited. There were a few people in there, reading papers, a student working on a project on his computer, and a couple by the window. One guy who sat at the bar kept looking at me. He was a lot younger than I was. His jeans were torn and there were a few smudges on his sweater. After a few minutes, he came over and introduced himself as the man I had been talking to online and on the phone. I recognized his voice.
It was not the same man as in his photos. He apologized and said that he had used his older brother’s photos and that he loved older women and wanted to have sex with me that same afternoon. I got up, went out, and walked home. I cried that evening and drowned my sorrow in a bottle of wine. Since then, I insist on video calls after a couple of days. If he doesn’t want to, I stop the conversation and move on.
Could you lend me some money?
If you haven’t seen the documentary The Tinder Swindle, you should. It’s a great example of how the dating world is filled with swindlers who have no heart, no morals, and will take every penny from you.
I began dating a man after a month’s talking online and it was fine. We had a great time, amazing sex, and so much in common. One day he texted me and said he had to pay his car insurance, but there were some issues with the bank. It was only a couple of hundred dollars so I sent it to him. A week later, it was his car that was in the shop and he needed another few hundred bucks. Warning lights went off in my head and I said no. He kept on trying for a few days, and then I never heard from him again.
A single man, who isn’t single.
I will use the name Rod in this case which isn’t his real name. Rod was a real charmer and was always happy and ready to spend time with me. We would often meet over lunch or an early breakfast. I should have seen the warning signs when he never seemed to be able to have dinner with me or after-work drinks.
One evening I was at home making dinner for myself when my phone buzzed. It was a message from Rod. When I read it I went cold and then I got cold sweats. The message said it was his wife writing to me and that I should stay away from her husband. I was shocked but then again, when I thought about how we had dated, I wasn’t surprised in the end. All the signs were there, no evenings together, I shouldn’t text or call him, he would do that plus a few other rules.
A week later I did got a call from Rod who apologized and wondered if we could hook up. I told him no, and deleted his profile.
As you can see, the online dating world is not easy to maneuver in and there are many pitfalls. Is it worth the effort and the heartache? Sure, just because you run in to some rotten eggs doesn’t mean all men are like that. In reality, there is no different meeting a lying and cheating man in a bar than online. Don’t give up, learn from your lessons, keep your eyes and ears open for any signs of him lying or avoiding telling you certain things.
This content reflects the personal opinions of the author. It is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and should not be substituted for impartial fact or advice in legal, political, or personal matters.
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