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Top 4 stages to be the Best Mr. Husband

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Friends Get-together

Few weeks back I got a call from zubair and he told me that he is coming to my city so let's plan out something. I decided the place and time and I went to the Arizona cafe right at 7.00 o' clock, where Hadi and Sami were already waiting for us. We all met after a long time and I guess we didn't have such meeting after university because we all were busy to get settled.

What a wonderful time that was, I said. We started recalling our college and university days. Ahhh....what a golden time it was, zubair said.

Discussion started, and zubair asked me, how's your married Life going?

I said, have you heard about the mysteries of Egypt pyramids? As not all parts of that pyramid are disclosed and mysteries are not solved yet. The same way I'm in process of understanding and learning. They all laughed out loudly with huge round of applause.

Okay, let me tell you a something; four phases we experience in married life.


Phase 1: Fall in Love

It's been so long I don't remember exactly but I think it's been around 8 years we first met in a wedding function.

When I saw her, my heart started beating fast. I wanted her to be mine and forever mine.

That's the time I felt flowers can even blossom in autumn. Talking continuously on phone for hours didn't tired me and my energy to work doubled and love boosted up everyday. I felt I can wait for hours. It might be the reason that initially I wanted to give a good impression or sometimes I thought is it real me or love has changed me.That feeling made me think like poets and I even started studying Rumi poetry and thought how love can change anyone. It's a strong emotional attachment.

Sami interrupted, yes! I remember; when you were my roommate and I asked you that why you're becoming philosopher day by day, then you used to tell me that I had great interest in philosophy and I might select that as my major course.

Hadi asked me, isn't it faiz? I smiled and told them further, if I had no money in my wallet, I never got worried because I knew my friends.... Hey wait, wait, wait, hadi was starring at me. You once told me that, I dropped my wallet somewhere, please transfer money in my account asap. You didn't drop it....hmmmm. I rolled my eyes down and everybody laughed.

Zubair saved me by saying, hey although he might short of money but he had great friends.

Yes absolutely, I said. I think the age of 24-25 years is full of enthusiasm.

And one more thing, The text I used to receive everyday, " forever yours'.

But that changes in every phase i experienced in my married life.


Phase 2: Just Married

2nd phase we all had experienced is "just married". That phase I would name as the adventureous phase.

I remember, we traveled miles and miles, tasted food even without liking that and visited the places which I have never thought in my life but I did. The romance, love, togetherness, happiness is all in the air. Without thinking about the time, me and my better half walked on the roads late night and explore the personality, likes and dislikes of each other.

To make moments memorable, we enjoyed snow-falling, rain, did hiking for hours on the mountains. It was so much fun.

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The messages I received frequently were, " Miss you, Love you honey".


Phase 3: What is happening

The 3rd level is when I start understanding the marriage and maturity comes in this phase. Small arguments, small fights. Love didn't fade but for some time it is hidden behind some other issues. Like; changing channel might becomes an issue, working late at office creates a big mess, no shopping on weekends and above all when I forgot the birthdays and anniversary dates and then to compensate that I had to buy gifts and that gift must fulfill her expectations because mrs. always right wanted big surprises.

I started to think why is this happening and how I can change them?

I realized all my friends were nodding as they all have gone through that phase of their marriages.

And the messages I received, " ok, hmmmm, fine" and a long list of grossary i.e, " eggs, bread, milk, Pampers etc etc"


Phase 4: Learn to Surrender

Finally, I got my answer. I learn to surrender with all my heart. Just remember "You are a husband and she is Mrs. Always Right". She is the queen of your home.

The text has changed, " love you too honey"

Ohhh yes, I forgot one thing, I called the waiter and asked him to pack up an extra meal. Zubair told everyone that he has truly learned to surrender. They all guffawed at zubair's remark.

Sara Shahid.


SARA (author) from Islamabad on November 06, 2020:

Hello Troy... I'm glad that you enjoyed this hub.

SARA (author) from Islamabad on November 06, 2020:

Hi Devika... Yes this beautiful relationship has so many stages and every part has its own charm. Thanks for your nice words.

Troy Mcqeen on November 05, 2020:


Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 29, 2020:

I like this story of how two people meet and learn through their trials and errors. So much of what goes on in relationship.

SARA (author) from Islamabad on October 28, 2020:

Hi Dora... I love to portray some serious and fun moments of people's life. The happy ending always cheer up the audience. Thanks for appreciating my this piece of writing.

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on October 28, 2020:

Thanks for sharing your love story. Happy for you that "love you" is still part of your text. Celebrate!

SARA (author) from Islamabad on October 28, 2020:

Hi Cheryl.. thankyou for appreciating my work.

Cheryl E Preston from Roanoke on October 28, 2020:

what a beautiful story

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