MsDora, Certified Christian Counselor writes on moral integrity especially for women and encourages appreciation for the men in their lives.
All five women quoted in this article are excellent teachers and authors. They deserve commendation for taking the high road with presentations on issues many would rather not touch–purity and modesty. They offer motivation and guidance for women who need support to walk in integrity.
The following quotations are useful as discussion ice breakers in a youth group, or in a mentoring session where other “older women” participate in guiding the younger toward a life of beauty and modesty.
Lisa Bevere is a Christian author, television program host and international conference speaker. The following quotes are from her popular book, Kissed The Girls and Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give In.
- Men are not inspired to protect women who are naked, but instead to conquer and violate them; they want to protect those who are clothed.
- Men like to flirt with, and sometimes even date a wild child, but those women aren’t usually first on their lists for marriage or motherhood.
- Wearing a low-cut, cleavage-revealing top is called suggestive. What does it suggest? That there is more than what you now see, and I may let you look closer since I'm already willing to give you this much of a peek.
- Your enemy wants to strip you, make sport of you, and merchandise your body, but your heavenly Father wants to clothe you with beauty, strength, dignity and honor that will endure.
- God looks at the heart, and we shouldn’t judge by appearance . . . but we still live on the earth, and everyone here looks at the exterior, because only God sees the interior.
Nancy Leigh DeMoss
Nancy Leigh DeMoss is a Christian author, one of her most popular books being Lies Women Believe. The following are quoted from interviews and her radio show, Revive Our Hearts, which inspires women to godly womanhood.
- If I determine to live my life for the glory of God—that will affect why I wear what I wear. It will make me think about what I wear.
- An immodestly dressed woman is giving away something that doesn’t belong to her. This principle of ownership means that you and I are not free to dress in any way we please. We’re accountable to God.
- Starting young means dressing your daughter modestly now. Don’t put her in skimpy outfits when she’s little expecting her to change her look once she grows up.
- Modesty is really a way of thinking about God, about men, and about ourselves.
- True beauty is internal and spiritual. We ought to honor God through the way we dress, but our outward appearance should be a reflection of an inward spirit that’s pure and submissive to Christ.
For more than ten years, Elisabeth Elliot hosted a radio program Gateway To Joy, in affiliation with Back to the Bible broadcasts. She also authored several books, one of the most popular being, Passion and Purity from which some of these quotes are taken.
- Modesty means to be free from undue familiarity, from indecency, from lewdness, pure in thought and conduct. Speaking of modest apparel, it means decent, seemly. The opposite of modesty is conceit, boldness, immodesty, brazenness, lewdness.
- Prostitutes dress obviously, so as to draw attention. It’s their business, isn’t it? The last thing that a Christian woman is thinking of is being like a prostitute.
- Holiness has never been the driving force of the majority. It is, however, mandatory for anyone who wants to enter the kingdom.
- The will of God is not something you add to your life. It’s a course you choose. You either line yourself up with the Son of God…or you capitulate to the principle which governs the rest of the world.
- It seems disrespectful to me to see ladies in church in very short skirts or skimpy, sleeveless tops. I would imagine that it could be distracting to men who are trying to keep their minds on God.
Dannah Gresh is a champion for purity and modesty. Her first book And The Bride Wore White is one of her most popular. The following quotes are from Secret Keeper: The Delicate Power Of Modesty.
- You were created as a masterpiece and you are one of God’s expressions of beauty. Short, tall, thin, thick, freckles, big eyes, small ones . . . it doesn’t matter.
- Modesty is a great paradox. Though an immodest woman creates insatiable curiosity in a guy, it is the modest girl whose heart he most desires.
- A girl’s modesty is first noted by her external presentation, but if it’s not followed by the confidence of internal modesty, she still forfeits the power of her virtue.
- You cannot limit the power of your modesty to just what you wear. It is also controlled or forfeited by where you are willing to go with guys, why you go there, and how you act.
- The allure of immodesty is not in what is seen but what is not seen. Modesty issues a challenge for one man to romantically earn your virtue.
Ellen G. White
Ellen G. White is an inspirational writer who lived, most of her years, during the nineteenth century. She wrote on many varied topics, and her most popular work, Steps To Christ has been published in more than 100 languages. The following quotes are from various publications.
- It is right to love beauty and to desire it; but God desires us to love and seek first the highest beauty, that which is imperishable. No outward adorning can compare in value or loveliness with that "meek and quiet spirit. (Education)
- True beauty of dress consists in its simplicity . . . What do these devotees of fashion gain? Only the satisfaction of being admired, like a butterfly. (Health Reform March 1, 1874).
- A modest, godly woman will dress modestly. . . The one who is simple and unpretending in her dress and in her manners shows that she understands that a true woman is characterized by moral worth. (Review and Herald, November 17, 1904)
- Our clothing, while modest and simple, should be of good quality . . . It should be chosen for durability rather than display. (Ministry of Healing)
- Do not make yourself the subject of remarks either by being overdressed or by dressing in a lax, untidy manner. Act as though you knew that the eye of heaven is upon you, and that you are living under the approbation or disapprobation of God. (Manuscript 53, 1912)
© 2012 Dora Weithers
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 19, 2020:
Raj, thanks for sharing your thoughts on "Short Skirts in Church." There are different approaches to this topic. The women who wear short skirts anywhere have been taught by different sources that it is okay. It seems to me that we first have to understanding their faulty thinking and teach them to replace it as a prerequisite to changing their dress code. Then your instructions can follow. Keep at it.
I do not understand the Netflix issue.
I have to delete your comment because links in comments on this site are not preferred. Thanks for your input.
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 08, 2017:
Pat, thanks for sharing. It is alright to express yourself. You haven't addressed anyone. I'm in total agreement with your opinion.
Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on November 08, 2017:
Ah modesty....in many respects it seems to be lost at every turn. But does that make me judgmental in saying so?? I hope not as that is not my intent...it just seems that exposing more has become what is expected by many and even tolerated.
The passages you have shared are spot-on. To me modesty is my way to shield myself from unwanted advances and stares...but that is just me. Well done....this is one that really struck a chord with me .... "Modesty is a great paradox. Though an immodest woman creates insatiable curiosity in a guy, it is the modest girl whose heart he most desires."
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on September 13, 2017:
Thanks, Mona. Happy to find women who want to train the younger women in modesty.
Mona Sabalones Gonzalez from Philippines on September 13, 2017:
Lovely article, Ms. Dora, and quite a fine selections of quotations. I also liked the fact that these were quotations from women authors. I have read Ellen White, but I will also look up the other four.
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on March 30, 2015:
Marlene, they just had to test you; didn't they? Glad you stood firm. Thank you for sharing.
Marlene Bertrand from USA on March 30, 2015:
I'm like you, MsDora - When I see women in church in short skirts and cleavage, I think it is disrespectful. It's disrespectful to God and it is disrespectful to men who might be dealing with lust and other sins of the flesh.
When I was a worship leader, some of the female band members challenged me about what to wear. I had one rule that I expected the ladies to adhere to: No cleavage! There was no mistake about how I felt about this. So, one day (the devil made them do it) all the women wore shirts with cleavage. I excused them from singing in the band.
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on February 04, 2015:
Jackie, you raise a very valid concern. We can destroy our witness by looking or sounding like we represent a cause which is different from the one we promote. Thanks for the observation.
Jackie Lynnley from the beautiful south on February 04, 2015:
Maybe I am just centering in on the appearance but I think it says so much Dora and that many women do not realize that the words coming from their mouths does not match how they appear (which can include speech) and who they befriend. Christian women I believe should not want to show off their boobs and/or their navel and bare hips or anything suggestive. How many people will take us serious or listen to anything we say if we are not living up to what we speak and being modest always not just when it suits us?
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on February 02, 2015:
Ologsinquito, thanks for your observation. I agree that most of the near nudity we see is ugly. If we can just be honest with each other, that might help.
ologsinquito from USA on February 02, 2015:
I think modesty is important, and not just for young women. I see way too much skin everywhere, and, much of the time, it's not attractive. This is a good reminder.
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on January 26, 2015:
Romeos, Happy New Year to you, too. Good health, productivity, prosperity and God's favor. My mother and I are blessed and grateful.
Thanks for your encouragement on this article. Modesty is among my favorite topics and I pray like you, that some young women will be influenced for good.
Romeos Quill from Lincolnshire, England on January 24, 2015:
A very informative Hub you've highlighted here MsDora; a quiet and gentle spirit in a woman is certainly of great value. I hope you and your mum are doing fine this year and send best wishes for your continuing good health and well being.
Perhaps some of the younger women may find this article useful so sharing.
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on January 22, 2015:
Thanks, Peg. Lifelong also because we tend to target only a certain age group; then we find that we have to include all ages.
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on January 22, 2015:
Whonu, I appreciate your encouragement. Thanks!
Peg Cole from Northeast of Dallas, Texas on January 22, 2015:
Great words on a much needed topic of concern to our young people and some not so young. I love the quote, "Starting young means dressing your daughter modestly now. Don’t put her in skimpy outfits when she’s little expecting her to change her look once she grows up."
It is a lifelong process.
whonunuwho from United States on January 21, 2015:
MsDora you are a wonderful inspiration. Thank you for your fine work. whonu
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on January 14, 2015:
Devika, thanks for your affirmation. Just hope that the younger women think the same thing you and I do about this topic.
Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on January 14, 2015:
Hi MsDora you have thought of a wonderful title. So true and younger women do need a certain amount of advice from the older women. Thinking for oneself is a great way to figure out what is right from wrong. Also, nothing wrong with seeking guidance from the experienced individuals.
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on January 06, 2015:
Thanks, Elle. I appreciate your kind support.
elle64 from Scandinavia on January 06, 2015:
As always good entertainment, and something to think about.
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on January 03, 2015:
Peachy, thank you for reading and for that very good suggestion.
peachy from Home Sweet Home on January 03, 2015:
beautiful quotes, would be best used for women's day
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on January 02, 2015:
Cynthia, thanks for your input. I believe the young women can recognize modesty in casual as well as old-timish outfits. "Decent" and "appropriate" are included in Paul's description of modest wear. Yes, there is much business out there for seamstresses who will sew modest apparel. Pleased that your granddaughters will have a Christin definition of modesty to live by. Thanks also for sharing.
Cynthia Zirkwitz from Vancouver Island, Canada on January 02, 2015:
Dear MsDora, This is certainly a relevant topic and while I agree that it is young women to have guidance from older women, I also have run into a sort of reluctance for some to listen to / heed those they see as "dowdy old fogies". I guess I fall into the "lax, untidy" category, if that means wearing very casual clothing, and perhaps that makes me less than credible to young women? I am happy to say that my daughter-in-law started early in instilling a sense of modesty in my granddaughters. As Claudia suggests, though, there is a lot of competition for their attention and when they draw pictures of girls (they are avid draw-ers), the girls in the drawings-- supposedly their peers-- wear the skimpy clothing of MuchMusic videos, lots of eye make-up, piercings, and tattoos. I also hear that it is difficult these days to find tops that are not cut to expose a lot of chest. I also see kids wearing what look like leotard tights, but with no skirt over, and not even a long sweater. I believe this is a real spiritual battle zone. Thank you for this article with suggested books. I will be sharing this extensively! ~Cynthia
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on March 21, 2013:
Jane, glad that you like the hub. This is one of my popular on purity. Its our duty as older women to teach these things to the younger women.
Jane from Uk on March 21, 2013:
Love this hub! So helpful in a day when young woman don't know and are not taught that there bodies are firstly given to them to glorify God.
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on August 01, 2012:
Claudia, you are perfectly right on all fronts. I have recently begun to address the males, and hopefully will get their attention. Thanks for your comments.
Scholar Claudia from San Bernardino on August 01, 2012:
This is exactly what young girls today need to hear. Even when not from a religious, or monotheistic, background, the logic and pride in dressing modestly is portrayed well. I can't agree more with the idea of women holding themselve to a higher standard than the animalistic nature of our society, coming from the community I did, some formal education on the topic might solve many of our sociatal problems. However, I can't help but think mabey society has push our feminine youth to these indecencies. At a certain age, its only natural for a girl to try to get a boy's attention, but our media, fashion and modern youth role models don't set a good example on how to do this. It wouldn't hurt for more guys to take a little more responsibility for their own actions and thoughts. If a girl next to you is dressed indecently, don't gawk, then mabey some of this trend will disapear.
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on July 26, 2012:
Thanks for your affirmation, Ay76. Blessings!
Avy76 on July 26, 2012:
Awesome advice for all women to follow and all in the name of God :)
Miranda on May 24, 2012:
Thanks, I will.
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on May 23, 2012:
Miranda, thanks for visiting, reading and commenting. I am thrilled to have a teenager like anything on my site. I commend you for your interest in modesty. Check out my "Purity Quotes," for more from Lisa Bevere. Stay Beautiful! Stay Pure!
Miranda on May 23, 2012:
I'm 15. I really like Lisa Bevere's quotes, they are very true. Thank you for sharing, they are very helpful=)
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on May 23, 2012:
Thanks, strictlydating. I also think they're lovely. Hope my readers will find them helpful.
StrictlyQuotes from Australia on May 23, 2012:
Great topic and a lovely collection of quotes!
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on May 12, 2012:
You're welcome, meow48. Always glad to share inspiration.
meow48 from usa on May 11, 2012:
thankyou so much for sharing this with us. it was truly an inspiration. take care.
Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on May 03, 2012:
Manatita44, thanks for affirming the urgency and necessity of modesty. I really appreciate your solid input.
manatita44 from london on May 03, 2012:
A good hub, and very useful for the young. Ellen G White and especially Elizabeth Elliot describes Modesty quite well. It is essential that we carry ourselves well and exercise restraint. Not only to avoid disrespect, but to feel good about and to love ourselves also.
Our decorum and unpretentiousness goes a long way to making us pleasing to the eyes of others, and in helping us to go forward in life. So your sharing, together with the thoughts of other writers, do show an urgency and a neccesity for living a modest life. Ultimately we need to go even further, but modesty is a great start.