Men, Math And Marriage
One of the darkest aspects of our society is how men are treated in the divorce process and family courts. I have not made a secret of where I stand on modern marriage in our Western societies. Marriage has now become legalised slavery for men and an institution of exploitation. Please read my articles linked here, here and here, as well as the adjacent video on men, math and marriage for further explanation and discussion. One of the cruellest realities of the divorce and family court process, is the epidemic of male suicide associated with it. Men are 9.7 times more likely to commit suicide following divorce than women. Depending on where you reside, 40-60% of marriages end in divorce and 70% of those divorces are initiated by women. What is behind these numbers? The large bias in favour of women in divorce settlements and family courts. The vast majority of people paying alimony and child support are men. Conversely, the vast majority of people receiving alimony and child support are women. Primary custody and sole custody are both nearly always awarded to women and men have fairly limited visitation time with their children post-divorce. Some men don't even have visitation rights at all and have absolutely no access to their children, even when they are perfectly decent parents and law abiding citizens. So women get the house, the money and the kids and the men get the bills, loss of assets and alienation from their own children. Even with the very limited time fathers do get to see their children post-divorce, it is not uncommon for ex-wives to fail to cooperate with visitation and there is little to no enforcement of visitation by the authorities.
In contrast if men fail to cough up the alimony and child support demanded of them, then in a number of places in the West they go to jail. It does not matter if the money expected of them exceeds their income, or they have lost their job (such as in the tragic case discussed later in this article) or they are not even the biological father. The family courts still put them in jail if they fail to pay up. To add to all of this, is the fact that many men are on their own and have few places they can turn to for emotional support during and after divorce and family break up. There is a lack of support services for men and unlike most women, men are often pressured by their partners to lose contact with their friends once they are married and begin raising a family. Creating an emotional dependency in men with respect to their partner, is a key means through which men are controlled and emotionally manipulated in some relationships. Consequently many men are often emotionally isolated during a very vulnerable and stressful period of their lives once the marriage breaks down and they go through divorce.
How Marriage Is Different For Men And Women
Another point to consider, is that marriage and family represent different things to men and women. Women are more likely to dream of getting married, having a nice house, becoming mothers and having a family when they are girls. Men on the other hand are more likely to dream of becoming the next famous athlete, scientist or powerbroker etc when they are boys. Men sacrifice their own dreams and ambitions to marry a wife that loves them and to provide for a family they are involved in (hence the frequent mid-life crisis in older men). So when men face divorce from an ex-wife that hates their guts, alienation from their own children and wage slavery to people that they never see, they are then confronted with the realisation that they have given up their lifelong hopes and dreams for nothing. The same cannot be said of women post-divorce, whom still have a family through sole or primary custody of the children, are still mothering and often have the family home as well. They can also remarry.
So it is not rocket science why men are 9.7 times more likely to commit suicide following divorce than women. It is just an inconvenience for the corrupt family court system, parasitic ex-wives, lawyers, judges, politicians, statist feminism and the real estate and banking industry to recognise and take responsibility for. After all, they all financially benefit from exploiting men, profiting off their misery and destroying their lives. Family courts may occur in secret, but the word is getting out. More and more men are becoming aware of the realities that face them. Below is a rather sad story that needs to be shared. This is just one sad tale of yet another male suicide statistic broken by his ex-wife, her lawyers and the corrupt family court system. The related article on A Voice For Men is linked here along with the suicide letter. The wife and her lawyers apparently are claiming copyright on the suicide letter. To say that is cold and morbid would be an understatement. Sociopathic seems more appropriate. My deepest sympathies to his family. Hopefully some good will come of the letter he has shared with the men's human rights movement. The truth needs to be spread and more men need to be made aware so we can avoid more deaths. Anyway here is an account of his suicide letter read by Victor Zen:
A Divorced Man's Suicide Letter
How Family Court And The Divorce Process Killed This Man
A Discussion On This Man's Case By "A Voice For Men"
A Moment For Reflection
This man lost everything. He lost his kids, his wife, his job, his finances and his identity, before he committed suicide under a looming threat of potential jail time. Now usually this is the part where some people chirp in and say things like, "not all women are like that" and "not all marriages end up that way" etc, as if I am to gloss over the bias and carnage of divorce and family court. We are way past the point of debate here. This is not about women, this is not even about marriage, this is about the clear and obvious risk to men's lives. We are talking about self-preservation and survival now. Modern marriage is a loaded gun pointed at men’s heads. Like a growing number of men, I am not interested in playing Russian roulette with my own life. What sane and rational individual would want to risk their livelihood, their future and their very lives in such a corrupt social institution? No one. Before some women complain about where all the good men have gone, men not marrying or men "failing to launch", they might want to put themselves in men’s shoes for a minute and honestly ask themselves whether they would take the plunge with marriage and starting a family if they were in men's position. What are men expected to launch into exactly? A bet on their lives, their wealth and their futures that most gamblers would not enter into? Men launching into a system designed to exploit them? I don't think so.
This is why MGTOW for me is such a clear and obvious choice to take (or men going their own way). I don’t gamble with my life savings at a casino, I don’t enter into contracts where I will be forced to pay the other party for decades if it doesn’t work out and I certainly don’t put myself in situations where I could be estranged from the people I care about or put in jail. So why would I sign a marriage contract? Why would any well informed, sane, rational and responsible male take such a risk with their own lives and future?
This Is How Dangerous Modern Marriage Is For Men
Some men are really better off shooting themselves and handing over their assets on their wedding day, or wealth extraction day (WED) as I fondly call it. At least then they could spare themselves and their children all the psychological pain and anguish of the divorce and family court process. No jail time either. This is how low modern marriage has become and how little respect or value our society places on fatherhood and husbands these days. It is funny how men are constantly reminded of how “unnecessary” and “obsolete” they are by women like Maureen Dowd and Hanna Rosin, but then when the bills come men are suddenly needed and useful to have around. Yeah real funny that. As the saying goes, “A woman needs a man like a fish needs child support”.
Sure not all marriages end up with the man estranged from his children, destitute, in jail or dead. Not all men suffer years of psychological abuse and financial hardship by the courts and their ex-wives, have false allegations levelled against them (see adjacent video above on a private investigator giving tips to women on how to fabricate a DV allegation) or have their children taught to hate them while they pay child support and alimony exceeding their incomes to people they never see. Not all men have that experience. But a substantial number of men do end up in this position. Like high stakes gambling, a man might get lucky or he might end up dead.
In finance when a business invests in a project, it evaluates the risks and returns. Some say you can’t put a price on love. Sure you can, that is what family courts, ex-wives, lawyers, judges and the divorce industry are for. Lets cut through the sentimental nonsense shall we. If you are a man, then you really should compare marriage to any other big financial and life changing decision you would make. Frankly the return to risk profile of modern marriage is very poor. A growing number of young men like myself, would prefer to invest our time, energy and money in other things. Our careers, financial affairs, passions, lifelong hopes and dreams and our own health and well-being are some examples. We will interact with women on our terms and within our interests or not at all. Call it selfish, call it immature, call it a failure to launch, call it whatever you like. Fatherhood and a husband's rights are routinely discarded and dismissed by our legal systems and the culture at large. We are doing the cost-benefit analysis and finding marriage wanting. Shaming tactics are water off a ducks back for most of us young men at this point. It is literally a matter of life and death.
Modern marriage and the corrupt legal system in their current form in my view, represent legally sanctioned fraud, extortion and exploitation of husbands and fathers. I won’t get married and I won’t bring a life into this world only to have it taken from me. The lid is being blown on what modern marriage represents, so get used to men boycotting the system. I am not a high stakes gambler and neither are most men.
I will leave people to ponder this. We are raising generations of children in homes where they have been deprived of their fathers. How do you think they will react and what do you think they will have to say to our governments, feminism and society at large when they become adults? See the video below to find out.
Neglecting the human rights of men and boys affects us all.