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Do Men Have the Right to Wear Panties?

This is a question I ponder when I hear from men who are trapped in relationships with women. ( No, I'm not singling out women as the bad gals here, it's just that most men who wear panties tend to be straight, and a great proportion of them tend to be married as well.)

Oftentimes it seems that some women have a particularly snarky reaction to men wearing panties. They think it means that the man in question is less of a man, they think it looks strange, they think men shouldn't do that sort of thing. Ironically, these are often same women who will put on their boyfriend's shirt and walk around the house expecting him to think they look adorable. Imagine their horror and dismay if their boyfriend responded to the traditional donning of their shirt with "That's disgusting, take that off, you look like a man!"

Imagine if these women were told not that they only couldn't wear their boyfriend's or husband's shirt, but they also would no longer be allowed to wear trousers in public. Imagine the furore that would cause. Feminists would be up in arms, there would be marches on local and national governing bodies. Women would never accept a social dictum that said they had to swap their jeans, pantsuits, shorts and all other manner of manly dress, and instead don skirts and dresses for the rest of their days. Yet men are supposed to simply accept the fact that they are not allowed even to wear the underclothes that are typically associated with women.

Have we gone mad? Seriously. Are we, as a society, utterly insane?

It's one thing not to like the aesthetics of a man in lingerie. That is a personal preference and nobody can argue that. We're all entitled to our likes and dislikes. But the feeling that pervades our society tends to go far beyond simple likes and dislikes. It goes so far as to oftentimes place value judgments on men who wear women's panties. They're effeminate. They're probably gay. They're not real men.

For all our social advancement, for all our equality, for all our encouraging women to be all that they can be, for some reason we seem to have left men out of the picture entirely. Not only out of the picture, but back in the dark ages.

There is this concept that women can do anything, be anything, wear anything. But a man, a man has to be some blend between a Neanderthal and Keats. He must be soulful, yet rugged. He must dress well, in one of the four main modes of dress we allow him (Business, Business Casual, Casual, and Sports.) He must be a strong provider, (though we are thankfully moving towards a more reasonable equality where some men stay at home and look after children whilst their female partners work.), and he must know how to mount shelves. (I think that's actually in the wedding vows for men.)

Not only must he live up to all these expectations, but prejudices still exist against males when it comes to child custody. Just look at what Britney Spears had to do in order for Kevin Federline to gain custody of the children. Simply flashing her genitals all over the world and shaving off all her hair wasn't enough. It wasn't until she skipped several drug tests, refused to show up to court several times, and finally barricaded herself in the bathroom with her children and a firearm that full custody went to Kevin Federline. (Who, incidentally, had kept his winky out of public view the entire time.)

I know I've strayed from the point, but in a sense, this is the point. The fact is, a proportion of men enjoy wearing lingerie. There's certainly no harm in it, yet there is a huge stigma associated with it, a stigma that I propose comes from the fact that men are being forcibly kept in roles that are outmoded, outdated, and make them frustrated with their partners and with themselves.

Enough. Surely we have advanced to the point where what a man wears under his jeans doesn't matter any more than what a woman wears over her panties? Sadly, we haven't. And I think that's something worth thinking about the next time we start congratulating ourselves for being so advanced and egalitarian.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.


Sherman on October 20, 2020:

I posted here many years ago. I still wear women's panties and camisoles. Love the feel, the lightness, the thin layer. Love the support without bulk. Love the choices in colors.

Clive Cussler on August 07, 2020:

Has anyone bought JG2 underwear? Men's nylon....Are they better than VF ??

Jerry on July 26, 2020:

Men should wear panties everyday. Men's under ware should not be sold in the United States. Panties should be sold as under ware for all not just for women. I personally like nylon panties . They are comfortable, moisture wicking and nice looking. Men should not be afraid to allow women to see their under ware of choice are panties. I like the vast colors of panties and the many styles of panties. It was a time when panty wearing was for the gays that is not true anymore panties are for all sexes.Men have the right to wear what ever clothing the choose and not be shamed to wear what they choose.

Clive Cussler on July 24, 2020:

If panties were not so wonderfully comfortable there wouldn't be the strong desire for them.I don't want to change who I am,no. I just experienced( like many of you the sheer madness of panties as a kid).Since I am married i go without.For me nylon is it.I wear things close to that feel. JG2 makes nylon stuff for men but is very expensive.Is this how alcoholics feel?Gotta have it?Put them on?

Clive Cussler on July 18, 2020:

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Men will do what they want to.There is a price to pay in relationships though.Your love for panties can cloud your judgement and decisions that you make.I have decided to wear men's underwear that is as close to panties as i can find.It is about comfort not wanting to be a woman.

Clive Cussler on July 14, 2020:

It's all about the comfort.Nylon is great I am a lover of Vanity Fair.Thin,silky and smooth underwear should be this way period.

Nobody on March 29, 2020:

I would love for a woman to catch me wearing panties and a bra it would turn me on I would have a hard on all the time I had over 200 pairs of panties at one time I love it my daughter in law cought me one time and gave me some thongs and 2 bras couple day later she gave me the thong she was wearing she took them off on front of me I licked the crotch right away in front of her it fing turned me on

Nobody on March 29, 2020:

I was 15 and didn't have any clean underwear for school my dad my made me wear my twin sisters panties to school I had to dress out in pe it was hard hiding it from the other boys but I loved it I am 55 now and still love wearing them when my wife was at work one day I wore panties bra and panty hose to Walmart I had a hard on the whole time I still hide the fact I wear women's bras and panties I love it makes me so horny

David on March 21, 2020:

I'm a man in my seventies. During the course of my life I've experienced some great things, but sadly, a lot of bad things as well. I can honestly say that my pretty panties, and other items of lingerie, have always brought a ray of sunshine to my life. Every time I walk in front of a mirror or some other reflective object and see myself in them, a smile is always on my face and I feel a sense of joy come over me. I've always wondered why all men (and all women, for that matter) wouldn't want to wear such beautiful objects if given the choice. It's a question of beauty over plainness, of comfort over restrictions, and of sex appeal over the macho male ego. While wearing my panties, I always feel as if I'm personally prettier and sexier, and I just want to skip around the house. I know I've become a better, more gentle and more generous person since I began wearing women's garments.

Gee on March 19, 2020:

I wear panties, but I’m still a normal guy. I enjoy it.

Karl on March 19, 2020:

Of course men have the right to wear panties. I'm 70-years-old and having been wearing panties, bras and other articles of lingerie for some time. And I love it! Some time ago I decided that I wanted to explore -- and then enjoy my feminine side. It has been completely liberating for me. I found that I like feeling feminine, pretty and sexy, in a way that a man isn't supposed to. I guess I could say that I've always been a straight male, but then I did swap blowjobs with a gay man one time -- sucked him off, licked his balls, kissed him, etc. I found I enjoyed this very much and would do it again in an instant if I ever got the chance. Maybe I've had more of a feminine side than I had at first thought. Anyway, even though I'm 70, I never dress my age. Everything I buy and wear are of the young and sexy look: lace and satin g-string bikini panties, bright-colored lace bras, sheer, almost see through babydolls with tiny matching panties, chemises, camis and thigh-high stockings. I wear my panties 24/7, whether I'm at home or going out. I lounge around at night in panties and bra and sleep in them at night. I used to wear panties to work and still like to wear them and a bra under my clothing when I'm out and about during the day. I feel like I'm not complete if I don't have at least one article of feminine clothing on at all times. Some might say that lingerie isn't designed for a man. and therefore can't look good on him. That might very well be true. But as all crossdressing men can tell you, it's not how you look that's important, it's the way you feel when you're wearing something beautiful.

Love my knickers on December 27, 2019:

I'm a straight guy, proper alpha male and I have been wearing women's knickers for years. I actually do not own any male underwear. It is a piece of clothing! of course we have the right.

ron on December 15, 2019:

if women can wear men's cloths than WHY can't men wear and enjoy wearing female cloths with out being harassed

bras , panties , dresses . skirts , and nylons ?

Princess Ariel on November 09, 2019:

I wear panties because I don’t like men’s underwear. Sure, it’s nearly impossible to keep everything in, but I like the cute styles of women’s panties.

Michael on September 21, 2019:

I have been wearing panties for the past 4 years. I am 42. Don’t own any Mens undies.

My Doctor ( female) suggested i wear them for medical reasons. I am glad she did as they are way more comfortable. I wear hi cut satin and lace. They feel so cool and make me feel good. Having gone to my Dr. She said they look nice and comfortable. I like pink with lots of lace. Cooler with soft lace.

The ladies at the stores help me with sizes, etc and are very helpful. One lady even said that most of her customers are men.

While at the gym a lady commented on them, saying, they are cute on me. I was bent over and not paying attention that they were showing.

In the men’s room I see men wearing panties often.

Wear what you want and are comfortable. Don’t worry about what people think, it’s not their business.

By the way, I am married and straight. My wife and massage therapist both like them.

Kendra Sue on August 26, 2019:

I love to wear women's clothes. First I start with a tampon.Then I add a woman's thong to keep me tucked size 7. Next add a medium long leg high wwisted panty girdle. I feels good to be tucked and to hide my maleness. I womens jeans size 14 are next. Can't forget my breasts. I wear a size 40D padded bra. For a top I wear a tshirt.

My makeup after a close shave consists of foundation to hide my beard, light blue eye shadow , mascara and mauve coloed lipstick

My wig is a short red head style.

Myshoes are hard to find. I wear an 11 in mens which means size 13 in womens. I am as lucky enough to find a pair of strappy sandals with a low heel.

I always wear a pair of sheer energy panty hose control top under the jeans

Dar on May 24, 2019:

Women dress like men daily. Grant it they make it look good.

Yes men have the right even though women and society want to strip that from us.

Samm on May 20, 2019:

I think it’s just fine for men to wear panties. I’m straight married man and I wear panties daily. Men’s underwear is uncomfortable and the elastic waistband and leg opening are to thick. Ladies panties are much more comfortable then men’s underwear. I don’t care what color or patterns they are. I want to have comfort. Also my wife likes how I look in them.

Bill on May 03, 2019:

Hi I'm 70 years old. I have been waring panties for ever. I also ware bra. No pads and it fits. Okey that is enouph. Now my story when I was a young boy my grandma dressed me up in my sisters clothes. I like the feel of the clothes. From that time on I started waring my sisters underwire. I would sneek them. I own my own cloths now. An I ware them 24/7. My wife knows I ware every thing. Now I can't understand why there is a problem. I'm dressed decent and I like the feel of the clothes. I hear it is wrong to ware these close the bible says so. But these clothe weren't around when Christ was around. Also men had a long rode and wemon also so in that time what was wrong.

Like I said I ware panties 24/7 and I like a skirt also. It is a lot easer to go to the bathroom in a skirt then pants. Some times I leak and when it drys it smells. My wife smell it and tells me. That is why I say it is easer in a skirt. My mother had us share everything why not panties. Now I bye my own panties and I don't think it is right for anyone to tell me what to ware. Just like my skirts and bras, I do have breast. Thank you.

Sam on April 30, 2019:

I’ve been wearing string bikini panties daily for 15 years. Now I want to try different ones. I love how they feel and look. Less of a wast band and leg band.

Anonymous on April 10, 2019:

Yes,it’s totally fine.Ive worn panties and bras for a long time.Im actually wearing my fave pair now.(Black lace high cuts)and it makes me feel super sexy and confident .it started by wearing my sisters panties and bras when I was younger,and now I wear lingerie to work everyday,and it helps me understand woman better,and helps me be myself.It also feels way better on my skin,and there is a lot more options.I recommend wearing panties to all men,it’s really beautiful thing to do.

Anonymous on April 05, 2019:

I love wearing woman’s underwear,in fact I’m wearing them right now( a really cute pair of black panties,I really love them).It makes you feel sexy which both genders should love.It also helps me keep in touch with My femine side and just helps me unroll,and just be myself.I just wear them around the house when no ones home,and god,is it amazing.

I highly recommend it to anyone who’s never tried before it’s one of the best experiences,and it’s just a really beautiful thing to appreciate

Carl on April 04, 2019:

I wear vantiy fair hi cut nylon panties size ten my wife and I have matching panties and I swim in them in public pool and her girlfriends love the painties on me when iswim in them.

Laceyxdress on March 12, 2019:

Its material thats all guys a piece of cotton or silk or satin . Ive been crossdressing since i was 14 and I love wearing sexy nice looking knickers and bras and the softer the better i like the way it excites the skin and the way it feels wen you touch it . And women have so much choice from lingerie to skirts . I love my nice casusl leather skirts and a body suit . I dress to the nines but anyway if a man likes to wear knickers and nothing else thats fine . Im bi always have been and im proud I wear what I want when I want

John on February 28, 2019:

I recently started wearing panties , i have always had a thing for it even at a younger age , but was taught than men should never be feminine. and than once i got over what everyone else thinks about me, i started wearing panties to work , and everywhere else. it started off sleeping in a bikini , and now i have every type , as-well as almost every fabric you can imagine. i love the way i look and feel, that's all that matters to me. like other men have said its hard to fit the whole package in , but that's the thrill of wearing women's underwear. i love my velvet bikinis . and iam a big and tall man , good looking and in-shape and straight. believe me a couple one night stands , gave me looks but they didn't complain. kinda funny when your looking for each others panties like oh yeah those are mine ;)

Dennis R Andersen on February 13, 2019:

I am a man that wears panties every day love every munite i am proud to say i wear panties. They bring out the feminine side and beauty in you witch is the most wonderful thing that can happen to you very very very loveing in your self.its the feminine power over comes you. Witch you can not escape.

Bobby on January 10, 2019:

Have been wearing panties for over ten years 24/7, bras and nighties at home for the same time, I have moved onto full cross dressing with makeup and wigs and love it, my wife supports and likes having me as feminine as possible.

Barry Avery on October 19, 2018:

St.Paul resented not being able to make money from Liv.20 v13.

And preached that being gay was an abomination. However Moses intended that this verse refer to POPULATIION not morals.

Imagine the life of the Hebrews. Polygamists (four ) wives. Adulterists and fornicators ( as many concubines they could afford ) and rapists. Slaves were open game.

Paul was the original KING of fake news.

So what hope is there for a pr. of knickers

Maninx. on October 15, 2018:

What on earth is bad about a man wearing knickers I love wearing my size 6 bikini briefs(uk size) , it’s a bit tricky getting everything in but achievable.but well worth the effort, what a feeling wearing such a scantily pair of knickers.

J on October 12, 2018:

I have every right to wear floral cotton or lace panties of any style.

Maniniix on October 12, 2018:

I really love wearing my knickers why should women have all the fun of wearing sexy coulourful and paterned knickers life is so unfair.

GEMBENDAR on September 13, 2018:


Panties4Ever on June 10, 2018:

I have been wearing panties for 18 years. My WIFE put me in them on our wedding day and never went back to wearing male underwear.

Nathan on April 27, 2018:

I like to wear ladies nylon full cut brief panties in my size of 12 because they feel good against my skin

Knickerslover on April 04, 2018:

I have been wearing full brief knickers for the past 60 years, may be more,and still get so much pleasure and contentment from the delightful feel of being in them. Black is my favourite colour, but M&S green full brief knickers are soooo desirable and comfortable as well. Maybe it takes me back to those lovely bottle green school knickers that I enjoyed SO much !!!.

Bill on March 25, 2018:

I love sexy panties and have been wearing them exclusively for at least 5 years since before we were wed my wife has always known and supported me, fortunately I wear lingerie off the shelf because on slack I am smallish and tight so we often go shopping to the lingerie store together, the assistants know what is for me.

I wear matching bra's while home and sometimes on drives or walks, my wife started making me up at home two years ago with wigs so I have decided to go the whole hog and cross dress with heels etc.

Nothing wrong with cross dressing or wearing lingerie it is a matter for oneself and partner

Panty Mark on March 25, 2018:

I have been wearing panties for many years. When I was a kid, I was wipped as a kid by my mother for wearing them. I had stopped for a great time, then started wearing them again in my older teen years.

I must say that I would rather wear panties than any guy underwear. For a long time, my wife was ok with me wearing them, now she has gotten to the point that she dont like it. But she cant give a clear reasoning why, but she also will be the first one to put on my shirt, socks, etc. I now wear them without her knowing, even tho she did find a few pairs of them once, and was just mad. I will continue to wear them with or without her approval.

This is how im most comfortable wearing silk & lacy panties.

Thanks for the article.

Panty John on March 14, 2018:

I have been wearing panties, mostly in private since I was 10 years old, I'm 54 now and have a very understanding wife of 18 years, who at first thought it was a little weird, and thought it might be a passing fad, but after several years she realized it was not a fad an began to accept my panty wearing, and in fact we go panty shopping together quite often, it always seems to shock the sales ladies a bit when we come to counter with two of everything in two different sizes, but I agree it's not what a man wears that makes him a man, I am 100% heterosexual male, with no desire to be anything else, it's time for a change, and besides that have you seen some of the pretty things women get wear, I am a bit jealous of that.

Tom in Chicago on March 12, 2018:

No body blinked an eye when women started wearing work boots,and flannel what's the big deal if men want to wear women's clothes to relax in....... or what ever. Last time I looked the 1st Amendment was still working for everyone.

Shawn the Sheep on March 11, 2018:

I have read these comments especially from the women. I would hope that when women read these comments and the article don't think they are being attacked. It should be shared guilt for the men and women who do not think that guys have the right to make a choice in this. I started wearing panties about 2 months ago. I love the way they feel, the support and the look. Yes, I do feel sexy in them. This article and the comments gave me the confidence to go to womens panty stores like VS and shop in person. Thank you to the ladies that commented as well who support men and women to the freedom of choice and support guys who made this choice to wear women's intimate apparel. And for all those who discriminate, I am straight and I LOVE to wear panties.

TangaCharles on January 15, 2018:

I have been wearing panties since I was a teenager over 50 years. I love the way they feel and the support they provide. I am bi-sexual and not a sissy or want to be a girl. I love panties and am a little jealous because women have such a variety of panties to wear that matches their mood. I love Vanity Fair panties for everyday use. I also love “Tanga” parties and wear them quite often. Thongs are great and if you find some that are wide enough at the gusset they give great support. Wearing panties is exhilarating, for me there is no other underwear and I love them.

Bob on January 13, 2018:

I've been thinking of making the switch myself. I am only wearing microfiber Calvin Kliens now...but want to go to a complete Womens panty.

My Wife has no idea of my desires, but I think it's something I need to do.

Sean on January 01, 2018:

Yess, I have spoken to several women who like to wear men’s clothand undies.

So, why do women care if men wear panties which are so much more comfortable for us.

This world is so full of double standards.

Having seen my Dr. (A female) she said that they look comfortable and they look nice. She even apology for making that comment. I didn’t mind and appreciate her frankness.

The ladies in the lingere dept where I have bought some have be very helpful and commented that many men are wearing them now. “Whatever feels good “ she said.

I am happy that I tried them on several years ago and will continue. If people don’t like it, it’s their problem.

Amazingly, my girlfriend wears white tightly undies. Haven’t figured that out as I find them so uncomfortable, thus, the reason why wear pant.

pantyboy on December 23, 2017:

I think this double standard can be traced back to a very ancient but somewhat hidden prejudice that even the most ‘advanced’ or ‘well educated’ of us still seem to have, despite all the other prejudices society has done away with in non-related areas. I think many of us don’t even realize that we have this prejudice. This prejudice simply states that men are superior to women, that manhood is a higher form of life than womanhood. Of course we all know that’s wrong, but sadly it still exists. Why? Looking at this whole situation in the light of that false belief (prejudice), one can readily see that a man wearing lingerie (or even ‘female’ outerwear for that matter) is mimicking a lower form of life, whereas a woman wearing what society has labeled as traditionally ‘male’ is mimicking a higher form of life. This needs to be changed in all of us. I strongly suspect that these prejudices got started as a result of somebody’s misinterpretation of biblical teaching way back when. They seem to have conveniently forgotten that Jesus was born, then died, then rose from the dead to free all of us from Satan’s grip. Yes, that means all of us regardless of our clothing choices, our race, gender, religious beliefs or any other way society cares to classify or label people. Perfect love loves all people equally, not caring two hoots about what society calls them. I think this discussion has given society a ‘line of scrimmage’, a place to start from. I think it’s now high time for all of us to simply ‘line up, bark the signals, snap the ball and run the play’. Let’s finally put all of those stupid prejudices in the trash dumpster of history, where they rightfully belong.

I’m not picking on men or on women at all, but rather on society as a whole for harboring and perpetuating these prejudices and double standards. I guess that’s just part of my nature. As a kid, I always took delight in standing up to the school yard bully on behalf of other children. Now as an adult I’m doing basically the same thing, because I regard some social dictums as the bully who is trying to kick us around and otherwise ruin our lives. Double standards also work both ways, seeing as some social dictums are critical of women but not men, in certain areas other than clothing choices. Think about the different standards that are applied to men and women who are preoccupied with sex, or flirt with members of the opposite sex, or in some other way seek some level of sexual activity. When a man seeks sexual activity he is labeled as being ‘red blooded’ or ‘boys will be boys, after all that’s what they do’. When a woman however seeks the same, she is labeled by society as ‘slutty’ or ‘trashy’ or ‘cheap’ or even worse labels that I don’t even want to mention.

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Maninx on December 14, 2017:

I can’t see the problem with men wearing knickers it does not state women only on the label.womens knickers are comfy, have more , coulour and patterns than men’s underwear why can’t we have a share of the glamor.

Mark on November 20, 2017:

I been wearing women's panties.and bras .for 40 year.i am54.i started wearing women's tights and nylon slips and skirts .at 27 years old.

Michael on September 30, 2017:

Yes I have been wearing panties for several years. They are wamore comfortable and just feel better.

When I go to the lingerie department the women sales clerks are more than happy to help.

They are aware that many men these days wear panties .

The few. Women that have seen me in them like them on ,e too.

So, throwaway the stereotypes. Real straight men wear them and many women are happy we do.

Sam on September 19, 2017:

I to wear panties and have for a long time. I started wearing the after an industrial accident about 20years ago in which I lost most of my junk. I couldn't wear any underwear for a long time while I was healing. Once I started to wear mens underwear again I found that because of almost nothing down there that they were very uncomfortable and actually hurt. My wife said why don't you try like a silky womens bikini panties maybe that would help. I tried and I still where panties 24/7 to doctors and everywhere. I wear mostly nylon bikini or high cut.

A couple years ago I had a stay in the hospital. Rather then have to wear a hospital gown I just wore my own stuff, mostly just a T shirt and panties. Anyway one day I fell asleep and when I woke up a group of guys from work were at the bottom of my bed. While asleep I must have kicked the sheet off and there I was laying there with a t shirt and red nylon bikini panties. I figured they had seen everything while I was sleeping so we just started talking like nothing wasn't normal. To this day 12 years later not one chuckle or nasty word or strange look have I gotten..

By the way I would probably wear the same panties even if I didn't have the accident

Mike O on August 10, 2017:

I have one breast that is a c cup so I started to wear bra then my wife dared me to wear panties as well, even bought the bra and panties for me. They are so comfortable don't know why I never tried them before I don't think I will go back to wearing underpants again. Thanks for all your comments and advice.

Mike on August 09, 2017:

I have just started to wear girls Bra and panties I love the feel and the and the looks you get in public. No I'm not gay

Gail on July 18, 2017:

Yes, and bras. I am a man and have worn panties for over 65 years and bras for over 40 years. My past wife got me into bras, It was very hot and we would not wear anything except panties and bras..She said to me, if I have to \wear a bra, then you can put this pink satin bra on and wear it. That day she gave me three Pink satin bras. After she got me two (one white and one black) pairs of hi-heels too wear, which learned to wear very well. S he got me several pairs of Sheerio panties. So, any time I was home, i had to wear panties, bra, and Hi-Heels.

Daniel on January 26, 2017:

BTW I don't consider it getting in touch with my feminine side to want to wear silk for instance. I mean u bet pharos wives fight mind the Egyptian silk or cotton which by today's standards would be feminine feeling. Think about this... Your wife gets home from stressful day yanks your pants off to find her present is wrapped in sensual silk rather then course cotton. She grabs rubs and turns herself and you on... Enough said

Daniel on January 26, 2017:

Just an FYI. Skirts dresses etc if you go back in history they were men's wear at one time. Anyone wanting to argue this point please research Roman, Irish, and the Scott's to name a few. Also bikini style watch the 300 very accurately shows off men's wear back then. So let's be honest women stole it from us. Also my wife thinks my kilt looks sexy on me just saying.

Lilwil on January 16, 2017:

I where panties because they are light; and more breathable. I can also pack more panties whenever I travel; as opposed to men's underwear. I wear sports bras for the support. I told my mom about me wearing bras; then my little sister found out. She made fun of me. As far as I can see; she hasn't told anyone of it. I have been wearing bras and panties since I was 18. Now I am 23. I don't haven't had the guts to wear them to work; till recently. I only where the panties; out in public or at work. I am straight; I don't want anyone to get the wrong idea; not that I have anything against homosexuality,but that's just not me. I just find wearing bras and panties comfortable. I surprised my self when I found that I needed a 42DD. I hope to one day have it in me to wear a bra to work. I just don't like being judged.

Christopher on December 30, 2016:

Oh! well said Hope! I not only wear panties but also skirts when the fancy takes me. I like to show off my legs and the range of skirts is so much more interesting than men's trousers not to mention more flattering.

When asked why I wear women's clothes I often reply "you don't let your gender affect what you eat, why should you let it affect what you wear . .. . and when you have found the answer t0 that, ask yourself what it tells you about the society in which we live.

Women who wear trousers are called women, men who wear skirts are called transvestites . . . .

I find that men are the most intolerant of such behaviour - probably it makes them feel insecure about their own sexuality. Women, for the most part are absolutely wonderful about it and, dare I say, much more mature.

freebird on October 18, 2016:

I hate that some women feel like they have a right to measure a mans masculinity based on his underwear choice. When a man is never allowed to measure their feminity or question their sexuality for doing the same. They immediately assume that a man would only do this if they are gay, perverted, or trying to be feminine in some form. I cant speak for all men because im sure that for some men the above factors are true but for me personally its exclusively for comfort. The materials are better than whats available for men. In terms of support they are perfect as they are form fitting they adjust to the wearer where as with mens they try to make one size fits all by providing a super sized front pouch. The excess material soaks up sweat and rides up between the nuts and thigh whith is extremely uncomfortable (guys dont constantly adjust so they can touch themselves but because they're uncomfortable) then theres the wide band at the top that cuts in no matter what size you get. It feels that everyone ditched comfort for practicality. There are limited styles available for men to begin with and then most women really only seem to think that only boxer briefs are acceptable but how would they feel if men only really accepted one single style, cut,and color for them to wear. Boxers,briefs, or boxer breifs are the only ones seen as straight appropriate. They say that men in boxers are immature college types and briefs are for children and perverts. Its crazy to me that most women expect specific rights and courtesies that their not willing to give in return. If a guy says anything up front their treated like shit sometimes even having the girl run around telling people your gay when your not, but if he keeps it secret until he feels safe enough to mention it then hes betrayed her trust and it can only be because hes closeted gay and wants to screw other guys. Seems like they dont care about men as much as were demanded and raised to care about them. Im just wonderiing why so many people seem to think thats acceptable. It also seems like more than a rights issue.

jack hopper on August 15, 2016:

I have been wearing lingerie fir 4 years and at first I was very self conscience but over time I have grown nor confident and everybody in my family knows and they say just wear what you want

Maninix on May 02, 2016:

Why should women have the monopoly on wearing lovely underwear the joy of wearing lovely knickers should be open to us all.

Scott on December 22, 2015:

Ive worn panties since i was or 5 years old. Is fight my mother about wearing boys underwear. I hated them. So she put me in a pair of pink silky ones. Im 46 years old now and i still dont wear underwear. Panties only. I love how i look and feel in them. I dont wear bras. Pantyhose is wild and i have all kinds of them. Yes im a straight man thats married to a beautiful woman. My Wife loves that i wear panties etc etc. She is always going and buying me something slinky and sexy. My favorite style is the string bikini then thongs. Well this is my first post so let me know what ya'll think.

Panty lover on December 02, 2015:

My mother dressed me in girl's underwear and dresses until I was 4years old. that silky underwear stayed with me for the rest of my life.Like the feel of silky things on my body and my wife dos not mind.I wear reg. nylon panties every day.

biliboi on November 21, 2015:

Panties the high of the event for men. I have never been a sissy, I do not wear women's clothes, but have on occasion for my wife during our get together. Have any of you men ever sat with you wife and told her what you think should be involved in a sexual relationship? Has she given you any feedback concerning the same thing? Try this out, I did it 50 years ago, I thought I was a strange man when I actually told her that her underwear for me was a high during our event. She would take it off, or I would help her, and then she places them on me, and WOW, what a feeling! Yes, it most certainly has made the encounters much more romantic, and exciting and looking forward too. There has to be a imagined high to supersede the actual high. These panties do it for me, I am sure I speak for many men. Enjoy, life is short!

AZC on June 08, 2015:

I'd never readed an opinion like yours. It is a very interesting and different point of view. I agree with you, good analysis.

James Jackson on June 27, 2010:

Dear Mr. Deeds I am an RN in and emergency room and believe me we see many men in panties and pantyhose. We have much more important thinks to deal with as far as your health and well being after a car accident or injury of any kind. Please don't think we haven't studied about this and really have no interest in your panties or women in boxers.

I have as have many doctors and nurses worn panties and especially support pantyhose.

Just getting you stable and out of harms way is all we care about.

I wear panties of every style and material and I personally don't care for thongs lol.

I also have worn pantyhose for 40 years and stocking before that.

were is equeal rights on June 09, 2010:

I am going to the beach this year .....I told my wife I want to wear a skirt to the beach....I really don't think she liked that but its how I feel......I am letting my self go tired of socity If people would open their eyes and live the way they think ......we could over come wife doesn't say much about what i wear.....isn't a partner ship sopose to be 50/50

Kalpana Iyer from India on May 31, 2010:

I liked what you said about women wearing their guy's shirt and walking around in them thinking they look adorable! Haha! It all depends on the guy of course, what he likes and what he doesn't. If he likes panties, then why not? If his girlfriend or wife finds it disgusting, then it's high time he dumps her and get someone more broad minded!

Anamika S Jain from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India on May 30, 2010:

Interesting Article! If a man is happy wearing panties let him wear it. That is his choice.

MrsJdenim from nj on April 23, 2010:

If my husband wanted to wear some pretty panties, I would be shopping for panties, He is a great husband and provider he works very hard and if that was his thing I would have to help him indulge. It might even be rather fun.

Sherman on February 24, 2010:

Carlisle, thanks for your support and insight. Your comments are definitely welcome. We all need to tactfully counter people's judgemental, narrow-minded or intolerant attitudes. Thanks for being part of a new undercurrent of tolerance and subtle re-trainers.

carlisle on February 18, 2010:

I am a woman and im not sure if I am allowed to make a comment but since im typing i might as well. Guys, wear what you feel comfortable in. If people judge you it is b/c they have insecurities about themselves. This is true, women do get away with wearing whatever they want and i am not sure y. I think it is time for a Big Change!!! Society has been judging for too long, let's change society together!

jguthrie1979 from Bonita Springs, Florida on February 11, 2010:

VERY interesting!

Secret Skunk on January 25, 2010:

Just started to wear panties. Was always curious, got several kinds to see what I like more. Really liking the 'hot pants' so far, especially the blended fabrics ones. So many colors and adornments, it honestly feels like I'm being set free. So comfy too. Still slightly self conscious about it though. Hoping that wears off with time. They are also REALLY good at holding the assorted piercings I have in that area in place so nothing gets caught on a flap. Such joy, I'm glad I finally got a few with the help of some measuring from a friend!

Marc on January 08, 2010:

Hi Hope, I really appreciate and enjoy your articles. The only thing that I find missing is that you don't have all that many pictures of what the male form would look like in many of the things you mention.

From skimpy panties which look incredibly gorgeous on a woman but where the guys privates would most certainly spill out of in all directions. Take for example women's boyshorts, I don't care how wonderful they look or feel, unless you're into having your privates hanging out the sides/bottom, they just don't work. There just isn't any material down there to be able to keep things packaged properly. Not that I wouldn't love to have some of the ones I've seen, but I've tried plenty and that design just doesn't work for a man. Same goes for things like minimalist v-strings or really tiny thongs that only have to cover up a little bit on a woman, but just don't do it for a man.

I'm not complaining, just letting you know that maybe in your writing you haven't considered those things. If a guy wants to go with those options and be truly uncomfortable, so be it.

As a guy that appreciates wearing women's panties, women's lycra for the gym and running, and while I would love to be able to have many of those items that you show accommodate the male anatomy, many of them simply won't. I really do enjoy all that you write with a very interesting perspective on things but just wanted to make mention of that.

Thanks Hope.

RICH on January 06, 2010:

Yes, I think men ought to have the option of wearing panties if they want to. I don't think it is for everyone, though. You have to keep yourself hygenically clean to wear them, and so many men are slobs at personal hygiene. I do care about what I wear, so that is why I like wearing panties for underwear over tighty whities or boxers. There is no comparison in comfort, performance, or style!

I am lucky to have a wife who has accepted my choice in underwear. Once she understood my motives for wanting to wear panties, she didn't have a problem with it. Since I did alot of trial and error to find out what style and brand of panty fit me best, I became more knowledgeable about panties than she was. Ironically, when I go panty shopping, I now buy panties for her as well as for myself.

John on January 06, 2010:

Well, my ex asked me to try her lace panties and skirt which I tried after a number of requests during her absence as I wanted to know if I would like it, and suggested that I would walk dressed in that fashion through the neighbourhood which I did not do. There after she filed for divorce as I wouldn't be the one she was married to. Knowing that her change of mind was due to medicine and peers with whom she discussed one and another, does give some comfort but does not lessen the pain as the procedure have been running for years now.

Gr8 Legs on January 02, 2010:

Part of the problem that the greater majority of people have with men wearing clothing or underwear that society recognises as being female is that, although they don't realise it, their reactions are a result of social programming.

Throughout history and up until around the renaissance, men wore skirted garments, mainly because the technology did not exist to make pants of a durable and practical quality. Following the renaissance, it was quite normal for men to wear hosiery (think back to the Shakespeare plays you did in High School)and in fact hosiery was exclusive to men until around the 18th Century. It fell out of fashion during the 19th Century mainly due to the industrial revolution and the pracicality of men wearing more rugged and durable trouser garments.

Around the turn of the 20th Century it was unheard of for women to wear "bifurcated garments" (trousers) and only really became accepted practice during WW2, when women began working in factories doing what had been traditionally "men's work", whilst the men were fighting on the frontline.

It is now generally accepted for women to wear "men's" clothing because, due to the social programming mentioned above, they are seen to be aspiring to a "higher" masculine ideal, whereas the reverse is true of men wearing "female" clothing - they are seen to be debasing themselves by their apparent self-feminisation.

And yet, how many women make positive comments when, at formal occasions, they see a man wearing a plaid skirt, under the guise of a kilt? No-one makes adverse comments regarding men of the Pacific islands wearing sarongs, yet if a western man does likewise whilst on holiday in said islands, he is setting himself up for ridicule. The Pope's personal bodyguards, the Swiss Guard, wear skirts & hosiery, yet how many visitors to the Vatican point and laugh at them?

Yes, some manufacturers are now producing male underwear in softer, silkier fabrics, but it has been my experience that the quality of materials used does not have the same feel and texture as those designed for female wear.

I have some plain, silky, boy-leg panties that I can dress in openly in the locker room of my gym without anyone batting an eyelid and only I know that they are "women's" pants. I also have others I wouldn't dream of allowing those same guys to see me in, or I would be setting myself up to be ridiculed. I can openly wear my "Skins" in public and in the gym, but were I to start putting on a pair of either semi-opaque compression, or footless opaque pantyhose in the changing room you can bet that, even if nothing was said openly, there would be a few "nudge-nudge, wink-wink" comments being made and I would be given a wide berth by the majority of the men in there. The hypocrisy of it all is lost on the majority.

The irony of it all is that, as one of my work colleagues who IS gay pointed out, the gay community knows that "cross-dressing", other than in the case of trans-gendered individuals, is the exclusive practice of straight men.

We need to break the social programming and allow people to wear whatever pleases them.

billy on December 30, 2009:

I have been wearing panties for as long as i can remember. Im 38 years old and am married to a southern baptist girl who knows about the fact that i wear them, but just dosnt want me to wear them around her. I wish she would be more accepting of it because our sex life could be so much fun if we could just add the fantasy side of it.

Anyway ive gotten to where i sleep in them and wear them pretty much every day and it and i feel more motivated to clean and do other things aroud the house as a result. I am a music teacher son i teach mostley at night so when I don't have my boys aroud i just put on a pair of panties and slip and get the house spic and span ps all mens undies suck

friend of men in panties on December 29, 2009:

Hello Gary,

You will find a mate one willing to accept you as you are. I know this for a fact. I married my husband with no idea. Then one day I found my panties in his dresser so I asked him. He said I made a mistake, and I could tell he was scared and agitated. So i let it go for the time being, and then I addressed the issue again with love and tenderness and a willing to participate. I love my husband and how he looks so why would i love him less im panties my panties. AND OMG it is great we have an amazing relationship

TIMWILLIAMS on November 28, 2009:

Yes, I think men have the right to wear womens and girls panties and bras as well. I am a man and I do just that, wear girls panties and bras. I would like to know of and women that would support this. I like to hear from the women and men too.

Dick on November 05, 2009:

I have a large collection of lingerie for both summer and winter. My panties are ll nylon lace trimmed inseveral color including pink. I hhave breifs for warm weather, and boxer length for winter along with camisoles and full length slips. I also have nylon, lace trimmed pant liners for winter. I have short nighties for summer and full length nighties for winter. My wife has no problem with me wearing lingerieand in fact goes with me when I buy it as well as sharing some of my nighties.

big_guy74 on October 31, 2009:


Thank you so much for all the insight. I have read several of your hubs where you discuss this subject matter and it has given me the confidence to go out and buy my first pair of panties and they are sooooooooo comfortable. I am neither gay nor a crossdresser in my mind. But now that i have tried and enjoy my cotton boycut panties all I need is the confidence to tell my wife and I will never go back to the boxerbriefs that i have been trapped in for so long. Thank You Hope!

Golfnut on October 29, 2009:

I am a straight man who has been wearing panties off and on for 25 years. My Wife suspected but I finally let it all out and it did not go well. It was touch and go for a couple of weeks and we are at the point of don't ask, don't tell. I enjoy wearing panties and other lingerie, find it relaxing and enjoyable. I wish my wife was more understanding, it sure would make it easier.

Kelly W. Patterson from Las Vegas, NV. on October 27, 2009:

I think the answer to the question of whether men have a right to wear panties or anything else they wish to wear is obviously yes. The real issue is that yo shouldn't be in a relationship with someone who isn't willing to accept something that is an integral part of your identity.

Svelt30 on October 23, 2009:

I understand. Thank you for the link.

Hope Alexander (author) on October 22, 2009:

Try the , there are many men there who have been in the same situation as you and can probably offer some advice. Hub Pages is just where I post many articles related to different things :)

Svelt30 on October 22, 2009:

Thank you for the encouragement, Hope. I just found your blog a few days ago, and I want to be a part of your community. Right now, this is the only real support network I have. Thank you for understanding us.

Hope Alexander (author) on October 22, 2009:

Yes, as painful as this is for you right now, and I am truly sorry to her of how your marriage has turned out, you have saved yourself years of pain. A woman who leaves a man because he doesn't wear the right clothing is a blithering idiot with very infantile notions of love. You ARE better off without her. You will find love again, and if you are honest up front with the women you date, at an appropriate time in the relationship, you'll find a woman who loves you for who you are and not for who you are supposed to pretend to be. As for your church and christian counselors, ditch them and find people who support you. There are support groups out there and churches who accept and do not judge the transgendered. You have every right to find happiness on your own terms, so the best advice I can give is to tell your wife that you wish her well in finding what she seeks and go on your way. My bet is she will come to regret this decision, and my hope is that by the time she does you have found a woman worthy of your time and love.

Svelt30 on October 22, 2009:

Hope, you are a God-send. Thank you for supporting us. Tomorrow, my wife will be filing for divorce. While I did confess about my crossdressing/transgender orientation early in our marriage, she did not know about it before the wedding date. I don't blame her for leaving, but it still hurts deeply. Aside from losing my wife, I have to deal with rejection and disapproval from family, "friends," church, and christian counselors (she outed me). This is all painful and surreal. Any advice?

Hope Alexander (author) on October 22, 2009:

It rather depends on what one is saying. TOS and all.

wsp2469 from Alta Loma, Ca on October 22, 2009:

I get the impression SOME of us aren't even allowed to TALK about wearing panties.

Matt on October 12, 2009:

My wife likes it when i were panties. They feel good. And it much more fun to go to Vicky's to shop. Give it a try.

pauls_boat on September 19, 2009:

hi hope i belive if a woman is allowed to wear whatever she likes to wear then a man should be allowed the same rights there is ment to be no sex discrimination in the world but when a man wants to wear female clothing in any form lots of people say no it is not right for a man to dress that way.

a woman can dress in any type of male clothing and be classed as a trendy dresser but if a man goes out in a nice dress and heals he either gets atacked or laughed at it is time we stood up for our rights as men and went out wearing whatever we wanted to.

regards paul

iwhcpanties on September 15, 2009:

Not only do we have the right, I do, and I wear the hi-cuts! Besides they are more comfortable than men’s. Hey LVM, please do tell!

LVM on August 27, 2009:

I know someone who said it's more comfortable.

bwhcpty on August 22, 2009:

Yes we have the right! Why should we not, they are more comfortable than men’s underwear.

Gwen on August 12, 2009:

Ive worn panties since I was 16, my g/f got me into them, I see nothing wrong with it.

likewhatiam on July 30, 2009:

Hi Jein Noir I like your thinking I just wish that all woman shared your opinion on men being in touch with their feminine side it sure would make the world a better place.

.Jein.Noir. on July 23, 2009:

Nothing wrong with an attractive man in some pretty lingerie. XD Been a 'fan' since before puberty (age 20 now.) Just a thought from a straight girl who loves beautiful things. And I know several other people who share my feelings, a mixture of all different sexualities at that.

Unfortunately, I've met a lot of people (especially men) who are afraid of this sort of thing coming off as feminine. Ha, I've talked to guy's who won't even buy a product if they think its marketed to women (how sad.) I don't think showing off a nice masculine body in "women's" clothes is feminine. If anything, it accentuates male beauty. (And it might not hurt to mention that such male beauty was traditionally honored throughout many cultures - part of my interest in Japan!)

George on July 07, 2009:

Inteligent and insightful

thank you again

SatinJenni from Burlington Ontario Canada on June 21, 2009:

LOL...I really don't care if a man or woman for that matter, chose to restrict their own clothing choices.

But under no circumstances do they have a constructive opinion as to what undergarment I shall wear.

So on that note, you go ahead with your tightie whities and I'll go ahead with my pink satin high cuts ...and never the two shall meet.

Hope Alexander (author) on June 18, 2009:

So where's the line? Is satin okay in a men's boxer short? When does the boxer short become too short? What *is* a panty technically, and the same with heels.. most men's shoes have a wee bit of a heel, how much is too much? A quarter of an inch? A full inch? Answer me these riddles, young chap, and I shall answer yours ;)

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