1) You must first know what you want in marriage
Majority of us don't know what we want in marriage we get there before we realized what we really want which is too late, because we see someone that love us and you believe you love him back you go for the (wedding) Don't marry because people around you are getting married Do you want an intelligent person? Do you want a short or tall, black or light in complexion, mind you, anything that you can't amend during your courtship?
2) You can't amend it when you get married
there are things that prayers can't change, if you are the type that loves sex,go for the person that likes it as well, if you can Last for 1hour and you want to go for partner that last for 2minute with the believe that he/she will change when you are married ... Sorry is your name, because nobody give what he doesn't have.
The family you are going to is very important.
3) Do your findings very well
I believe one family must be better than the other one so that in times of challenges there will be shoulder to rest on, and some men get into family issue when they marry. Maybe you used to give your family such amount before you had your marriage in mind. There will be adjustment because some men don't really care about their wife’s needs. All they care about most is their relatives. They will be saying “My wife will understand me.” I am not saying that you shouldn't take care of them, both of them matter most not suffer.
Make sure you're fully welcomed by the family members because you're not only marrying your guy you're marrying everyone.Make sure you're going into that marriage for love not just for materials things.
4) Plan your marriage
Planning only for wedding should not just be the case here. Remember ,kids are coming. Have a business or hand work and don't leave all responsibilities for your hubby only.
5) Stay away from his phone chart.
Focus on your child or children. Understand your husband and know his likes and dislikes. Note marriage isn't as it is during boyfriend/girlfriend things. you both are now in another world where everyone shows are hidden characters. Love his family members for that gives him more joy.
Anything can happen or occur.
6) Never give up on Your husband
Always be his mentor,hope builder and adviser. Your husband's personal strength comes from you and vise versa. Don't allow your mother to control your marriage for you. Keep less friends if possible, keep only necessary friends.
7) Don't discuss your marriage or family problems to them
Family issues should always remain as intact as possible between the two of you. Don't wash your dirty linen in public. No matter what happens between the two of you, learn to keep your family secrets to yourselves. Don't openly discuss them with friends and family members. This can cause a lot of mistrust and lack of respect especially when people come to learn about your marriage issues. You can discuss with a marriage counsellor or a trustworthy friend.
8) Surprise your husband.
No matter the little money you have buy him gifts. Don't only leave buying of gifts for him alone. Wives surprise their husbands too. It is a way of showing appreciation for the little things they do or for being their for you in the relationship. It doesn't have to be gifts only. At times you can surprise them by cooking their favourite dishes once in a while or take them out. Writing a love note and putting it in their pockets when they go to work can show how much you care and love them.
It does count a lot.
When you have kids, love all your children equally. Don't love one more than the others. This causes a lot of problems in the future. Don't forget to continue loving your husband in the same way that you used to before the arrival of the children. Balanced the relationship between you, the children and their father.
Wish you all Success
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2021 Millicent Okello
dashingscorpio from Chicago on March 26, 2021:
The only two that I might make an exception with is #6 and #7.
If you find yourself in an abusive toxic marriage don't be ashamed to speak with family and close friends who may be able to help you get out of a potentially dangerous situation.
Your immediate family and close friends should always be a part of your (emotional security) support system.
They will always have your back and want what is best for you.
No one is "stuck" with anyone. Suffering is optional.
"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
- Oscar Wilde