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Makeup or Breakup?

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Can a marriage overcome a separation? If a married couple amicably agreed to this is there a chance you can move forward? Or is this the final end to your marriage?

When couples have too much animosity towards one another perhaps a temporary separation can resolve the issues. For some couples it may seem like the end of their marriage already. While on the other hand many have separated for short time and found their way back to each other. Some couples grew stronger from the absence; while others continued on their separate ways. How can you decide which will benefit you?

During the course of the separation did you find yourself happy or miserable without your partner? Was the reason of your separation grounds to file for legal separation? Or are you willing to correct or work on whatever the issues are? Do you think the time you spent away from each other made things worse or better?

These are all questions one who is separated will ask repeatedly. They will find themselves asking their family, friends and or medical professionals these questions. The only one who knows the right answer is; you. All others’ will simply provide you with is their “opinions & views”. Only you know what want, what you need out of the relationship. If you were arguing of the same issues were the issues resolved? Seek the answers to the issues before making any decisions.

Some couples will continue to communicate during the separation; while others will not. If and when you’re communicating with hopes of reconciliation; be 100% on the same page that issues have been rectified.

Every couple deserves a second chance. If you’re willing to resolve or compromise on whatever separated the union; go for it. Life is short and if you feel that your love for one another can overcome all obstacles, then do so. Do not let others opinions interfere in your relationship. Simply keep in mind it is YOUR decision, YOUR life, YOUR relationship/marriage.

At the end of the day you have to ask yourself if you’re able to handle the questions that ran through your head during the separation. Let’s be honest many who are or have been separated ask these questions. “What is he/she doing?” “Who are you with?” “Did you sleep with someone during the separation? These are the thoughts most separated couples will ask and you will be lying to yourself if you didn’t even think these at all through that time. So, are you ready for the answers? Are you ready to move forward if the answers are not what you want to hear?

In order to move forward you must first resolve the issues that separated the two of you. You must accept whatever did or did not happen during. You must be honest with one another and communicate to move forward and work on your marriage/relationship as a team always. You must hear one another’s views and emotions because everyone deserves to be heard. If either one you have any doubts that your relationship may not work be honest with each other; either move forward or let go. It is neither fair nor healthy to keep one partner with hopes of reconciliation while the other is certain they do not wish to.

All in all; Everyone deserves a chance to be loved as much as they love & only you will know what is best for you.

This content reflects the personal opinions of the author. It is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and should not be substituted for impartial fact or advice in legal, political, or personal matters.

© 2021 Lynn Castelan

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