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Love Seeker

Never take Love for granted. Love is thinking of the other one first. Thinking how can I make them happy, today?

Love Keeps Life Alive with Happiness in a Relationship

A tremendous number of people are asking the same questions about love:

  • What is love?
  • Is there love out there for me?
  • Where do I look for Mr. Right?
  • Should I join an online dating site to find love?
  • How do I know he loves me?
  • How do I know it when I find my true love?
  • Does loving make you sad and feeling lonely?
  • Has he stopped loving me?

Love Seekers

Passionate Romantics---are what you are seeking to fulfill your life with happiness, so it is alive with excitement. These men are not extinct; they are still alive and waiting for Miss Right to come into their view.

So You Truly Love Him?

I am answering with questions---no I am not a Jewish grandmother---but they are such wonderful grandmothers who answer a question with a question.

So only to immolate this practice I will begin: Do you feel happiest when you are with him? Does he make you feel loved when he cannot take his eyes off you; and wants to hold your hand as you walk and talk together?

Does he kiss your fingers when he holds your hand? Does his look worship you as you walk into a room? And, when you walk out of the room does he touch you as you walk by him? Do you just want him to hold you for the rest of your life? Are you feeling you cannot get enough of being with him and he feels the same way about you? Do you blush and your heart palpitates when you see him? Have you lost your appetite?

Couples in Love


Do You Demand Romance in Your Dating or do You Just Hook-Up? These are two examples.

A Date:

He called and asked you out on a dinner date and you accepted the invitation. And, he picked you up at your door on time with a bouquet of wildflowers. He helped you with your wrap or coat and then guided you out the door with his hand placed gently in the small of your back.

He opens doors for you and helped you take off your coat and seats you at the table. He told you what an excellent choice on the menu is. He asks if you want him to order for you.

And, you said, “Yes, Please.” He asks about your life, work and maybe your aspirations. He wants to know about you because he is interested in knowing you beyond the dinner date.

Since it is a weeknight and you both work; he paid the bill and left a generous tip. He takes you home after dinner. He asked you for another date at your door, then kisses your cheek and says goodnight, but does not leave until you are inside with your door locked.

Love is a Surprise Sometimes


A Hook-Up

At work a cute guy asked you at the water-cooler if you wanted to meet him at Joe’s Bar and Grill after work. And, since you wanted this cute guy to ask you out for some time you actually accepted.

When you arrive at Joe’s Bar-- you look for him. And he motions for you to come to the very back table in a dark corner. He remains in his chair, and you pull your own chair out and sit down. Then, he orders drinks and a plate of appetizers, while you are trying to relax and enjoy your drink before you sample one of the finger foods.

He talks excessively about himself. It is me-me-me and how great I am. He has ordered another round and inhaled the appetizers. If his behavior was not bad enough, he now asks you to meet him at his apartment for more drinks.

It’s your decision if you enjoy being treated this way---then you meet him. Before you leave Joe’s he hands you the bill. And, since you are going to meet him---you pay it.

Which Did You Choose #1 or #2?

The word number 2 is not showing is---Respect. The door of love and romance does not open to disrespect. A man who respects you will not ask you to meet him---I don’t care who he is or how well-connected he is in your career or social group. If you do not demand respect in dating---you will end up like the girl in #2.

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Demand respect with your actions and attitude---then you will receive the regard you deserve. And, if a man is disrespectful---put him in his place with a sharp remark.

Still Looking for Love? Love is waiting.

Well, maybe you need to reevaluate your location and employment. Do you live in a city? Or maybe you live in a small town? Check your local paper for social events where and when and, then you and your friends or a girlfriend start going to the functions in your area. Being savvy is your guide to meeting available men in cities and small towns.

Do not act needy or overjoyed because a man looks your way; this is a big turn off for the right men. Many people meet someone at their jobs; however, this may prove an unwise decision. If you break up with him, it could be bad for your career---because I am here to tell you men are as vindictive as women.

Think twice before dating at work---the end results might not be as sweet as the beginning.

Are you still looking for Mr. Right?

Online dating turns out well for some if you join a service that requires members to consent to background checks. Then, you still need to do your due diligence in investigating a person before you trust them on a date.

  • Men sometimes join when just separated from their wives. (Always ask are you married, separated, divorced, in a relationship or single.) Don’t waste your time on scoundrels. Put on your thinking cap and ask away.
  • Background checks administered by experts on:

1.) Places lived.

2.) Employments.

3.) Local Police Records where they had residents and employment.

4.) Do they have the FBI do Background Searches for them?

Ask the online site you registered with how far back they go on background checks. You need this information before registering with any dating site.

  • This is the only time I would suggest meeting a man on a first date because until you feel secure---do not give out your address. I know he might Google it or not. Check the Internet and see if they have your address. Meet in a public place and take a cab home---shut the cab door before you give the address to the driver.

Don’t let me scare you with my suggestions---I want you to practice carefulness and safety.

Sometimes love will find you when you are not looking---it is funny how this happens. Maybe Cupid’s arrows are landing in two hearts at the same time---love is waiting.

Does He Still Love Me?

What has he done or not done to make you ask this question? Is he not calling as often? (Please do not call him when he is being inattentive.) If you are dating regularly and have an ongoing relationship---there is no excuse he did not call and tell you if something else is taking up his time at the moment.

Maybe he decided commitment did not appeal to him at this time. Most men take the easy way out thinking ---not calling states a message loud and clear. Why? Because men shy away from confrontations in telling a woman they feel their relationship is going too fast and he needs some space to think. Or he is no longer interested.

However, some women do not get the message because he was so sweet the last time, they were together. A needy or possessive woman can destroy a beginning relationship with excessive phone call during his workday. Always wanting to know where he is and what he is doing.

Love does not bloom with this type of behavior---it slowly wilts and dies.

Do Not Fast Forward Your Relationship---Take it Slow and Easy

When some women begin dating a guy and he seems interested because he wants a second date. So, now the woman feels they are a couple, but he feels they need to take it slow and get to know each other better.

That is what dating is about---time spent together to see if both want to go forward and have a relationship.

She is making her bridal shower list in her mind---and in his mind are work issues and getting the next promotion. She needs to slow it down and he needs to disconnect his work life from his social life. If they want a relationship to bloom into love, they need to communicate more and spend social time together.

Love will not live unless fed with attention, devotion, passion, understanding, caring, considerations, and affections with thoughtfulness. Love is a living emotion that needs nourishment daily.

Should Love be Nurtured?

This content reflects the personal opinions of the author. It is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and should not be substituted for impartial fact or advice in legal, political, or personal matters.

© 2015 Barbara Purvis Hunter


Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on September 09, 2020:

Hi Umesh Chandra Bhatt,

Thanks for your visit and stay safe in our world today.

Bobbi Purvis

Umesh Chandra Bhatt from Kharghar, Navi Mumbai, India on September 08, 2020:

Barbara, this is really a very useful piece of writing and you have presented it so lucidly. Stay blessed.

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on October 04, 2015:


Great seeing you again and thanks for the visited.

Have a great day.

Bobbi Purvis

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 04, 2015:

I Tweeted!

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on September 14, 2015:

Hi fpherj48,

Dear Paula,

It is so wonderful to hear from you and I hope all is well in your part of the world. I believe in fate and so did my mother. She never married again after my step-father died.

We need to be aware of all things around us and protect ourselves from false people.

You have a great week.

Great to see you again,

Bobbi Purvis

Suzie from Carson City on September 14, 2015:

Bobbi.....This is absolutely great, sound & sensible advice! I appreciate the this "old-fashioned" approach. Today's situations often astound me!

I'm happy to be older & wiser at this point in my life.

Yes, it's so much more important to make certain we remain SAFE. It's a scary world out there, Bobbi. Best to protect ourselves.

I'm with you 100% when it comes to advising women to be alert to the guy's behavior and attitude about respect. The best way to do this is to respect yourself!

Frankly, I'm not "looking." I think that if women are smart, they understand that "fate" is a very real, profound happening never ever be desperate.

LOVE is a Universal need. When it comes into our lives, we recognize it like an old friend..........Peace, Bobbi. Your words are golden!

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on September 14, 2015:

sujaya venkatesh,

Thanks for your visit and comment. Have a great week.

Bobbi Purvis

sujaya venkatesh on September 14, 2015:

a loving hub

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on March 18, 2015:

Hi AudreyHowitt,

Great to see you and thanks for sharing. Have a wonderful Wednesday.

Bobbi Purvis

Audrey Howitt from California on March 17, 2015:

I cam back for another read--sharing this one!

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on February 19, 2015:

Hi Audrey,

Thanks for your visit and comment. You would be fast to warm if you were in Florida tonight. Ha! We are in the teens degree and it will go lower.

I hope California is warm with many stars shining tonight.

Have a great weekend.

Bobbi :)

Audrey Howitt from California on February 19, 2015:

I do think that love needs to be nurtured--so I am a slow to warm partner I think!

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on February 14, 2015:

Hi FlourishAnyway,

I hope you had a wonderful Valentine's Day and thank you for the visit and comment.

Bobbi Purvis

FlourishAnyway from USA on February 14, 2015:

I'm all for DIY background checks ... trust but verify.

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on February 06, 2015:


I am always happy to see you and thanks for reading my hub. And, thanks so much for sharing.

Have a wonderful weekend.

Bobbi Purvis

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 06, 2015:

I enjoyed reading this hub the first time and had to stop by again. So much to think about here. Tweeted, Pinned, and shared.

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on February 03, 2015:

Hi Romanian,

You are right, and sometimes love is staring you in the face and you overlook the best one for you trying to see someone else. In others words the grass might be green in another pasture, but it might not taste as sweet as the grass you are near.

Have a wonderful week.

Bobbi Purvis

Nicu from Oradea, Romania on February 03, 2015:

Great article, it's hard to live without true love , some people find it , others are searching for this for the rest of their life.

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on January 28, 2015:

Hi Nell Rose,

Your mother sounded like mine with her little names for people. I am so happy for your visit and comment. You have a wonderful Thursday.

I suppose the fad is to find that special someone on the Internet at a dating service. One of the ladies at HubPages said she found her Mr. Right through a service.

If you try---tell us about it in a hub.

Bobbi Purvis

Nell Rose from England on January 28, 2015:

Great advice Bobbi, I am not looking for a mister right, not sure if they have them in my town! lol! Here's something that will make you laugh, my mum always used to call a guy she knew 'paddy the next best thing' eventually I got fed up of not knowing why and asked her, why do you call him that? so she laughed and said, 'my friend calls her husband that because as she said, 'I can't find the perfect male so.....Paddy is the next best thing! LOL!

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on January 28, 2015:

Hi aviannovice,

Thanks for your visit and comment. Stay warm---it is even cold here in Florida today.

Have a wonderful Thursday.

Bobbi Purvis

Deb Hirt from Stillwater, OK on January 28, 2015:

This sounds like tremendous advice and plenty to think about. Great work.

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on January 27, 2015:

Hi Colleen Swan

That would be a wonderful story to share because so many women stay lonely from fear of reaching out on the Internet. I think it is a great love story to share.

Thank you for your visit and comment--have a great week.

Bobbi Purvis

Colleen Swan from County Durham on January 27, 2015:

I found my true love over the internet and we married. I haven't analysed love, but I feel it was there when I read his first e-mail; something clicked.

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on January 18, 2015:

Hi vocalcoach,

I wish your son and his soon-to- be wife the very best that love has to give them. Thanks for the visit and may 2015 be your best year ever.

Bobbi Purvis

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on January 18, 2015:

Hi vkwok,

Thanks for reading my hub and taking the time to comment. I have always believed getting to know someone took time---so I vote for slow and easy in this case.

Thanks, and have a wonderful 2015.

Bobbi Purvis

Audrey Hunt from Pahrump NV on January 18, 2015:

I love this subject! You've done a fantastic job defining this 'living emotion.' I see this love between my son and his soon-to-be wife. Ah...there's nothing like it!

Sharing and thanks Bobbi.



Victor W. Kwok from Hawaii on January 18, 2015:

You have some interesting advice, PurvisBobbi. You're right that it's a good idea to take things slow so that the couples can get to know each other better.

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on January 13, 2015:

Hi Sunshine625,

You already have Mr.Right. Yes, you know I vote on action---because I love action movies. I always love it when you visit and I see that beautiful smile---keep smiling and may this year 2015 bring you happy surprises.

Your Friend,


Linda Bilyeu from Orlando, FL on January 13, 2015:

Love is expressed best with actions, not with words. Words are too easy to just say, actions are more work. So...actions do speak louder than words! I'm not searching for Mr. Right but your advice and tips are awesome! :)

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on January 13, 2015:

Hi Writer Fox,

Great to hear from you and I hope all is well in your world. Matchmaker sounds like fun, but I will leave that to the experts.

Have a wonderful 2015

Bobbi Purvis

Writer Fox from the wadi near the little river on January 13, 2015:

Wonderful advice for finding the right relationship. Perhaps you should take a part-time job as a matchmaker!

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on January 13, 2015:

Good Morning ChitrangadaSharan,

When a couple has true love it is a precious emotion to cherish.

Have a great day.

Bobbi Purvis

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on January 13, 2015:


Good Morning from Florida USA, and your sweet words just made my day brighter. Thanks for your visit and comment.

Have a wonderful day,

Bobbi Purvis

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on January 13, 2015:

Enjoyed reading your hub!

Fortunate are those people who find true love. It is the responsibility of both the partners to value it and respect it.

'----Take it slow and easy!' Loved these lines.

Thanks for sharing this lovely hub! Voted up!

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on January 13, 2015:

You so greatly expressed love here and I feel love should be nurtured. Finding someone worthy of you is rare.

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on January 12, 2015:

Hi Anna Haven,

I am happy for you Anna because not every human on earth has accomplished finding a special someone.

Sending Greeting to Scotland from Florida USA,

Bobbi Purvis

Anna Haven from Scotland on January 12, 2015:

I have been with my own Romeo for a long time so past the meeting stage.

You summed up the excitement of new love perfectly and I am sure that there are still some good guys out there. :)

Barbara Purvis Hunter (author) from Florida on January 12, 2015:

Hi Bill,

You need to feel it to know it. I wish you the best year ever in 2015. Thanks for you visit and comment. I will be back tonight to read hubs.

Until later,

Bobbi Purvis

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on January 12, 2015:

It's an interesting question...what is love? I don't think I could answer that question until I found it. :) Good advice here, Bobbi!


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