Why Send a Love Letter?
Ah, new love! Nothing like the feelings of butterflies in your stomach when your beloved walks up to you and gives you an embrace! Maybe you are lucky enough to have a romantic partner who showers you not only with affection and attention, but also pours his or her heart out in sweet love letters to you. I have a box hidden somewhere in a closet with some of the most endearing notes from earlier loves of my life. Nothing like reading such treasures (current or past) to boost your ego and stir your soul.
Don't let your love letters end with the excitement of a new relationship, however! You can continue to stoke the fires of your love life with letters from the heart, at any time and any stage. Who cares if you've been married for many years? So what if you're 68 years old? Women and men both love to be loved - and what better way to show your emotions than to write it down in a special, meaningful way?
Emails can work in a pinch - and let's face it, your lover's heart will leap with delight when the subject line pops up in the middle of the day. But, for true, long lasting impact, get out some stationary, or a greeting card and let's write a love letter from the heart!
Love Letter Ideas...
Step 1: "You're So Attractive" Love Letters
Generally used in the courting stage of a relationship, this is when you can let doves fly, roses bloom anytime of the year, and its always Valentine's Day. In other words.... no holds barred!
Tell your partner how wonderful his warm chest feels when you're wrapped in an embrace. Your woman needs to know that her skin is so soft that you simply cannot stop yourself from reaching over and touching her hands and caressing her fingers.
Talk about the excitement of your time spent together, "Yesterday at the park with you was so perfect, I only wished that I had the ability to keep the sun in the sky just a bit longer so that the day would not come to an end." Does it sound cheesy? Maybe to you as a reader of this Hub. But between two lovers, it might actually capture a special moment perfectly.
Two pieces of advice here: First - do not copy someone else's love letters. If you don't use your own words, it will not sound authentic and simply cannot have the desired effect of conveying your true emotions for your significant other. Second - try not to let fear or embarrassment dissuade you from opening up in a love letter.
Just go for it! Tell them how you really feel, and how THEY make you feel. Chances are that you'll get the favor returned... and then some.
Step 2: "I Want To Sleep With You" Love Letters
These are great fun (usually after the recipient gets the letter...), but can also be a joy to write, if you are creative enough. I do not recommend email here. I have categorized these letters as "Step 2" in a relationship, but I also think it's a great exercise for married couples to continue to use as a way to keep things spicy and fun! Have you ever read love scene passages in a book? (have you not?) Well, time to become a trashy romantic paperback novel author! Undress your lover, piece by piece. Tell them what you see and what you like. Tell them where and what will happen. Set a stage that is memorable (roaring fire and blankets? or maybe something a little more risque?) Throw in extras, if you like - sexy lingerie, candles, whipped cream - whatever turns you on!
A great strategy is to slip the note to your significant other before they leave for work for the day. They'll be referring to the letter all day long, and you can both savor the anticipation!
Step 3: "I am So Lucky To Have you in My Life" Love Letters
Some couples, after months or years together, may find that the only exchange of "love letters" between them comes on February 14, in garish pink cards written by Hallmark. There are so many opportunities to tell your spouse or significant other how much they mean to you - particularly in your own words! Special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries call for heart-felt sentiments and at least a paragraph or two talking about memories of time spent together. Same too, with the birth of a child, a graduation, or other life milestones. But perhaps some of the most meaningful love notes are those that are given for no reason at all. I saved a Post-It note from my husband from years ago (yep, a Post-it note!), that simply said - "I love you so much!" I can't even recall why he left it, but I think the reason why it struck me as so dear was the fact that it was entirely without any motivation or reason.
We may feel comfort in believing that our spouse loves us after a lot of time together. But in addition to hearing those three special words, receiving a letter from our life partner that simply conveys the message that "I am so lucky to have you in my life," and "I love you so much," is a definite keepsake. You can pull it out after an argument. Your kids can find it one day when they're rummaging through your drawers. And one day, when you're 89 years old, you'll smile again at how lucky you were to love and be loved.
Adagio in G Minor (Albinoni)
© 2008 Stephanie Marshall
Paolo Cross from Philippines on February 21, 2013:
Although I do not believe that there should be a format for writing love letters, but this one is really helpful for those who can't get their head and heart straight to expressing what they feel through a letter. Keep up the good work!
Veronika on April 25, 2012:
l am person who realy like attetion, whn it came to lovelife, and by raeding thi love issue it sincen like you are tolking to me and llike it very much' thank you so much
:) happy person on April 20, 2012:
Of course I love you. Now get me a beer! Lol! Well written article! I enjoyed reading this apart from the fact I don't have a boyfriend. :)
Dorsi Diaz from The San Francisco Bay Area on November 22, 2011:
You have motivated me to send a love letter to my hubby! I used to do emails and texts (I sometimes still do) but a nice letter from the heart would be just what he needs right now!
Thanks for reminding me!
majesty on November 18, 2011:
Maybe if you stopped using broken English to write messages maybe she would find more appealing and a bit more intelligent.
Auto on November 06, 2011:
I luv a girl in ma class room, i send her a later. in dat later, i wrote(i hav a feelings 4 u, what about u)? and i told her to reply de letter next week. she said 'ok' (when we met again, i ask her 'where is it?) she relied 'am not with it today' i ask her y? she repled 'i will bring it 2morow' I SHE TOLD ME AGAIN (PLS TRY TO COME TOMORROW)
when we met again, i ask her so where is it? se repled 'am not with it' i ask her y? 'she said infact i will not reply it' i asked her 4 numba SHE said 'i dont like to give numba to any1? SO WHAT WILL I DO?
MarkMAllen15 on September 16, 2011:
Great ideas here.I want to write my own masterpiece now.
Thelma Alberts from Germany on June 27, 2011:
Beautiful hub. It reminds me of how I met my husband. Through writing letters. I still have his letters in a box and the oldest letter is 36 years old. I would love to read them to my grandchildren one day if I have one. Thanks for sharing.
aweis ibrahim on May 20, 2011:
Really love is agreat thing in life it can make you weak some times you will get happiness some times you will get sorrow the best and good thing in life is to get the one you love
sunil hamal on May 16, 2011:
thanks for your love letter.but i can,t say that how much i love .i love u s
Darvocet Lawsuit on March 17, 2011:
It is nice to have a letter for our love one's. Even it is not a Valentines or Christmas season. It can help uplift them or relieve from stress that they are feeling.
Bill Ray on March 06, 2011:
Writing love letter from your heart are important to give confirmation to how you feel and helps to keep that love burning in each others heart for a long time to come. I put this into practice, very often.
Stephanie Marshall (author) from Bend, Oregon on February 13, 2011:
Thanks Emily - have a Happy Valentine's Day!
emilybee on February 13, 2011:
I love love letters. I have a box too! Awesome hub!
Stephanie Marshall (author) from Bend, Oregon on February 12, 2011:
Totally agree, Mark! Just a line or two that you write yourself is much more meaningful than a Hallmark card. Have a great Valentine's Day and more! Best, Steph
Dayan Abdurrahman on January 07, 2011:
So perfect and welldone..to help many who feel in love but noway to show their loves to their lovers...
Stephanie Marshall (author) from Bend, Oregon on October 30, 2010:
I hear you onegoodwoman - 15 years and counting! Cheers, Steph
onegoodwoman from A small southern town on October 29, 2010:
This is a nice reminder to us old married folks.
And you treated the subject with respect and dignity. I like that!
Micky Dee on October 07, 2010:
Beautiful! I wish I were still living! Great job!
IdiditAlready on October 06, 2010:
Nice. Very nice. Now get me a beer. LOL
heymcs from Utah and DC on October 05, 2010:
Very nice hub (and I love the pic with caption "...now go get me a beer" - too funny). I'm fortunate to have experienced a bit of each type of love letter/stage of love and now with my partner of 16 (or so years)we work at rekindling that spark. I like to hide and send little love notes in my man's briefcase, lunch sack, etc. and I know he loves finding them. Ahhhh...
Capt Semant from India on September 03, 2010:
Truly nice expression....you have smooth flow of telling things...
InfoTell on August 16, 2010:
Thanks for the insightful information put so elegantly. I travel a lot and write love letters to my wife as often as possible. It really helps to close the gap of distance.
Midtown Girl from Right where I want to be! on August 04, 2010:
Love letters are a beautiful way to continue to express your feelings for one another throughout a relationship, and a wonderful way to chronicle your life together, especially in a long-term union. Nice hub!
Fendy Rebecca on July 28, 2010:
I think you r a good man, your family life is really happy
Kate MacAlpine from Anywhere, USA on January 06, 2010:
In the process of posting almost two years of love letters during the Vietnam era, I've come to the conclusion that writing love letters to our spouses should be something we all do periodically, maybe regularly. I once heard of a marriage counseling retreat where one exercise was to write a love letter to your spouse. And you're right, email will do in a pinch, but there's something about sitting down and actually composing a well-thought out letter. By the way, did you think of making a hub of your love letters? I've done mine changing the names of all people involved and making my profile anonymous. Lovely writing. Cheers, Katy Who Waited
Sancho on September 20, 2009:
What do you all think about writing letters to try to get her back?
\Brenda Scully on July 06, 2009:
nice hub....xx what is the man above saying, do you know
The Manmoth from Just a Hair Shy of Paradise, U.S.A. on July 06, 2009:
Thank you for the inspiration to write yet another letter to the only woman I've ever loved. Though the Friend-love-hate-Need-disuade-respect-Admire-Want-Love-leave-must-again-taste-her-sweet-caress line continues to hang in the balance, I will again eat a peach as I again reach for her most-worthy forgiveness-affection. You write well. Thanks again for your contribution.
jojo pasilan on July 03, 2009:
i want to know
Barry Collins on May 25, 2009:
please i'm requesting for love letter and love card. please kindly send it for me, this is my E-mail firstname.lastname@example.org.
i hope to read your mail soonnext.
Sumit_Baba on March 01, 2009:
hi i am Sumit , I Love Haryana
Stephanie Marshall (author) from Bend, Oregon on February 14, 2009:
Thank you blondepoet and Happy Valentine's Day!
blondepoet from australia on February 14, 2009:
i loved this hub you are a true romantic
Stephanie Marshall (author) from Bend, Oregon on August 06, 2008:
Hi Benson, writing love letters to your wife (or husband) is a great practice, no matter the reason. It must be a good step to making up. Cheers to you too, Steph
Benson Yeung from Hong Kong on August 05, 2008:
thanks for the great reminder. I still write love letters to my wife, often after she stops talking to me for 48 hours. I wish I don't need to write them so often.
trish1048 on April 12, 2008:
I feel as Steph does, and my belief is that there is no such thing as a 'perfect' love letter. My opinion is that if it comes from the heart, that is the 'perfect' letter.
Thanks for writing this request!
SunSeven from Singapore / India on April 05, 2008:
Just the perfect hub! Thank you for answering my request.
marisuewrites from USA on April 04, 2008:
I am in the process of writing love letters to my 3 sons...each one will be unique for them...and their own special book...I will do it until I am no longer here...and when I'm gone they can have my words of love and encouragement when memory fails them....Marisue
Rob Jundt from Midwest USA on April 04, 2008:
Writing letters (any kind) should not be a lost art. Thanks for the well written reminder for all of us who have fallen off the truck as of late. Very nice!
Stephanie Marshall (author) from Bend, Oregon on April 03, 2008:
That is so sweet, Amy Jane! I can only imagine what those letters must mean to your grandma!
amy jane from Connecticut on April 03, 2008:
Wonderful hub, Steph. It made me think of my grandma, who had a box of letters from my grandfather from when he was in the war. After he died, she would take them out every year on his birthday and show them to me, remember him, and cry. They are so beautiful- I am sure he never thought they would become a family heirloom someday.
Stephanie Marshall (author) from Bend, Oregon on April 03, 2008:
Thanks Kathryn! I definitely agree that handwriting letters is a nice gift to people. I try to do that too!
Kathryn Vercillo from San Francisco on April 02, 2008:
Beautiful hub! I've always been one to write letters on holidays and special occasions - they make a much better gift than something store bought! - and can definitely see how they could help to keep the romance fires burning.
Stephanie Marshall (author) from Bend, Oregon on April 02, 2008:
Patty! I wish I knew what story that was. You have inspired me with several really great comments on my hubs (I recall the one on the EBB Hub about the children with love letters on sticks, especially!) It is truly becoming a lost tradition, unfortunately! Thanks for the comments, as always - Steph
Patty Inglish MS from USA and Asgardia, the First Space Nation on April 02, 2008:
A decade or so ago, the lovely story of a couple in their 40s was aired on prime time TV. They had fallen in love through letters as penpals and after many months, more deeply through telephone conversations. When they met, they became inseperable and were married - still are, as far as I know. Letters did it!
Stephanie Marshall (author) from Bend, Oregon on April 02, 2008:
Awww... thank you both so much! I really appreciate the great comments dtricarico and In the Doghouse! :-)
In The Doghouse from California on April 02, 2008:
Another "Slam Dunk" Hub! I loved it!
dtricarico on April 02, 2008:
Not only a great idea for a hub (and nicely done), but a great reminder of how to keep the romance going, even after the initial "fireworks!" Thanks!