Avyukth is a college student who has been pursuing stand up comedy for the past 3 years He also loves comedy screenwriting.
Relationships are what define us as humans. It is the glue that holds us together as a society. There are different types of relationships. We share relationships with our parents, children, life partners, friends, siblings, and colleagues
In my previous article, I spoke about the importance of trust and honesty. I believe that these two values are the bedrock of every relationship. A healthy relationship cannot exist without trust and honesty. However, these aren't the only elements required for the success of your relationships. There are a few more elements you need to work on, to strengthen your bond with people. Read on to find out what they are.
We all make the mistake of assuming that relationships work on their own. But that is far from the truth. Just because two people live under the same roof, it doesn't mean that they will get along well. This is true for siblings, spouses, parents and children. It is unreasonable to assume that you will have good relationships with all the people you meet on a daily basis . This holds good with respect to classmates and colleagues.
Relationships are like living things. You need to invest efforts in order to keep them alive. You have to constantly plan and execute activities in order to grow your relationship. This might be as simple as meeting for a cup of coffee or giving them a call often to check on their well being. In fact, these kinds of small efforts matter the most. It shows that you genuinely care about the person. People also feel appreciated about your presence in their lives.
A relationship without problems cannot exist. There are 3 ways in which people deal with problems.
End the relationship
This is commonly seen among friends and colleagues. When there is a certain disagreement, people conclude that the person is not good. They stop talking to this person and slowly drift apart. In many cases these are minor issues. But people are unwilling to work on their relationships. Hence, they decide to end them.
Avoid the problem
In some cases, people don't want to address the problem. They don't want to lose the relationship either. So they avoid it hoping that the issue will eventually disappear. This might work in the short term. But the problem is bound to resurface in the future. Eventually, all the problems get accumulated and they will not be able to tackle all of them. So, the relationship comes to an end
Solve the problem
The most ideal approach is to tackle these problems at the early stages. This might be difficult or unpleasant in the short run. But this process is necessary for the success of a relationship. It shows that you are willing to work past the problems. It also shows your commitment towards the relationship. And in the long run, this is the only approach that works.
Healthy relationships add value to the lives of both the people involved. A lot of relationships serve only the interests of one person. This makes it tiring and mentally draining for the other. This is what is popularly referred to as a toxic relationship. Genuine concern for each other's well being is essential. If you feel that the relationship has become one sided, it is better to walk away. The relationship should not just be pleasurable, it should also help you grow as an individual.
The gift of time
The only resource that is equally available to all humans is time. Regardless of your socio-economic status, you get 24 hours a day. Hence, the biggest gift you can give someone is your time. Spending quality time helps in getting to know a person better. Performing activities based on your common interests can help you bond. You can even convince people to try an activity that you are passionate about. The most important aspect is to consciously plan and allocate time for your relationships. Otherwise , in today's fast paced world you will end up neglecting them.
It is in the nature of humans to be self obsessed. We only hear what we want to hear. But in a relationship it is of great importance to give your attention to the other person. Listening helps in understanding what they are saying. But focusing your attention on the person tells you what they aren't saying outwardly. It can help you understand their emotions. You might have noticed that a simple eye contact between best friends is enough for them to communicate. Such a bond can be formed only when you constantly pay attention to them.
Remember to pay attention, put in efforts, give the gift of time, solve problems and add value to each other's life. The quality of your relationships will significantly improve.
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- Key Elements of a Successful Relationship (Part 3)
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- Key Elements of a Successful Relationship (Part 4)
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Avyukth Krishna (author) from Bangalore on June 20, 2020:
Hello Murali sir,
We usually neglect our relationships and think that things will work out on their own. But its important to put in the efforts to maintain them.
Thank you so much !!
Halemane Muralikrishna from South India on June 17, 2020:
It was very nice reading on the relationship. Friendship is the foremost one which a person feels proud of. Due to this confidence and support, one gets self-motivated to achieve the impossible tasks easily. Therefore, it is very important to maintain friendship bonds intact and warm. Very well explained article with key points, Ms Avyukth Krishna.