Kiran Khannas a Nuclear Engineer, a die-hard blogger, and writes an article on personality/skills development for the leadership roles.
Say "NO" to Attachment
We consider attachment as love, and it is the biggest mistake we do unknowingly and this impact rest of our life. Most of us realize this when we go through the aftereffects.
I think we need to exercise caution.
You can love the person you want, but be careful if you are attaching your happiness with that person. We do this with our spouse, our children, and later on, when they leave, we become paranoid with the feeling of loneliness. This cause a lot of issues of depression and suicidal.
The mind program which we have hard-wired with the word attachment is difficult to re-wired.
Before you fall in love, line of precaution, think through what is the difference in love and attachment.
Attachment is not something which we can use casually. This hurt you and another person with whom you attached with withdrawal symptoms. I am suffering from withdrawal symptoms and want to caution if you are using the word attachment unknowingly with someone you fall in love.
“He, who is overly attached to his family members, experiences fear, and sorrow, for the root of all grief is the attachment. Thus one should discard attachment to be happy,” — Chanakya Quotes.
We often say I am in a relationship. I am attached.
Attachment means your mind now depends on others. Whenever you become dependent on others, it is a weakness, and kind of you have given remote control of your happiness.
If you depend on other's behaviour and actions, then it is natural for you to get hurt. They will never be perfect as per your definition.
If you say I am attached, it is natural for me to get hurt. This is the invitation to hurt. Whenever you try to detach your emotional well-being is going to get spoiled. This often bring in unprecedented changes which you are prepared to handle.
Now the wonder word is detachment, not meaning indifference or being careless or it does not bother you. You can detach living under one roof and maybe attached living miles away.
Learn the meaning of detachment, it just the de-linking of your dependency on others not physically but mentally. This way never feel rejected and hurt.
Learn the difference between connection and attachment. The emotional connection in relation gives you power, attachment sucks the life out.
You can suggest, improve, guide others to change the behaviour, but will not feel hurt if others choose not to change.
Now, think about a situation, your spouse lost a job, and it depresses her. What she requires now?
A motivation of yours right.
If you become sad by this, since you are attached with her. You are not doing any good to get her to come out of this situation.
This is the problem with attachment. Now, when you try to console, might say leave me alone for some time. Maybe feels negative energy from you, and that is the onset of friction in the relationship.
If you detach, it gives her positive high-frequency energy to come out of this situation. This is the power of unconditional love and practising de-attachment. You will always radiate positive energy and vibrations.
Only one exception to this rule you need to get attached to someone, who will never hurt you, and always take care of you with HIS blessings and unconditional love. Once you have an abundance of this unconditional love, you will give to others. Connect with that someone and surrender yourself with full faith and trust.
Talk to your internal belief system for any problems, he will give you silent answers. Practice the attachment with belief system 24*7.
You will see wonders in your life. It is a personal, beautiful and constant relationship with your belief system.
Do This Experiment With Me For 2 Mins
Bring the person in your imagination with whom you want to improve your relationship.
Say past is past, put a full stop on past thoughts. This is the connection of mind with mind.
I am a giver in this relationship.
I want nothing from this relationship.
I have love and power in abundance.
I have everything.
I only radiate love and respect for them.
I accept them in as-is state.
They accept me as I am.
My relation is smooth and unconditional.
In Conclusion -
- No emotional dependence
- Unconditionally giving
- Detached by the mind, not physically
- Attached with Belief System
- Meditation is the way to connect with Belief system
ATTACHMENT that slow poison which kills us each passing day — Priyadarshinee Mohanty
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