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Jealousy Do We Ever Grow Out of the Green Eyed Monster?

Jealousy and green eyed jealousy

Jealousy and green eyed jealousy

Jealousy. What a horrible word! And what's worse, it leaves a horrible nasty feeling in your stomach when you get it. Jealousy is one of those emotions that start when we are children and carry on through our teens.

So, do we grow out of it when we get to real adulthood? And if not, why? Surely by the time we hit our 30s or 40s we should be emotionally settled enough to let that horrible green eyed monster go!

But sometimes, it sneaks back in when we don't expect it. And then we suddenly start to feel that horrible creeping sensation in our stomachs, we don't eat,and bam, here comes that jealousy!

But what makes a grown adult start to feel like a a jealous teen again?

why do we get jealous?

why do we get jealous?

Keep Your Hands Off Bitch!

Sometimes jealousy can be caused by the most obvious things. If you are happily married for example, and suddenly a cougar, yep one of those women, moves in next door.

And guess what? Yes she needs someone to do the electrics, maybe clear out the garage and she really needs, I mean, really needs...your man to help her!

To start with you don't mind. Its just a couple of jobs, she's on her own and well you feel sorry for her!

Then that horrible jealous feeling starts to pull on your gut. Is she trying to get it on with your hubby? You start to watch out for signs, and yes you will see them! But only in your mind.

And that's the trouble with jealousy. You start to imagine. And I mean imagine big time!

Jealousy Explained.

The little devil on your shoulder called jealousy

The little devil on your shoulder called jealousy

How To Deal With Jealousy!

Broken, And For What?

Did you know that a lot of marriages fail because one partner begins to distrust the other one? The poor guy, or girl won't have done a darn thing, but that doesn't matter. You know something is going on, and you will get the truth out of them one way or another.

The bad feeling starts to eat you up. And you can't control it. Next second you are walking out the door, getting a divorce, and for what? Your imagination!

Yes I know, I can hear you yelling at the computer. What happens if he is cheating? That's a different matter all together. Cheating is a fact. Jealousy on the other hand is your horrible little devil on your shoulder whispering in your ear, 'He is cheating, he is going to leave you'. And so on.

But there is a difference between reality and your mind playing tricks.

signs of jealousy and cheating

signs of jealousy and cheating

Jealousy, Not Just The Green Eyed Monster.

Okay, so we have covered the obvious. But what about the other type of jealousy? The one that creeps in and sucks you dry. But you have no idea what to center it on.

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What's making you feel this way? Why are you acting suspicious of everybody and every darn thing? And what's worse is that the people around you can tell you are acting strange. And they start to look at you suspiciously.

The trouble with that is, you then go on to believe that yes, they are definitely up to something! Big horrible jealousy circle!

You know what I think? Insecurity!

Ooh So Jealous!

  • Someone else got that job you really wanted.
  • You see your guy or girl out with someone else.
  • Your fat, or so you think, so you get jealous of thin girls or guys.
  • Someone you know has just won the lottery!
  • Why does she always get the good looking guys?
  • How come she/he has all those friends?
  • They bought a new house! How did they manage that?
  • They are going on another vacation? What?!

Losing Your Way.

Something has kicked that jealousy into place. So what's happened recently that's made you feel insecure? I know the answer to that. Big time.

Recently I lost my best friend. It was a nightmare. Two years ago I also lost my friend of 40 years. This is the first time in my life when I don't have a real close friend.

And that is what caused me to panic. I didn't realise at the time why I had started to feel this way.

I began acting strange. When I talked to other people, especially relatives of my friend who I had sort of been close too I began to think, hang on now what?

The trouble is, you try to overcompensate by smiling a lot, making out that you are really interested in what they are saying, but underneath it, oh dear, trust me, underneath the smile you are feeling so darn left out.


chessboard life is like a chessboard

chessboard life is like a chessboard

Losing A Friend.

Feeling Lost?

Why? Good question. Because you no longer know your place.

Life is a bit like a giant chess board. We all stand on the various squares, make our place comfortable and sit there.

We go out with those friends. We have dinner, maybe go to a club, and so on. Sometimes the other relatives, daughters, sons and so on come to.

But now the main Queen or King has gone. What do you do? See the relatives? Keep away? What?

And more importantly, do you climb up the board and change squares.

In other words, do you try to fill the gap? or back off. And there we have it. The jealousy kicks in. You see them going out with their friends. Where do you fit in?

Or don't you?

Its not easy.

Make New Friends!


Most of us have other friends that we can compensate with. Maybe incorporate your lost friends relatives with your other mates.

But what if you don't have other friends around you? Maybe they have moved on someplace else, or died?

You have two choices. Simple as that.

You either step back, feel jealous and get so darn depressed you don't know what to do with yourself, or you pick yourself up and carry on.

But carry on where? How?

Things You Should Do To Get Rid of that Green Eyed Monster

  • Stop feeling sorry for yourself. There are others suffering too.
  • Get out and meet some new people.
  • Join a club or start an evening class
  • Make more effort to see your lost friends relatives.
  • Make arrangements to go out with them. Invite them round and so on.
  • Take time out to babysit for them.
  • And last but not least, let them know you are still there for them if they need you.

Never Presume!

Here's a thought. Maybe they want you in their lives, but are too scared or don't know how to say it to you!

Ah you never thought of that did you? Okay, what happens if they want to move on without you?

Well, you just have to bite the bullet so to speak. Stop feeling jealous and resentful, and go out there and make a new set of friends.

You will never forget your lost best friend. But there are plenty of lonely people out there. Its just a matter of finding them.

And what you have to remember is, there are other people out there just like you!

Nell Rose (c) Copyright Click to Go To my Profile Page.


How To Nip Jealousy in the Bud.

Stop and think. Why are you jealous? What started it off in the first place? Have the other people been acting strangely or is it just you?

Remember your insecurities. Work through them and try to figure out a solution. Don't be false when you speak to them and constantly on the look out for a rebuff. They could well be acting strangely because they sense it in you.

Whatever the situation there are ways of sorting it out. The first thing you must always do is this.

Think before you speak, and keep smiling.

© 2014 Nell Rose


Nell Rose (author) from England on September 09, 2015:

Sorry to hear you are sad Colleen, hope it gets better, nell

Colleen Diemer from Florida on September 07, 2015:

Thank you Nell this helped so much! Sad Colleen

Nell Rose (author) from England on December 11, 2014:

Hi Paula, LOLOLO! now that sounds like me! no, I have blue eyes that go slightly green, and I grow scales and wings! lol! thanks for the laugh!

Suzie from Carson City on December 10, 2014:

Nell....My eyes are BROWN. Very VERY dark fact, when I have a bout of jealousy they become BLACK and spooky and spit FIRE and then I pounce on my enemy and burn holes into their head with my eyes....and I BITE.......Grrrrrrrrrr

Oh....dear me. I'm so sorry Nell. Must have been having one hell of a nasty nightmare!! What a naughty girl I am!.......I've never been the least bit jealous............UP++++

Nell Rose (author) from England on July 24, 2014:

Hi Maggie, yes that's so true, its the way we cope with our feelings that count, not the actual jealousy, thanks so much for reading, nell

Maggie.L from UK on July 24, 2014:

Hi Nell. I don't think we ever stop getting jealous about certain things in life, no matter what our age although hopefully we get better at dealing with these feelings. A very interesting read!

Nell Rose (author) from England on July 08, 2014:

LOL! you always make me laugh! so funny! have a wonderful evening and always great to hear from you.

Joanna Chandler from On Planet Earth on July 08, 2014:

You're making me giggle now i always seem to make you laugh, but naturally i am a comedian wherever i go i leave my clownish traits behind. Father help me if i marry with my jealousy lol i won't want people wink at him amma do surgery on their eyes....... Just kidding but straight face.

Nell Rose (author) from England on July 08, 2014:

lol! Hiya LadyFiddler, how dee doo to you too! yep I totally agree with you! what's mine is mine, so gerroff! haha! that's what I say to them! yes that's so true, our imagination can go nuts if we get jealous! thanks for making me laugh, and have a wonderful day on that beautiful island!

Joanna Chandler from On Planet Earth on July 08, 2014:

How dee doo Nell and Good afternoon to you. It's still morning in Trinidad , England is 5 hours ahead of us.

Interesting hub about jealousy, hmmm i guess sometimes I've got about ten of those green eye monsters around my neck. I've got to work on that lol but am on a serious note. I think if something is mines all others should zone off not come into my arena :) ha ha ha.

Of course there is always our little devil making things seem bigger than it is, he stretches our imagination. Then we assume and make wrong judgement and guess what that's the time the little devil disappears, and leaves us to work the ... out ALONE. Hewww!!!

Thanks for sharing :)

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 26, 2014:

Hi rd, thanks so much for reading, yes that word jealousy is not nice is it? have a great day, nell

Rochelle Ann De Zoysa from Moratuwa, Sri Lanka on June 26, 2014:

Hi Nell, interesting topic. Well I kind of gets Capital J++ sometimes only. What I figured it, it's simply because of attention. I kind of like attention from some people lol ..and every time I get jealous it makes me so ashamed of myself, I finds it so difficult to cope up, so I say it to the person as to why , what cause it and who... some people are understanding, but some others keep away from me. Whatever it is, when you say it out, I frankly feel so relaxed and calmed down :) Writing surely helps :) Thank you for sharing this article and the videos :) Voted up and useful :)

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 23, 2014:

Hi moonlake, good for you! I hate women like that, they just drive me insane! Jealousy can be a good thing, they make you keep your eyes open! lol! thanks so much for reading, nell

moonlake from America on June 23, 2014:

We have cougars living close to us but not the kind you speak of. When I was just married we lived with my Mom and Dad, no since in an apartment, hubbie would soon be getting out of the service and we would be moving. The girl next door kept coming over. My Mom had a fit "She's after your husband," she would say. Jealousy in a marriage is a good way for it to end and I wasn't going to start that in my new marriage, but I was going to keep an eye on that girl. When she sashayed over while hubbie was working on the car I sashayed out with a glass of tea for him. I enjoyed your hub and voted up.

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 22, 2014:

Hiya beth, yes you could be right! jealous of green eyes! well who wouldn't be? lol! thanks for sharing your story, I can totally understand what you were going through, I wasn't adopted, my parents loved me too, but for some reason I was so jealous of my brother! but we grow up and grow out of it, thanks for reading, nell

Beth Perry from Tennesee on June 22, 2014:

Nell, great article (and advice) on the subject. When I was a kid I was often envious of my little brother. I was adopted and he wasn't, and when the family would say Oh he looks like Grandpa or Oh he likes building just like Uncle Mac..stuff like this I felt out of place, as they couldn't compare me to anyone in the family. But you grow out of stuff; well, if you have the vision to look around and see your own worth. And today I detest petty jealousy. It never breeds anything positive in anyone's life.

One thing I never cared for, though, is that "green-eyed monster" term. Makes you wonder if it wasn't invented by someone jealous of we born with green eyes! lol

Voted up; great article!

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 13, 2014:

Hi rebecca, that's interesting! Dogs being jealous, never thought of that, but of course as you said they don't know that its destructive, I have only ever had one dog at a time, so its not come up before, thanks, interesting stuff, nell

Rebecca Mealey from Northeastern Georgia, USA on June 13, 2014:

Ah, and interesting topic! I think jealousy is a part of our nature that we have to control with logic. My dogs are jealous of each other, the difference is they don't have higher order thinking skills to see that jealousy is destructive. Great Hub, and I love that intro photo!

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 13, 2014:

Hi Peggy, thanks so much, yes sometimes it can get that green eyed monster going pretty well when we see what we want, and can't afford it etc, but other times it can affect you because of lack of confidence, and great to know its good on twitter! lol! thanks for the share, nell

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on June 13, 2014:

I think it is a human emotion that rears its ugly head from time to time. Most of us do our best to eliminate it and once we realize that there will always be people who have more family, friends, wealth, etc., it is impossible in effect to be like all of them. We have to learn to be content with our own lives and do the best we can. This is doing very well on the twitter world! Sharing!

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 12, 2014:

Hi Deb, thanks so much, yes I feel better about it now, but it was a wobble so to speak, not nice jealousy, thanks for reading, nell

Deb Hirt from Stillwater, OK on June 11, 2014:

Great words of advice. No man is and island, nor should anyone else be. There's plenty of people out there that will want to be your friend!

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 09, 2014:

Hi tobusiness, yes its the insecurity that starts it off in the first place isn't it? I know I have to really give myself a good yelling at to bring myself back to common sense when situations of jealously happens with friends, not nice though! lol! thanks so much for reading, nell

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 09, 2014:

Hi Vellur, thanks so much for reading, yes Jealousy is an ugly word and feeling too, not something I like to have these days! lol!

Jo Alexis-Hagues from Lincolnshire, U.K on June 09, 2014:

Nell, a very interesting article. We all have feelings of insecurity, and that is when the green eyed monster makes a fool of the best of us.

Nice job here.

Nithya Venkat from Dubai on June 09, 2014:

Jealousy is definitely the green eyed monster just as you have so aptly put it, it can make life miserable. Great hub,thought provoking with valuable points to think about and remember.

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 08, 2014:

Hiya tipi! its horrible when someone says things that they probably don't realise that they are saying, but it hurts and hurts badly sometimes, great to see you, and thanks for reading, be back over on FB soon, keep missing ya! lol!

Tammy on June 08, 2014:

Fantastic job, Nell! I can claim when I was younger I was jealous of my cousin. She was six months younger than me, so we were always compared by her mother. It took me a long time to realize that I was jealous because her mother placed so many insecurities on us. Finally one day I stood up to my aunt letting her know how I felt about it. She didn't realize she was causing so much tension between my cousin and I.

Jealousy is a terrible thing to be plagued with. It has taken many years for me to get over my issues and learn to let go. Nowadays, I find that I rarely get jealous about something or someone.

Great topic! Thanks for sharing these helpful tips!

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 08, 2014:

Hi Flourish, that's so true, sometimes we just jump in without thinking, and does it cause trouble, phew! lol! thanks so much for reading, nell

Hi Jackie, thanks so much, yes jealousy is one horrible word isn't it? hope your having a great day, nell

Jackie Lynnley from the beautiful south on June 08, 2014:

Wow; don't know how this one got by me for so long Nell, but glad I come across it.

I think jealousy is pretty common; we would have to be pretty self assured to avoid it and who is? Especially when we are young and immature. Fun read, great pictures! ^+

FlourishAnyway from USA on June 07, 2014:

Jealousy can motivate some unfortunate behavior that causes conflict and ill will for both parties. It's good to check one's assumptions and make sure you're operating from facts.

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 07, 2014:

Thanks Genna, lol! that's okay, my pc is playing up today too!

And thanks everybody who commented, as my computer is being annoying I will just say thanks and yes jealousy is something we can overcome, but its hard sometimes, have a great weekend all, nell

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 07, 2014:

So true Martie, the more we love and fear being alone, the more the jealousy, and yes you may be right there, envy is very close to jealousy, thanks as always, nell

Genna East from Massachusetts, USA on June 07, 2014:

Hi Nell...

My apologies in that part of my above comment didn't copy properly. I meant to type: My thoughts echo those written by Ruby and Faith. :-)

Martie Coetser from South Africa on June 07, 2014:

Oh, this damn tablet of mine has a mind of its own, automatically changing words according to its moods. Sorry for the wrong word. You know I wanted to say 'buying a car'....

But while I am back. Sharing a man was not an issue in ancient times, and still today in some cultures, but in modern Western cultures sharing multiplies the possibility of losing. So, we are back at the fear of being alone....

Interesting topic!

Martie Coetser from South Africa on June 07, 2014:

BTW, Nell, I believe that feeling we get when someone we know wins the lottery, or being a car we cannot afford, is more envy than jealousy.

Excellent, thought-provoking hub!

Martie Coetser from South Africa on June 07, 2014:

I believe jealousy is rooted in the fear of losing the person who makes you feel balanced and secured. All on our own we always feel insecure, even when we are completely independent. We instinctively know we need another half, or rather an extension in order to feel complete. Finding him/her is the most wonderful event.... and then the fear of losing them becomes a reality. So, I believe as long as we have not yet conquered the fear of being alone, which includes the fear of losing the one who is keeping this fear latent, jealousy will overtake our thoughts and feelings.

My jealousy, which I control by assuring myself that I am quite happy and able to function alone, is definitely rooted in the fear of losing or sharing the man who fills the empty spaces in my soul, which have to be filled in order for me to feel whole, emotionally secured and completely balanced.

Genna East from Massachusetts, USA on June 07, 2014:

written by Ruby and Faith. I also believe that jealousy stems from some insecurity, and can occur when we least expect it. When overcoming it, which is the measure of character, we are happier, more giving human beings as a result. Thank you for sharing this very insightful hub.

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on June 07, 2014:

Great hub on a subject that affects all of us. And I think I would be lying if I said, it has never affected me. But those were childhood days---.

Now it does not affect me--may be I have understood life more or may be age and experience has made me more mature.

Very nicely done hub with useful suggestions. Voted up and shared on HP!

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on June 07, 2014:

I guess we all have experienced the green-eyed monster at some time in our lives, and after you have a major loss in your life makes sense as you try to cope. I hate that feeling as it really is destructive, but you are right "pick yourself up and carry on."

Your suggestions for moving on are excellent, and this is another hub that explains the topic so well along with solutions. Awesome!

Phyllis Doyle Burns from High desert of Nevada. on June 06, 2014:

Nell, you have such a great way of getting the message across. I agree that jealousy stems from insecurity is self -- and also in a lack of faith in your friend, partner or spouse. Faith and trust is self and others is the best way to avoid jealousy. Great hub, as usual, Nell.

Faith Reaper from southern USA on June 06, 2014:

Yes, I agree, Nell, that green-eyed monster comes from insecurity for sure. You have provided great advice as to dealing with that ugly emotion. Interesting transition from jealousy to how to find new friends so as to not be jealous of former best friends. One area of my life I have never been jealous is when it comes to my husband, like Mary, I just never had any notion to be jealous and we have been married going on 36 years now lol. I guess that means I am secure in our relationship. Whew!

Up and more, pinning and tweeting

Hope your weekend is wonderful.

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 06, 2014:

Hi Alicia, thanks so much for reading, as always it started with a conversation, made me think, then i got jealous of something and here we are! lol! have a wonderful weekend, nell

Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on June 06, 2014:

This is an interesting hub with some good suggestions, Nell. Jealously is a horrible emotion. It certainly is a "green eyed monster"! It has the potential to ruin someone's life. Thanks for sharing the helpful and important tips for leaving jealousy behind.

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 06, 2014:

Hi mary, I am sure you are as intelligent if not more than others, lol! sometimes people believe they are intelligent but just bluff, or so I like to believe! thanks as always, and have a wonderful weekend, nell

Mary Hyatt from Florida on June 06, 2014:

I think if we are honest with ourselves, we will admit we are jealous of others at times!! I was never jealous of my hubby, though. He was a traveling salesman and was gone on the road Mon. through Thurs. He had plenty of opportunity to be unfaithful, but I never worried about him.

I have to admit I am jealous of some other people and their intelligence which makes me feel inadequate.

Voted UP, etc. and shared.

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 06, 2014:

Hi MsDora, jealousy is such an ugly thing isn't it? by dealing with it you can figure out what caused it and maybe sort it out with the person or situation, thanks so much for reading, and have a wonderful weekend, nell

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on June 06, 2014:

Seeing that no-one is forced to admit jealousy, it can linger on and become destructive. Your suggestion is right on! "Whatever the situation there are ways of sorting it out." Dealing with it may sometimes reveal that there was never any need for it.

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 06, 2014:

Hi travmaj, yes that's so true, many people just can't stop that feeling of jealousy and in fact carry it throughout their lives eventually 'doing something about it'! lol! thanks so much for reading, nell

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 06, 2014:

Hi Ruby, thanks so much for the tweet, yes certain things can start us off like you mentioned, that must have been hard for you back then, especially as a child, I remember things from when I was a kid, and even now it can bring back those feelings, silly isn't it? nell

travmaj from australia on June 06, 2014:

I wish I could say I've never had this green eyed monster affect me but I guess I have. Dealing with it is a personal effort and your advice makes much sense. Most of us work through issues and simply 'get over it'. For others it's a different story and many consumed with jealousy commit crimes of passion.

Seem to read about this more and more. All a bit scary. Thanks Nell. Interesting informative read. Voting

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 06, 2014:

Hi Alastar, lol! yep those Cougars will get you! thanks as always, and great to see you!

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 06, 2014:

Lol! Hiya Gordon, I am sure you would like that! I think as we get older we know the difference between jealousy and insecurity, and hopefully we know how to sort it out, but sometimes it comes and grabs ya! lol! thanks as always, nell

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 06, 2014:

Hi bravewarrior, thanks so much for reading, yes that's so true. Many people don't realise that when they are jealous they get nasty, and when they get nasty they have horrible feelings, but its all down to their own insecurity, if only jealous people would realise this, thanks again, nell

Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on June 06, 2014:

Great topic Nell. I think jealousy arrives from poverty mostly but not always. I remember i used to be jealous of my first cousin, her mother and mine were sisters and she was an only child while i had eleven siblings. She had beautiful dresses while i wore hand-me-downs. I remember once her mother gave me all her dresses because she was buying all new ones for the new school year, i put them in the back of the closet, never wearing them. Funny how your hubs bring back memories. Today i'm not jealous and i'm thankful. Tweeted...

Alastar Packer from North Carolina on June 06, 2014:

Gotta watch out for those Cougars...specially on Friday and Saturday nights. A lot of them are very enticing to pet these days, but boy do they claws so watch out. Jealousy in all its many forms is one of the Seven Deadly Sins and for good reason. Fun one nell, and oh so true.

Gordon Hamilton from Wishaw, Lanarkshire, United Kingdom on June 06, 2014:

Definitely had that problem in the past, Nell. Wouldn't say I've ever been consumed by jealousy but I have been significantly affected by it. In the here and now? I tend to look at it in the sense that if I want something which money can buy, I just have to work all the harder to achieve it. I'm glad to say I have my health (so far as I know!) so money can buy anything else I want or need.

Thinking about it, though, I wouldn't mind a cougar who needs her garage cleaned out moving in next door... ;)

Shauna L Bowling from Central Florida on June 06, 2014:

Jealousy is a green monster that hits all of us from time to time. Well, I can't speak for the rest of the world - only myself. Jealousy basically comes from insecurity. Sometimes it seems as if one insecurity gets replaced with another. When we find the green monster rearing his ugly head we need to ask ourselves why. Then do our best to fix the problem so the symptoms go away.

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 06, 2014:

Hi divacratus, lol! I would love to have seen that! yes jealousy is a funny thing, its weird how it can suddenly hit a person whatever the age, thanks so much for reading, nell

Kalpana Iyer from India on June 06, 2014:

No matter how old you are, you will always get jealous! My mom who is in her 60s recently saw a woman talking to dad in a friendly way but still she couldn't help feel a tad jealous. It was cute and funny.

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 06, 2014:

Hi Blond Logic, thanks for reading, yes me too, I don't care about who has what and so on, it was purely the friendship thing with me, which thankfully is okay now, glad you liked it, and thanks, nell

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 06, 2014:

Hi Ryem thanks so much for reading, yes its definitely how we handle it, nell

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 06, 2014:

Thanks DDE yes me too most of the time, but sometimes it just grabs you and makes that horrible feeling come back, ah jealousy go away! lol!

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 06, 2014:

Thanks Denise, glad you liked it, as always this was started through a conversation! lol! we get an idea to write by listening to someone yabber on about it! lol!

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 06, 2014:

Hi suzette, thanks for reading, I have not been jealous for many years, till this insecurity hit them wham big time! but its sorted out now, and I feel better for it, its horrible to feel jealous, yuck! lol!

Mary Wickison from USA on June 06, 2014:

I don't think I am jealous any longer, I use to be though. I know there will always be people better off and worse off than me.

I am at that stage in life that if something is bothering me, I let it be known and jealousy never gets a foothold.

I will say, I think making friends isn't that easy, especially as we age. People are too wrapped up in their own routines I find.

Ryem from Maryland on June 06, 2014:

There's a lot of really great insight in this hub. Everyone gets jealous from time to time, but the way we deal with jealousy can make the situation either positive or negative.

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on June 06, 2014:

Interesting about jealousy and you covered all aspects here. I trust my instincts and don't care what other have to say.

Denise Handlon from North Carolina on June 05, 2014:

Oh gosh, what a great topic! I have been hit by the green eyed monster on more than one occasion, and the advice here is great. I loved the focus of the video-unity yes-separation, NO! Thanks! Up/I/U

Suzette Walker from Taos, NM on June 05, 2014:

Interesting hub Nell. Basically, I am not a jealous person. And sometimes that has been a problem for others. Sometimes others have tried to make me jealous (ex-boyfriends) and that just hasn't worked with me. I can't say I've never been jealous, but I can honestly say, not that much. I do think jealousy comes more from insecurity than anything else.

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 05, 2014:

Hi Dianna, thanks so much, yes to presume can be really devastating to a relationship, I was born with presumption! lol! that's probably why I never believe a word anybody around me says! LOL! thanks, nell

Dianna Mendez on June 05, 2014:

Oh that green-eyed monster will show up every now and then... presumptions are the worst when dealing with this emotion. Great thoughts on this topic and well presented.

Nell Rose (author) from England on June 05, 2014:

Thanks Billy, yes me too, I never thought I would feel jealous again, I deliberately switch myself off from emotions, so when jealousy hit I was really surprised! lol! thanks for always being the first to comment, nell

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on June 05, 2014:

I have come a long way, Nell, but I admit to still having jealousy rear its ugly head from time to time. What is it about us humans? I have the feeling that no matter how long I live, I will always have something I need to work on for personal growth. :) Dammit! LOL Great topic!

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