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It Ends With Us- When to leave a toxic relationship

Jen has graduated from St. Thoms Aquanis College in May of 2009 with a B.A. in Communications. She loves writing about relationships.


It Ends With Us- The Plot

"It Ends With Us," was written by Colleen Hoover and it was published in August 2, 2016.

It was about a young woman Lily who fell for a young man in med school named Ryle. They were opposites. Lily was monogamous while Ryle didn't do relationships. An attraction between them started. As they got closer and Lily started to get more involved with Ryle, she noticed red flags in him. She was not the only one. People around her noticed and even her ex boyfriend Atlas noticed it as well. Could Lily save Ryle from his Dark ways? Find out in "It Ends With Us, " by Colleen Hoover.

Lily and Ryle V.S. Real Life Relationship

Lily and Ryle's relationship are portrayed as very real.

1) They are real people.

2) They are on a journey and have different experiences.

3) Their relationship was not planned.

4) There are many conflicts in their relationship.

What are red flags to look out for?

1) Loses temper easily

2) Talks about sex too early

3) Too controlling

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4) Neglecting

5) Isolation the other person from family and friends

6) Critical

The Cycle of a Toxic Relationship (What it feels like)

The Cycle of a toxic relationship can make you feel like you are on an emotional roller coaster. It can take out all of your energy. When you were once happy, all of a sudden you will feel drained. When you were calm all of a sudden you will feel angry. You will have moods you never even had before. Then the other person will blame it on you. That is called gaslighting.

Gaslighting is when the other person makes you question your reality. Narcissits love to do this. They love to make the other person feel loved and then the minute they get you hooked, they confuse you and make statements like "We were never together, you imagined it," rather than being upfront with you. They play mind games to get a rise out of you. It is emotionally abusive and it is not your fault. They are wounded and do not know how to deal with their emotions and honesty. So, they change they story around and play with people emotions and cause conflict. They make the other person upset and guess what happened. It can be very frustrated. Whatever you do have patience because the narcissist's goal is to get you upset.

It hurst because at first they are charming and you think they are the best person in the world. They the do a total 180 degree turn. Sometimes they come back and fourth a million times. That is what is called a toxic and abusive relationships. There are some situations where one feels that one is on an emotional roller coaser, that they cannot get off because they get too deep involved and the narcissist is very smart that they know how to hook the other person.

When to Call it Quits

Everyone, has their own limit when to call it quits. Some people see someone's true colors on the first date. Other people will stick it out for a couple of months. Others will give it their all until they can't anymore. I will leave you will this "If someone really loved you they would never put you in a position to be disrespected...."

Read It Ends With Us

If you have not yet read "It Ends With Us, " I would suggest read it now. It is flying off the shelves. It has been the bestseller for a long time along with Other books by Colleen Hoover such as "Verity," and "Ugly Love."

"It Ends With Us," is a great romance novel is a great book for anyone who is getting over a break up or who has been in love before. Check it out now, you don't want to miss out on this popular bestseller!

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2022 Jennifer Panaro

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