He actively listens
You know the feeling when someone stares into your eyes but looks right through you. The frustration of him listening but not actually understanding or contributing to the conversation. It leaves you feeling empty, lonely, and unappreciated.
Well, the right guy will never make you feel this way. He cares, truly cares, and wants to hear what you have to say. Sometimes it is harder for men to understand women’s thoughts, so the good guy tries hard to understand you because he wants you to feel heard and valued.
He feels sad when you are upset
Guys are often not very touchy-feely, and he may not be as good of a shoulder to cry on as your girlfriends, but a good guy does care. He feels horrible if you are upset, especially if he is the reason. He will want to talk everything over, make things right, and make sure you feel better. He could not fall asleep peacefully if you’d had a fight. He has empathy and is not okay if you are not.
He enjoys spending time with you
This is a simple one. Time is our most valuable resource. If he cares about you, he will cherish every second, and I mean every second. He will reorganize his schedule to make more time for you. No matter what you do, he just wants to be by your side.
He remembers the little things
He knows your likes and dislikes, fears, things that cause you anxiety, and important dates and memories. He remembers because he cares. If he gives you a gift, it has special meaning because it reflects your stories, passions, and hobbies.
He is always there for you
There is not a wrong time, not a day too busy if you need him. You should never take advantage of a guy this wonderful but cherish him and feel safe with him. He has your back.
He shows you he cares, and you feel it
He doesn’t just say ‘I love you’; he shows it. However beautiful, those words are meaningless if you can’t also feel them as well as hear them. A good guy shows you his love in the way he treats you, so much that you never have to wonder. You feel it in his kiss, his touch, and see it in his eyes. The eyes never lie.
He can’t stand fighting with you
He hates it and will try to avoid upsetting you in any possible way. Even if you get upset over an insignificant detail (like we all sometimes do), he will try to talk to you reasonably and make things better as soon as possible.
He seeks communication
The right guy doesn’t shy away from a conversation about anything. Honest and frequent communication is key to a successful relationship. Nothing should be swept under the rug. Every problem, conflict, and misunderstanding needs to be addressed immediately.
He is honest and loyal
I feel like this should not even be specified, like this should be common sense, but, unfortunately, it is not. The right guy is always honest to you. He wants to build something strong and long-lasting and knows that trust is the foundation. He is your person through-and-through, and you feel it.
He fights for you
He knows life brings many obstacles. No matter how much you love each other, it will never be easy. But the truly good guy is ready to take on any challenge and fight for your relationship. He knows your worth and wants to keep you in his life.
© 2021 Percivala Evans
dashingscorpio from Chicago on January 18, 2021:
Life is a (personal) journey.
The reality is not every woman is looking for the same type of guy.
Each of us has our mate selection process and must haves list.
Each of us has our own boundaries and "deal breakers".
It's almost a cliché to hear that "nice guys" finish last.
However no one has ever heard of the lonely "bad boy", narcissist, "player", Alpha male, or gangster.
Is that coincidence? No!
The sad truth is a lot of women go through a "bad boy" phase.
"Isn't it ironic . . . we ignore those who adore us, adore those who ignore us, hurt those who love us, and love those who hurt us."
- Ellen Hopkins
Each of us chooses our own friends, lovers and spouse.
Nothing happens until you say "yes" to someone. Choose wisely!
No one is "stuck" with anyone. Suffering is optional.
"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
- Oscar Wilde