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Is Netflix's Too Hot too Handle a Good Example of Our Own Relationships?

Jen has graduated from St. Thoms Aquanis College in May of 2009 with a B.A. in Communications. She loves writing about relationships.


Reality TV in 2009, 2010 V.S. 2020

For the longest time Reality television had a bad reputation. Popular Shows like “Keeping Up with The Kardashians,” Which aired in 2007 viewers got extremely mad when Kim Kardashian was known for leaking her sex tape to make her famous. Many people believe that she did nothing to make her famous. Parents felt she was not a good role model. Then, in 2009 came another reality show that we couldn’t all help but love, gym…tan…laundry…Jersey Shore. After that was big everyone seemed to forget about morals and values and all of a sudden the Guido and Guidette lifestyle was in. Some people even say that it was shows like that was what ruined our society. Now we are living in 2020, there are new reality shows out that have a twist.

The Synopsis of Too Hot Too Handle

Netflix recently came out with “Too Hot to Handle.” Which is interesting is you may think it is like any other reality television but it actually has a positive premise behind it. Just like all the others a group of young men and women got to a remote retreat for a month. This time they think they are going to party and have fun. That was the life they have always been living. They are in for a huge awakening. When they get to the resort on the first night, after they get adjusted an AI system is the host which is pretty neat and hits them with the news. They have to refrain from abstaince the whole time they are there. the group that is able to do that wins $100,000 prize. If they are caught kissing, hooking up or breaking any of the rules they have to pay $3,000 dollars.

What Makes This Show So Great?

It is an interesting concept in 2020. It is also interesting having an AI system as a host. It makes me see how we advanced so far with technology and how we will in the future. It was very interesting watching how in 2020 so many people when they are told not to do something have trouble, even though it is the right thing to do.

Let's Ask Ourslves This: Have We Been Connecting With Others The Right Way?

Now granted for years there has always been rebellion and liberation moments. Have we become too free that we do not as a society do the right thing? Have we not become too liberated that we become too disconnected with others?

Let's Go into Introspection for a Minute...

If you were go into introspection and look at the world we live in how many of us have meaningful relationships compared to where we were years ago? How many of us are loving and kind to each other? How many focus on building connections with each other instead of getting in a relationship and getting out or focusing only on yourself?

What led us to become this way? Is it the media? Have we chose poor role models? That we forgot to do what is right and how to treat others with respect?

Something Positive I have learned from watching Too Hot Too Handle...

I believe that “Too Hot too Handle” can make us look at what it is to leave behind a lustful life. Leave behind a life full of sin and partying and focusing on building connections with someone you really care about. Yes, we were all young once but it is time we go back to old school values. It is time we bring more morals and respect back. It is time we learn what it is like to love someone and build a connection with them rather than just have random hook ups. I am so glad that this show aired. I feel that there should be more shows like this teaching viewers the powers of what it is like to truly love someone, how to build a connection with someone and how to be a better person than you were in your past.

Check it out on Netflix!

“Too Hot to Handle,” is on Netflix. You can decide if it is for you. It has laughs, drama but overall it has a great premise behind it. It is a show you do not want to miss!

Too Hot Too Handle Trailer

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 Jennifer Panaro


dashingscorpio from Chicago on May 14, 2020:

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I meant to say:

"These reality shows where they (cast) young hot looking people for the purpose of (entertainment) to watch them back stab and manipulate one another in order to be the last person standing should NOT be thought of as being a reflection of actual dating/courtship."

dashingscorpio from Chicago on May 14, 2020:

" Yes, we were all young once but it is time we go back to old school values." Being young means rebelling and not conforming!

When we talk about "old school" how far back are we talking?

Playboy Magazine begin in 1959 and prior to that there were other forms of pornography. I believe we kid ourselves when we say there was a period where by everyone was innocent with high morals. Any student of the entertainment industry is aware of numerous sex scandals and other activities "stars" and celebrities engaged in. They always lead the way in society change.

During the 1960s when hippies coined the phrase "Free Love" meaning sex without marriage or commitment, "shacking up" became normal, better birth control made it possible for women to have sex on par with men without the fear of getting pregnant.

People were having pre-marital sex back in the "roaring 20s" and even in biblical days. The only thing that's changed is people are more open about what they do, think, and feel in the modern era.

When it comes to love and relationships most of us (fail our way) to success. Very few people hit a homerun their 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th time up at bat. If this were not the case we'd all be married to our high school sweethearts!

Being immature and having unrealistic expectations is what being young is all about until we know better.

Teenagers and people in their 20s or even early 30s are in a period of their life where they want to explore, have fun, and test boundaries. Wild college fraternity/sorority parties, girls/boys getaways to Cancun or Jamaica is not going to go away.

These reality shows where they (cast) young hot looking people for the purpose of (entertainment) to watch them back stab and manipulate one another in order to be the last person standing should be thought of as being a reflection of actual dating/courtship.

These shows have "auditions" no one is really looking for love. Oftentimes we learn they already have a girlfriend/boyfriend at home.

These people are all hoping to launch entertainment careers.

One season they're on "The Bachelor" and then "Bachelor in Paradise" and then "Dancing With The Stars" and so on.

The biggest hoax is convincing people Reality TV is reality! :)

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